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Amalah
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Amy Corbett Storch

Amalah

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to amyadvice@gmail.com.

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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  • Barbamama

    I would like to say thank you to the mom that wrote in and to the thoughtful and insightful answer, and great comments. I saw this post a week ago today after a terrible bedtime where my daughter kept the battle going until 10 pm. It ended with me being the one to throw the temper tantrum. Afterwards, crying and ashamed, I searched the internet for answers and found this post. I recognized my situation perfectly with the letter writer. I am going through the same exact thing with my daughter, except her brother is in a separate room. I decided to make some changes. The following day, I went to Ikea and bought a flower light fixture that she could turn on and off from her bed, and a little silicon kitty night light that she could take with her in bed. I also bought a safety gate for her bedroom door. I pushed her bedtime by half an hour and explained that from now on, I would sing two songs in the rocking chair, put her to bed leave and that’s it. No getting up or anything else. The gate would be in the door, so she can’t leave her room but she can get up and I am not entering into the battle of keeping her in bed. I disengaged. First night, she cried and begged for and hour. Next day, 45 minutes, then 30 minutes than 20, etc. 7 days later, zero crying or getting up, 2 days in a row! I am not fully believing the problem is solved, but these results are very promising, after more than a year of bedtime power struggles. Thank you everyone who shared ideas and solutions in such an open and empathetic way. It helped !