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To Get A Second Dog, or Not to Get a Second Dog (A Real Family Drama, in Two Acts)

Aug09

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To me it isn’t even a question.
My children have been trying to convince me to let them get another dog. Something which is not going to happen. Nope. Never. Not getting a second dog. No thank you.

I grew up without pets of any kind. I wasn’t upset by this. I didn’t feel deprived. I could have lived the rest of my days without ever entertaining the thought of getting a pet. My children felt their lack of pets was cruel and unusual punishment, bordering on abuse. They told me over and over how deprived they were. They promised that they would take care of a dog if we got one.

When the kids had grown older, I relented. So a year ago we got Rosie from the shelter. I fell in love with her. She is a great dog. I finally understood all those people who think of their pets as children. I was content with one perfect dog. In fact, I wrote a post not long ago about why everyone should consider getting a dog. And for the record, my children exceeded my expectations in the way they care for her.

Now my children think we need a second dog. They look at the photos of cute dogs on rescue websites. They tear up when that sad commercial with the Sarah McLachlan song comes on the TV and beg me to rescue another dog. My God, those puppies are so sad and abused, what kind of monster is my mother not to want to go get another one. They don’t verbalize this, of course, but I’m sure that is what they are thinking. Hell, I am thinking that. Despite that, I really don’t want another dog. I like having an “only dog.”

Over the course of the past few months we have had numerous conversations like these, conversations which prove that my children are listening to me, even if they sometimes pretend otherwise.

Me: “I think the dog we already have is perfect. We will never find another dog as great as she is!”
Kids: “Don’t you think all of us are great?”

Me: “What if Rosie hates the new dog?”
Kids: “She won’t hate a dog sibling. We don’t hate each other.”

Kids: “Rosie seems lonely. She wants a playmate.”
Me: “I don’t think she cares.”
Kids: “We would be lonely if we didn’t have each other to play with.”
Me: “You mean bicker and argue with?”
Kids: “We would be so sad without each other.”
Me: “Not if you never knew each other existed!”
Kids: “No, we would know!”

Me: “Two dogs mean twice as much work.”
Kids: “But we take care of Rosie. Don’t we?”
Me: “Yes, but this would be even more work than you do now.”
Kids: “We will do it!”

Me: “I just don’t know if I can love another dog.”
Kids: “But you say you love all of us… Have you been lying? Is there an end to how much love you have?”

Me: “I worry that maybe you guys won’t like the new dog as much and ignore it.”
Kids: “No, we would so like the new dog just as much. We like each other! It would be like if you had another baby, we would like it.”
Other kid: “Hey, that’s a good idea. You should have a BABY!”
Yet Another Kid: “Yeah! A baby! We’d like a baby!”
Another kid: “Well, not instead of a dog.”

Me: “Have you all lost your minds? I am not having another baby!”

Kids: “Why? That would be awesome!”

All of this culminated into the final conversation on the matter a little over a week ago.

Kids: “Can’t we just go look at this puppy? Look how cute he is. We will just look.”
Me: “I don’t know why you want to torture yourselves by just looking at a puppy we aren’t going to get.”
Kids: “Please, Mom. Pllleeeeeeeeeaaase?”
Me: “Okay. But don’t be disappointed.”

Let me introduce you to Max.

 

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Chris Jordan

http://notesfromthetrenches.com
Chris Jordan began blogging at Notes From the Trenches in 2004 where she writes about her life raising her children in Austin, Texas.

Oh, she has seven of them. Yes, children.

Yes, they are all hers.

No she's not Catholic or Mormon. Though she wouldn’t mind having a sister-wife because holy hell the laundry never stops.

Yes, she finally figured out what causes it. That's why her youngest is almost 6.

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She enjoys referring to herself in the third person.

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10 Responses to “To Get A Second Dog, or Not to Get a Second Dog (A Real Family Drama, in Two Acts)”

  1. Hi, I'm Natalie. Aug 09 at 8:59 pm Reply Reply

    Heh. Love this. :)

  2. Grammy Aug 10 at 2:37 am Reply Reply

    Well, I could have told you the minute you said, “Okay, but…” that you were bringing home a new dog. I know you and the children have already fallen in love with Max, and I’m betting Rosie has, too.

    Hell, I love the guy, and I don’t even know him personally. Happy dog days to you and yours. Two dogs really are cool to live with.

    By the way, you’re kids are old enough to know that you are not going to give them another baby brother or sister. They are master negotiators. You’ve raised some smart ones!

  3. Claire Aug 10 at 3:12 pm Reply Reply

    Love it :) cute dog too – doubt I could have resisted that face x

  4. Stephanie Aug 12 at 11:20 am Reply Reply

    Heh.  We started out with just one dog, many years ago.  Then we got a second.  Then a third (we are a bit crazy, I admit!). 

    I still say that two dogs is perfect.  Three is a lot, but I wouldn’t give any of them back.  They are kind of like kids that way, aren’t they?  

    Max is adorable.  I don’t know how anyone could resist that little face!  And I bet Rose loves having some canine company.  

  5. jennifer Aug 13 at 11:18 am Reply Reply

    welcome to the dark side.

  6. meredith Aug 15 at 7:16 am Reply Reply

    Haha! Exactly why I haven’t dared stepped back through the Humane Society doors. We do love our rescue dog. I am amazed at how perfectly she fit into our family and how much we love her.
    Max is very very cute :)

  7. KellyB Aug 15 at 11:24 am Reply Reply

    OMG he is adorable.  My kids would love just one dog, but we’re never home and I think it would be cruel for a dog to be home by itself for 10 hours a day.

  8. Autumn Aug 17 at 11:35 pm Reply Reply

    At least Max probably won’t be needing college tuition like the hypothetical brother/sister they “wanted”

  9. CathyC Aug 21 at 12:06 pm Reply Reply

    That would never happen to me, that would never happen to me, that would never happen to me….
    OK, I can totally see this happening!
    Max is really cute.

  10. Tricia Aug 29 at 11:09 pm Reply Reply

    LOL I love it! Max is adorable. We are going through the same thing right now. To get a second dog or not to get a second dog.

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