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Can Breast AND Bottle Be Best?

By Amalah

 Dear Amalah,

Like many other question askers, this one is coming from a long-time reader (even though I’ve only been a mom for 5 months).

So before I had my baby, I had the philosophy that more than anything, a happy mommy was more important than a dysfunctional breastfeeding relationship. That being said, I will also admit that I was also judgy of other women who used formula and wondered if they had really tried hard enough to make breastfeeding work. Boy did I get what was coming to me!

After my wonderful, beautiful, happy, large baby was born we immediately had problems. She would latch on correctly, but then promptly fall asleep, absolutely refusing to work for anything. We had a large weight loss and we needed to supplement with formula and pump after as many feedings as I could manage and still stay sane (my second lactation consultant was much more reasonable than the first, who suggested pumping after every feeding when my baby was eating every hour around the clock our first night home from the hospital).

She rebounded very quickly and we were exclusively breastfeeding and past birth weight within a week and a half.

Things continued to go well until about 2.5 months. I wondered if I was having supply issues but I wasn’t sure until I went back to work two weeks later and she was eating 15 ounces at daycare and I was coming home with 6 pumped ounces. My fears were confirmed when we met with the lactation consultant again and my baby had only put on 5 ounces between 2 and 3 months. I worked SOOOO hard to build up my supply. We supplemented with frozen breastmilk after nursing (until the freezer was empty, then on to formula), I was pumping after as many feedings as I could manage. Again, her weight rebounded very quickly. I got up to a point where I pumped over 9 ounces in a day at work. Still not enough, but much closer. The baby was also sleeping long enough for me to get in a pumping session before I went to bed too. I was taking all sorts of weird herbs, drinking weird smelling tea, drinking gatorade, anything I heard that could help. I was really worn out!

I decided I couldn’t live that way so I took a weekend off of pumping after feeds, we went away another weekend (with the baby, but how do you pump on a plane, or in a hotel room without a working fridge). Then I just wanted to be good to myself to fit with my earlier philosophy of a happy mom. Things went from bad to worse supply-wise. I made it to my revised 5-month goal and I also got to the point where I was pumping under 3 ounces in a day at work. I’m now leaving the pump at home. It’s taking too much time out of my day and not getting me anywhere. I went to talk to someone about my feelings, she helped me see things in a new light. The counselor basically said that it’s ok to be sad, I need to grieve the loss of the nursing relationship I wanted to have. Also, in a year from now, it’s really not going to matter! My baby is happy, healthy, and smart! The counselor also suggested I need to work on separating in my mind being a good mom with breastfeeding.

I’m not looking for advice on how to build up or even maintain my supply. I give up. I need to be happy and I would really like my daughter to remember me without a pump attached to me.

I wonder if you have some suggestions on making both breast and formula work. I would like to continue to breastfeed as long as there is something in there for her. Currently I nurse and then give her a bottle when I am around her, when she is at daycare she gets bottles. I do not want to pump at work anymore.

Thanks!
A good mom who is feeding her baby!

Oh, my goodness, your chosen sign-off name makes me so sad. I mean, I completely agree with it (and understand why you chose it), but I HATE that you even felt the pressure to reiterate that yes, you are a good mom, in spite of “giving up” on the pump and your supply. Because there’s a big difference between just “giving up” and admitting defeat after fighting the good, long fight.

Which is exactly what you did. (DEAR COMMENTERS: PLEASE NO “BUT DID YOU TRY <insert supply tip that yes, I’m guessing she already tried> COMMENTS. THANK YOU MUCHLY.) And man, have I been there, done that.

All of my children got both breastmilk and formula. All of them. It was the most painful compromise with Noah, my first, just as it is for you. You feel like this is your BIG! ONE! CHANCE! to get everything perfect and best-of-intentions and instead the reality that motherhood is All About The Compromises whallops you in the face while you’re still all weepy and postpartum. And it’s really not fair, or easy.

The longest “exclusive” nursing relationship I had was with Ezra, because I was the most successful at pumping with him. At first, anyway. After a few months of pumping like gangbusters, I suddenly couldn’t pump as much per session. Just like that, I went from being perfectly capable of supplying milk for my (limited) time away from him to barely enough for a once-a-month date night. So…what? Was I going to pledge to never, ever leave his side again? To drag him on every business trip or dinner out or hair appointment because he might get hungry? Go back to pumping around the clock in hopes that my meager ounce-or-two output would EVENTUALLY add up to a single eight-ounce bottle, driving myself crazy in the meantime?

No. I was going to keep a freakin’ container of freakin’ formula in the pantry.

So I did. ANDHEWASFINE. We still nursed until almost 11 months. If we were together, he nursed. If we were apart, he got formula. If he was hungry after nursing, he got formula. If he was biting me at every feeding and I felt my sanity drifting somewhere south of normal, I took a break and he got formula. That’s all there was to it.

With Ike, the same thing happened. Pumping started out great, then took a precipitous nosedive RIGHT when I actually needed pumping to work. (Even though I work from home, I work about 30 solid hours a week and use a sitter. I spent about four months working with Ike at my side or strapped to my body, then handed him over to join the sitter and his brother(s).) It wasn’t fair to the older boys to insist that Ike be brought to me to nurse every time — they wanted to go out to playgrounds, zoos, activities. So…Ike got formula while they were out, breastmilk at home, and eventually I got so happy with this arrangement that I, too, pushed the pump under the bed and stopped using it.

We’re still nursing. Only about twice a day, but still. Nursing. Not long after I stopped using the pump, I stopped all of the supply boosters — no more teas or herbs or pills. I just nursed when I could, with as much milk as I had. Morning, night, after he fell or hurt himself and wanted comfort. My supply is pretty low now, but for us, for now, breastfeeding is much more about bonding and closeness than nutrition. And I’m fine with that, too.

Anyway, sorry to make this so long and All About Me (AS USUAL), but point is: You absolutely, positively CAN do both. Breastfeeding doesn’t HAVE to be exclusive to “count.” Or to “matter.” Once breastfeeding is established — even shakily and with supplementation — you don’t really have to worry about things like nipple confusion or sudden, overnight weaning. At least not as much as you might be worrying about those things (says the mother who worried about those things). I’ve left Ike behind on business trips and come back to a completely NOT WEANED baby. Babies CAN move quite easily from breast to bottle and back to breast without drama.

(I think the only hitch we had was that I fell into a routine of breast, then bottle, at bedtime. After a few months he started getting impatient for the bottle and refused to nurse first. I thought that meant we’d completely eliminated the nighttime feeding. But then he turned a year and the bottle went away, and then wouldn’t you know it, he suddenly was a fan of nursing at night again.)

The hardest part about going breast and bottle is probably letting yourself be okay with going breast and bottle. I didn’t reach that point with Noah, which probably played a part in how early we stopped nursing (five months). I had so much disappointment and negative emotions tied up in breastfeeding by that point (low supply, pump trauma, thrush, nursing strikes, conflicted feelings about going back to work, just to name a FEW of the obstacles we faced), that it honestly felt better to just stop fighting it all together and let Noah wean.

With Ezra and Ike, I had a better, healthier perspective on the breastfeeding relationship and what it “meant.” (And what it DIDN’T mean, i.e. whether I was a good mom or not.) So there was not as much sturm und drang over the formula compromise. If I wanted to nurse exclusively, I was going to fail. Probably spectacularly. If I wanted to nurse my babies — my happy, healthy, thriving babies — and be happy and relaxed myself, I was going to need a little help from the Similac people. You probably accept help from people and baby products all the time. Formula can be one of those things.

Your therapist is right: Let yourself mourn the loss of the relationship you had pictured in your head. Then you can learn to accept the relationship you DO have. And then full-on embrace your role as your daughter’s mother (as opposed to just her food source).

That last bit gets easier with time and distance from the early-breastfeeding trenches, when the stakes seem SO HIGH AND TERRIBLE, and your baby doesn’t honestly *do* that much besides eat, sleep and poop. When one of those three things seems to not be going so well, it’s easy to FREAK OUT and think that you’re messing everything up and doing things all wrong. Then your baby starts moving and doing things and talking and learning, and then you blink and you’re in the Target aisle, buying school supplies for FIRST GRADE. Or JUNIOR HIGH. Or COLLEGE. And suddenly the breastfeeding wars seem very, very small and so far away.

Enjoy nursing your baby. And enjoy your freedom from the pump and the guilt and the anxiety. Best of both worlds, if you ask me.

Photo source: Wavebreak Media/ Thinkstock

Amalah
About the Author

Amy Corbett Storch

Amalah

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to [email protected].

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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Christine
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Wow….  I just want to say that you’re not a good mom.  You are an AMAZING mom.  You have worked so incredibly hard to do what you think is right for you and your baby, and you know what?  Where you’re at now is really great.  It can be very difficult to breast feed at all, let alone exclusively, and you have really put in a lot of effort.  I’m a pediatrician (I work only in the ICU), and I really, really want you to know that there are so many moms that won’t even try at all.  Let alone… Read more »

Isabel Kallman
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Thanks Christine for leaving such thoughtful sentiments for the OP/LW. It made me tear up.

Kacie
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You are doing a great job! A big “pffft!” to anyone who makes you feel inferior for the way you are feeding your baby.

Motherhood is hard enough as it is — we don’t need women giving moms who are doing their darndest a hard time. 

I don’t know what to say to your specific question, but it seems like doing a little bit of nursing and a little bit of formula can certainly work! Do whatever works for you and your baby.

Jessica
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Jessica

Oh my… I am bawling at work because I am going through the same thing. And I get to quit in 3 weeks! I have not started formula yet but am dancing on the edge and I think this is the advice/experience I needed to hear today. My DD and I too are living bottle to pumped bottle with daycare and work and it sucks staying up late enough to get that “one more ounce so maybe she won’t STARVE” for daycare. I want(ed) so badly to be an exclusive breastfeeder and was also a judgey mom and oh… karma’s… Read more »

Myriam
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Myriam

I am from Quebec (Canada) amd here we have a 50-week paid maternity leave. We are lucky indeed! I was breasfeeding my daughter and hoping to avoid formula entirely (I’m cheap, what can I say!), but it turned out she was allergic to dairy. So when she started daycare at 10 months, she was put on a special formula and I pumped for about a month until she got used to the new taste. I continued breastfeeding until she was about 14 months old, where I finally cut the night-time feeding. As a side note, know that the amount of… Read more »

Bonny
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Bonny

Can I just say that you are doing an AMAZING job!!  Kudos to you for seeking help for your feelings, I think that is so important. I’m pretty sure I could’ve written 90% of this as my story, and i KNOW how hard it is.  Our supply issues stemmed from an un-diagnosed tongue tie that wasn’t corrected until 4mos when my supply should’ve already been well-established.  Fortunately with his improved suck my supply came back enough that he finally started gaining normally and we are able to nurse regularly, but I really struggled pre-surgery with giving bottles. Before his surgery I was resigned… Read more »

Kate
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Kate

I have been in this exact situation, and it was so hard at first…  especially when other moms give you earfuls about how “exclusive” breast feeding is SO important, blah blah blah.  I even had one mother tell me her baby was going to get fewer colds and illnesses than mine because she was “exclusively” breastfeeding and I was not. …and that’s about the point that I got mad (at women like that) and 100% okay with the choice I made to both breastfeed and bottle feed.  Because that’s what my supply was going to be, and that is what… Read more »

Catherine
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Catherine

So I went through almost this exact thing — and now having a beautiful, healthy, just turned one year-old daughter, I can tell you that all the angst and tears and frustration and guilt that I experienced when I finally gave up pumping at five months do not matter now in the least.  Everyone tells you “oh, do what works for you”, but I always felt like that came with just a little bit of judgment (or maybe that was just my guilt talking).  But you really REALLY just have to let that go and do what works for you.… Read more »

Kat
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Kat

OMG, yes. This. THIS exact thing is happening to me. I just went back to work full time, and have put our four month old in daycare….and I can’t pump enough to keep up with what he needs at daycare. We got off to a rocky start with nursing, finally mastered it, and then I had to return to work and just accept that he was going to get formula. And…it doesn’t matter. He’s the same healthy, happy baby boy that he was a few weeks ago. A few ounces of formula did not mean the end of the world… Read more »

Antje
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Antje

Stories like these once again make me so happy to be living in Canada, where we get 50 weeks of paid maternity leave.  You don’t have to take it if you don’t want to, but it’s one more option than most American moms have.  I can’t imagine trying to pump and breastfeed such a young baby while working full-time!

Erin
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Listen, OP, you kicked butt!! Do NOT feel bad, please! I worked outside the home when I had my first baby and good god how I HATED pumping. So. much. I stuck it out for 9 months until I started pumping less than he needed for daycare and at that point, I stopped pumping and never looked back. I did not take herbs or do power pumping or anything – I was SO GLAD to be done. I am very pro-breastfeeding but also very pro-happy-mom and I loathed every second of pumping. I continued to nurse my son when he… Read more »

Autumn
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Autumn

I hate to admit it, but I was SOOOO close to being you OP!  And I doubt I would have had as much grace with it either.  I was very lucky to be able to have 7 months (very unpaid) maternity leave, and my little girl didn’t start day care until the week she started solids.  I pump at work now and barely manage 7 oz per day, which is a problem when she wants 12 oz.  Freezer stash and weekends of non-stop pumping help, but deep down I know I’m holding on at 11 months is because I had… Read more »

claire
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claire

I have just, this past week, fully weaned my seven month old in anticipation of going back to work. Like everyone else who had commented we had a similar situation here. Struggled to begin with, lost too much weight etc etc. However, I decided to cut of the breast bit out and pumped exclusively, up until he hit bout 4 months, then i hit exhaustion and lost a feeds worth after a spill and had something of a nervous breakdown. So I put the pump away. My little boy was having 4 feeds a day, he had two breastfeeds and… Read more »

Elena
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Elena

THANK-YOU, Amy! I so needed to read this right now. I’ve finally decided to transition to formula after 11 months because I just HATE pumping at work and not getting enough and trying to squeeze out every last ounce and… yes see I’m still trying to justify this decision because I have SO.MUCH.GUILT. I’m hoping to be able to bottle and boob it for as long as possible because the thought of no longer breast feeding makes me want to cry my eyes out (hormones?). It’s hard to let go of being my baby’s main source of nourishment. I’m also… Read more »

Meg A.
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Meg A.

Yes, yes, yes… been there, done that! I felt like a horrible mom as well and tried everything under the sun to make my supply go up. Broke down one morning and frantically drove to the grocery store to buy formula. Still pump 2x at work and bring home 6-8 oz. b/c hey, some is better than none, right? I also always breastfeed before offering a bottle when we are together. I’m finally okay with it. I EBF for 5 months, then switched to mixed feedings, and now he’s 9 months old and doing phenomenal. If you’ve done everything you… Read more »

tasterspoon
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tasterspoon

Part of my sadness when my breastfeeding relationship ended was the idea that my baby no longer NEEDED me. But you know that’s not true. Your baby is going to need you, and you in particular, for a long, long time. For bathtimes and bedtimes and boo boos, sure, but for stuff that only Mom can provide. When some girl is mean to her in first grade. When she needs understanding guidance in what to wear without looking like a tramp. When she gets her first period. When she has her first breakup. When she has a baby and struggles… Read more »

Hi, I'm Natalie
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The maternity leave situation in the US makes me sad. It’s brutal that women are forced to resort to pumping to continue breastfeeding if they want to keep their jobs. Sigh. You’re a superstar and doing a great job with your baby!

mountainmama
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mountainmama

This post came to me at such a good time. I have been heartbroken for 17 weeks over not being able to breastfeed. I had a c-section, my milk took forever to come in, my baby girl had so much trouble latching…After weeks, and months of working with a lacatation consultant, I became a exclusivly pumping mom. Yep, I got my production up to a point where I was more than covering what my girl needed in the early weeks after a major struggle with no milk. I continued to try to get her to breast feed up until just… Read more »

Claire
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Claire

This was me. I pumped to a set schedule, and if I had to be out in the morning would get up two hours earlier than I needed to cause in the morning I had to pump twice, two hours apart. It’s insane how much my life was ruled by that thing. I share your pain. I have now weaned fully, but the day I put that damn pump away I felt nothing but freedom. But, I did manage to give my son two breastfeeds a day. I hope you can make a decision you’re happy with x

Karen
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Karen

I did a combo of nursing and bottle for several months after I stopped pumping. We did that until my daughter was 13 months old and could have gone on for much longer. It was fabulous. I am a much more successful pumper with #2, but with #1, I really began to love my nursing relationship as soon as I stopped pumping.

cerind
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cerind

I am also a mother of a 5 month old and have experienced something similar.  It was only a week or so ago that I stopped agonizing about if my daughter was getting enough breast milk…b/c she was also not gaining enough weight.  I started giving her formula for a couple feedings a day.  As soon as I accepted the idea…I felt a million times better and am no longer afraid that I am starving my daughter.  Thanks for sharing your story.  You are doing a great job!

MR
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MR

It is sad to me that women feel ashamed for FEEDING their baby. I am a big proponent of breastfeeding, but pumping is NOT the same, is WAY harder, and simply does not work for everyone. And the women for whom it doesn’t work should never have to apologize for feeding their baby! Because that is what we are talking about. OP, you are FEEDING your baby!! So what if LO gets all breastmilk or some breastmilk and some formula, or all formula? Your baby is getting FED. Would you feel bad if your LO was getting breastmilk and solids?… Read more »

Beatrice
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Beatrice

You are doing great momma! Although it’s hard to see at this juncture, Amy is right that time will heal this wound…as my baby boy approaches his first birthday, my breastfeeding troubles already seem like the distant past.

Nicole
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Nicole

Don’t beat yourself up. Your first instinct of a happy mommy is the best mommy was spot on. With my first had a similar experience. No weight gain, had to supplement, did both for 8 months and then switched to formula. With my second I vowed not to get out the dreaded pump unless necessary. She HATED formula, so if I went out, I pumped. But guess what, she hated pumped breast milk too. That kid would drink the minimum possible to stay alive until I got back. Once it ended up being 8 hours (mommy night out, and she… Read more »

Ellen
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Ellen

I have three sweet boys, and I was able to breastfeed the first two until 14 months without problems. Now, the third is another story. He’s definitely been the smallest all along, but nobody had ever lost weight at the six month checkup before him. I felt horrible about that. We started him on plenty of solids then, and I started offering formula bottles. At this point, I put a big scoop of formula in every bowl of cereal and baby food that he gets, and I give him a bottle of formula after I nurse him in the afternoon.… Read more »

Corinne
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::hugs:: I have a 15 month old and we were very luck to have exclusive breastfeeding until he was about 14 months old. This was due in very large part to a very flexible job that allows me to work from home sometimes, and does not limit breaks for pumping. If I had a normal full time job with limited breaks, we would have had to use the very expensive broken down protein formula. Then I had to go on an 8 day business trip without the baby. I added extra pumping sessions for 2 months to build up a… Read more »

Stephanie
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Stephanie

I felt this way when I went back to work after my first daughter was born. Hating to pump, feeling like a failure that I only pumped a measly 7 ounces after pumping twice for thirty minutes. At about 7 months, I decided to stop pumping and just nurse when I was with my baby; eventually, I weaned to twice a day. Stopping pumping was so freeing, but I still had a lot of guilt about doing it. This time around, I am much more relaxed. I nurse my baby in the morning, at night, and all weekend long. During… Read more »

Kelly
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Kelly

I’m going to be really outrageous here and say that it’s OK for women to feed their babies formula EVEN IF THEY DIDN”T TRY TO BREASTFEED AT ALL.  Long story short: my son was six weeks premature, we had amazing breastfeeding problems for which I sought the help of four different lactation consultants and an occupational therapist, I pumped exclusively for six months, had a nightmare come true when I accidentally unplugged the garage freezer and had to pour my entire stash (I added it all up–over FOUR GALLONS and yes, you read that correctly) down the drain, and was… Read more »

Jen
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When I delivered my triplets 10 weeks early, I was immediately visited by a team of lactation consultants who told me how critical it was that I begin pumping because my colostrum is liquid gold and critical to my premature babies’ health. Considering my children were in critical condition – and I was feeling guilt over my inability to carry them longer – I vowed that I would do WHATEVER IT TOOK to breastfeed them.  So I started pumping and pumping and I pumped for DAYS and actually overdosed on Fenugreek (full body rash) and had a screaming case of… Read more »

autumn
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autumn

An additional comment about pumping volumes:  I don’t know about other moms, but at my fullest (just woke up boobs crazy full look like I have implants etc) I would get 3 to 3.5 oz per non nursed on boob. Kid only eats from one side per feeding.  Seriously, now I know a boob job just won’t really help me that much:). But my daughter has never had a bottle with more than 3 oz, because I have never produced more than that.  I hear/read about moms with 6 oz of breast milk per pump, and I wonder what I’m… Read more »

allison
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allison

I am a soon-to-be mom who fully plans to supplement my breastmilk with formula. Question – how long should I plan to bf exclusively (if I am able to) before introducing the bottle/formula? A few weeks? A month? Thanks for any guidance you can offer.

Tara
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Tara

This is almost my same story, except my daughter never did breastfeed successfully, even after many, MANY attempts in every way possible (she’s a little tongue-tied, I’m a little flat, just couldn’t get it together). She’s three months now and I’ve been pumping and supplementing with formula since about day three. On top of that, I got VERY ill about three weeks post partum and had to spend nearly three weeks pumping and dumping because of the antibiotics I was taking. After all that, I did mourn, I WAS sad, but I concluded that there are some things you just… Read more »

Equo
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Equo

Does anyone recommend an organic version of formula over conventional?

Isabel Kallman
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We discussed the issue of organic vs. regular formula about 18 months ago. Look here: https://alphamom.com/parenting/baby/organic-vs-regular-formula/ 🙂

Equo
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Equo

Let me add,I gave birth 4 days ago and my milk production is still low but I know that will change.was really apprehensive about using formula but on 2nd day baby had been breast feeding all day and had not had a wet diaper or stool so nurse suggested I supplement. I felt like such a failure and that I had put my kid in danger. I now realize all is not lost! But still interested in a healthy organic option.

Kristin
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Kristin

Thank you thank you so much – for the question, for the answer. I read the original post and cried. This person could very well be me. I’m having all of these same difficulties. This is my second child and I SO WANTED breastfeeding to work this time. But after I went back to work, despite pumping like a maniac, I am finding it hard to keep up with what she drinks at day care. I love the answer you gave, and the support you lend just by understanding. I also cried when I read the answer you posted. Thanks… Read more »

Lee
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Lee

I just happen to stumble upon this and I am so happy I did. I exclusively BF my first for 6 months and nursed for another 3 months. But this time around I am not pumping enough at work and have been getting up all hours of the night to pump. I don’t know why but my pumping output plummeted at month 4. Needless to say I am exhausted and frustrated and on the brink of quitting. In my mind it became am all or nothing type thing, when it doesn’t have to be. Thank you for posting this!

Kellie
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Kellie

Just found this. Definitely helped me realize that I could still breastfeed even if my very hungry son got formula too. I had so much trouble keeping up with him, taking care of my two other kids and working part time. i love the nonjudgement supportive advice that is given on this website. 

Louise
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Louise

Oh man. Nursing didn’t even work for me. I have to admit that i am a bit envious, and i’m sorry for that. My bb was born with numerous mouth issues and no matter how hard i tried and still try (at almost six months, i still try), she wont latch for longer than a few seconds. I had to give up pumping at 2 months because i stopped responding after mastitis. I just wouldn’t let down. If you can bf at all: do it. I cant express the pain and sorrow i felt when my baby screamed around my… Read more »

Kathy Mendez
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Kathy Mendez

The information that turned my head on this issue is that the female body is capable of producing milk without ever having been pregnant. I never knew there was such a term but women can apparently re-lactate if breastfeeding was interrupted for a time. The comfort I took from this is that when I became completely defeated by the pump and could only think of the criticisms when considering to give up partial breastfeeding altogether It really helped to know that it didn’t have to be a final decision kind of thing. If need be, with a little kickstart and… Read more »

Marianne
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Marianne

Oh my goodness.. Thank you SO MUCH for this. This is exactly what I’ve been struggling with with my 4 1/2 month old. The original goal was 12 months, but now I am fighting to get to 6. It’s 4am as I type and considering if I should pump right now for another measly couple of ounces while my little one sleeps. It has been a constant battle in my mind for the last month at least and I have tried EVERYTHING I can get my hands on to pump up my supply, but it’s time I accept that I… Read more »

Mayela Barrera
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Mayela Barrera

Oh my goodness! THANK YOU ALL. I’m sitting here nursing my baby reading all these posts and realizing that I am not the only one with this issue. I am currently EBF baby … I HATE pumping because when I do all I get is an ounce maybe two if I’m lucky. It’s like my life revolves around that ugly pump 🙁 It is so frustrating and it makes me nervous every time I have to leave baby because I’m always stressing out about if she’s going to have enough… so I have been thinking about giving baby formula while… Read more »

Brandi
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Brandi

OMGoodness, YES!!! I stumbled across this site accidentally and I just can’t thank you enough! It is so disheartening to ask for support without getting the “try this” response. And, this…THIS! is spot on to how WE feel, as mothers who choose to do what’s best for us – combination feeding. Just love how you put it into perspective. Must share with a few of my other Mama-friends, fighting the good fight and struggling. Thank you again!

Auti
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Auti

Needed to see someone else in my position. My baby girl is only 5 weeks old and We’ve been supplementing since day 2 of birth as required by the hospital. I didn’t produce colostrum and my milk never eally came in. I never got engorged, i have never leaked, and my breasts never grew during pregnancy or after- if anything they’ve shrunk. It broke my heart every single day. the week after we got home, i tried to exclusively breastfeed and my poor baby was so hungry. she was on my breast pretty much 24/7! then at her dr. appt.… Read more »

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lindsayb
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lindsayb

I am so glad to read this! I know it’s an older article, but still very meaningful to me. I’ve managed to steadily increase my under supply and I’m so tired of going to groups for support or questions and only either being questioned about why I “think” under produce and that it’s supposedly rare and usually the moms fault.. then I get unsolicited advice telling me to do stuff I already do (tie revisions, power pumping, mother’s milk tea, blue gatorade -you name it) only to be told grudgingly that *maybe* I do have an undersupply, but I should… Read more »

Lisa Mendez
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Lisa Mendez

Thank you. I’m laying in bed at 4:30am crying because I don’t think I can “do it” anymore. It’s so hard to drink enough water and eat the right kinds of food and pump every time I should. I currently smell like Italian sausage because I’m trying essential oils… and I know I could do “more.” But I’m just done. My question to google tonight was: if I have practically no milk supply will my baby still nurse? Because I love our precious moments together… it was that first moment nursing that I fell in love with my daughter… she’s… Read more »

Metikon80
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Metikon80

This is wonderful. I am struggling to keep my at work pump production up to what he needs, but he takes 12+ ounces a day and growing, and while I can sometimes get that, sometimes I can get more like 9 oz. I honestly don’t know what my body has against the pump, and its so frustratingly close to enough, and yet not quite. Just to read someone who doesn’t say “make sure your daycare isn’t overfeeding” (she’s not – he sometimes takes an hour to finish his bottle and she’s fine with that), or “have you tried – ”… Read more »