Hi Amy!

I have a situation I think you and your readers could give some insight on. I live in a subdivision with my husband and 4 young kids, ages 18 months-6 years, for the last 5 years. The houses are really close together, all of our neighbors are awesome except one. This one just so happens to be our next door neighbor. Whose living room windows look right at our garage. This allows them to see us whenever we go outside to play.

Not really a big deal except they ALWAYS come out. She wants to stand there chatting while the kids play. Her son is 4 years old and he is annoying (I know that’s mean to say, but it’s true). Yelling, taking toys from my kids, breaking our stuff, walking into our garage without permission, grabbing things out of there without asking, treating our things with disrespect (aka. hurriedly dropping the bike to the ground), etc. His parents don’t seem to be teaching him any boundaries and his mother is always there seeing these things going on.

I am fine with him playing sometimes, he is an only child and I understand wanting to play, but EVERY time we go outside is just too much. I’ve been cold and obvious that they are not welcome at times but it gets ignored. I’ve tried just continuing our play and include the son but it always ends up with him demanding to do something else (it doesn’t stop until we conform) or he just goes into our garage and helps himself to whatever which stresses my kids out because he often damages their things. Is there a polite way to let her know that sometimes I just want to play with my kids? I enjoy my children and I don’t want to sit and chat with her all the time and I don’t want to deal with her son.

Is their anyway to make it known that the son is not welcome to go into our garage or play with our stuff without asking first? Or is that what I signed up for by moving into a subdivision?

It’s gotten so bad that we are thinking of moving even though we love our house, the location, and everything else.

Any help would be appreciated!
Thank you!
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