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Birth Control & Postpartum Depression

By Amalah

smackdown_pill.jpgHi Amy!

I have been a long time reader and seem to recall you had issues with birth control and anxiety, depression? I have a 4 month old, and recently went back on the mini-pill to prevent another pregnancy so soon after my little boy was born. However, I feel awful. I was dealing with being a mommy pretty well I thought before I went on these, except for the obvious exhaustion with nighttime feedings and all of that. But I felt like a human, like I wanted to wake up each morning. Now though, even though my little boy is smiling and laughing and rolling over (yay!) I find no joy in waking up in the mornings, in fact my husband gets up with the baby every morning so I can get my extra rest, but really I just lay there mustering up the courage to get up and do it all over again. My little boy hardly ever cries but when he does, I feel like losing it. I have to sometimes put in him in the crib and just scream into pillows in the garage so he won’t hear me. I resent my husband every time he isn’t home to save me. I HATE feeling this way, especially since I am getting more sleep now, and my baby is way more fun than when he was a newborn. I think this is related to going back on the pill because the effects were almost immediate. I felt anxious 2 days after starting up again, and now it has just spiraled. I am stopping taking them tonight, but I wanted to know, is this common? I am breastfeeding, does this hormonal therapy add to the hormones of a bf mommy and make you crazy? I feel crazy. I have always been an optimist, someone who loves life, I wanted this baby more than anything, and I am lucky enough to be home with him! It’s everything I wanted, so it’s awful to not want to get out of bed in the morning.


So…..clearly I am stopping the pill, once I realized that might be it (yesterday while staring out the window). But, other than condoms are there other forms of “birth control” that work? We never did any sort of family planning, we basically had sex after I stopped taking the regular pill, which I did for 10 years with no issues, and I got pregnant, 20 days later. It was great! But now I am thinking I never want to take hormonal birth control, ever, again. I just want to be human again, and I don’t want to get pregnant right away either but would love to keep my marriage intact, intimacy-wise ;-). Please help!!

Thanks a bunch!
C

Yes, hormonal birth control — even low-dosage varieties — are known to aggravate symptoms of depression and anxiety, and perhaps even more so for postpartum depression (PPD). Pretty much every handout and info sheet out there cautions against hormonal birth control for women currently being treated for PPD.

Your case, however, sounds a tad bit different, since you didn’t have any symptoms of PPD until you started the mini-pill. So…sure. It definitely could be from the pill alone, and good for you for connecting those dots and stopping it. Pregnancy and birth and breastfeeding have your hormones already out of whack, so I can definitely buy that you could suddenly start having bad reactions to something you’ve taken in the past.

OR. It could seriously just be a coincidental case of Crap Timing. Regular ol’ garden variety PPD can actually start any time in the first year: three to four months is actually a pretty common starting point. So please, keep on top of your symptoms. Don’t automatically assume that you’re cured and it was all the pill’s fault and you just need to give yourself a few weeks to get it out of your system. And then a few weeks turns into a couple months and you still don’t feel like yourself. I certainly hope that the pill is what did it and you’ll be back to your old self in no time, but please please don’t rule out the chance that this is actual genuine PPD and will need to be addressed by your doctor.

As for non-hormonal birth control (NHBC) options, our commenters pretty much addressed every option out there on a recent question about IUDs and depression. Let’s round them up:

Over-the-Counter NHBC
* Condoms (latex, non-latex, lambskin)
* Contraceptive sponges
* Spermicide

Prescription NHBC
* Diaphragms
* Cervical caps
* Lea’s Shield
* Some IUDs

Other NHBC
* The Fertility Awareness Method (FAM)
* The Withdrawal (pull-out) Method

My! What a motley line-up we have here. The efficacy rate on some of these options may sound a bit depressing at first, but most couples end up doubling or tripling up (i.e. she gets a diaphragm or cap, he wears a condom, they both use spermicidal lube). And they may combine these with one of the methods from the “other” category, using the barriers only during her likely fertile times of the month.

Personally, I don’t have any experience with any of the prescription options. Or the sponge. We use a hodgepodge of the natural family planning methods (one thing infertility will give you is an almost painfully detailed awareness of what your body is and isn’t doing) and condoms. But we’re not the get-pregnant-within-the-first-20-days-of-trying couple. Or first 20 MONTHS, even.

A lot of couples mention latex sensitivities as the top reason condoms are a no-go, but non-latex versions are available (Durex Avanti and Trojan Supra) and are quite thin-looking, but are actually stronger than latex. And if your partner complains that condoms just “don’t fit” or “are uncomfortable,” take note! It’s probably not his penis. It’s his ego. A recent study found that 45% of men surveyed buy the WRONG SIZE condom, mostly because they dislike buying anything labeled “medium” or “small,” even if that’s what will fit them properly. Proper fit means better protection AND better sex, so maybe add condoms to your shopping list and actually consult the size guidelines. Then bring them home and toss the box, then ask him to go out and buy you some super-absorbancy tampons.

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Amalah
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Amy Corbett Storch

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Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected].

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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Stephanie
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Stephanie

I used the Copper T IUD and HIGHLY recommend it. It is 99.9% effective (no breaking, missing doses, using it incorrectly) and 100% hormone free!!! When I was ready for a second child I had it removed and become pregnant the next month. The most effective birth control method out there (except abstinence of course) and NO HORMONES!!

Someone Being Me
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I had the exact same issue with my low dose birth control. After having my second son I was fine for the first six weeks then started taking the mini pill after my 6 week post partum checkup. Within a week or so I noticed I was a lot more emotional and started waking up angry every day. I got to the point where I was angry all day every day. So within 6 weeks of starting the pill I quit taking it. Not the ideal solution but it works until I stop breastfeeding. Then I will try going back… Read more »

christina
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christina

Please repeat this to your doctor…print it out and bring it in if you don’t have the energy to rehash it or try to articulate what’s going on. This could be totally unrelated to the pill…regardless, it’s time to get some medical care here. You — and your baby — deserve it.

Bitts
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Bitts

Just wanted to chime in with some affirmation for C — YES YES YES! Hormonal birth control made me CUH-RAAAZY after having kids, even though (like you) I used the pill for 10 years before getting pregnant with no problems. Anxiety, depression, insomnia … it was awful. I used both the mini pill (which does not work — I have more than 1 friend who got pg on it even with correct use) and the Mirena. Both caused the same symptoms almost immediately. It took 2-4 weeks for the symptoms to wear off after I quit them but the difference… Read more »

Olivia
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Olivia

We are using condoms since I didn’t like the mini-pill. It might have contributed to decreasing milk supply, and it also seems silly to use hormonal bc when we are only have sex once a week or so (baby + breastfeeding hormones). We also aren’t confident enough with Fertility Awareness methods.
I’m chuckling at the 45% of men who buy the wrong size condoms.

Kate
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Kate

We switched to the diaphragm after horrendous experience on multiple different HBCs. We now use it in some slight conjuction with the beginning of FAM – except neither I nor my husband can actually wrap my head around the concept of unprotected se when we aren’t willing to try to get pregnant. Quick question – has anyone ever actually been able to get a Lea’s shield? A friend of mine recommended it after hearing positive things about it (as better than a diaphragm) — and my OBGYN and my local Planned Parenthood had never heard of it, and couldn’t help… Read more »

Bitts
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Bitts

@Kate — I got my Lea’s Shield online. I had to get a script from the doc (I was going to a teaching hospital so the resident I saw was well-informed and up-to-date about it), fax it to the manufacturer and they sent the shield directly to me. I filled out all their paperwork online. It was VERY easy, but not covered by insurance. I think I spent maybe $60 on it? The instructions are detailed and they have an 800 number to talk you through inserting it the first few times. It’s hard to hold the phone while jamming… Read more »

JCF
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JCF

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this! I really hope going off of hormonal birth control solves the problem for you. We’ve also had birth control issues–I don’t do well on anything hormonal, and I’m allergic to spermicide, which I found out the hard way (itching, burning, infections!). We now use a combination of LAM (Lactation-Amennorhea Method–you have to be seriously breastfeeding full time with no supplementing for the first 6 months of your baby’s life), FAM, and condoms. It certainly isn’t the most hassle-free combination of methods, but it works better for us than a crazy wife, or one who… Read more »

Lisa
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Lisa

Paraguard. That’s the copper IUD. Hurt SO BAD when they put it in 2 months ago, but love love LOVE IT.
I also have a 4 month old. 🙂

heels
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I, too, couldn’t use the pill after having my first child. It made me crazy, even though I had used it for many, many years before. We now use condoms, which we were not terribly excited about, but have turned out to be a lot better than expected. I would look into an iud of some sort, but we’re finished having kids so he’s just going to get a vasectomy.

Erin
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Erin

Normally I don’t comment here because Amy pretty much gets it right every time. I just wanted to reaffirm her point about PPD. I felt fine! Great! Wonderful! for the first few months after my son was born. Eventually though, I started to feel the way you describe. I actually went a little crazy and fantasized about killing my cat because he meowed. (Don’t worry, the cat is fine) I thought it couldn’t possibly be PPD because it hadn’t started right away. I just thought I was a bad mother. Go see your doctor. PPD is very serious (you know… Read more »

gizella
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gizella

i use the vaginal contraceptive films, for about 10 years now, and we have never had a scare. I can’t take hormonal pills etc due to a health condition, so that is where we are at. You have to wait 15 minutes for them to dissolve, but they last 3 hours. You have to use one every time you have sex, not just one for a marathon (wow, forgot about those actually)…that’s my 2 cents

Laura
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Laura

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I understand completely. I could have written this myself as I have the PPD issues and a 4 month old. However, this is my second child. I had all those issues you are experiencing with #1, and I HATED my husband (who truly is wonderful) for being able to work and leaving me with my son. I dreaded life, never left the house, and counted the hours until my husband would come home so I could get a break. I also at the time was on the mini pill. Knowing I… Read more »

Jenny
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Jenny

I agree with Amy’s advice, and want to reiterate the need to not only stop the pill right away, but get yourself to the doctor for a PPD assessment. As Amy said, PPD can develop any time within the first year — certainly your depression could have been solely caused by the pill, but taking the pill could have exacerbated the situation as well. Your doctor will be able to help you identify other contraceptive options as well as help you determine if your depression is something more serious. Good luck to you, and I hope you are feeling better… Read more »

NGS
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NGS

Why are people such condom haters? It’s easy, it’s clean (no more wet spot!), and it avoids hormonal BC. I don’t notice a difference “in feeling” or comfort with a condom or without and my husband says he doesn’t either (he could be lying to me to make me feel better, but, hey, what a guy, right?). Sure, there’s a bit of awkwardness as we have to stop in the middle of foreplay to break the condom out of its little pouch, but it seems like a small price to pay. Count me in on the condom bandwagon!! Please join… Read more »

JennyMooMeow
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Bottom line. STOP. TAKING. THE. PILL. There are other ways to prevent pregnancy and get you back to normal.

anon
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anon

The sponge alone will NOT prevent pregnancy.
I know

Momof3
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Momof3

I had the same experience after having my 3rd – SUPER depressed and CRAZY after starting the pill. We are super fertile too (3 kids in 2.5 years), but we now chart my cycle, use condoms and have a diaphragm and spermicide on hand as well. You can never be TOO safe, right?? I completely agree with the comment above about how the Dr will fight you not to get the diaphragm – you just have to stay tough. I reccomend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility – fantastic book that really lets you know the ins and out of… Read more »

Trish
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Trish

Anyone heard of Cycle Beads and used them? They are a very simple fertility awareness method developed by Georgetown U. There’s some (well-designed) research to back up that they are 95% effective at preventing unplanned pregnancy when used correctly (that’s better than condoms but worse than the pill). Basically it’s a little circle of beads that have a small rubber ring which you move from bead to bead – there are dark brown beads for all your “low likelihood of pregnancy days” and glow-in-the-dark white (fun!) beads for days when you are likely to become pregnant. They developed this method… Read more »

Amy
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Amy

Definitely try the standard coil (not the one with the hormone in). I have had trouble with the pill for years. Some left me feeling like I was going crazy. Eventually found one which minimised my emotional roller coaster, however I discovered the coil, had one fitted and indifference was almost immediat and dramatic. after years ofstruggling with my emotions, I felt human again. My husband noticed the difference to. Doctors main concern is to deal with unwanted pregnancy and ensure the pill is safe physiologically, but I believe they need to do far more extensive research on how it… Read more »