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Everybody Gets Scared Book by Amalah (Because Everybody Gets Scared)

Everybody Gets Scared

By Amalah

I’m hijacking my column today (with permission! I swear!) for a brief moment of shameless self-promotion. 

When my oldest was much younger, he hated Halloween. The entire concept and holiday confused and frightened him to the point that he spent most of October in a state of perpetual anxiety.

He didn’t want to wear a costume. You don’t have to wear a costume. No, not enough, he didn’t want ANYBODY to wear a costume. Well, dude…

He’d see something he deemed “scary.” Then he’d worry non-stop about possibility seeing something else “scary.” He’d have a bad dream. Then he was scared to go sleep at all in case he had another.

We already knew at that point that our son wasn’t neuro-typical, although his Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis came years later. We had support for his sensory issues, but were still floundering at times looking for ways to help him deal with his fears and anxiety and his quirky way of perceiving the world.

Cue the refrain of I wish that I knew what I knew now, but one of the most important tools we had were social stories. Particularly visual versions, with photos or pictures he could recognize. Typically, we used them to walk him through his schedule, to aid in transitions or to give him an idea about what to expect at a birthday party or field trip. But we eventually figured out we could use them for more abstract, emotional challenges — especially his fears surrounding Halloween.

His younger brothers do not share his challenges, but they OF COURSE share the universal experience of being scared. Because everybody gets scared.

And like their big brother, the right words are massively important, and the order they are presented in. It doesn’t help them to be dismissively told that “monsters aren’t real, don’t be silly, there’s nothing to be afraid of.” Or “why are you scared of the dark, be a big boy, just be brave okay.”

Sure, monsters aren’t real, but their FEELINGS of fear certainly are. Of COURSE there’s something to be afraid of because their brain is telling them that there’s something to be afraid of, stop telling me there’s nothing to be afraid of. And as the adult owner of QUITE A FEW admittedly irrational fears, I totally get that. Even though sometimes I forget to tell them that, or to choose my words carefully enough when dealing with yet another kid who’s suddenly terrified of Halloween pumpkins.

So where am I going with all this? Hi. I wrote a little book called Everybody Gets Scared.

Everybody Gets Scared Book by Amalah (Book Cover)

This is a TwigTale book, which means you can personalize and customize it for your child and their specific fears and worries. It doesn’t matter if they’re afraid of the bogeyman or the automatic hand dryers in the public restroom. You can tweak the text and add your own pictures, or leave it completely as-is and just enjoy the (very funny and adorable) illustrations. Twigtale will print and bind it and have a beautiful book in your hands within just a few days. I’m really proud of it and hope very much that children find it fun and most of all, comforting.

Everybody Gets Scared Book by Amalah (superheroes!)

Of course, childhood fears can be a 24/7 year-round jubilee so it’s definitely not just a “Halloween” book. And it’ll be available whenever you need it whenever your kid decides to stop being afraid of the automatic hand dryers but OMG AUTO FLUSH TOILETS NOOOOO.

See a preview and start customizing your copy here. 

Everybody Gets Scared Book by Amalah (my parents will listen to me!)

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About the Author

Amy Corbett Storch


Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected].

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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