We’re discussing The Whole-Brain Child for our parenting book club this month. It’s an engaging and informative read on how the brain develops and offers practical solutions for the most typical misbehaving issues, while explaining what is most likely going on in their brains that’s causing them to “lose their mind.”
I like to do less and wouldn’t we all like to enjoy our lives more? But what exactly do the authors mean by minimalist parenting, was a question that I wondered. Do they advocate living like Tibetan monks? Eschewing possessions and leaving our children to play with sticks? Does it mean letting your kids run wild with minimal parental interference? Is it hands off parenting?
Turns out it was none of those things.
The way to get your kids to behave is to give them the gift of self discipline. But exactly how do you do that? That is what author Barbara Coloroso outlines in her book, Kids Are Worth It!
I was excited that this was the book chosen for this month’s book club selection. in the introduction the book promises to shock parents and to turn all of our long held assumptions about parenting on their head. I was ready, highlighter in hand to learn something new and revolutionary, have new tools to bring to my parenting game. That just didn’t happen.
Having said that, there is no magic formula for parenting kids (wouldn’t THAT be nice!), but I think that this book has helped me realize some areas where I can improve, especially when it comes to the way that I communicate with my children. I feel like this book gave me ideas to make things better. It is easy to get “stuck” in one way of doing something and not be able to see your way out of it, even when you know it isn’t the best way. How many of us have had the horrified realization of hearing our own parents’ voices coming out of our mouths?
When I read The Five Love Languages of Children years ago it truly revolutionized the way I parented my children. I remember there were several moments while reading when a light bulb would go off and I wanted to smack myself on the forehead for missing what seemed, in retrospect, so obvious. Rereading the book this time I was struck by how much I had forgotten