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Trying to Conceive: Irregular Periods After Birth Control

Feb22

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Oh Dear! Amy… I have a dilemma and I honestly have no one to turn to…
I went on the pill when i was 17, switched to a different pill, and then a different… blaming weight gain and other things on the pill. Then I changed to the ring which I neither loved, nor hated… Other than the fact that I absolutely hated being on birth control full stop. It changed my sex drive-(what sex drive?) and above all, my husband and I really want a baby.
Getting back to it, I accidentally took the Ring out a week early, on October 31st-I then had a full normal period on November 6th. I went for this full month without replacing the b/c and had the following period on December 14th. It was ‘late’ and I thought I could be pregnant… But at the same time, I’m not really sure how ‘normal’ my periods are, or how far apart they would be.
I then picked up and moved with my husband to his home in Europe. Surprisingly all of my stress went away-as I’m generally some control freak with money-moving-unsettling-no jobs-eeeek! But, I have taken this time as a great break while we get our sh*t together… Being off of the b/c allowed us to have a normal sex life, yay! But then…my period didn’t come. We were full sure that I was pregnant, and completely upset when I tested on the 22nd of January, again on the 26th and finally on the 4th of February.
All negative. After the first negative one I gave up hope that I was pregnant. Made sure that I was relaxed and calm and not thinking about really anything… And then I started, on the 8th of February.
My question, after all of this long drawn out explanation is— What is up?! is it okay that I missed a full month? Will i ovulate normally? I want babies ohmygod I want babies so bad… I know I know I know-it’s waaay too early to worry that I won’t be able to, but gaaah.
Please tell me that it’s okay…

Oh my goodness gracious, it is SO OKAY. Take a deep breath, stop wringing your hands over this (I can see you doing it through the computer screen) and chill. This is totally, 100% normal and to-be-expected as your body gets used to being off of birth control and attempts to regulate itself.
Sure, some women get pregnant on the pill. Some women get pregnant the first month off the pill. But some women need a few cycles — sometimes up to six months or even a year — to get back to “normal” cycles and regular ovulation.
It’s been…what…four months since you took out the ring? You had the period you were going to have that month anyway. And then…one sort-of late period and then a bit of dry spell. All during a stressful and life-changing time. Sounds to me like your body just needs a few more months to get back in the groove.
Obviously I can’t quote you all kind of science-y things that really explain why this happens, but if you just think about it on the most basic level — you’ve been quashing ovulation (already a delicate and temperamental process to being with) since you were a teenager. Now you suddenly expect your body to snap back to attention and do something (perfectly, like clockwork) after all those years. I would guess that for every Christina Aguilera with her super-egg and super-sperm talk, there are probably a lot more women like you.
The ONLY cause for the barest bit of concern would be if your periods were this irregular BEFORE you went on the pill. Always late, no real discernible pattern, and months and months in between. This was me, from the time I was 13. So after going off the pill, I had a couple regular periods right afterwards and then…nothing. My cycles averaged 75 days…or longer. So for me, annovulation was my body’s natural rhythm, and it sucked. But obviously, it’s not an insurmountable problem, either with medical treatment or a buttload of patience.
If your periods were regular-ish when you were a teen, they will probably level out again soon. (And remember, even women who menstruate like clockwork STILL occasionally have annovulatory cycles for one reason or another. Stress is usually blamed, although you know I would rather poke myself in the eye with some lipliner than tell another woman trying to conceive to “just relax.”) If another six months goes by and you’re not pregnant and still having really irregular periods, by all means talk to your doctor. But a lot of doctors will tell you the “six months to a year” post-birth-control time period. (Of course, you should still be getting your pap smears and regular pelvic exams during this time too, nag nag.)
Rasberry_Leaf.jpgIf you feel like you must do something in the meantime or you will lose your damn mind, head over to Whole Foods and pick up some prenatal vitamins and some raspberry leaf tea. Prenatals are always a good idea for anyone actively trying to conceive, plus they will correct any underlying deficiencies that could be keeping your body off-kilter. The raspberry leaf tea is just one of the many crockpot natural remedies I tried (it “supports the female system” and supposedly has been used by Native American women for centuries to correct irregular menstruation). I don’t know. I certainly didn’t drink the recommended three cups a DAY, but I did drink a cup in the morning occasionally and well…huh. I got pregnant. (I didn’t use raspberry leaf to get pregnant with Noah, by the way. That time I got a dog. So you could also try that.) (Thus ends the possibly specious logic portion of the Smackdown.)
But seriously: it’s okay. You’re describing something that has happened to a lot of women. You’re not alone or some barren freak of nature. It’s unnerving, once you decide that you really really really omfg want a baby, to discover just how random and delicate the whole egg-meet-sperm process is. (Even my OB has said, on multiple occasions, that it’s pretty amazing any of us ever manage to get born.) But it is not time to panic yet. Even if you DO end up heading down the ART route, there will be plenty of time to freak out and regroup and come up with a plan and deal with whatever obstacles are in your way. But right now, at this moment in time, there’s just no reason to be anything other than optimistic that everything will work out just fine.

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54 Responses to “Trying to Conceive: Irregular Periods After Birth Control”

  1. Pghtebbie Feb 22 at 1:13 pm Reply Reply

    Being one of those “barren freaks of nature”, with compeletly regular periods, I would agree with Amy, and give it another couple months. Even completely “normal” people don’t always get pg right away. Good luck!

  2. heels Feb 22 at 1:40 pm Reply Reply

    It happened like that for me with my first and is happening again RIGHT NOW. It’s awful, but you are CERTAINLY not alone!

  3. ihopeyoudontmind Feb 22 at 6:44 pm Reply Reply

    I’ve been on the ‘ring for almost two years, and on just about every other form of prescription birth control known to women before I discovered it (I, like you, didn’t like the side effects they gave me).
    I recently had to stop with the ‘ring so that I could have some minor surgery done (a completely separate issue). I then decided not to go back on the ‘ring for awhile (I tend to have mood swings while on it). I had the surgery in October, and I just finally got my period last week.
    There have been a couple of other occasions when I had to go off the ‘ring. For example, I had a sore throat a year or so ago, and my doctor prescribed me an antibiotic that supposedly made my birth control ineffective. It took a couple of months before I had a period and felt ready to get back on the ‘ring at that time, too.
    The reason I’m telling you all of this is because that way you know that you’re not the only one to have weird menstrual issues due to that specific form of birth control. Sometimes it helps to hear that someone else went through the same thing, especially when it comes to something as important as trying to conceive.
    Amy’s right – it’s just the way our bodies reacted to the lack of hormones. She’s also right about how it’ll take awhile for your system to reset itself back to what it was before you started birth-control.
    Hope this helps to make you feel better.

  4. Melissa Feb 23 at 1:11 pm Reply Reply

    You are TOTALLY normal. I was on birth control pills from 17-28, non-stop. When I finally did stop taking them in order to conceive TC, I didn’t have a period for FOUR months. Then I did. Then I didn’t for two more months. Then I sort of did but not really and then I didn’t and then I got pregnant. We didn’t even know until our first ultrasound how far along I was because I couldn’t accurately tell the OB when I had last cycled or even had sex (my husband and I were working opposite shifts and hardly ever saw each other but somehow we must have done it). I am still not convinced that TC was three weeks late, I think my due date was off. Rambling aside, I know the waiting and the wondering sucks but you are not alone.

  5. MrsClifford Apr 29 at 1:33 am Reply Reply

    Well just to reiterate that you are normal. I am going through the same thing and freaking out probably as much as you. It’s a scary thing to think that your body isn’t normal and you are not ovulating like you are supposed to be. Very scary if you are hopeful of having a baby.
    The really terrible part is never knowing if your body is just off or if you really could be pregnant. My husband probably thinks I am psychotic for wanting to take a pregnancy test every month but because your body is on such a roller coaster ride, you can’t help but wonder. Last month, I really thought I was pregnant because my breasts were tender and I was cramping but it turned out to be a period. And this month, NOTHING, again.
    I got off of the Nuva Ring in November. No period in Dec, got one in January, Skipped Feb, Got a heavy period in March, and now nothing again.
    I feel ya sista!! Hang in there.

  6. TLF Sep 14 at 5:48 pm Reply Reply

    I just wanted to say thanks for all the postings with regard to the first question. I have just gone off birth control a month ago and am actually only a week and a half late. I got all excited thinking I am pregnant, took the test and am not. So, now I feel seriously moppy about the whole thing and a little silly about jumping the gun. But, you never know, you could be right away. I was worried about the late period, but now I know how long it could possibly take. I should just enjoy not having it for a while, but instead I am wishing it would just come and go so that I don’t have to worry about it. And, I know stressing about it will only make it worse. Your comments have really helped, I don’t feel weird anymore. Thanks!!

    • Mrs.N May 12 at 3:06 pm Reply Reply

      I was also a week and a half late and took a test. We have just started trying, and I didn’t realize how disappointed I would be. But now at almost 2 weeks late I got my period. First time off Nuva ring, I got my period that first month off. Late this time. I also felt silly for jumping the gun. I think patience is truly the key. And of course not stressing. Easier said than done

  7. L Sep 19 at 2:59 pm Reply Reply

    I feel like I’ve been going crazy since coming off the bc pill about 4 months ago. I have had cramps off and on, stomach issues and mood swings. Anyone else experiencing this??

  8. Ari Sep 24 at 2:55 pm Reply Reply

    I too have been off the pills since March 08 and have had crazy syptoms. I had a period in March, April, May, and then in the month of June I didn’t have one so I thought I was pregnant! I had all the syptoms, cramping, tender breasts, etc. I tested like four times and all the tests were negative!! Then all of the sudden I got my period in July 4th! I went almost a month and a half without a period….not to bore you all but the same thing happened again. I had a normal period in August 8th, then I didn’t get my period until September 19th! I was almost 7 weeks late! Again, all the hormones that the pills carry can REALLY jack up your system. Is unfortunate that most doctors don’t forewarn you about these types of sides affects before putting on the pill. Just to mentioned I had been on the pill since July 2005.
    I’m trying really hard to have a baby and it’s frustrating when I know I’m the one to blame for what’s going on! It seems like everyone else around me is having babies and here I am trying and can’t seem to get it right…. =(
    I guess it makes me feel better to read that I’m not alone and that their are plenty of women out there coping with the same issues.
    Hopefully I’ll be able to surprise my hubby here soon. I’m trying not to think or stress myself about it…BUT IT’S HARD!!!!!!!!!

    • Sheril Oct 13 at 1:02 am Reply Reply

      Have you had any luck yet? I am going through the same thing. I’ve been off of the pills for over a year and I’m ttc my second, and it’s not happening. I’m going to try the vitex vitamins. I’ve read a lot of great reviews about how it can regulate the system and assist in fertility.

    • Sheena Jan 21 at 6:59 pm Reply Reply

      I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me because everyone around me is getting pregnant and I’m not. It’s so frustrating at times to not be able to control what your body does. I started off having regular periods and then once I came off my b/c control pills there were times when I wouldn’t have a period for 2-3 months and sometimes my cycle would be heavy and other times it would be really light. I’m 29 and I was hoping to have a baby before I turned 30 but from the looks of things I don’t think it’s going to happen for me. There were so many instances were I thought I was pregnant and I wasn’t. Me and my husband have been married a year and a half and it’s time for us to have children, not that we haven’t been having fun trying, but still it’s so damn frustrating not being able to know the exact day that your cycle comes on so that you can be on a routine to know when you ovulate.

  9. a2 Sep 24 at 8:21 pm Reply Reply

    It is so good to read all the comments and to know that I am not crazy. I to was on the pill for 9yrs and just went off it in Jan 08. Since then I have been experiencing the joys of the irregular period and when I was a teen they were always on time. I am so used to getting it the same time every month and now that my body is so whacky I feel nuts! I get my period anywhere from 33-50 days. I went to doctor’s and they tell I am fine and my body just has to adjust to the change. And of course I am always researching on line and all these terrible things that could be wrong I think I have, my poor husband, I think I am driving him crazy. My husband and I are trying to have to have a baby and no luck for 6 months. It is so difficult to track my ovulation because I never know when it is occurring. I think I spent a small fortune in pregnancy tests. I think I am pregnant every month because I have the tender breasts, mood swings etc.
    I also have started taking prenatal vitamins because I heard it can increase your chances of getting pregnant (not sure how true that is) I just think I need to learn to relax and let nature take it’s course.
    I want to thank everyone for sharing their stories, it is just nice to know I am not the only one going through this stressful time.

  10. lr Oct 14 at 9:34 pm Reply Reply

    Thank u guys… I mean girls a lot I was onlu on the PILL for a little while and I haven’t had a period in 4 months then I had one and haven’t had one since I thought I was going crazy but u all make me feel better thanks alot

  11. Meg Oct 17 at 3:23 pm Reply Reply

    count me in on tis freaking-out period club.
    taking birth control had completly messed up my menstral cycle. it makes getting pregnant feel impossible
    =[
    reading this has made me feel alot better.
    im gong to go buy some of that tea tomorrow...see if it works ^_^
    hang in there girls.
    before we know it, we'll all be pregnant
    =]=]

  12. Kelly Nov 06 at 10:26 am Reply Reply

    Thanks for the comments, girls. I’m going through the same as everyone else, still waiting for my period after nine weeks, since going off the pill. I have been on the pill for 10 years and recently quit. I took a pregnancy test and it was negative. I was just thinking about buying another one (PT) until I read these posts. Guess I’ll have to wait a few more months until my next period and for a baby.

  13. YaYa Nov 15 at 12:31 am Reply Reply

    Hay girls I was in birth pill,in pacth and ect. in 2003 got off on 2005 since then I having get my period it can pass 3-6 month with out me having my period or unless I go to the doctor and get some pill to let period come down every month name of pill is PROVERA 10 for 10 days I think I could never have baby I am 22year old and marrie yes Iam still but its every hard for me to take pill every month to make my period down every month.when would I have a regular period?

  14. Britt Nov 23 at 9:17 pm Reply Reply

    I’ve been off the pill for 8 months. I experienced three long cycles off the pill, ranging from 39-68 days, but now it appears this fourth cycle is the longest yet. It has been almost three months without a period and yes, I am trying to have a baby. Kinda difficult when it looks like I’m not ovulating. All of your posts make me feel tons better! I’m not alone!

  15. Annaliese Nov 27 at 9:36 am Reply Reply

    Hey Girlies,
    I am really worried because I am also tryin to get pregnant but instead of missing periods and then having it I am always constantly bleeding. I was on the implant for 2 years and had it removed last month. I bled constanlty on the implant for the last year and it has not stopped. I so badly want to get pregnant and my situation seems so different to all of you lovely ladies, I just dont know what to do. I know it will take awhile to sort its self out but I was irregular before going on the implant and now off it I wont stop bleeding so worried I will never ovulate. Help!

  16. Alicia Dec 14 at 8:18 pm Reply Reply

    This is a great webpage. I also am in the same boat. I got off of bc March ’08, and got a period in April, May, June & July. Then I had 2 cycles that were 60 days each! I have now had a 50 day and 30 day cycle since then, and just got my period again last week. I am also trying to get pregnant but am sure I haven’t been ovulating, and I was so hopeful! Something to try (that I also just started this cycle). We females are supposed to ovulate every 28 days or so – same as the moon’s phases. Days 1-13 pitch dark at night, and 14-17 have a 50 watt light bulb on in the room, and days 18 to the end pitch dark again. I guess the light is supposed to mimic the full moon and release serotonin or something. It’s worth a try, right?
    http://www.shanspirations.org/?p=87

  17. KRM Dec 16 at 12:10 pm Reply Reply

    WOW…I’m so thankful for this webpage, it has helped calm me down. I went of BC (nuvaring) in April 08. I had been on it for 5 years. I had one totally normal cycle and I thought all was well. 8 months later, I know that is not that case. My cycles range from 45-66 days. I am not trying to get pregnant right now, but I know I want to start trying in the next year or two, and so I’m charting my temperature to learn about natural BC and fertility. I take my temp every morning- basically, once your temp has gone up and stays up until your period, you know you’ve ovulated. My temperature does eventually go up and then soon after I get my period, so I think I do ovulate, it just seems to take forever for my body to do it. After about 5 months, this inconsistency started to really freak me out. Not only does it throw a woman through the mental ringer every month thinking they are pregnant, but it also had me worried I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant. I figured my cycle should be back to normal by now, but after reading the other posts, I realize it may just take more time.
    No one prepares us for this sort of thing do they, and I think this is why it’s so hard on us- we spend our young adult lives with this very stable cyclic event and then all of a sudden it is unpredictable and our minds and bodies are confused. We think we are pregnant, then we aren’t, we think things are physically wrong with us as women, but then it eventually works out, all the time with no concrete answers- no wonder we all are a little high strung about this issue. All I can say is, keep sharing your thoughts, it will help all of us. I know I feel better just reading your posts and writing my own.
    I’d love to hear about people who posted a while ago and what happened- when did your cycles return to regularity?

  18. annonomous Dec 17 at 11:49 am Reply Reply

    i am so thankful for this page. i just got off ortho lo and have had a terrible time… anormal one the first month, a 33 day one the 2nd month, a fifty day the 3rd month and now im waiting to see how long my next one will take. the weirdest thing is that i had a positive ovulation test 5 days after my cycle ended and the stretchy egg white cm…sooo, maybe this month ill be preg. Everyone should buy the ovulation dip strips and just start testing the day after your cycle ends. i would have never ever guessed 5 days after my period ended i would get a positive test and especially after a 50 day cycle but ill let everyone know if im preg whenever i take a test. seriously though, we should all try and relax and take ovulation tests every day…i bet we would all be surprised when we are actually ovulating.

  19. trying as well Jan 24 at 11:44 am Reply Reply

    aha! – after day 7 of my first missed/late period in 10 years I find this page, thank god! I wend off birth control in October of 2008. My November and December periods were totally normal, on track and the right length. This month, nothing!! I got some cramping and increased discharge (sorry to be graphic) but that’s it. I’m not pregnant -3 tests all confirm.
    We are trying for a baby so the idea of fertility problems is REALLY scary. Your comments help quite a bit. One question is….has anyone asked their doctor about getting pregnant with irregular periods? Are we ovulating still? How can we tell?
    I still can’t believe my misfortune…..the month we decide to start trying after 4 months of charting my pattern is the month that I don’t ovulate/menstrate!!! It’s like a cruel joke!

  20. Susan Riffe Jan 27 at 11:29 pm Reply Reply

    I have a somehwhat similar problem and could use some advice on what to do. To start with I am 19 years old I kno, I know it is young, but my husband’s father has a degenerative disease and is expected to die in the next couple years. He is already gotten to a point hwere he cant walk or anything. It is his dream to hold his grandchildren so that is why we are trying to get pregnant now. It is very important to us and our families that we have a baby while he is still alive. When I was 17 years old I got pregnant by accident. I had a miscarriage during my first trimester. They had cheecked the baby’s heartbeat and there wasn’t one. I weight 105 pounds. After my miscarriage my periods were somewhat irregular- they werent before than they had straightened out and about a year ago I started my period and comtinued bleeding or spoting for moths and got on birth control. I started taking the sot that you get every six months. The bleeding had stopped and when I had my first period it never stopped I took the shot 2 or three times and continued to bleed constantly. In november I swithched to the pill and stopped taking them at the begining of january. I have had 2 periods since then. Considering everything should I be concerned about not being able to carry a baby or fertility problems please help me

  21. QB Feb 28 at 12:32 pm Reply Reply

    I’m actually very relieved to read this posting because I’m having the exact same problem. I stopped using Alesse in May ’08 (after being on it since I was 21 (am now 31)). Didn’t get my first cycle until Aug. ’08. Have had only 3 cycles since with the cycles being 68 -70 days apart. Found out on Dec. 23 ’08 that I was pregnant (took two tests and both came out positive)…a week later, went to the ER (severe cramps and spotting) and found out that I wasn’t pregnant at all (my GP thinks that chances are my body naturally aborted the baby) Still waiting on my next cycle. Good to know that I’m not completely alone out there.

  22. Anonymous Mar 01 at 2:11 am Reply Reply

    same here! I went off the pill in November and my first cycle was just the same as it was 7 years ago before i went on the pill (about 35 days). Now I am still waiting for the next one and am very frustrated because my husband and I are trying to conceive. I have taken so many preg tests and they are all negative. sooo frustrating!!! Love the idea of the tea, and I also wanted to mention that I was at the drugstore the other day (where else but in the family planning isle) and I saw a new test that first response has that you are supposed to take on day three of your cycle (just like a pregnancy test…pee on a stick) and it tells you whether or not you are even able to conceive. It measures a hormone Fh. I may try it if I ever get my period again

  23. Jen Mar 16 at 2:26 pm Reply Reply

    Hi and thanks to everyone who posted. I have been off the pill since Jan 09. My first cycle off the pill was exactly 28 days which gave me hope that it would just be regular right off the bat. I am now on day 34 of my second cycle and fighting the urge to take a pregnancy test because I just don’t want to see the negative result. Reading your posts is making me feel more realistic about my chances of being pregnant which is good since my husband and I are not TTC just yet. Wishful thinking on my part that it will just happen. At what point do you all advise taking a pregnancy test? Given your experiences would you wait until day 40? 45?

  24. RainIncense Mar 22 at 3:19 pm Reply Reply

    This information is so refreshing! I started BC pills almost 4 years ago and decided to go off of them in December 2008. My husband and I weren’t really TTC… just seeing what happened. I read some articles about how the hormones from BC pills are out of your body in days or weeks and blah blah blah you should be able to conceive right away, etc…. My first cycle off the pills was 30 days, 2nd was 28 days. This was a pretty typical pattern for me pre BC so I thought everything was fine. I started charting my BBT during my 3rd cycle and now I am thoroughly confused. I didn’t ovulate until day 18 (or possibly later), I took 2 pregnancy tests when I was late, both were negative and today – on cycle day 34, I started. It’s just so frustrating because I really thought I was “normal” b/c of the first two cycles off of BC. Now I realize, that I may not even have ovulated during the first two cycles. My suggestion to all of you is to start charting your BBT and checking your Cervical Fluid. It’s a great way to find out if you’re ovulating and that way, you’ll know you’re not wasting money on pregnancy tests when you’re not even fertile. I am using the fertilityfriend.com website to chart my bbt online. It is very educational, most services are free, and there is no advertising. Jen, if you are experiencing symptoms of pregnancy or if you know you ovulated, then I would go ahead and take a test. If not, your period is probably late and I would wait another week or so.

  25. Elle Apr 03 at 8:50 am Reply Reply

    It is WONDERFUL to read all these stories.
    Here’s my GIG:
    ALWAYS irregular
    NEVER warned by my doctor about this roller coaster post pill stuff (ps… THEY SHOULD WARN YOU!)
    Anyway:
    Went off pill Nov. 08, Got my period Dec. 24th and that was the last time.
    For the first time in my life I WANT to have “Aunt Flow” drop by.
    So here we are, April..
    My husband is a surgeon (but in Orthopedics so his knowledge on this is quote “limited”) He keeps me calm but his basic advise is: “No period, No Ovulating.”
    So b/c of his job our timing is difficult… we are trying as often as possible… (which is okay :) ) I’m staying calm, But i’m going a little nutz.
    SO TO END MY RAMBLING: Anyone try the Tea/Prenatal and think they had success??????

    • Jen Apr 09 at 1:30 pm Reply Reply

      RainIncense: I am going through this same confusion right now. I am petite and was an athlete in high school so my low weight and high activity caused irregular periods. Up until I went on birth control, though, they were “regular” for the most part. I started birth a year ago and only took it for 8 or 9 months before coming off of it to start TTC. My first month off of birth control I got a period on the 28th day on the dot… same with month two. I then started charting my BBT. Well we weren’t TRYING to conceive a few weeks ago, but weren’t preventing it. We had intercourse the day before my projected ovulation date, which was the date I had a lower ‘dip’ in my temperature. Now I am 2 days late, but have no symptoms of pregnancy besides a common cold (which I hear could be an early sign) and one day of sensitive nipples only (which sometimes happens from particular bras) and I’m particularly thirsty. So I’m confused, but excited and don’t want to jump the gun but I also don’t know if I can handle the stress and fear it will push my period further away if it is just delayed. Should I wait to take a test or just try?

  26. KEA Apr 22 at 11:56 am Reply Reply

    I am also glad that i found that website. I have a different problem. I am not trying to get pregant right now but i also would like to in the next year or so… I was on the ring then i switched to the loestrin 24… I stopped taking the pills in end of Jan 09, no period for Feb, after missing the first period after the BC i decided to do some research, i found out i take about 3 months for some women… I was ok with that and wait patiently. i did get a period in March… it was normal and everything…28 days after i got another cycle which lasted 7 days… I got scared and called my doctor but she was absent… I spoke with the nurse and she told me it’s normal… the day after it stopped. I thought what a relief but i was wrong. 3 days after I started noticing that i am spotting… I waited few days then called my doctor, she told me that it’s also normal but i can’t seem to wait for my body to go back to normal. if i count it right it’s now 19 days since i am still bleeding. I know my doctor say to wait and watch it very closely, but does anyone else had the same problem?

  27. Tiffany Jun 10 at 10:45 am Reply Reply

    I was on birth control for over 9 years… I got off of the patch in Jan 08, and my hubby and I started TTC in April 08… it is now June 09 and we still haven’t been able to conceive :( My periods are irregular every month – anywhere from 32-46 day cycles which is making it VERY hard to calculate ovulation. I’ve tried ovulation tests, however, they never seemed accurate, I tried a device called “The Fertility Scope” and I never had a strong positive result, I tried taking my temp, going by how my body felt… every time I think I know when I’m ovulating, I’ll start my period really early, or way later than expected. Birth control was wonderful to be on for convenience, but looking back, I never had irregular periods or cramps before birth control… and once I got on it I started getting cramps, and now that I’m off of it I’m irregular and still have horrible cramps every month!I wish I would have never started taking it!! So hang in there… you’re not alone!

  28. Sunshine Jun 16 at 3:02 am Reply Reply

    my advice to you all is TRY not to worry! i went off the pill (yasmin) LAST june of 08. it was not to conceive, but because it was actually making my hair fall out. keep in mind i was on the pill for 9 years straight (since my child was born). i had a “normal” period every 25-27 days from july 08 to march 09. to me they seemed to be the same kind of period i had on the pill, lasting three days, first heavy the rest light. in retrospect i think i was probably still affected by the hormones from the pill as i was on it for so long i think my body didn’t know what to do with itself anymore =( 2 weeks after my period ended in march i felt myself ovulate (i used to be able to before i got on the pill and my periods were regular than also) i got a period in april, and that cycle was 35 days or so. and i haven’t had one since. i have taken 3 pregnancy tests and they are negative. i know deep down my body is still not right because i have slight acne on my face (and i never even had it as a teen!) and my period hasn’t come. oh well, it’s still whack and my body is just trying to find a way to get back to the place it should have been had i not gotten on the devil i call birth control! it’s a crazy thing to screw with our hormones and i really wish i would have known this before i ever started the mess. =( this too shall pass tho and we’ll all get our bodies back eventually. some just take a little longer than others.
    good luck!

  29. silv24 Jul 03 at 4:07 pm Reply Reply

    im so glad i found this page i was getting scare now.well i stop my birth control pills on april 09 and since then my peiod has not been regular.sometimes i get it every 2 weeks somewhere there.i have been of levora for 4 months now.before levora a was on portia for a 1 in half.so yeah im trying to get pregnet but still no luck.i think our bodies need to get back without all the hormones that we were taking huh girls. well girl keep up dated and see how long does it take to get pregnet. im just going to keep trying and not thinking of getting pregnet then you get stress out and you dont get pregnet.

  30. silv24 Jul 03 at 4:10 pm Reply Reply

    and by the way i have 2 kids so i know i could have babies. right im just 24 yrs old im not that old. well girls send some feed back so i know what to do if should i worried or not?? help me out

  31. Court Jul 19 at 6:01 pm Reply Reply

    I feel so much better reading this! I finished my last cycle of pills in January. My husband and I sat down and decided we were ready to have a baby. I waited, no period in February, one day in March and then nothing in April, May, or June. Now here it is July and finally a real period. I was never totally regular in high school, but did cheerleading, gymnastics, and soccer so drs. figured it was do to my activities and I was very under weight. So I went on the pill at 18 and just stopped right before my 29th bday. Now I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant and I can’t even figure if I’m ovulating or anything because I don’t even get a period. Reading these posts has made me feel so much better. Good luck to all of you trying to get pregnant. Thanks for all the help!

  32. Jamie Jul 21 at 2:42 pm Reply Reply

    wow i’m so glad i found this website….what a mess going off b/c is, i was on the pill for just under 10 years and went off in nov 08. i didn’t get any period until the first week of april, then again middle of may, then not until just recently july 9, my husband and i have only started ttc for about a month now..i went off in nov. to give my body time to get off the hormones (apparently not enough time) anyways it is so frustrating not knowing when my period will come and this last one i really got excited thinking i might be pregnant (sore breasts, moody, tired) yesterday i went to the dr. to discuss it all and her advice was that it can take a full year for my periods to get normal again and to start ovulating, i then told her i did use an ov kit and got a positive reading on june 29th but then still got my period july 9 she said that most likely that was a false positive or i did in fact ovulate but my body couldn’t support a pregnancy yet cause of everything being out of balance…and of course she told me to relax and don’t be stressed and all that..easy for people to tell us that but it’s sooo not what i wanna hear cause it is harder than it sounds!it’s comforting to know i’m not the only one so i just wanted to share my story and thank everyone else cause i feel so much better knowing i’m not alone!

  33. silvia Aug 11 at 4:50 pm Reply Reply

    HEY GIRLS WELL I STILL HAVENT GET PREGNET.SO I WENT TO THE STORE AND BUY THAT TEA ORGANIC RASPBERRY LEAF TEA.SO IM GOING TO SEE IF IT WORKS AND HOW LONG WOULD IT TAKE ME TO GET PREGENT.I JUST NEED TO RELAX!! THE GOOD THING IS THAT I HAVE 2 BEATIFULL BABIES ALL READY !!!SO LET ME KNOW WHATS GOING ON WITH YOU GIRLS AND ME TOO N

  34. silv24 Aug 11 at 5:06 pm Reply Reply

    well girls i still hevent got pregnet.but now i went to the store and buy tha tea the organic raspberry leaf tea.so hopefully that would help me out and not be stress outto work huh.well girls let me know whats working for you guys!! the good thing is that i have 2 beutifull kids rights!!

  35. Kat Nov 23 at 5:48 am Reply Reply

    Hiya everyone.
    I myself was on the Pill (YASMIN) for 3 years due to having irregular periods. How ever i just got married in April 09* and stopped taking me the pill just 4 days before my wedding.
    Anyhow, i had my periods every month but they were somewhat 7-10 days late.
    I just bought myself Raspberry Tea and have been drinking it for the past 3 weeks now and guess what, this month my period was spot on – on time. I’m currently away from my husband at the moment, for a few months – which is good, as i can then see how my cycles are going now and aim to get them back on track.
    **I recommend Raspberry Tea for all!**

  36. Karessa Nov 30 at 10:24 am Reply Reply

    Well Im 20 and not wanted to have any babies yet but I got off bc march 09 I was on it 4 years then didn’t have a period until the doctor gave me meds to start but after that I’ll still haven’t had one but my hormones or all messed up I have crazy syptoms like ance and hair in weird places and I never had that before. And I have to be trying my Hubby crazy with my mood swings I get really emotional ughh I hate this I’ve tried to talk to the doctors but off course we have free medical and no one wants to help be so I’m just hoping eventually everything will go back to normal with out having to get back on bc!!!!!

  37. KG Jan 03 at 10:24 pm Reply Reply

    Glad I found this page after months of reading around and doing my own research with books and homeopathy. I would love to read if any of these ladies ever got regular or pregnant. Same story…almost… on Yasmin for 10 years (I’m 33) never was told that this would be a problem and I ASKED EVERY VISIT! I went off the pill in March ’09, I had very perfect periods until September, then the month we decided to try (October) I stopped having my period. No period since late septmeber and it’s now Jan 3rd. Multiple pregnancy tests, at home and by blood — all negative. I finally went and got an ultrasound because I wanted to make sure my ovaries and uterus was healthy… this really helped ease my stress! Everything looks very healthy and multiple eggs are forming on the ovary, but still no period. Everyone should know: YOU CAN OVULATE ANYTIME DURING THESE MISSED PERIODS (that helps me not feel so frusterated bc we really want to get pregnant. I have now been seeing a homeopath who has put me on several good supportive hormones including RHODESIA and SIMPLEX F (much stronger than rasberry leaf tea) as well as some liquid tinctures that support estrogen and progesterone. I, too, had been taking my basel body temp and getting all into fertility awareness, but that was before I stopped my cycle, so now reading my temp is frustrating. I wish someone who posted here would come back and tell us how long it took and that it worked out!!! When I get pregnant or get my period, I’ll come back. Until then, nice to hear others are feeling just like me.
    Thanks!

  38. KG Jan 05 at 3:21 pm Reply Reply

    CORRECTION: I’ve been taking 400 mg./day of RHODIOLA, not RHODESIA. This was prescribed by my naturopath doctor.I have also been taking a pre-natal multi-vitamin and DHA since September…. okay, sorry about the typo.

  39. chantel Jan 07 at 10:48 am Reply Reply

    it’s good to see I am not the only one, I thought I was going mad, 9 months off the pill after being on it for 11 years….. I have been diagnosed with PCOS and although I have been gettin treatment for the last 4 months, still no luck….wish you all luck

  40. KG Jan 23 at 5:08 pm Reply Reply

    I’m back with news! I started my period yesterday for the first time since September. I am so happy to feel like things are flowing again, and I am out of the static limbo I’ve been in for the past several months. I really feel that the Rhodiola helped me. It’s an intuitive thing, but I really felt when I got the higher quality, liquid capsules, 200mg. each, 2x a day, I felt things began to change. My breasts became super tender last week and I felt like I might be pregnant, so even though I’m not pregnant this time around, I am happy to be back in the flow. I’m also VERY happy that I waited for my body to do it naturally, rather than force a period with provera or some other pharm/drug. That’s all — just thought I’d advance the stream a bit with my news….
    crossing fingers for an ovulation a few weeks from now!!

  41. KT Jan 24 at 1:02 pm Reply Reply

    I just have to say, I went off the pill around October 2008….and my period has fluctuated between 30 and 37 days. I was on the pill on and off since I was about 20 (I went off of it at 26). Now almost a year and 1/2 later…I just got my period at 27 days (almost a week early at this point). I was like WTF this morning!
    Maybe I’m finally getting back to normal.
    Thanks for all posting…its really REALLY helpful.

  42. ALS Feb 03 at 11:40 am Reply Reply

    Hi all,
    i was starting to worry tht im not normal with irregular periods and negative results.
    i feel so relieved tht im not alone in this.
    i have been using yasmin for 3 1/2 yrs. i came off since june 2009, so to date its almost 8 mths.
    i have been getting really irregular periods,ranging from 45-50 days.i was irregular bef starting BC.
    im currently waiting on it at day 45.
    im not trying to get pregnant right now but will like to within the nx couple of months.
    Im so happy tht im not alone in this, will try to locate the raspberry tea to regulate it for now.
    will keep you all posted. :)

  43. Parli Feb 05 at 6:37 am Reply Reply

    I have tears in my eyes reading this post and these comments. I am going through exactly the same thing. I know the thing to do is relax but it is hard at 33 with so much pressure and wanting kids so badly.

  44. KG Mar 06 at 2:33 pm Reply Reply

    Hello again, I don’t have much news to report except that I just feel frustrated and anxious today.Since my last post (announcing my 1st period in months after going off yasmin) I had a pretty “normal” cycle in terms of my BBT. It was longer than what people consider”normal” but after all these months, I was so happy to see an actual pattern. I think I ovulated (based on a good shift in my temp) and now I am spotting brown. I am hoping that it could be implantation bleeding, as my BBT is still high at 98.9. Either way, I guess I can be thankful that my cycle is somewhat returned after those months of stasis. If you are thinking of doing the progesterone/clomid fix, I would really try the natural but effective Rhodiola. Google it and read the studies on helping with regulating cycles AND pregnancy rates.

  45. CG May 24 at 4:54 am Reply Reply

    Hi Ladies,

    Same boat as everyone else. Got off the pil in Dec 2012. Had my first period on Feb 5 next April 1 (55 days) and just started another one today May 24 (53 days). I am hoping the cycle days are getting shorter each cycle. Will start BBT today and natural remedies like the Raspberry leaf Tea and Papaya. Hoping the next period comes sooner or better still a BFP.

    @ KG How is it going with out.. Really following your story might look into Rhodiola myself..

  46. Shetandra Jun 17 at 7:38 pm Reply Reply

    I got off the shot in feb n my cycle stayed on for three weeks. Than it came on in april 28 days later in may but it havent came on yet for this month. Why is that?

  47. Lauren Jun 24 at 6:44 am Reply Reply

    I have always had irregular periods. (I am 21 years old) Usually I am only 2-3 weeks late, but after going on the pill and coming off of it, my cycles have been every 60 days. Now I haven’t gotten my period since March and I am worried. I took 4 pregnancy tests so far. One every week on Fridays. All negative. I’ll update this page if/when I get my period again.

  48. MM Aug 04 at 12:30 pm Reply Reply

    Well I’m with you… I was really stressed out. I started the pill at 18 got off it April 14 (@28yrs old) got my period 4/17, 5/23, 6/26 So I was think ‘Okay I’ve got a 35 day cycle” and tested 8/1 when I didn’t have my period now it is 8/4 w/ no period. My husband keeps saying its late because I am stressed and excited that I could be. I had regularish periods before BC and after the negative result I cried (I had no idea how much it would upset me). Now seeing this I am relieved that this is normal but also angry. Why didn’t anyone tell me it could take a year or more! I will try and relax, maybe stop by the co-op and get some tea….. i wish you all luck getting pregnant and feeling normal again!

  49. amber Dec 05 at 3:59 pm Reply Reply

    Hi i just had a question, i had my iud taken out back in april and my doctor put me on apri 28but i stop taking it 2 weeks ago cause my boyfriend and i want to try to have our first baby. How soon could i get pregnant? Cause my stomach area is starting to harden and im starting to blowt but what does that mean. Any help would be nice thank you

  50. Jodi Jul 28 at 5:40 pm Reply Reply

    I’m so thankful for finding this website!! I was on b/c for about a year maybe a little longer. Well, my doctor said it was okay for me to go ahead and get off the pill, so my husband and I could try to conceive. So, I did. I got off the pill just this year, February 28, 2014 to be exact. My periods have been irregular since around the age of 13 or 14 and I had my first period at age 11, ON MY BIRTHDAY! What a great birthday present, huh? Anyway, I had regular periods the whole time I was on the pill, then in March as well. Since then, however, I’ve had cramps and mood swings, but no period. I’ve taken several pregnancy tests and all were negative. I kept thinking something was wrong with me, even after being told by my doctor that everything was fine, that thought just wouldn’t leave my mind! I was so frustrated and stressed, thinking that I had to be the only one with this kind of situation. After seeing this though, I feel so much better knowing that I’m really not the only one!

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