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Amy Corbett Storch

Amalah

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected].

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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Trish
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Trish

I’ll be checking back for comments from others. I have one on the way and an almost 2 year old. We’ve been trying to simplify the bedtime routine for Kid 1 so that the baby’s arrival isn’t so bad. From sept-may, I’m solo on bedtime about half the time. It’s not a problem with one kid, but I expect I’ll have to either plop kid 2 in a bouncy chair a lot, and/or plop kid 1 in front of Baby Einstein a lot.

Sara M
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Sara M

My husband works nights, so I’ve always had the night routine to myself. I integrated my boys night routines when my youngest could sit unsupported in the bath, so around (trying to remember) 7 or 8ish months.? I would bathe both, then drain the water but keep toys in for the oldest and he would play while I got the baby dried off and dressed and put him in his crib to play. Then I got the oldest out, dressed and we would all rock together. My oldest would go to bed, then I would breastfeed or give a bottle… Read more »

professormama
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professormama

Our kids are 6 and 2, and at first the infant went to bed later, and we explained that babies are kind of crazy and don’t understand bedtime yet.  As soon as we got the baby settled into a bedtime routine we always put her to bed first, because she was the baby, and then put the (then) 4 year old to bed. When the younger one hit 18 months we got bunk beds for the kids and she moved out of mama and dadd’s room and into the bottom bunk. This ushered in the era of bedtime at the… Read more »

Em
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Em

I’m so glad someone asked this question! I have a 2.5 y.o. and 10 month old, and my husband and I still do their bedtimes separately. My older child occasionally demands to go to bed in the same room as the baby, and while we’ve tried it to see if it works, usually both kids end up too excited by the novelty of it to settle down…and then we have to drag the older one back to his bedroom for the usual separate bedtime. I’m very interested to hear how others have handled this…

JCF
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JCF

I think the original questioner’s bedtime routine sounds good, considering the ages of the kids. My guess is that when they baby is around a year, it will start getting easier to streamline bedtime, at least based on my experience. We have a 3.5yo, a 2.5yo, and a 12mo. We do baths and jammies all together, and then the older two use the potty and brush teeth. Up until last week, I took the baby in our room to nurse him and then put him down in a Pack and Play (in our room). My husband would tell the older… Read more »

Julie
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Julie

I have a 2.5 yo and a 5 month old, and am solo about half the evenings lately. On solo nights, 2 yo gets a bath and 5mo either gets a bath at the same time or sits in the infant/toddler rocker/bouncer while I bathe oldest, brush teeth, get PJs on. Then we all sit in bed for bedtime stories – I may end up nursing while doing this if the little one is really cranky, but generally try to avoid it. Then if 2yo wants a lullaby, they both sit on my lap in the rocking chair while we… Read more »

Megan
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Megan

I have a 7 year old and a 15 month old and my husband works nights.  Neither of my boys really ‘got’ bedtime til about 6 months.  That was when i could put them down drowsy, awake, or all the way asleep, and they would pretty much go to sleep and stay asleep in their cribs.  Up until then my older son’s bedtime routine consisted of a lot of baby fussing/crying/bouncing along with his big kid stuff.  It was tough, but luckily my big boy is amazing and patient and understanding.  By about 6 months i was putting baby down… Read more »

Allie
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Allie

We have a 3 year old girl and 6 month old boy and have a pretty decent routine, for now. We get our daughter ready for bed (brush teeth and hair, potty, jammies) and then she starts winding down time. She has to stay in her room but she can do whatever she wants . She has three tickets she can use in case she needs to come out, but for the most part, she stays in her room. Once she’s settled, I nurse my son, get him ready for bed then put him down. Usually, I have 20-30 minutes… Read more »

hyzen
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hyzen

We have a 3 year old and a 10 month old. I often have to do bedtime alone, so I generally ask my 3 year old to go potty and get her jammies on by herself (though I do help a bit if needed) while I get the baby changed for bed. Then I let my daughter pick 1 – 3 books (the number of books depends on how quickly she did her jammies and potty, which translates into how much time we have left for reading before bed). We all do story time together in her room, then her… Read more »