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Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

By Guest Contributor

While Amalah is easing her way back to work from maternity leave, we have asked some internet friends to step in with their words of wisdom on some Advice Smackdown questions that have been out of Amy’s area of first-hand knowledge. Casey Mullins from moosh in indy is our guest contributor today.

Dear Amy,

First I want to offer my condolences on the loss of your father. I am hoping that this question will be an easy one for you, even though it has me stumped. But since it is about babies AND hair, I thought you would be the perfect person to ask.

My daughter is about two and a half, and has adorable curly hair. Straight out of the bath it’s ringlet-y curls all over, and then as it dries the curls get a little bigger.

It’s adorable, but it’s also hard to manage. If I brush it in the morning it tends to get kind of frizzy, but I can’t NOT brush it. She sleeps on her stomach and apparently rubs her head on the mattress or something, because lately she gets these huge rats-nests of tangles around her face. I’ve started putting her hair in pigtails during the day to keep it out of her eyes and a little more under control. The way it’s growing is also kind of weird… along the edge of her hairline it’s still pretty short, but the hair on the crown of her head is much longer. As in, hair from the top of her head actually comes farther down her back than hair that grows near the nape of her neck. Of course, the long part is what gets the most tangled, but it’s hard to put just that part up in a ponytail. Anyway, I’ve never had curly hair so I don’t really know how to work with this. We wash it about twice a week and I’ve started using adult conditioner on the ends. Should I try any other products? I’m not sure what to use on hair that’s still baby-fine. Should I have someone cut it so it’s all more one-length? I don’t really want the Little Orphan Annie look. What do you think?

At Least I Don’t Have to Cut Bangs Yet

So you birthed a baby with curly hair, come, sit close, let us commiserate and celebrate the joys of kinky headed children. I know for me one of the greatest joys is just how easy a curly head is to pick out in a sea of straight haired little girls. However the commiseration begins with all the comments. ZOMG THE COMMENTS.

“Is her hair naturally curly?”

“She’s going to hate that hair when she gets older!”

“Where did she get that curly hair?”


Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

Look, people, I know you’re just trying to be nice, but “IS HER HAIR NATURALLY CURLY?” She’s three and do I look like a pageant mom? I’m pretty sure painting a badger’s toenails would be easier that curling a toddler’s hair. The good news is that us moms with curly haired progeny can bond together over products, techniques and styles that most moms never have to worry about. Having a child with curly hair could easily be considered a lifestyle. That is unless you don’t really care, because I know there are days when I let the haircare slip and my eldest runs around society looking as though no one really loves her with her wild tangle of frizzy hair.

Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

So today I impart to you the wisdom I have learned over the past six years of dealing with my daughter’s head full of golden ringlets.

1. Trim and trim often. I know when it came time for Addie’s first haircut at around two years old I was petrified that her curls wouldn’t come back. I think many moms worry about this and put off a haircut as long as possible leaving their little kids with unruly mullet looking rats’ nests. Curly hair needs trims just as often (if not more often) that straight hair simply because it can dry out much faster, especially at the ends where it is more prone to breaking since it tangles so easily. *deep breath* The curls will come back, even if they don’t a neatly trimmed head of hair looks much better than a somewhat curly mess. Addie has wanted long hair forever, but it’s much easier to keep her curls short and layered and if I had it my way she’d sport a short curly bob like she did back when she wasn’t allowed to have an opinion on her haircut.

Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

2. Go to a real salon. Cutting and trimming curly hair is an art, and not just anyone can or should be doing it. Especially when it comes to bargain haircutting places. Curly hair grows at different speeds and in different levels of curliness on the head so it’s important to find someone who can balance everything out and make everything play nicely together. Occasionally you can find someone who is skilled in curly hair (generally it’s people who have curly headed children) at a cheap place but if you’re serious about maintenance, call around until you find someone skilled with curls. I’ve had the most luck with Aveda trained stylists. And while you may be taking your kid to a grown up salon, generally a kid’s cut in a fancy place won’t cost you a whole lot more than a mediocre cut in a strip mall. Not to mention a regular stylist for your curly headed child will get to know how your kids hair grows, making each visit easier and each haircut better than the last.

3. Do not brush. Ever. Brushes are not meant for curls. Wide toothed combs and fingers are meant for curls. Stock up on them and leave one in every room of your house if you must so you’re not tempted to use a brush in a hurry. Curls have their own pattern and a brush does nothing but mess with the way a curl naturally wants to curl. Keep a spray bottle in each room as well if you need to, because just using your hand and the faucet will land you with a very damp kid and unevenly damp hair (which = frizz.)

Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

4. Do not wash curly hair every day. It dries it out. In fact some curly heads can get away with never actually shampooing their hair, or only shampooing the greasy parts occasionally. I however have to shampoo Addie’s hair at least twice a week or the little kid A) smells like a wet dog or B) ends up with cradle cap. It’s very important that when you do shampoo curls you don’t mess with them too much, don’t rub and tangle them, instead scrub the scalp with your fingertips and gently work the shampoo through with your fingers as well.

5. Even if you don’t wash curly hair every day, it should be conditioned during every shower or bath. Use a moisturizing conditioner meant for kids (more on specific products later.) Again, don’t rub and tangle, simply run it through allowing the curls to maintain their own pattern. When you dry the hair don’t rub it with the towel, instead blot it, comb it from the nape of the neck up (allowing for more volume) scrunch on product and finish styling with only your fingers. Allow it to air dry (or use a diffuser if you must.) Even if the curls look clumped together don’t mess with them until they are dry, and once they are just do some light puffing up with your fingertips at the roots.

Hair Care 101 for Curly-Haired Tots

6. Prepare for a lot of product trial and error. Six years ago there weren’t the products for curly headed kids like there are today. And over the course of those six years I used an awful lot of adult products on a little girl. I’ve learned that it’s more important how you wash and handle the curls than it does how many products you use and how much they cost. Some of the best advice I got was from another mom of a curly headed girl, she said that she uses kid’s ethnic hair care products on her towheaded baby. They are super moisturizing like a grown up conditioner but safer for little faces. My current favorite products are by Curly Q’s, a line for “multi-ethnic women and girls.” Not only are they organic and all natural, they also have sulfate free options. They are not heavy or greasy, nor do they leave gobs of build up. Not to mention they smell like delicious cake batter. I found it at Target for around $10 a bottle…it may be slightly more difficult to find than other brands depending on where you live. The Curly Q site also has more excellent resources for curl care. The best news is that the products work well both in the humidity of Indiana (where I live) and the dry air of Utah (where we’re currently visiting.) Other products I’ve used that I feel comfortable recommending are Ouidad KRLY Kids (not as moisturizing but very gentle) and Circle of Friends (some of the smells are nauseating and the packaging is…well…let’s just say I’m a graphic design major and am heavily influenced by package design. *ehem*). While they don’t have a specific formula for curly hair their more moisturizing products are in fact quite moisturizing, however many are 2-in-1 which isn’t always ideal for curls.

One final thing is not to try new products on hair that hasn’t been recently cut or trimmed, even trimming off a half inch can make an enormous difference in how curls behave and by trying new products on an old haircut you won’t get a real idea of how the product is supposed to work. (That being said, keep receipts and return what doesn’t work, otherwise you’ll end up with a giant product graveyard.)

The 30 second wrap up?

-Call around until you find a stylist who is skilled in curly hair.
-Get your kid a real haircut.
-Don’t wash too often and when you do don’t scrub or tangle the curls.
-Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize.
-Wide tooth combs and fingers only.
-Don’t mess with drying curls, fluff only at the roots once dry.

Caring for curls will get easier as your baby gets older and his or her hair grows in thicker, what works now may not work this time next year or even when the weather changes in winter. Ah, the joys of curls. But honestly? I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

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When baby's got curly hair and mama doesn't know how to care for it, it sometimes means baby is walking around with a rat's nest on her head. Luckily we've got mama covered with advice from another mom in the trenches.

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  • cagey

    July 4, 2011 at 2:01 pm

    Yep.  Everything Casey said.

    I am still not sure what to think of my daughter’s hair – it is getting less and less curly, it’s more wavy now.  My husband is South Indian, so I still keep watch on these posts because I’m not sure where my daughter’s hair is going yet.  🙂  For now, I still treat it the same as curly.  Hair trims are CRUCIAL to the rat’s nest problem and one of the first signs that she needs a trim, actually.

    My favorite products for anti-frizzing is Pureology’s ShineMax.  It’s pricey, but goes a long way – just a dab’ll do!

    Also, short hair at the hairline is perfectly normal – that is simply how babies/toddler’s new hair comes in as their heads grow bigger and literally, they have more scalp to cover. This is why hair stylists recommend waiting until kids are about 2 or 3 before cutting bangs.  Otherwise, the bangs will eventually be halfway toward the crown of the kid’s head.

  • Julia

    July 4, 2011 at 2:06 pm

    Fantastic advice, thank you! I love my little girl’s curls though there are days (OK, most of them) that I find myself saying “Ah, eff it” to the grooming routine. Often on those days I pick her up from daycare and find one of the women there has done something to her hair. This used to make me feel like a bad mom, i.e., STOP GROOMING MY MONKEY! but now I just see it as them being very committed to the care of my child. Shhh! It makes me feel better.

    Anyway. For my fellow Canadians, I have had great success with the products from Melonheads (, especially the Fuzzy Wuzzn’t Detangler.

  • Paige

    July 4, 2011 at 2:07 pm

    Thank you so much for writing this! Particularly the bit about hair products. We’ve been using adult conditioner on my 20 month old, just to get something in there to deal with all that frizz. While the conditioner is in, I comb it out, rinse, and comb again. One thing I discovered that you did not mention was that it’s better to not attempt to dry her hair at all. We only wash hair in morning baths, and then it stays cute and curly all day. I second the bedhead, isn’t it terrible? 

  • Ally

    July 4, 2011 at 4:20 pm

    I have very straight hair and my husband has the curliest hair I’ve ever seen. We now have three curly headed kids. The boys are easy, I get their’s trimmed once a month. My daughter is very hard. I usually just go with pigtails. Thanks for the tips.

  • tadpoledrain

    July 4, 2011 at 5:30 pm

    For baby fine curly hair, I cannot recommend Terressentials hair wash enough: . For really fine, soft hair, if you use the lemon variety, it’s moisturizing enough not to require conditioner. For thicker, kinkier hair, another conditioner may be needed. They say on the web site not to use any other products, but I’ve found that’s not necessarily true–just don’t use anything with “-cone” in the ingredients list (silicone, etc).

    Also, if your daughter’s hair is long enough, putting it in (a) loose braid(s) before she goes to sleep may help with the bedhead.

    Finally, puberty can do weird things to hair–my hair, for example, straightened out when I was 4 or 5, and got curly again when I was 12 or so. My sister’s hair did the same thing. So even if the curls go away, they may come back!

    • Pamela Brazle

      February 11, 2016 at 10:46 pm

      Hi tadpoledrain. I just read your post about shampooing your child’s thin fine curly hair. My hair is the same as your daughters so I wondered what process you use with the mud. Do you make a rinse or shampoo normally? Thanks, Pamela

  • Sheila

    July 4, 2011 at 8:49 pm

    Thanks so much Casey! I wrote the original question a couple months ago and things have gotten a little better since then. She is in her bed now instead of a crib, and apparently that changed how she sleeps so she doesn’t wake up with huge tangles any more. Major relief, because the morning hair routine was taking forever and causing both of us a ton of stress – that’s what led to me writing this question! I really appreciate all the tips and I promise I will get around to finding someone to cut her hair… just makes me kind of sad for that first haircut. If I get desperate I will email you for your stylist because we live just up the interstate in West Lafayette. Thanks for the comments, too, especially cagey for explaining the thing about how her hair is shorter at the hairline. Makes perfect sense now that I think of it!

  • Meadow

    July 5, 2011 at 12:20 am

    Can I get a halleluja for satin pillowcases? My daughter used to wake up with the worst matted tangles, even if her hair was tangle-free going to bed. But when we started to use a satin pillowcase, I’d say it reduced tangles by 85-85%. 

    We use the Oidad KRLY conditioner and their wide-toothed, weighted comb (I comb with conditioner in and again after rinsing). Then air dry. 

  • Olivia

    July 5, 2011 at 8:20 am

    Hey, I’m actually doing the right things for my daughter’s curly hair. Yay for me! She is mixed race (black/white) and has long, fine, curly hair. She just had her first hair cut this weekend at 2 yrs old. I took her to my stylest at an Aveda salon, and it was only $15.

    The products we’ve been using are the Just for Me for kids in the ethnic hair care section. Very moisturizing and not too expensive. One thing I wish I could get away from is putting her hair in pony or pig tails everyday. I know I need to leave it down sometimes, but the tangles are just so much worse if I do. Right now, when she wakes up and the curls need reviving, I use moisturizing cream to tame the little fuzz around her hair line, and then spritz the tail with leave in conditioner/detangler and pick it out. 

  • Alison

    July 5, 2011 at 9:08 am

    This is really good advice for anyone with curly hair.
    A warning for parents who aren’t currently dealing with this issue: my hair went from pin straight (like mom’s) to totally curly (like dad’s) when I hit puberty.

  • Susan

    July 5, 2011 at 12:15 pm

    Oh my goodness, thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! I needed this so badly. My son is of mixed race and his hair is really curly but not kinky like his father’s and I was at a loss of how to take care of it. He’s getting these matted little pieces in the back from sleeping and I feel like a bad mom. I’m headed to Target right now and will go looking for a good stylist to trim him down.

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  • tehamy

    July 5, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    Excellent Advice! And good advice for boys with curly hair too. People looked at me like I was crazy when I started conditioning my oldest son’s hair when he was 9 months old. It couldn’t be helped. It needed. His younger brother is now nine months old and while his hair isn’t nearly as curly as his brothers, it’s time to break out the conditioner for him as well.

  • Roberta

    July 5, 2011 at 1:11 pm

    Thanks! I could have written this letter (and actually did write an eerily similar one to Advice Smackdown recently, so consider me taken care of!). I have straight, thick, fine hair. My 2.5 year old daughter has thick, fine, curly hair, and I have had NO IDEA what to do with it. This is such excellent advice. I also use California Baby spray detangler in the mornings, which seems to help enormously. I have a new Circle of Friends bottle to try also. THANK YOU!

  • Brooke Randolph

    July 5, 2011 at 1:23 pm

    Naturally curly hair is often a challenge, but there are perks too… I can travel (at least to warm/humid climates) with just conditioner and product… no dryer, iron, shampoo needed. The one thing I would add is something my cousin taught me – use an old t-shirt to dry hair instead of a towel. It is much softer and less likely to cause frizz. I have several old t-shirts in my bathroom closet next to the towels. A friend also gave me some lavender water spritz which is awesome (even when my hair is straight) for revitalizing/cleaning if I don’t even want to co-wash (conditioner wash).

  • Chris

    July 5, 2011 at 1:31 pm

    As a curly girl, I wish my straight-haired mom had this advice when I was a tot!  You’re spot-on with these tips.  And those comments from people — I’ve heard them all.  I grew up in the 80’s when everyone had a perm, and no one could believe that my curls were natural.  I still get called Shirley Temple, though.  Argh.

  • Beth

    July 5, 2011 at 1:45 pm

    Another great product for curly headed tots is from Dolphin Organics ( They are new to the scene and really fantastic, made with only 100% natural and organics ingredients. Their line is really moisturizing and completely fragrance free, so great for sensitive heads as well. @Susan – the founder’s twin girls are mixed race and also the first guinea pigs, so I am sure that it would be great for your son!

  • Barb @ getupandplay

    July 5, 2011 at 2:39 pm

    Yay, for curly-headed kids! I loved reading this because Charlie now needs a haircut and I was feeling stuck about where to go. We love CurlyQ’s, such a great product line.

  • Mary

    July 5, 2011 at 3:19 pm

    This question brought back so many nightmares! I’ll be 40 this year and still cringe remembering little old ladies (and some not so old) coming over to me in the supermarket and grabbing my hair while exclaiming, “is that real?!?!” My hair is so curly that my mother would set it in big curlers every night before I went to sleep (yes, I’d have to sleep in them) so that my curls would loosen. That was AFTER she spent a half hour trying to get all of the knots out with a brush. So many tears…

    High school was in the ‘80s and as such, I rebelled and cut it almost all off – leading to me to sport a mini Afro. It was…bad, just really, really, bad.

    However, I came to terms with my curls in adulthood and agree with most of the advice.

    I second, third, forth the NO BRUSHES! Just banish them in favor of a wide toothed comb. And use it sparingly. Just after a shower at night or just first thing in the morning.

    Fingers are your friends. With wet hair, just blot it a bit, (don’t rub or use a hair drier – you are just inviting frizz), put in just a bit of product (lots of good suggestions above) then take your fingers and section by section twirl it a bit. Let it dry.

    And yes — condition every day, shampoo every so often.

    Seriously, the best thing you can do with curly hair is leave. It. Alone. The more you play with it, the more it frizzes.
    That said, it is a cinch to put up in French braids – and they will stay all day. Good to know on a hot day.

    Here’s to your little girl loving her curls a lot sooner than the rest of us came to love ours!

  • Beth

    July 5, 2011 at 4:27 pm

    Oh how I wish my mom had known you long ago. I am a naturally curly girl (albeit in my 30s now) and my mom kept my hair cut short, in layers, until I was almost 13. She simply didn’t know what to do with it. I have only recently learned the secrets you impart here, and only by trial and error. Thanks for spreading the word!
    (And Addie’s hair is just too cute – I wish my daughters had curly hair!)

  • Erica

    July 5, 2011 at 5:20 pm

    Can I just say MIXED CHICKS!?!? best product out there…my daughter is mixed (black/white) and it’s been a God-send! But i also have friends who use this on their babies who are not mixed. Plus, when I first bought it they offered trial packs for $0.99 so I could decide without committing. We used ‘Itsy Bitsy Spiral’ for awhile first but the MC stuff has made a huge difference.

  • Neeroc

    July 6, 2011 at 12:20 am

    V’s over 3.5 now and I’ve never cut her hair. I’ve often contemplated it, but I’m afraid of a bad one and then the curls will turn it in to a mullet (yes, this is my actual fear) Most days it’s pretty cute that her hair is down to her butt when you pull out the curls, but then there are bath days. The child manages to give herself dreadlocks! Thanks for the tips I may brave a trim soon.

    And thanks Julia, I’ll check out the melonheads line.

  • Erin

    July 6, 2011 at 1:49 am

    As a curly headed adult, I could not agree with this advice more. Brava, Casey. And brava for letting your daughter’s hair be what it is, and for teaching her to love and care for it in its natural state. Of course, as she gets older she may straighten it, or otherwise change it. But my mom never appreciated that my hair was curly, not “messy straight” and I grew up hating and not knowing how to care for it. I finally learned at 23. Your girl has a big head start. 🙂 

  • Jill

    July 6, 2011 at 2:12 am

    What a great article! Bookmarking it and saving it for reference!!

  • Nanette

    July 6, 2011 at 2:48 am

    My toddler’s hair is nowhere near as curly as Addie’s, but I had to say that I loved Casey’s joke about the pageant mom thing. We get asked quite often if we curl our gal’s hair, and now that response will pop into my head.

  • Erin

    July 6, 2011 at 8:40 am

    Another good resource for curly-hair care is  Their CurlTalk forums have a space specifically for parents of curlies.

    I started a sulfate- and silicone-free regimen for my spiral curls that was outlined on the site and have had a lot of success– very curly, frizz-free, manageable hair.

    (A side note: I was curly as a baby, then it straightened out when I was a kid.  Puberty hit, and I spent years blow-drying and brushing my hair with no idea that it was curly, because I ended up with a Hermione Granger-type bush.  Your kid’s hair may change a lot over the years, is what I’m trying to say!)

  • Kari Weber

    July 7, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    I don’t have curly headed kids… but I have a RED headed boy, with no other red-headed family members in sight. Both my husband and I- brown. My second son? BLOND! I cannot go out in public without questions about his red hair. “Where does the red come from?” What am I supposed to say to that? God? Some distant genetic relation? The mailman? Christ. And the touching! Always with the touching! I have actually asked women before (because it is always the women…) “are you sanitary?” and one woman… I reached right out and touched her head! She looked horrified, and I asked her how she thought that my son felt. LOL! I can only imagine if he had been RED, and CURLY! Wow!

  • Jenny

    July 7, 2011 at 9:35 pm

    ZOMG, the comments and touching!!

    My son gets his naturally curly hairy from me. It’s pretty obvious, and yet they still ask! The touching is too frequent and just weird when it’s a stranger. It was sweet, though, when my son told his first grade teacher she could ruffle his curls “once in a while”. My 7 year old insists we keep the bush short. I miss those big, blonde, baby boy curls but I understand that he didn’t like the attention or strangers touching his hair in the grocery store. Plus, he plays sports so it’s cooler if he keeps his hair short.

    We also use a trusted salon for a quality boy cut. With tip it’s $20 and we’re all happy.

  • -k-

    July 8, 2011 at 10:43 am

    Just wanted to add that for longer hair using a microfiber towel helps a ton. (Saw a comment upthread about using old t-shirts, and these or even paper towels will do in a a pinch, but microfiber absorbs super fast and, for me at least, is less disruptive to the curl.) I use them after gel, before drying (w/ diffuser).

    On the comments, it’s funny how this varies from place to place- in the US curls are less common so seem to be more valued. Where my husband’s from, there are tons of curls and they’re generally treated as something to get rid of, whatever the price. (MIL is on notice that there will be no straightening of children’s hair, ever.)

  • Kristen

    July 9, 2011 at 12:52 am

    The “Mixed Chicks” line for ethnic hair works great for any curly hair, but it is a little pricey….we found a generic version at Sally Beauty Supply called “Mixed Silk” that is only $7.99 and is a bigger bottle of the leave-in conditioner. Score!

  • Rebecca

    July 10, 2011 at 12:33 am

    I’ve got one of these crazy curly head kids. We keep watered down conditioner in a spray bottle and spray it on her hair every morning, then run our fingers through it lightly to get out any noticeable tangles.

    We call it “mo jo.” And it comes right after she brushes her teeth.

    Works like a charm. We use Jason’s Aloe conditioner.  

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  • Amber

    March 20, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    Wen is the best!!!!!!! I have curly hair and so does my 17 month old! It’s all we use and her curls are manageable!

  • Ashley

    May 14, 2013 at 11:03 pm

    My 3 yr old has short head of curls and this info was very helpful! Love this! Awesome info! Thanks a bunch!

  • Maggiethomas

    July 21, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    Thank you so much for this article. Very helpful tips! We have a 17 month old bi- racial son and daddy wants to cut his hair and I want bouncy curls for the next couple of years. Hopefully getting the wright product and caring well for it would change my husbands mind 🙂 (also, it was kinda cool to know you are a graphic designer. Me too 🙂 )

  • David Correia

    August 15, 2013 at 11:23 pm

    Fantastic. I’m the dad and swore to my wife I was going to search for a solution tonight!!! I felt like you were speaking to us!! Thanks again…, for the question and response

  • Tania

    September 17, 2013 at 1:53 am

    This was so helpful! Thanks!

  • Leah

    September 29, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    Wish I’d seen this site about 3 or 4 months ago. MY 23 month-old son has adorable blond curls, and everyone loves them, but it is SO much work. I am going to stop shampooing so much!! usually i shampoo then add conditioner and start detangling while he plays in the tub. Then i use curl product while I detangle. I think I have more to learn on the tail end part… it gets pretty matted up. i wonder what I do wrong??  THanks!

  • wendy horn

    November 2, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    THANK YOU! ! Four children, two with completely straight hair, one with waves and ringlets in the back did not prepair me for this beautiful little curly top boy I have now. Couldn’t figure out why some days it looks so much better then others. Well now I know is the days I don’t mess with it. Lol so scared to cut it but the pictures you posted looked just like his hair soooo maybe. Lol his curls match his beautiful, silly personality. Going to stop washing so much and returning the shampoo/conditioner I bought last night. 🙂

  • Janna

    December 7, 2013 at 7:22 am

    Finally some much needed good advice! Thank you!

  • Jamie

    January 12, 2014 at 10:44 am

    I agree with most of this article! SO TRUE that curly hair is a lifestyle! During this year’s holiday break, we ended up on an extended in home lock down due to snow days preventing the restarting of school…let’s just say I let the kids live in their jammies, and they nearly grew dreadlocks! But I do have to brush my son’s long curls out, WHILE THE CONDITIONER is in his hair in the tub…otherwise the tangles rule. We have to give the boys morning baths ONLY if we want them to look GOOD; bathing at night creates morning Medusas! I buy the natural oils as well; it really makes a difference!

  • Candace

    February 7, 2014 at 4:53 pm

    My two year old son had hair that is similiar to the picture below tip #1, length and all, except the hair in the back is still VERY short. 1/2 an inch, maybe. Should I still trim his hair? His curls in the front & sides are much longer, slightly uneven like you said.

  • Ashley

    February 20, 2014 at 10:24 pm

    OMGosh I am so glad I found this!!

  • Ashley

    March 11, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Anyone else having an immensely hard time finding the curly q products online??

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      March 11, 2014 at 3:17 pm

      did you try google? I had no problems finding it.

  • Liz

    March 12, 2014 at 8:13 pm

    I stumbled on this searching for curly hair care for toddlers! Perfect! My daughter is three and poor thing walks around most days with frizzed out fluffy straight to wavy hair because I have no idea what to do! It’s never been cut, now i see that’s my first mistake. And I make her wet at the sink. Her sister has straight hair so she always brushes it like big sis, enter fluff friz. I just sigh and go with it.

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  • Mary

    June 27, 2014 at 4:03 am

    I love having curly hair but the frizz is just terrible. In my experience, argan oil is the best there is for it 🙂 I use one called Pro Natural’s moroccan argan oil on my daughter’s hair and it’s amazing, not greasy at all and it smells really nice. I had to order it online, but it was worth it. 🙂

  • kris

    July 27, 2014 at 6:03 pm

    THANK YOU, thank you!!!! It’s been harder and harder to take care of my girl’s curls… I just found the Curly Q products last week & they are definitely helping… next stop, salon! And no more brushing!

  • Jennifer

    October 10, 2014 at 1:59 am

    How do you know when to take them to get a trim for the first time? My little very curly haired girl is almost two and her hair is so curly that it is still close to her head in tight curls but when pulled strait it is past he shoulders in the back from the nap of her neck.

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  • Kai

    February 1, 2015 at 3:18 pm

    I know this is an old post, but I’m just here to commiserate and chuckle at the comments our kids get. My son’s hair is curly AND red (auburn, actually)! Someone actually asked my husband if our (then) 10-month-old son’s hair was naturally curly! And then there are the incredulous questions. “Is his hair really RED??” Granted, it’s unusual for a biracial kid to have red hair, but still. Anyhow, thanks to all the commenters for letting me know we’re not alone in getting crazy questions. 🙂

  • Sara

    May 29, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    My daughter has very curly hair. It is thin, soft and ringlets. She is three and her hair has never been cut. It has grown in natural layers (front is 2 inches shorter than the back). I will never cut her hair. It is so beautiful & reaches just below her shoulders. I use dove moisture repair conditioner & wash her hair 2-3x per week. She never had had tangles. I brush/comb her hair everyday (sometimes 2x/day) When I brush it is spray it with a mixture of water & the dove conditioner that I keep in a spritzer. We used to use Pantene leave in conditioner/detangler which was nice & we also used Noodle and Boo detangler when she was 12 months to about 2 years old. I also tried “got 2 b smoothing lotion” which left hair feeling a little Weighted down and greasy so we stopped. The Dove conditioner and fewer hair washes have worked best. 🙂

  • Michelle

    June 17, 2015 at 7:21 pm

    I too have poker straight hair, and my youngest daughter has a head full of gorgeous ringlets. I don’t brush her hair when it’s dry, intstead I put Pantene Daily treatment cream through it then comb it through and run my fingers through to ‘break’ the curls up a bit. When her hair is dry and a bit frizzy looking – I use a product that I put through my hair after I straighten it called ‘Dumb Blonde Smoothing Stuff’ – it’s from the Bed Head Range by Tigi – it is fantastic, and smells great. Hope this helps 🙂

  • Carliena

    July 26, 2015 at 10:23 am

    My son’s hair has been curly all his life even through 5 yrs of cuts and trims. Last year we had to go to a new stylist and since her hack job my son’s curls have vanished , I ADORED his curls! I have let it grow out and it still isn’t back to it’s beautiful curly self 🙁 Can we get them back ?

  • Karena

    August 19, 2015 at 10:48 pm

    Okay so, I agree with the conditioning and shampoo advice. Every professional hair stylist LOVES scissors, and they will ALL tell you that your curly hair has split ends. It probably does, but I don’t allow then to EVER take more than an inch, and depending on your type of curly, you may not need a trim every month. BTW I’m a Creole (the French Haitian Indian kind) African American woman. My hair looks like Indian curly hair. Its lightweight with a lot of body and incredibly curly. My curls are about the size of my index finger. My eight month old son has the same hair. His hair looks 2 inches long, but the curls extend to about 4 1/2” long when stretched. I shampoo it ( or use the johnson all over baby wash) every other day, and comb his tangles while its all lathery. You could also do this while its full of conditioner while in the tub. Always comb curly hair from the ends first, then work up to the roots. I usually do this while he plays with his bath toys. Doing this while its wet will help you style it when its dry. Once its detangled comb the hair in the direction you want it to go once its dry, then rinse. Rinse the water in the direction you combed it. DO NOT rub with a towel. Simply wrap the towel around the head or hold it to the head to soak up any stray water. I use pure coconut oil for the next step. (You can fins less expensive jars in Marshall’s Ross or tj maxx) It’s clean, non greasy and light. A little goes a LONG WAY. Run a small amount evenly in the palm of your hands, then WITHOUT fingering through rub the oil around all the hair in the general direction of the curls (your direction will change pretty often). Let air dry and your All set. Trial and error will have to happen to aee how much you need. Always start with less the first time. Then when it dries you’ll know if you would prefer more oil. Generally the thicker the hair the more oil you’ll need, but preference also comes into play. For example, if I want a cute light fluffy look I’ll use very little…. but if I want a little more shine and definition, or if I want my hair to be a little heavier to hold a style, I’ll use more product. If you ever want to achieve some sort of structured style, use a styling moose with NO ALCOHOL (it dries the hair) Or my person favorite: Clear Fruit of the Earth Aloe Vera gel. You can find it in walmart for a whopping $3. Its not gunky and dries soft. This helps when I wanna give my guy a little Mohawk. I just use a little on the sides and let the top be his curly glory. Hope this helps.

  • Rose Ford

    September 5, 2015 at 8:57 am

    So cute

  • Barbara Tucker

    September 23, 2015 at 3:51 am

    Really it’s too cute…

  • Qaardirah Duplooy

    November 2, 2015 at 7:38 am

    My son is three years old and I did cut his hair since 12 months old his hair was very curly buy I’ve always cut it very short boys cut now I’m loning for his curly hair and I wonder if I can let it grow again Will the curls come back

  • Courtney

    February 22, 2016 at 7:58 pm

    We live in South Carolina and practically live at the pool over the summer. What product do you suggest to keep the chlorine from destroying my curly haired 4 year old? Thank you so much for your article. It has taken me years to figure out her hair!

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