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To Cloth Or Not To Cloth

Jan07

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Hi Amy!

I’ve read your blog like a book, thoroughly enjoying the humor and furtively glancing at my office door in case my boss pops in wanting to know what’s so funny?  Thanks for all that you share about your life, it really helps newbie parents!

So I’m 12 weeks pregnant, and very interested in at least trying cloth diapers when our baby is born. The first cloth diapers set I heard about on another blog was the GroVia Hybrids, which made a lot of sense to me.  Then I’ve read about your obsession with FuzziBunz and prefolds. I’m willing to try a sampling of each to get our feet wet and find out if cloth diapering is even for us, but here’s the 2-part dilemma.

1.  My husband is not on board at all.  We’re talking no way Jose, are you kidding me?  Partially it’s because he’s grossed out by diapers in general and is a bit of a germaphobe, both of which are going to be eye openers for him when the baby arrives and he’s wiping all kinds of nasty fluids.  I’m confident that he’ll get more comfortable with practice, but the biggest issue he has about cloth diapers is washing them in the same washer where all our clothes are cleaned.  I’ve tried explaining the science behind it, but it grosses him out to think he’ll be wearing poop shirts.  Any advice on this?>

2. The other thing he points out, which I kind of agree on, is practicality with our lifestyle. We live in Egypt and travel a…lot… His other beef with the idea of cloth is “what do we do with stinky gross cloth diapers while traveling” Is this where the cloth and disposable harmony comes in? And since getting more cloth supplies will require stocking up while in the states and making due if we don’t have something we need, is it even worth our time trying?

thanks!

I think the whole “cloth diapers are back in vogue” thing has caught a lot of people by surprise — a lot of husbands and grandparents, anyway, judging from the emails I get on this topic. I still remember my husband’s face when I turned to him one random day and said that I was thinking I’d like to switch to cloth diapers. We were over four months in on our second baby, for the record, and I basically had the idea like, that day and proceeded to get completely gung-ho about it in a manner of hours. Anyway, his face was Very Skeptical Side-Eye, over the whole thing. But he was intrigued over the cost savings, he’s quite the save-the-earth type, and by that point he was no longer apprehensive about diapers in general. He’d changed a few thousand or so, after all.

But for your husband’s specific concerns (which are valid! and probably shared by a lot of people!), here would be my responses (which you can totally frame as coming from “your friend who cloth diapers and has THREE KIDS and KNOWS WHAT SHE’S TALKING ABOUT and who is only KIND OF A LITTLE BIT CRAZY”):

First, let’s talk about the grossness of cloth vs. disposable. And let’s agree on the fact that ALL DIAPERS are kind of gross. Your baby is going to poop and pee into something, and you will be responsible for handling and disposing of that something, be it cloth or paper or plastic. But if I wanted to lobby for cloth being less gross, I’d focus on these points:

1) Disposable diapers are more susceptible to the dreaded, not-at-all mythical “blowout.” This is a very regular, common problem when your baby is a newborn, as the poops are very liquid and come out…uh, very forcefully. Disposable diapers are all about the fit around the legs, but there is absolutely NO protection or barrier around the back of the waistband. It just kind of…sits flat against your baby’s back, and poop will shoot up and out of the diaper. All over your baby’s back, clothing, carseat, crib, swing, or YOU. I have literally cleaned baby poop off the back of a baby’s NECK. It’s THAT REAL, PEOPLE. This problem can happen pretty regularly until six months or so (when solids are introduced, and the poops get grosser and bigger but at least stop shooting out at top speed). It can also crop up again in toddlerhood when your baby is only going once or twice a day and oh dear god, that’s a man-sized poop! And you just sat down on it and rolled around on the floor and ohhhh, YAY. There are still days when I am so very thankful for having REAL elastic around my baby’s waistband.

2) On that note, let’s do away with the notion that if your washing machine will be a poop-free zone if use disposables. Ha. HAHAHAHA. There will be poop on your baby’s clothing, bedding, blankets, etc. You will be putting poop in your washing machine pretty much no matter what. (Breastmilk baby poop is nothing, though. There’s no point in trying to shake or rinse or anything: It’s right on par with like, a yogurt stain or something. Washes right out.) When your baby gets bigger, you can shake or rinse off the solids into the toilet before tossing the diaper into the pail. (And for the record, I would recommend shaking solids out of disposable diapers too, because otherwise your diaper pail is disgusting and emptying it on trash night is an exercise in oh-god-don’t-let-the-baggies-rip terror. So again, the idea that disposables are some kind of amazing shield against having to actually deal with/handle/see/inspect your baby’s waste isn’t super realistic.)

3) Cloth diapers require special detergent. Special clean-rinsing detergent, which will actually lead to less residue in your washing machine and less “carry-over” from one load to the next. I also recommend adding an extra rinse at the end of your diaper wash cycle, just to flush everything out one last time. I swear to God no one in my family has ever walked around wearing a poop shirt. Most of the diapers are just…wet, anyway. For all the talk about babies and poop and ZOMGPOOP, the reality is MOST diaper changes are urine only.

4) For traveling, this depends. I have traveled with cloth diapers and disposables, and sometimes a hybrid of each. There are pros and cons to BOTH, trust:

a) Disposables take up more space in your luggage, especially since you’ll always want to pack a million more diapers than you THINK you’ll ever need. (Because you are correct: You will always need more diapers than you think.)

b) Disposables are awkward when you’re a guest in someone’s home and aren’t handling the trash disposal. We once stayed at a family’s condo and very literally walked each and every dirty diaper down to the other end of the hall to the building’s trash chute. Even if you use those handy odor-repelling baggies (you know, because it’s great to create even MORE non-biodegradable waste), I’ve never really enjoyed leaving behind a wastebasket full of diapers at someone’s home (or even a hotel).

c) If you go somewhere with a washer and dryer, you can pack fewer diapers. And don’t worry if your destination doesn’t have the “right” detergent or you can’t soak them overnight or anything: The occasional half-assed laundry cycle will not cause your diapers to disintegrate at the seams or anything.

d) You travel with cloth diapers, you travel with a wet bag. You put dirty diapers in the wet bag and zip it up. Mash it into the bottom of your suitcase, bring it home and dump the whole thing, bag and all, into the washer. That’s…about it for special gear or accessories. Pretty mild, as baby travel gear goes. I promise, it’s not scary at all and dirty diapers in a bag don’t really take up any additional room in your luggage AND a good wet bag will COMPLETELY lock in the odors and dampness. I use the ones by Planet Wise and they come in a variety of sizes, for just one or two diapers (like for your carry-on, on the plane, etc.) for up to several days’ worth.

5) You can always go halfsies. Dude, cloth diaper at home and buy disposables when you travel. Use disposables on the plane and switch back to cloth at your destination. Whatever you want to do! It’s OKAY. You will not fail at cloth diapering if you opt to not use them 100% exclusively all the time. You will not automatically turn them into a bad investment (or not “worth it”) if you occasionally grab from a pile of emergency back-up Huggies, you know?

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42 Responses to “To Cloth Or Not To Cloth”

  1. Great advice! I have a two-year-old and an eight-month-old and have been cloth-diapering since the beginning (with both).

    My husband was completely against cloth-diapering in the beginning, but once he realized it is a HUGE cost-savings, he got on board. Now he still doesn’t actually *wash* them (he gets grossed out), but he changes them with no problem, and happily recommends cloth diapers to other people.

    Is there anything cuter than a dad telling another dad that cloth diapers are great? :)

    • Chris Jan 14 at 4:38 am Reply Reply

      I would agree that once you see the cost savings it’s a no brainer. We use cloth on our 2 girls and “splurge on the disposables for extended trips.

  2. Kate Jan 07 at 1:50 pm Reply Reply

    I’ve done quite a bit of travelling with cloth diapers and my rule (after some experimenting) is that I’ll bring cloth if I don’t have to wash on the trip (like an overnight or a weekend), but otherwise I’ll use disposables. I actually think that cloth often does take up more room — they’re bigger than disposables and require more “accessories.” Anyway, that’s just my rule. I would suggest that if you decide to do cloth when you travel that you use diapers that are made of natural fibers. You never know when you’ll get stuck having to use a sucky front loading machine and, man, it can be HARD to get synthetics (like, microfiber pocket inserts) clean in a new-to-you, not very effective machine. Good luck! (btw, I think all dads are grossed out by the “poop washer” thing until the baby comes. Then they realize that they can’t escape the poop!)

  3. Heather Jan 07 at 1:51 pm Reply Reply

    We’ve been using CDs for 2 years.  My husband was a bit iffy at first, but he’s totally on board now. (The way I convinced him was the money we would save–we figured out that we would recoup our initial investment after 4 months of use.)  Related to that and what Amy said, you will still save money even if you use the cloth only sometimes, which is totally fine.  You don’t have to go 100%.  Some suggestions to make things more user friendly for your husband:  1) Wait a month or two after the baby arrives to get the cloth diapers and just use disposables.  That will eliminate his unrealistic expectations about no poop ever in the washer and dealing with poop in general, and will give you both a chance to adjust to having a baby without worrying about introducing a new element you’re not used to.  2) Get some easy to use diapers–either all-in-ones or pocket diapers.  I use FuzziBunz one size pocket diapers.  They are super easy to use and not as high maintenance as other brands.  (i.e. one of the recommended detergents is Tide Free…not the fancy expensive CD detergents you have to order online.)  3) Use disposables when you travel.  Most of the time you will not have access to a washer/dryer and if you are staying with someone who does, they may not want you washing poopy diapers every 1-2 days.  Plus, even in a wet bag, diapers start to smell after a day or two.  I wouldn’t want that in my suitcase, personally.  Even if you travel a lot, using CDs at home will still save money and will still be a benefit.  Good luck!

  4. Autumn Jan 07 at 2:35 pm Reply Reply

    We use the Grovia hybrid/all in 2s, and I have been very happy with them.  Nice to only have to change the liner when it’s just urine.  We did disposables for the first month or so until we got a good fit around her legs, I think she was 9 pounds or so when they started to fit well.  

    My husband was not thrilled about the idea at first, but once I explained the cost savings he thought it was great.  I forget the details, but all of our grovias, wet-bags (go with the planetwise ones) pails/pail liners, detergent, AND a new washer/dryer cause ours was dying anyways cost what 2.5 years of disposables would have.  Or we broke even on our investment when the baby turned one had have been diapering for “free” ever since.  When traveling, unless it’s a weekend with my parents, we just do disposables.  It’s just easier for everyone.

    As far as the “poop shirt” fears, with babies if it’s not coming out of one end it’s the other.  Our 16 month old had the stomach flu, and she puked all over herself, all over us, the floor everywhere.  I did a full load of her puke stuff, then another full load of ours.  

  5. Meredith Jan 07 at 3:01 pm Reply Reply

    I currently have a 4 week old that I’ve been cloth diapering for 2 1/2 weeks. When I first broached the topic with my husband he was totally against it, even with the cost savings. I found a semi local store that only has cloth diapers and they offered classes to teach us about everything we would need to know. After that class he was totally gung-ho about cloth diapering. My only suggestion is that you don’t just start with one kind of cloth diaper. There are so many things to choose from and there are some things that you will love and some that you will hate!

  6. Lori Jan 07 at 3:08 pm Reply Reply

    You could also use a cloth diaper service that washes them for you! No cost savings there, but it comes out to about the same cost as disposables and is more eco-friendly and baby bottom-friendly. 

  7. Susan Jan 07 at 3:27 pm Reply Reply

    I’m only commenting to tell the OP that my husband is grossed out by the idea of washing his clothes with clothing or bedding that have urine on them. We used disposables, but, you know, accidents happen. So, one day, my kiddo had a pee accident at school and I asked my hubs to throw the soiled clothes into a wash he was starting, and he looked at me like I was out of my mind. He was appalled! Little does he know his clothes have been washed with pee and poop pretty much since our kid was born. And, he was none the wiser. Just had to share.

  8. Jennifer Jan 07 at 3:33 pm Reply Reply

    I know this isn’t part of the original question, but one other issue with cloth diapers, for those of us that have to send our babies to daycare, is that many daycares (at least in our area of the Midwest) DO NOT allow cloth diapers. At All. Period.  Its a sanitary issue, more work for them, etc etc. Some At-Homes would consider it, but it would be an extra fee and an addendum to the contract that they could change at any time if it became an issue.  Something to be aware of as its not one of the more obvious considerations.

    • Susan Jan 07 at 3:42 pm Reply Reply

      We cloth diaper at home and send them to daycare in disposables (Nature Babycare is an awesome, ever-so-slightly less toxic to baby and environment brand). It doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

      • Holly Jan 07 at 7:15 pm Reply Reply

        Yep, I did cloth diaper at home, disposables at daycare. It still saved a ton of money I think (esp as I went with Target brand sposies because they had to change every hour, regardless of wet/soiled state, nothing like throwing away a not used diaper!). AND, she barely had rashes, blowouts while at home, etc because of the break from sposies I think.

        • autumn Jan 07 at 11:42 pm Reply Reply

          Our day care in the twin cities lets us do cloth as long as they are ready to go, so I snap in my liners for them and take home a bag of “gifts” every day.  I keep a couple of extra disposables there incase I pick up late or she has extra poops.  They change every 2 hours or when smelling stinky.  Most day cares will allow cloth if you work with them.  Very rarely laws against it, more it’s more hassle for staff.  But now that cloth diapering is “trendy” they were actually semi-advertising they were CD friendly.  Just remember how many diapers you sent, once one of ours accidentally went home in another kid’s pail (the $15 one from target that was just like mine:))

      • Joanna Jan 10 at 9:09 am Reply Reply

        My daughter’s daycare won’t cloth diaper her, but they will put a cloth diaper on her at the end of the day. We send a bum genius in with her each day and the last time they change her dipe they put it on. We cloth diaper with cotton prefolds at home, but have a stash of pocket diapers to send with her since it makes it easier on her teachers. It’s just one diaper a day, but we figure over time it adds up!

    • sarah Jan 07 at 5:14 pm Reply Reply

      Our current (and previous ) daycare actually allowed cloth diapers.  So, it’s worth asking.

  9. Susan Jan 07 at 3:40 pm Reply Reply

    Tip 1 – get a sprayer that hooks to your toilet so you can rinse the cloth diapers before putting them in the diaper pail – they’ll be almost totally poop/pee free before they hit the washer.
    Tip 2 – I love the flushable/compostable inserts from gDiapers – but I don’t love the gDiaper covers. When we travel I use a g insert in a Thirsties cover and it’s a great compromise between cloth and disposable (but don’t flush them if you’re not sure if your host’s water pressure is strong enough to clear the pipes).
    Tip 3 – consider plain ol’ cotton prefolds instead of microfiber inserts – I have had three years of devilment from Fuzzibunz and BumGenius inserts (I cannot get the ammonia pee smell out no matter how many different ways I wash, soak, boil, sun or whatever them) so I just use prefolds inside FB and BG covers – no pee stink! Prefolds are also hella cheaper…

  10. Liz Jan 07 at 5:19 pm Reply Reply

    I agree with the pp. Natural fibers are so much easier! Cotton prefolds stand up to strange detergents etc a lot better than synthetics. I have never thought I needed to strip my prefolds, but in the year my son has been in Bum Genius 4.0′s, I have stripped 3 or 4 times due to microfiber stink. If you really want easy, I would get flats from Green Mountain Diapers. They dry super fast, get clean really easily, and make me feel like a pioneer lady! I just fold them up like a pad and then place them in a cover, just like a would with a prefold. Good luck!

  11. Kat Jan 07 at 5:50 pm Reply Reply

    Just my two cents: I bought cloth diapering supplies before I had baby (not a whole lot, but enough to get us started). My plan was to do cloth at home, disposable at daycare. Well…when baby arrived my husband and I decided that our house (as much as we hate the environmental impact) was going to be a disposable diaper house. My mental state could not handle zero sleep, seventy five billion loads of non cloth diaper laundry, struggling to breastfeed and a few other things. It just sort of…fell to the bottom of the list of things that we MUST DO to be parents of the year. I made some compromises (I make baby’s food, but still don’t cloth diaper), and honestly – I feel much saner. All this to say: if it works, great. If it turns into too much to handle given your family’s lifestyle, that’s okay too.

    • Amie Jan 08 at 10:20 am Reply Reply

      ^ This. We did the exact same thing. And you know what? It’s fine. Great, actually.

  12. Melanie Jan 07 at 8:50 pm Reply Reply

    My hubby also thought I was a crazy pants when I said I wanted to cd (thanks to reading amalah’s blog). I quit my job to be a SAHM when dd was born and promised him I would be in charge of laundry because he just doesn’t deal well with things like that. Well I ended up hurting my back when dd was about 5 months and he had to take over laundry duty and he couldn’t believe how easy it was. We use the fuzzibunz bag that zips open at the bottom.
    We use disposables of we are going somewhere more than overnight. I tried to wash them at my parents once and it’s just too much with a machine and water you don’t know. We are thinking of renting a condo type room for vacation soon and I will probably try to cloth there but for just a couple days disposables are fine. And cloths do take up more room for like weekend trips.

  13. Jessica Jan 08 at 2:36 am Reply Reply

    I went ahead and bought the FuzziBunz starter kit when I was about 6 months pregnant and my boyfriend said ‘you can do that, I’ll do disposables.’  Then, 2 weeks after the baby is born and he’s all ‘What?  We’re out of diapers?  But I bought so many, it was so expensive…’ and suddenly he’s Mr On Board with cloth.  Plus, the new ones are super easy, and we do so much frickin laundry anyway, a single wash of diapers isn’t a huge deal.  
    Also, I highly recommend using soap nuts as a detergent. Zero buildup, zero things in it to irritate baby butt (or you) and it’s HELLA CHEAP.  Yes, I realize that sounds massively hippy, but I think it works a lot better than regular detergent, and it’s HELLA CHEAP.  

  14. Shenoah Jan 08 at 3:32 am Reply Reply

    I would suggest a diaper service at first to ease your husband into the idea if he’s really that dead-set against it. Then, once he sees how easy it can be, go ahead and invest in your own diapers.

    At which point, maybe consider g-diapers. You get the benefit of a cloth shell (with real elastic!) and can put cloth inserts in when you are at home and biodegradeable disposable inserts when you travel. Then you only have to worry about taking home the dirty outer covers.

  15. Emily Jan 08 at 5:09 pm Reply Reply

    I have to disagree with how much space disposables take in your luggage vs. cloth. Lol. My diaper bag comfortably fits like 5-6 cloth diapers or like 20 disposables. and when we travel, we know we can always buy more when we get to our destination, so I don’t overpack disposables like I do cloth. I also feel weird asking people if we can use their washers to wash our diapers, so I rarely travel with cloth. And it’s not just the washers, it’s the space. I hang dry. I need space and time for that to work. When we’re moving from one inlaw to the other inlaw’s house after 2 days, you’re talking about limited time. So, for travel, I use disposables. Maybe if we were talking about a week at a beach house with a washer, then yeah.. I would bring cloth. I take cloth camping because it’s like 2 days and then I can wash at home. I use cloth 100% of the time normally. and for what it’s worth, my husband was not on board with the cloth idea, so I compromised and told him I’d use sposies until 6 weeks. Then we switched to cloth. Now, 2 years later, he loves it and I just bought a newborn stash for this baby I’m currently incubating. So, I think you can compromise a little and most likely he’ll come around.

  16. Emily Jan 08 at 5:12 pm Reply Reply

    and while we are 100% cloth here, you will have to look at your own unique water and electricity bills to see if it’s as much of a savings for you as you’d like. My sister started in cloth and couldn’t afford the water bill. For us, the bills aren’t an issue compared to the price of sposies.

  17. Autumn Jan 08 at 6:04 pm Reply Reply

    On cutting down on power costs, I start drying the diapers in the dryer for about 30 minutes, enough time to get the cloth wipes dry, then onto a dryer rack to finish.   It would take me 90 minutes to get them dry on medium (or 75 on high) so there goes cost savings.  They dry really fast in the winter cause the air is super dry here. I also have a pair of bath towels that go into the wash/dry with the diapers just to bulk out the load.  Things get cleaner that way. 

  18. Olivia Jan 08 at 6:14 pm Reply Reply

    We have gone halfsies with both our kids (second is 8 months now). Cloth during the day at home; disposable for outings over a couple of hours and overnight. And explosive poop? Well, it did not matter which kind of diaper my son was wearing. Nearly every poop, until just a month ago when he started eating more solids, was a leaky mess. Up the back and/or out the legs in cloth and disposable. They also stained everything. *sigh*

  19. Sarah Jan 08 at 10:15 pm Reply Reply

    I always wanted to use cloth diapers but during the middle of my pregnancy with my daughter, I was completely overwhelmed and told hubby that I was dropping the CD idea.  He was the one who convinced me that we needed to go ahead with it — he was really sold on the idea, go figure!

    So glad we did.  We use pre-folds and Thirsties wraps — the least expensive way to get into them.  I even got a lot of the pre-folds on Craigslist, even less expensive!  We’re on number 2 and I can’t tell you the money we’ve saved.  Amy’s right — it’s poop and messy no matter what diaper it’s in.  When they got to the more solid poops we used flushable liners in the pre-folds to get the majority of the poop into the toilet.  

    I also second the “use disposables where it’s more convenient” philosophy.  I refuse to tote around multiple days worth of dirty diapers — but we’ve done it on vacation where we had a washer.  

    • Christine Smith Jan 12 at 1:42 pm Reply Reply

      Yes! disposable liners (we use Bummis, you can buy them at Diapers.com), are great! Lift out the majority of solids and flush it away. We also have a diaper sprayer that my husband put together in the girls’ bathroom. It’s just a sprayer for a kitchen sink, hooked up with a valve to the water pipe for the toilet. He talked to the guys in the plumbing dept at the hardware store and they talked him through it. Simple really. Anyway, it is so nice to be able to rinse off the worst of the mess before it goes into the diaper pail. (sometimes I forget to use the liners ;)

  20. Chris Jan 09 at 2:44 am Reply Reply

    We’ve been CDing for 14 months and we LOVE it.

    1. We use BumGenius 4.0 w/snaps, and we LOVE them. Wash with Tide Free, not fancy expensive detergent and never had a problem with perma-stink. A couple times over the course of a year I’ve thrown in some oxyclean and bleach to prevent it. If it helps, we wash cold no soap, then hot with soap and extra rinse. Never, ever have I worried about poop in the washer. We dump big poops in the toilet and use flushable liners in his first dipe of the day, when he almost always poops, and for daycare to make it easy for them. Both the daycares we’ve used have been CD friendly since we hand them the dipes ready to go, no folding required.

    2. We started when kiddo was 6-7 weeks old. 10 cloth BF poop dipes a day? No thanks. Waited til it got down to 7-8, washing every other night, now we wash every third night because he only uses 5-6 a day.

    3. Totally keep disposables on hand! We use them for diarrhea again and again days, back-up for all dipes are in the pail days, and travel to places w/o a washer and dryer. For example we feel comfortable washing our dipes at my husbands parents’ but not my family’s house. We also use disposable overnight dipes because he pees right through cloth overnight…needed to start when he wore size 3 I think.

    4. The money savings is AMAZING!!!!! And you never have to run to the store with a towel wrapped around your kid because you’re out of dipes.
     
    5. We used a diaper sprayer until things got real solid and it was awesome.

    6. Get a planetwise wetbag. A must for daycare and travel. It can even be your pail at home.

    7. Take the inserts OUT before putting it all in the pail. That way you can just dump the pail in the washer, not manhandle days-old used dipes.

    8. My hubs is totally on board b/c of the cost savings and how gentle they are on our kid’s butt. He’s had diaper rash like twice ever in his 1.5 years. I love the cute colors and that other stuff too. :)

    Good luck! Read lots of reviews- that’s what convinced me, even though it was really daunting. I liked shopping at cottonbabies.com. There’s also a high-end baby shop in town we could preview all the types of dipes. Didn’t buy from them of course. :)

  21. Chris Jan 09 at 2:46 am Reply Reply

    Ack, not Tide Free. Just plain old powder Tide. Tons of reviews say it’s ok and I’ve loved it.

    • Emily Jan 09 at 6:22 pm Reply Reply

      Regular Powdered Tide is what we use as well. We were using some of the more popular ‘cloth diaper’ detergents and we had stink issues all the time. Been with Tide for over a year and a never have to use oxyclean or bleach or strip or anything. That being said…. it very often depends on the water in the area you live in, what will work for you. There is sadly no ‘one size fits all’ solution for diaper laundry. Your water, your washer, your lifestyle will make a huge difference in what works best for your family.

  22. Dlee Jan 09 at 7:25 am Reply Reply

    I’ve been using cloth since my baby was 4 weeks old (now 6 months) and have a couple of observations to share:

    1. I’ve only EVER had nappy rash or a “poosplosion” when he was in disposables. Occasionally he might leak overnight if he’s gone for 6-7 hours straight without waking up and needing a change but that’s just pee.

    2. The law here states that all nappies, no matter the type you use, must be emptied into the toilet. You’re still supposed to scrape the poo from disposables and, frankly, if I’m stuck cleaning feces from a diaper then I’d rather it be on one I’m reusing.

    3. Depending on the system you use, soaking is actually detrimental to the elastic. Modern cloth styles don’t need it, you dry pail them. Soaking is only really okay for prefolds or flats. (Flats would also work for travelling, they dry fast!)

    4. You don’t need any “special” laundry powder. Just one without enzymes. Like someone mentioned above, soap nuts are also amazing too. You can buy a kilo for $AUD35 or so and that will last an average family of four for a year. I have about 35 nappies and only do an extra load every second or third day. If your husband is that bothered by them being with his clothes, save up enough to make a full load or do a half one if your machine allows you to adjust the water levels.

    5. I use a combination of Itti Bittis and the cheapies from eBay. Itti Tuttos are amazing – One size you can snap down to newborn that lasts until toddler with a patented “poo fence” to prevent leakage up the back. They’re absolutely amazing and so soft. If you buy some pocket cheapies off ebay, I suggest buying extra microfibre liners, prefolds or both. I put two of the liners plus sometimes a Bambino Mio prefold (just the newborn size) for stuffing.

    Using this method, I think we’ve only bought 4 or 5 packs of disposables and most of those were for the first four weeks  while we were waiting for him to grow and trying to get our heads around this parenting gig. Now we only resort to them if we’re out of cloth (a rarity!) travelling a full day or more or if we’re just feeling lazy. Nothing wrong with doing it part-time either to see how you like it and if it works for you. Since the initial set-up costs can be overwhelming, that’s what we did. We bought a 20 pack from eBay to try, decided we liked it then looked into the “brand” ones. If you’re having a shower, you could suggest everyone buy one of their choosing so you can test all the different brands or styles and build a small stash.

    Good luck!

  23. Jamie Jan 10 at 12:11 am Reply Reply

    I was in EXACTLY the same situation when I was pregnant with our daughter.  My husband was thisclose to installing a second washer just so the “poop washer” would not be the regular washer.  BTW, I was fine with this paranoia, but thriftiness prevailed and we still have one washer and a cloth diapered 5 month old.  

    My two cents are get the fitteds from Green Mountain.  Buy 2 dozen of each size and as many covers as you can afford.  Thirsties are good, Bummies are good – leg gussets are sent straight from heaven – and I have one cover (SwaddleBee Capri) that I love love love.  Wish I had bought 3.  My daughter was 5 pounds preemie and is now over 20 at 5 months (holla!) and this cover has been used every week since week 1.  It’s spendy (25ish?) but holy cow it is worth it.

    I would love to CD at night but after weeks of picking a baby up out of a puddle, I’m out.  Disposables at night as soon as she started sleeping 11-6.  I love CD but I’m not crazy.

    I wash first cycle hot with OxyClean powder then second cycle hot extra rinse with powder Tide (original).  Very few stains and no stink or repelling.  AT ALL.  A few tiny stains from poop; I will bleach in the sun when it’s not -25 (I live in Canada…in the prairies….brrr).

    In the end, do what you feel is best for you and your family.  I don’t find CD to be any more work than buying disposables en masse, but for some the laundry is hellish.  My daughter gets a rash one second after she poops in a disposable, and I mean bleeding, looks like a burn, rash. It makes my heart hurt.  Some kids don’t.  Meet your baby, then give it a shot if you’re up for it.  There are no prizes in motherhood; only what makes you feel good.  So do that.  Best wishes!

  24. Allison Jan 10 at 3:52 pm Reply Reply

    I am due next week with my first and my green bean husband is the one who insisted on cloth.  I did my research and we are doing a rental package from diaperparties.com. They sent me 30 newborn BumGenius and at the end of 12 weeks I can either return and get a good portion of my rental fee back or get extra credits to use toward my purchase of full size CD’s.  I think this is a good way to wade in slowly if you are unsure.

    Neither my husband or I are super thrilled with the idea of poop in the wash so we are adding the biodegradable liners and plan just to dump the liner and the poop away before washing. I know this won’t help with runny nastiness but will certainly prevent some!

    Re: Daycare. I haven’t asked our daycare yet! I was planning on making sure CD was for me and then asking for a meeting to show them how easy it is with AIO’s and the liners.  I thought I could convince them that way vs. just asking about it.  We will see how it goes.

  25. Hope Jan 10 at 8:38 pm Reply Reply

    As a counterpoint to all of the commenters whose husbands eventually came around to cloth diapering… my husband never did. At all. I would hand our daughter to him with a wet cloth diaper and she would be handed back to me in a dry disposable. We also weren’t able to do cloth at daycare (onerous state laws means that NO daycare in our area was willing to do cloth). And I was doing all of the diaper laundry. (the deal we made when I said I wanted to try cloth diapering out)

    I did cloth for my 3 months of maternity leave, but I only lasted a couple of weeks after going back to work full-time. Our daughter wasn’t sleeping, I wasn’t sleeping. I felt like all I ever did when I wasn’t at work was wash bottles and cloth diapers. I realized that you can’t put a price on your own sanity and I shelved the cloth diapers.

    We’re still exclusively breastfeeding, so I figure that’s enough earth mothering for now. I reserve the right to go back to cloth. But it’s really really REALLY hard when nobody else is on board with it. 

    Taking care of a baby is hard enough. I just couldn’t justify making it that much harder.

    • Kate Feb 11 at 10:09 am Reply Reply

      An you know what, that’s ok. 

      I’m a hardcore cloth diaperer and I’ll say to you what I say to all my friends when I lend them a starter stash “it’s awesome that you want to try and if it doesn’t work that’s ok”

  26. Renter Jan 11 at 7:23 pm Reply Reply

    I want to confirm–it’s completely impossible to cloth-diaper if you have to use coin-op laundry, right? I mean, it’s obviously completely impossible to have a baby (with the barfing and the poop generally) with a shared coin-op washer/dryer or laundromat, but it’s a whole different level of impossible to do the special detergents and the billionty cycles and the mucking around with the timing and the soaking. Am I wrong?

    God, if and when, my babies will just have to poop in the toilet like I do or outside like the dog does.

    • S Jan 14 at 11:49 am Reply Reply

      Not impossible! Depends on what kind of diapers you use and how you plan your time. I CD a premie, with reflux. You can imagine the laundry. Our coin-op machines are in the building on the opposite side of the yard from ours. I made the choice to CD when my son’s skin could not handle disposables. We have a system that works for us now – but will be getting our own washer if need be. You do what you have to do. I can handle lugging 50 bilion loads of laundry back and forth every week. I can’t handle having my baby be in pain if he doesn’t have to be. So early mornings for me and lots of diapers in our wash.

    • JanM Jan 14 at 12:32 pm Reply Reply

      Not impossible or crazy! I have two kids in an apartment and have never done anything except coin-op. I cloth diapered for just over a year for each of them using the community washing machine. Occasionally I did a pre-soak in the tub, but other then that, I just chucked my diapers in the wash and no one noticed or cared. It was easy.

  27. Lisa Jan 13 at 1:45 am Reply Reply

    Like Hope, my husband hasn’t come around yet (our baby is 7 months old) and I’m not expecting that he will. I think he’s just accepted that I’m stubborn and we have both accepted that the other person isn’t going to change their mind. He’s grudgingly going along with it as long as I’m willing to do all of the diaper laundry and hand him a bag of already folded and ready-to-go diapers to bring with him to daycare dropoff every Monday. He hasn’t put a cloth diaper on the baby since she was a few weeks old. My mom inadvertently sabotaged my chances of getting my husband on-board when she visited right after the baby was born and insisted that poopy diapers must be dunked in the toilet. I was intending to throw them right from the dry pail into the wash without a dunk since I’ve been exclusively breastfeeding- and this extra nasty step of dunking them in the toilet (even though I abandoned it over 6 months ago) seems to have ruined the chances I’ll ever get my husband on board with cloth diapering. We had extra cost savings since my sister gave us her whole stash of diapers- so the cost of cloth diapering is really only laundry soap and electric- but even that has gone nowhere towards convincing my normally frugal husband. Oh well.

    • Kate Feb 11 at 10:15 am Reply Reply

      I had a hard time convincing my mom not to do that too :( (she did it once and you’re right, it’s disgusting). We use pocket diapers (applecheeks) that have inserts that come out in the wash so all you have to do is shake any poo into the toilet and drop it in the pail. After almost 4 years and two kids she still disassembles every dirty diaper and rinses both parts out in the sink! 

  28. Eden Jan 13 at 10:32 pm Reply Reply

    We have been cloth diapering our son since he was six months old, and he is now 20 months old. We use bumgenuis 4.0 pockets, and looooove them! My husband was originally opposed, until I ordered one to try and he loved them immediately! My main reasons for switching was disposables are expensive, and my baby always blew out of them!

  29. Kelly Jan 28 at 8:26 pm Reply Reply

    We used cloth exclusively for baby # 3 

    Totally wish I had used them before. 

    Tried covers, AIOs and pockets and settled eventually on Easy Peasies one size pockets. 

    LOVED THEM! Baby is potty trained now though :( 

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