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Week 8

Mar12

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Weekly Pregnancy Calendar on Alphamom.com
Your baby:

  • Is about the size of a gummy bear or kidney bean, and dear LORD I promise to be done with the bean comparisons soon, because it is all entirely too precious.
  • Is extremely jointy, with fingers and toes and elbows and knees that s/he can bend and wiggle.
  • Almost doesn’t have a tail anymore.

You:

  • Are possibly a walking ball of first-trimester misery, if I may project myself on you for a bit.
  • *BARF*
  • OMG I HAVE TO PEE I JUST PEED OMG I HAVE TO PEE AGAIN
  • May be having trouble sleeping at night, despite being exhausted.

Oh, and allow me to introduce you to your sciatic nerve. It is, quite literally, a pain in your ass. And a pain down the back of your legs. Trust me, you’ll know it when you feel it. Some women are prone to TERRIBLE sciatic pain throughout their pregnancies, which is caused by your expanding uterus putting pressure on the nerve. Some women only notice it occasionally, or only during certain times in pregnancy. (I had it from about week 18 on, but some women get it right away.) There’s not a whole heap you can do about it, other than lie down on the opposite side of the pain if it comes at night. Keeping your legs uncrossed and your feet supported during the day can help a little too.

At this point you should definitely have a prenatal visit scheduled, and you may have had it already. (Mine is tomorrow. Whee. Yay. Etc.) Your first prenatal visit will probably consist of a pelvic exam, lots of questions about your family’s health history, a urine test (pregnant ladies are AWFULLY prone to UTIs, on top of everything else) and some blood tests.

The blood tests will check your pregnancy hormone levels, but will also tell your doctor all sorts of other things: blood type, blood count, Rh factor, immunity for rubella and chickenpox, and will be screenings for Hepatitis B, HIV and syphillis. You and your partner’s ethnic backgrounds and family histories may also lead to a recommendation for further genetic screenings (for stuff like sickle-cell, cystic fibrosis and Tay-Sachs).

Needless to say, it’s all just terribly fun. But at this point, “uneventful” is definitely what you want out of your prenatal visits. If you’re about 10 weeks along at your appointment, you’ll probably be able to hear your baby’s heartbeat with the doppler, but no such luck right now. Thank you, come again.

Oh Yeah, THIS: Wow. WOW. I really had forgotten what a cavalcade of misery the first trimester can be. Nauseated but hungry. Tired but unable to sleep. Pudgy but not pregnant-looking. In pain from a variety of complaints and suffering from a weakened immune system but forbidden from taking most over-the-counter remedies. Moody and cranky and irritable and weepy.

Maybe THIS is why I swore Noah was going to be an only child for all those months. Huh.

New This Time Around: The only one who had to suffer my moods and general crankitude (besides me, of course, for oh! how I suffered) last time was Jason. Who, frankly, was a big boy and could deal with it and probably deserved it a little bit. This time, there’s a little two-and-a-half-year-old here who doesn’t understand that Mama’s head hurts or that she really needs some privacy in the potty or that she’s just really, really tired. I’m snapping at him, I’m impatient with him, I’m serving him the same damn inoffensive pizza snacks for every meal because they’re the only cooking smell that doesn’t make me sick. And I feel terrible about it, which is awesome, because I clearly wasn’t feeling terrible enough already.

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48 Responses to “Week 8”

  1. Rebecca Mar 12 at 10:14 am Reply Reply

    Ahh, thank you. My 16 month old ate cheerios and cheese for dinner last night. I feel better now!

  2. obabe Mar 12 at 10:21 am Reply Reply

    WHATEVER IT TAKES to get you through the first trimester of hell, is my motto. 14+ weeks now, and i’ve finally gotten over the hump, but around weeks 9 and 10 my husband traveled for two weeks straight, and i hadnt yet gotten my zofran and was throwing up constantly. i have no shame in saying my 4 and 2 year old picked their dinners (pizza is a well balanced meal!) and watched them in front of blues clues for those two weeks. it was survival mode for everyone.
    it will get better, and noah wont remember your crankiness.
    and for the record? ive sworn this is my last kid. i cannot go through those 7 weeks of hell again. ever.

  3. procrastamom Mar 12 at 2:06 pm Reply Reply

    Oh duuuuh! I’ve only given birth to three babies and I never knew before today why they make you give a urine sample every time you have a checkup. Little old unassertive me just followed directions when they shoved the cup over the counter at me and didn’t ask questions. My only thoughts about this were: “Wah? Do you test my urine to make sure I’m still pregnant? Doesn’t my rapidly expanding belly confirm that for you?”
    *headdesk*
    (I swear I’m a competent mother and that they’re all still breathing to this day!)

  4. gaffentine Mar 14 at 11:26 am Reply Reply

    Um, I have a question about the first prenatal visit…I didn’t get any blood taken. And I didn’t realize it until after I left. I KNEW they would take blood beforehand, but it wasn’t until I was pulling back into my driveway that I realized they hadn’t. What would they have taken the blood for? (Meaning, should I call them and say, “Uh, hello, nine weeks and no blood work over here, what’s the deal, Doc?”)

  5. Zoot Mar 19 at 8:47 am Reply Reply

    Man – I heard you about someone other than your husband dealing with the mood swings. My poor kids.
    Also – I’ve only ever had the Pain In The Ass happen once and it was grocery shopping at Target and I spent the whole trip with one hand on my ass trying to rub out the pain. I’m guessing that’s why they banned me from coming back.

  6. tara Apr 02 at 12:30 pm Reply Reply

    i am right here. i cannot believe that i forgot how horrible the first trimester is and having a 2 1/2 year old makes it so so so much worse.
    only 4-6 more weeks of feeling like complete crap….woo-hoo.

  7. Ecakes May 13 at 12:45 am Reply Reply

    I get the Pain in the Ass thing all the time! And I’m so glad that someone explained it to me. Thanks. This is my first … hoping this pain doesn’t last too long. Blah.

  8. Roseytoesies May 26 at 3:44 pm Reply Reply

    The ass pain! I forgot about the ass pain! And now? I’m 7 weeks (yes i like to read ahead because I’m all excited) and I just remembered about the pain in my ass that lasted from week 9 until about oooh… week 40! This is gonna be sweet… Also, I have a 2 /2 year old and he is NOT happy with Mama and her moodiness and would like goofy patient chipper mama back ASAP OKTHXBYE.

  9. Jennie Jul 10 at 8:30 pm Reply Reply

    Man, it’s such a relief to read about other moms losing their patience and otherwise not being *perfect* in their first trimester. I’ve been grumpy and feeling horribly guilty about it. My son is older – 8 1/2 – so he’s a little more tuned into my moods.
    Luckily the Zofran is working wonders and I’m only feeling constipated-queasy-ish all the time instead of all pukey-unstable. Makes surviving these hellish weeks easier.

  10. Beth Parker Aug 06 at 3:16 pm Reply Reply

    Well, this is about where I am now. I have been nauseous for a couple of weeks but now I am having trouble keeping things down and I wonder, if I take my vitamins and then throw up half an hour later, should I take them again or just call it good enough?
    The fatigue is getting better, I think. I haven’t had to take more than one nap a day lately. I think I even went one day without a nap.
    The weepiness is something new. I didn’t experience this with either of my previous two pregnancies. It’s so bad that if we watch something on TV that is even slightly touching I am in tears. I made my husband modify our Netfilx queue last night so it is ALL COMEDIES!! If they make me cry, I am totally going to give up TV for awhile.

  11. Jeaninne Aug 11 at 7:28 pm Reply Reply

    SO this is my first baby, and I am as excited as ever. BUT the random pain shooting down my leg and no sleep at night is driving me crazy! I am 8 weeks and I thank God everyday I have not been sick once. However –before you begin to hate me– my migraines are out of control, I need to sleep everyday at 3 or I pass out wherever I am (including the car), and this pain in the ass is constant. I am glad I am not the only one with it. I don’t feel as confused now. It really lasts ALL pregnancy!?!
    Anyone have any tips on how to stay awake in the middle of the day? I teach high school kids and its getting rough 7th period. :/

  12. Anonymous Aug 22 at 12:22 pm Reply Reply

    This is so helpful! Most sites out there are so full of gloom and doom.. don’t do this or else! I love the positive and understanding vibe. Any thoughts on continuing the site after the birth?

  13. Charity Oct 15 at 2:02 pm Reply Reply

    My first child, I was drained, exhausted and throwing up four times a day at least. I lost 14 pounds in the 1st.
    15 years later, I feel fine, maybe not quite as much energy, but not bad, no throwing up, feel great, and barely a difference in the emotional sensitivity. So, I guess pregnancies can be very different from one another!

  14. Tracey Feb 16 at 11:01 am Reply Reply

    Glad to hear – the only way I can travel to work in the morning without vomiting is to suck a lollipop so consequently my 21 month daugther has a lollipop as her 2nd breakfast every morning!
    Second time round feel like my stomach is huge already!

  15. Marisa Mar 05 at 12:54 pm Reply Reply

    Yes, also you can tell what is not going to be good in taste and smell before you even try its like some crazy preminion thing sept without the funny look on your face or the dramatic music.

  16. Marisa Mar 05 at 12:56 pm Reply Reply

    Sorry did I say no funny face, well lets add possible pained expression to that.

  17. Holly Apr 17 at 12:42 pm Reply Reply

    Oh boy! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thinks the first trimester is MISERABLE!! This is my first, and while I’m excited to have a child, my experience thus far is making me not excited about going through pregnancy. Family keeps talking about how excited we must be, and I just wanna say, “actually I’m completely miserable!”
    My house is a disaster ’cause I have no energy to clean it. I can barely eat anything without feeling nauseated or intense heartburn, which by the way keeps me from taking naps during the day even though I’m totally exhausted because laying down only exaggerates heartburn. I haven’t cooked a decent meal in three weeks because despite the fact that I’m starving, the idea of eating makes me sick to my stomach, forcing my overworked husband to live on pizza and chicken nuggets. I didn’t realize how much pride I took in my domestic abilities until I couldn’t do them. The worst is trying to keep the whole thing under wraps from my job ’cause I don’t want to tell them until the 2nd trimester. I promise, I’m not becoming lazy!
    I’ve already sworn up and down that I will not go through this again. We will only have one child! ; )
    The best was the look on my husband’s face when I started to cry during “Britian’s got Talent!” Are you okay?! ; )

  18. bobeesah Apr 17 at 6:58 pm Reply Reply

    I thought the first pregnancy was tough, but trying to run after the 1.5 year old and do the same things before the constant seasickness and lack of appetite is so much harder. I don’t know how you mommies of +2 do it!! All I want to do is eat without feeling like I’m going to re-visit my food all too soon. haha and ewww.
    Some good, though, we all got to see prospective baby #2′s tiny, bitty heartbeat and…oh, it was so cute.

  19. gtdnmkluv Apr 23 at 4:40 pm Reply Reply

    I have two boys – 1 and 6, and completely forget how un-fun pregnancy can be. The first two were constant heartburn and spending my days having a face to face conversation with the toilet. Luckily, kids dont get tired of eating chicken nuggets or noodles EVERYDAY. Not proud of it, but I’m glad to hear other moms do that as well.
    This time its just nausea (and no heartburn- yay!), but nausea where I am only capable to lay and watch the kids play until my husband gets home. I’ve tries sea bands in my last pregnancy and they do help somewhat – better than nothing. so this time i bought the newer psi bands. My 6 year old asked me if they were to make me less grumpy and told me to put them on right away… he was very disappointed to find out thats not what they did :) ….and hoping for a girl

  20. Monique May 25 at 7:32 pm Reply Reply

    No vomit yet, but by the time I scramble to eat something to get rid of the nausea (something that does not make me want to puke) I am retching.
    I am so glad to hear all of you have no motivation to cook and clean. I can barely get through work every day!
    Has eating become the single biggest chore ever to find something that doesn’t make you sick? I’m supposed to be watching my weight gain, but veggies and fruit are way too nauseating!!

  21. Ruby May 27 at 5:01 pm Reply Reply

    LOVE your blog. Just introduced to your web site by a poster on Fertility Friend. THANK YOU!

  22. Katie Jun 11 at 1:19 pm Reply Reply

    Thank you! I’ve been feeling so guilty for hating this part of the pregnancy. Of course I’m excited to be pregnant, but this part totally sucks. I’m starving but nothing appeals, I’m so exhausted I can barely walk down the hall to the bathroom (which I now have to do waaay more often), and when I get home from work all I want to do is plop down on the sofa for the rest of the evening. And that part about not being able to sleep even though you’re exhausted? Yeah, not cool.
    Thank you for making me feel normal!

  23. Sarah Jun 12 at 4:35 pm Reply Reply

    Love reading this each week!! So many of those things perfectly described me – I’m starving but can’t figure out anything that sounds good, I know I need to cook/clean/etc but I just stay on the couch anyway, I’m so tired that I’m in bed by 9pm but can’t fall asleep… I feel so lucky not to be throwing up but this constant queasiness is no fun! I’m so grateful to be having symptoms though, since I’m still not convinced there’s really a baby in there!!

    • Kate Aug 18 at 3:48 pm Reply Reply

      Thank you Sarah. That describes me well. I haven’t been throwing up but am often queasy. And even though I had a sonogram and saw my little bean, since I haven’t had a lot of symptoms I’m not convinced my baby is still there!

  24. Teri Jun 22 at 1:44 pm Reply Reply

    I just love this blog, and am so glad I found it – it really gives a realistic view of all that’s going on with our bodies when we’re pregnant. It makes me feel so much better to know that all this is normal, the tiredness, the nausea, everything, I don’t remember it being this bad when I was pregnant the first time!! I, too, feel bad that my 2 year old can’t understand why Mommy gets crabby so easily, or just wants to lay on the couch. I was crying about it the other day, cuz I felt like such a crappy Mom, but it makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one who goes through it! So, thank you for your blog – I love it!!

  25. Baby Minky Jul 19 at 3:32 pm Reply Reply

    It’s so reassuring to read your blog and all of the posts! I just had my 8 week checkup on Friday and we heard the heartbeat for the first time – and saw it on the screen! Our little tiny baby looks just like a little sea turtle with the little paddles… adorable! Although this is our first child, I’m a pre-school teacher so I completely understand what you all are going through! From the second I get to work till I stumble exhausted out the door, it’s a roller coaster of nausea and emotion – yikes! Thanks for all of the encouragement :)

  26. Sarah Jul 26 at 10:25 pm Reply Reply

    What a relief it is to know that everything I’m going thru with my second pregnancy is completely NORMAL!! Thank you for your blog!

  27. Melissa Armstrong Aug 05 at 2:47 pm Reply Reply

    I guess I am one of those lucky ones except of course for the cramping…oh my god the cramping. It freaks me out everyday, but the doctor says everything is okay. Thanks for this blog! It’s funny and relatable. Love it!

  28. allison Aug 07 at 1:39 pm Reply Reply

    I thought I didn’t have any symptoms, and they’re not much, but now I recognize the hungry but nothing sounds good thing. Switched up to a larger bra, and much more confortable there. I just had my first visit and saw the heartbeat. Wow. Going for another ultrasound on Monday (!) since I don’t know exactly how old baby is :) I’m floating on a cloud, and don’t want to do anything I’m scheduled to do this afternoon/evening. I want to go shopping for baby things and read this blog. That is all.

  29. meredith Aug 10 at 1:45 pm Reply Reply

    So glad to hear others are also exhausted each day. I was just about to talk to my doctor about it at my appointment tomorrow because I was convinced something was wrong–I was never this tired during my first pregnancy. then again, didn’t have a 22 month old to run after either. Guess it makes a difference!

  30. Melissa Aug 23 at 11:02 pm Reply Reply

    It is comforting that I’m not alone in the nausea..and the fact I can’t nutritiously feed my other two children (5 and 3) because just being near the kitchen makes me want to hurl. I just want to sleep until week 15 and pray that this horrible feeling is gone by then.

  31. Lori Aug 24 at 8:20 pm Reply Reply

    Oh yes, the hungry but nauseous. That’s where I am right now. Wondering about this Zofran. My dr said I couldn’t take anything in the 1st tri so I’m having to suck it up. Soooooo hard.

  32. Anonymous Aug 26 at 1:14 pm Reply Reply

    I am SO TIRED I can barely function. Please tell me this gets better!

  33. Candi Oct 23 at 2:09 pm Reply Reply

    I am almost 9 weeks along and, oh my goodness, this whole pregnancy thing just hit me like a ton of bricks like, just now. I am everyhting you describes above and feel like just hiding in bed until I hit that glorious 4 month mark (only laying down makes the need to hurl even worse. so does watching tv. and cooking. and washing dishes. and laundry. ugh.)

  34. Tammy Nov 05 at 2:13 pm Reply Reply

    I love reading your blog, they make me laugh which is hard to accomplish with all the being sick and feeling like crap going on right now.
    I have found that instead of eating having a meal replacement drink helps me feel less queesy in the morning. Also, for the ridiculous heartburn and blaoting I am taking Zantac as per my doctor. It is a miracle. Last week you would of assumed I was 7 months pregnant because of the bloating, now I look and feel normal again.

  35. Anonymous Nov 05 at 7:52 pm Reply Reply

    hmmm mabey somethings wrong with me…
    all i can think about is food! I want to eat everything!! I get a little nautious sometimes but its okay…I only have thrown up once…im only 8 weeks pregnant but sometimes i dont feel pregnant at all…i have a little “pooch” and sometimes i feel heavy and lazy, until i get out and do things i get going and i feel fine… I crave pickle juice like 24/7 but thats nothing new ive always loved pickle juice, haha.
    i feel fatigued early in the day like around 6pm and i usually go to bed then :( but recently ive been having a hard time getting up in the morning, like i feel like ive had morphine or something i just cant get up !…. is this normal? it seems everyone has such horrible symptoms in their first trimester but i dont think its that bad … maybe i have just repaired myself for it i dont know…

  36. Melissa Nov 30 at 1:46 pm Reply Reply

    After a week of the hungry but full of nausea, I finally threw up yesterday. And totally peed myself at the same time.
    Walking ball of misery? YES!!!

  37. Emily Feb 18 at 7:44 pm Reply Reply

    walking ball of misery. yes.
    I didn’t anticipate this.
    this feels like it will never end.
    how come you never see this part in the movies/tv shows/whatever?

  38. Tiffany Jun 10 at 6:43 pm Reply Reply

    Okay, so after reading all of the posts on this week, I feel like I am beyond blessed. I will be 8 weeks on Wednesday and have my first baby doc appt next week.  This is my first, so I have had no idea what to expect.  I have had 3-4 days of off and on nausea, but absolutely no actual getting sick.  I still don’t know what this heartburn thing feels like or a migraine for that matter.  My biggest headache has been my OH SO SORE boobs.  Seriously, bra or no bra–either way is miserable.  But, I will gladly handle sore boobs and not being able to sleep at night, if I can skip the all day sickness.  My only concern is baby being alright, despite my lack of symptoms.  Hubby and I aren’t telling a soul until 1st tri is over, so it is soooo hard to get comfort that everything is alright, since I haven’t been to the doc yet and no family support yet.  Anyone else been in my shoes before???

  39. Bridget Jul 29 at 6:28 pm Reply Reply

    So this is baby #2, and while I know sometimes we block out stuff from a previous pregnancy (otherwise we’d have a lot more only child scenarios!), I swear I don’t remember being THIS. FREAKIN’. NAUSEOUS. CONSTANTLY. I’m talking a couple hours after I wake up (not refreshed, still tired, definitely remember the tired thing) and lasting all day until about an hour or two before I go to bed. No food is appealing. Ugghhh. And the adorable little 2 1/2 + year-old I have doesn’t get it (although one time when I told him I was having a baby, he told me a) You can’t hold the baby, and b) You can’t have a baby…babies “cly,” i.e. cry). I hate the “misery loves company” expression, because I obviously don’t want others in misery…but it sure is nice not to be alone ladies. :)

  40. Kelly Aug 01 at 12:36 am Reply Reply

    Thank you, thank you! I only wish I had read your blog 7 months ago @ the beg of my pregnancy. Your writing & humor are awesomely pleasurable & I relate & loved so much of what you wrote. Don’t stop & hang in there! :)

  41. Sarah Sep 27 at 3:45 am Reply Reply

    I’m so refreshed to read all these comments!! I’m 7 weeks along with 3 of my own at home plus 2 foster kids….Has’t been to bad until about week 6 and the nauseousness hit me like a brick wall. I’m moderately to severely nauseous all day long. I’m a police dispatcher and work shift work which I’m sure does not help my body at all! haha Looking forward to getting over the nauseousness in the coming weeks!!!

  42. Alex Oct 21 at 6:46 pm Reply Reply

    I really love your blog!! I’m 8 weeks one day with my first baby and you have been the only person online writing about your pregnancy that I can relate to and actually makes me feel like what I’m going through is normal!  Nobody else ever mentioned the cramping; I’ve been so afraid that since they didn’t say that it was normal, that meant it was abnormal and there was something seriously wrong!

  43. Kelsie Oct 29 at 11:10 pm Reply Reply

    I’m 7 & 1/2 weeks with our first & we’re beyond excited but oh dear goodness I’m sooo tired everyday! I try to remind myself that I am one of the lucky ones (no nausea thank God) but just feeling icky day after day is no fun. I have had period like cramps & they scared me to death until I told my Mom & then friend & was reassured that they were normal, just muscles stretching & moving. Thanks OB nurse for totally NOT preparing me for anything! Sonogram lady told me I have a cyst on my ovary & went on measuring, I had to back her up & ask WHY I have a cyst. She then said, oh its the side you conceived on… really?? you couldn’t have mentioned this before you said the word cyst? Oh the joys of a first pregnancy!

  44. anne Dec 31 at 8:27 pm Reply Reply

    This is the best blog ever. I have been laughing so hard on weeks 6-8. Always nice to be able to lsugh about the pregnancy misery!

  45. Anna Mar 03 at 6:37 am Reply Reply

    7 weeks into my second pregnancy, and enjoying just constant low-grade nausea. What fun. What I have found helps is to ALWAYS have plain crackers (Saltines, etc.) on hand, in my purse, at my desk, in my car, and just slowly eat one or two whenever I begin to feel the nausea/hunger pang, and then see if I can handle a few more. Then I find that forcing myself through a few gaggy bites of something more substantial usually makes me feel better. I keep crackers by my bed and eat a few crackers in the morning before waking up, which helps.

    Also: sparkling water, all day. Burping makes me feel good. Ginger ale, too.

    Finally, having a piece of toast at night with peanut butter helps me go to sleep and feel a little better in the morning. I think maybe the protein helps? It takes me forever to eat the toast, because I keep thinking I might start to hurl, but once it’s in my stomach I really do feel better. Ugh.

  46. Emily Mar 20 at 6:39 pm Reply Reply

    I totally love this! I’ll be 8 weeks tomorrow. My morning sickness isn’t horrible but if I see or smell something gross get out of my way! Also if I don’t eat for awhile I’ll  get pretty nauseous. Headaches non stop and no energy so nothing gets cooked or cleaned for right now and if my fiancé mentions that the kitchen needs mopped I bust into tears, very emotional! I’m wondering if anyone else experiences uterus cramps like daily this early on? Most aren’t really painful just kind of a full feeling. 

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