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How To Handle Baby Name Regret

By Kelcey Kintner

Alpha Mom Lesson LearnedA few weeks after I gave birth to my second daughter, I looked at that precious little girl and thought to myself,  “I love you so much and I really don’t like your name.” There was nothing wrong with the name exactly. I just didn’t love it. And it wasn’t her.

During my pregnancy, I never paid much attention to our choice of girl’s name. Because I just knew in my heart, I was having a boy. It just felt like a boy and how could a mother be wrong? This mother was very wrong.

I didn’t tell anyone about my baby name regret. But I never called my daughter by her name. I mostly called her “the baby.” I would bristle when others called her by her name which is ridiculous because what else were they supposed to call her? My hope was that I would just get used to the name and I was too exhausted from taking care of a newborn and a toddler to figure out what to do.

But after 6 months, I burst.

I finally confided to a friend, “I really don’t like my daughter’s name and I don’t know what to do about it.”  And then I started crying.

I looked for signs that she thought I should be in a mental institution. But she was very supportive. I was relieved. Maybe I wasn’t crazy after all?! Telling my husband was more difficult.

“What do you mean it isn’t her name? Of course it’s her name! That’s what I’ve been calling her,” he responded completely confused.

But it wasn’t her name. And I should have spoken up months earlier. He finally agreed to change it. We renamed our daughter Summer and I knew it was perfect.  Was it awkward to change my kid’s name at 8 months?! Hell yes. But I never regretted my decision. Not for once second.

Not every mom makes this choice.

An online acquaintance, Melissa Banks (name has been changed), told me how she regretted her daughter’s name the minute she announced it. By six months, she was convinced they needed to change it but her husband loved it. “A part of me also believed only ‘crazy’  people change their kid’s name so I felt totally trapped. I had to remind myself there wasn’t a right or wrong choice, just a different road to be taken,” Banks says.

By the time Banks and her husband came up with a new name, she felt like her daughter had grown into her original name so they decided to stick with it.  But Banks does think moms should be given more time to hold, feed and get to know their baby before being pressured into picking a name.

“The hospital comes in with the paperwork before you even get a second to shower after labor!”

Not only should you take time to get to know your baby a bit before settling on a name but make sure you love the name. This can be difficult when moms and dads disagree on what to call a child. Now that I’m pregnant again, my husband texts me with the most ridiculous ideas for names so this could once again be a challenge.

And if you do have feelings of baby name regret, open up about it to your spouse and friends as soon as possible. You are not crazy (I promise!) and you will find the right answer for you and your family. Feel free to contact me and I will assure you that it is perfectly normal to feel this way and you will find a solution.

As for Summer (who is now 6), her old name is part of her history.  In fact, her siblings get jealous that they don’t have a former name.  She loves to tell people that she wasn’t always named Summer and I just know that as a rebellious teen, she’ll probably threaten to change it back.  But for me, she’ll always be my Summer.

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

Kelcey Kintner, an award winning journalist and freelance writer, is a fashion critic for US Weekly, created the humor blog 

Kelcey Kintner, an award winning journalist and freelance writer, is a fashion critic for US Weekly, created the humor blog The Mama Bird Diaries and writes for the Huffington Post. You can follow her @mamabirddiaries or on Facebook. She’s still trying to fit 5 kids on a Vespa. 

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Tara
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Tara

What was the original?? I’m dying to know!

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

Sorry that I didn’t share the original name! I just know that there are girls out there with this name and it’s perfect for them so I didn’t want to be disrespectful.

Stefania
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Stefania

I can completely relate to your story.  Only you seem stronger about it than I am.  I had a very difficult time naming my 1st daughter and when we found out we were having another girl, it was even harder.  The 1st time we chose a name right before she was born, and I was happy with our choice.  The 2nd time we names her when she was a day old.  The next day I wasn’t happy with it but my husband was.  A week later I was still unhappy but he thought it would just take me time to… Read more »

Kayla
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Kayla

This is the first time ive ever actually admitted it out loud, but I dont like my sons name either. And the sad part is that he is almost 4. Im sure that makes me a terrible mother. I guess I just always thought I would get used to it. I tried switching it around and calling him nicknames, etc. I just never found a nickname that I loved. Most of the time I just call him my “angel” or “baby.” I feel horrible about it. I think he knows what his name is. But im sure it confuses him… Read more »

Lisa
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Lisa

For the first 4 years of my life, everyone called me by my middle name – then my Mom felt that name was not right for me and asked everyone to switch to my first name (after asking me if that was ok). It’s never too late – I’ve turned out just fine (I hope ;))

Ally
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Ally

It’s funny how strongly some people feel about names. My husband and I haven’t agreed much, so what we do is we each pick a name and then leave it up to hair color. When my third was born we couldn’t agree on a boy’s name. I picked a name for a dark haired boy and he picked a name for a light haired boy. He had light hair, so my husband got him name. We obviously had to be ok with each other’s choices. I’m so glad my husband got his pick, because now I love his name. 

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

That is a very original way to do it! Love it.

Ambaa
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I’ll have to try this! Cause with my genetics there is almost no chance the baby could be light haired 🙂 

Kate F.
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Kate F.

We used traditional family names for both kids, with less traditional nicknames. I messed up the communication of it w our son Thomas–I was embarrassed that the nickname we wanted to use, Tuck, was also the name of my husband’s grad school. So we started w Tucker on the birth announcement, and used it for about 5-6 months. I HATED it (just not right for him or us) and of course he got everything from blankets to a stool personalized as gifts. Plus I’ve spent the last 2 years trying to get everyone to switch to the nickname we always… Read more »

Lisanam
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With our second, she was unnamed for four days.  My parents, the hospital, my friends were all pressuring us to chose her name, but nothing felt right.  We needed to get to know this little person a bit before choosing her name.  I’m so glad that we stood up to all the pressure to find the right name for her.  

J
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J

I completely agree with this! It is weird beyond weird to me how people “announce” what their child will be named before they even meet this person, but maybe that is because my own parents always waited until they met us kids to name us. To be quite honest it kind of worries/bugs me when parents announce the name ahead of time. Of course, my parents had ideas and lists of names they liked in mind, but they said they did not know for several days after I was born what I should be named for sure. Like “Lisanam,” my… Read more »

Annie W
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I had a few doubts after my little girl was born, but had chosen family names that I loved for both her first and middle names.  How could I go to my family and say I had changed my mind?  Plus, in my religion the baby is given the name in a ceremony, and we had already done that too!  But here we are, she’s 8 months old, and I LOVE her names!  I’m glad I didn’t change them!

A
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A

I’m one of those annoying women who name their babies in utero! My first daughter’s name was one my husband and I both loved and announced when we found out that she was a girl. My third child, a boy, we named after my father and grandfather (with a different nickname) and announced with the 20 week ultrasound as well. My middle daughter was harder. At 20 weeks we still hadn’t decided on a name, but found out that she might not live to be born. She did survive but I was never sold on the name my husband picked… Read more »

zinna
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zinna

My MIL came home as Female Lastname. It took her parents two weeks to name her. They still sometimes that her name is fuh-mah-lee.

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

Female Lastname is a beautiful name! 🙂 I think it’s great when people take time to figure out the right name.

R
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R

My first refused to reveal her gender before birth, so we had no opportunity of naming her before she arrived. I was so struck at the wonder of meeting her, whole and new, for the first time! Her name, chosen several hours after birth was and is exactly right for her. With my second, I refused to learn her sex ahead of time but had a list of 5-6 names for each. She came out so wholly unique and unexpected that as I tried those names one by one, none of them fit. We had to start all over in… Read more »

Karen
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Karen

A friend of mine changed her son’s name shortly after his 1st birthday. It was no big deal. Not sure how she handles the pics of “Happy Birthday Old Name” on his cake, but I don’t think anyone cares. Good for you!

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

My daughter Summer’s baby book is filled with her old name from the birth announcement to cards. But it’s okay. Because her old name is just a part of her!

tango november whisky
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tango november whisky

I totally thought we’d go to the hospital with a narrowed-down list of names and name him when we met him. Then my husband mentioned a name for our son and it really stuck with me. So we have a name and 4 weeks left til he’s due. It was a ‘wedding dress’ moment for me. I just knew. 🙂

Heather
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Heather

On three occasions, I went to the hospital with my short list. Each time, we took the whole 4 day stay to think about and try on a name(s). I never felt bad about taking a long time. But people had the hardest time understanding what took so long to name the baby! To me, it is a huge deal! It takes 9 months to make the list, and then you’ve got to see the baby & match the right name. I do have a tiny bit of regret on my daughter – we call her by her middle name.… Read more »

Autumn
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Autumn

We wanted the surprise when the baby was born so we didn’t find out ahead of time, but I was convinced I was having a boy.  We had our girl name right away (like at 2 months), and a short list of boy names, but the leader I just never felt like it flowed.  I’m so glad she is a she because my Mr just didn’t understand why I didn’t like the “flow” of the boy name. 

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey Kintner

Sometimes it all works out the way it’s meant to!

Kacie
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Kacie

I’m wondering — if you aren’t settled on a name AFTER the birth, do people take that as an open opportunity to start making lots of suggestions/demanding to know what you’re working with? EEP!

Charmi
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My parents felt this way 31 years ago and decided even though I was six months old they would change my name. So they did it. And it’s never been an issue. Just in case you’re still thinking about it.

Charmi
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Ah! You did it! I missed that bit (it’s late and the baby’s keeping me up). Good for you guys 🙂

Katherine
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Katherine

I like in the UK, and here you have six weeks to “register” the birth, where the official birth certificate and name is issued.  It does take a lot of the pressure off to get a name right away…from the hospital, at least! The families still want to know right away.  For my daughter, we had a short-list boys and girls names and decided to see the baby to make the decision. I  must say, though, it still wasn’t clear after looking at her little face! I still wanted to call her our nickname we used while she was in… Read more »

LBH
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LBH

We named our firstborn…actually before we were ever pregnant..or married. I had a dream when we were engaged that we had a baby (in the dream, I never knew if it was a boy or a girl) and the baby’s name stuck with me. We decided if it ever happened for us, we’d go with that name regardless of whether it was a boy or a girl and we did. Never regretted it once.  Now, the grandparents… they took some convincing–ha ha.  But yeah. I understand wanting to “know” the baby before you name him or her–that makes sense to… Read more »

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Mommaof4

I too had baby name regret. I had a hard pregnancy and truly believe I wasn’t coming home with a baby so it didn’t matter what we named him. Even after he was born and healthy despite knot in umbilical cord I truly didn’t believe he would come home with me. Nurse came in to have me sign the paperwork and I put the name we had discussed but not the name I felt was his name. He wasn’t coming home with me I thought. I too called him “the baby” and it annoyed me when people called him by… Read more »

kelly
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for 37 weeks i debated, stewed, hemmed and hawed and could not for the life of me decide on my (now 12 week old) sons middle name. i wanted one name. my husband wanted another. and yet my mother wanted another. they brought me the birth certificate paperwork in the hospital immediately after delivery and i was just not ready to make the big decision. they came in to my room on fifteen different occasions asking me if i was ready to turn the papers in. i just couldn’t do it. so finally on the final day, and after being… Read more »

Katie
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Katie

I am deeply struggling with this. We named our daughter and while I was pregnant everyone that we talked to loved it which made us love it even more. But now whenever I am asked her name people give confused looks and mispronounce it, which makes my skin crawl! I read that it is one of the most hated girls names but has risen from #800 to #488 in popularity so that gives me some hope, but I don’t want her to struggle. My friends and family keep reassuring me that I should not care about what other ppl think–but… Read more »

Jennifer
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Jennifer

Hi Katie, I am in the same boat. We had a healthy, beautiful  daughter after  a high risk pregnancy. We Did not know the gender ahead of time. We were 100 percent decided on a boys name, but not on a girls. We thought when we see her we will know. Well, we had to a few other names that were considered and decided on an Irish name (that we did not consider until about 3weeks prior).  It was a surname and found out too that many name websites hated  it due to its trendiness, masculine meaning ( i only… Read more »

Maria
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Maria

I am so glad that where I come from most people don’t name their babies until 1-3 months after their birth, I am having a baby next march and I will have plenty of time to think of the perfect name, I think there is only one person I know who was named at the hospital

Anna
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Anna

Hey Katie i totally get it!!If you don’t likE your child name,I would def change now!than regret rest of your life!they is not a laws that says You have to stay with the name that you dont like!!

Laura
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Laura

Hi. I came across your story of your daughters name and wanted to contact you. My daughter is 6 weeks old and like you I felt totally pressured into her name. 
I feel unable to change it because I’m scared I live to regret the change but I constantly wish I could turn back time and picked a different name to start with and avoided these feelings. I no irrational as cannot turn back time and every other day I change my mind as to what I would change it to so am I being ridiculous?
Thanks
Laura x

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Moxie
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Moxie

I also had tremendous name regret. It wasn’t that the name didn’t fit my daughter is that everyone kept confusing the name I picked for another name (a name that I hate!) so I got sick of it and changed her name after she turned one. It was a hassle and a bit expensive and super awkward. I actually got new announcements made with her new name. I was worried about how weird it was to change a child’s name and was worried that people would think I was crazy so I just keep her old first name as her… Read more »

Keri
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Keri

Thank you for this. It’s comforting to know that people struggle with names and that some even change them! I struggled with our son’s name as we named him something my dad (and husband eventually ended up liking) over a name we both wanted and I had been calling the baby before giving birth. Then for 8 weeks I struggled with ppd and his name didn’t help matters any. At 6 weeks, and after a lot of discussions we changed his name to the one we originally were thinking (another great reason to not reveal names till after birth). It… Read more »

Véronique
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Véronique

Hello, I just started reading articles and posts about regretting a baby’s name and I found this site. I felt as if I were the one writing it! Same exact situation. We did not know if our second baby was a boy or a girl, but I really thought it was a boy so we had decided on Nathan We actually talked about baby girl names, but could not really agree on one. The baby finally came and it was a girl. I was thrilled, but the name talk with my husband was not very conclusive. We ended up giving… Read more »

Steph
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Steph

I am so glad this forum exists and I am not the only one feeling that way. I have not spoken to anyone regarding my feelings as they go back and forth. Quite frankly I am feeling a little crazy and “unstable”. During the pregnancy of our second son I was very emotional and a little sad (that I wasn’t ever going to have a daughter) but I soon got over that and my hubby and I started thinking of names. Well, I was the only one ever suggesting names and him not liking any. One day I finally found… Read more »

Lea
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Lea

Oh my god, I’m so relieved to read that other mothers are going through what I am. My beautiful baby boy is 6 and a half months old and I’m really regretting his name 🙁 it’s a biblical name that I have LOVED for years but my husband hated it throughout my pregnancy and we therefore never road tested it. We road tested several others and fell in love with ‘f’ and called him it for the last month of my pregnancy. I had a really difficult birth and when my husband was holding our baby in his arms he… Read more »

Mummyto4
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Mummyto4

I thought it was just me!! So relieved to read all these as I don’t know anyone else who feels the same. Mine is slightly more unusual as I have only recently gone off my sons name…and he is 8! The annoying thing is we had another name throughout pregnancy but just before he was born I went off the name and started liking this quite unusual (for the UK anyway!) name which I have always liked. When he was born everyone would give me funny looks or ask how to spell it. Some people were so rude! I had… Read more »

les
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les

Similar thing with me. I was in love with a name the whole time I was pregnant but decided to change the spelling last min. When we came home from the hospital I started feeling regret. I waited until she was six weeks old until I said anything to my husband. Of course he didnt understand right away but eventually agreed to change the spelling to a better way I thought. I thought this change would make it better for me and make me love her name well it didnt. She is six months old and not a day goes… Read more »

Alexandra
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Alexandra

I have to comment because I too felt this way when I looked at my first born girl. Mainly too because of a pervious dream I had before she was born. The dream was her as a young women. She looked like me and my husbands sister all in one. She was beautiful and tall and she talked to me. She said, ” mom, why did you name me Heather? I wanted you to name me Isabelle”. It was so strange because I was not considering naming her heather. But i cannot recall, thinking back now, if the name Isabelle… Read more »

wendy
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wendy

My daughter just tured 10 months. She is our 2nd daughter. Our first was easy to name. She is named after my grandma and i love her name and that she is named after someone i loved. We didnt have any otger family names that really meant anything I really like famiky names though. Our daughter came early and i feel we just went with her name because we liked it but didnt really talk about it. About a week after she was born i realized we could have named her Josephine… Joseph was my dads middle name and i… Read more »

Michelle
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Michelle

As others have said I am in the same boat. We didn’t find out what we were having before she was born and I always thought I was having a boy but knew I would be so happy no matter what the gender would be. Well we had a list of top 3 for boy and top 3 for girl and we would wait to decide when we saw him or her. Since we didn’t narrow the list to our number 1 favorite before hand I didn’t do any research on the names. They were just chosen by the way… Read more »

Anna m
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Anna m

I really dislike my daughters middle name, she’s 11 months now and not a day goes by where I wish I had called her this other name I really, really love. The thing is her middle name is after my mum. So I feel I can’t change it, although I really want to. Infact 3 days after her birth certificate came I had filled in the new paper work from birth death and marriages to add the other name to her name, I walked to the post office and then changed my mind  and didn’t post it, thinking it was… Read more »

R
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R

Hi Kelcey, What reason did you put on the Change of name form? Obviously since I’m here I too have regret. I honestly don’t know how I let it happen and since day one have regretted the name L came home with. I too called him ‘the baby’ for the first three months and then after reading this post decided to tell my husband. He is adamant we keep L’s current name. For the moment anyway. I’m still trying to work on him as I can’t imagine calling him L for the rest of my life. At the moment I’m… Read more »

D
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D

I am so glad to read all these comments, I have been feeling so alone. I never imagined I would be in such a situation, but I hate my baby’s name. Even though I told my husband I disliked the name, he refused to consider anything else. After three days of arguing… exhausted, drugged, emotional, in pain, and under pressure from my husband and the hospital, I finally gave in. Almost immediately and every day since, I have begged my husband to let me change it, but he refuses. I never use the name unless I have to identify her… Read more »

N
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N

De I believe you could follow baby centers advice and create a nickname for the baby. It doesn’t have even to be related to the real name.  I’m in the same boat as everyone here except for the fact in my country you CANNOT change a name after giving it to your child. And the name I let my husband out in my baby was his own name, which is associated to poor people, strange and unissex. Thing is, it’s my husband and his own father’s name. So my kid is the III. I let him do it without thinking.… Read more »

D
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D

Thank you, N. I’m so sorry that you are also (really!) stuck with a name you don’t like. It is a terrible feeling, isn’t it? I hope you can find a good nickname for your little one. I have always liked “Trey” for 3rd.. I would be fine with a nickname if my husband would agree, but he won’t. I hope you can forgive yourself for a moment of weakness at such a vulnerable moment in your life (something I struggle with, misled). Hormones really are powerful!

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Hey Ladies, So i am a new mommy of a Five month old and I am very unhappy with the name I gave her. Half the time I was pregnant I was OK with the name and around 6 months changed my mind about it My mother and aunties would make it worse by rubbing my belly and talking to her calling her by her name. My baby’s dads mother/family threw me a baby shower and that’s a reason why I feel stuck changing her name because of all the details she did by adding her name in the baby… Read more »

Taylor
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Taylor

Wow! So glad I stumbled across this…I was seriously thinking I was going CRAZY! I found out I was pregnant again and I wished for another boy, but my little princess had different plans! And I couldn’t be happier, she is seriously the most beautiful thing I have ever seen! We don’t pick names until we see our little ones. And in the hospital my husband picked the most perfect name for her, we both loved it. THEN his family had so much to say because they did not like it, his sister even made the most foul, wrong, disgusting… Read more »

T
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T

I’m feeling a little less alone in this after reading all your posts! Thank you! My darling little boy was born 9 months ago. Im English and my husband is French and we live in the UK. For some insane reason I decided to call our son a beautiful French name, which I regretted the minute I told my family and they looked shocked and disappointed that I had not only chosen a name that they couldn’t pronounce, but I had also completely ignored the whole English side of my baby’s heritage! The moment I realised my fatal mistake I… Read more »

W
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W

I am also super relieved that I am not the only one with the baby name regret. I didn’t even no such thing exists but now it hit me so strongly. Ever since I new we’re having a girl I new felt that her name is Mira. My husband was ok with it, but it was not his favorite. Moreover his family was literally hating the name and that was the reason he started moving away from it. We were considering different options as we really wanted to make sure that both of us are happy with the name. Time… Read more »

D
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D

W- if my husband would agree, I would change my baby’s name in a heartbeat. My baby is now 9 months old and the feeling has not gone away, it has just gotten worse. Do it. Other people always have opinions about names, but she is your baby. Change her name and be happy. 

D
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D

If anyone checks back here, I would love to hear any updates.

Nicole
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Nicole

Thank you to everyone who has posted here – it is comforting and reassuring. My advice is to change your baby’s name as soon as you start having doubts, if they are still young enough. We took 2 weeks to name our daughter, tossing up between 3 names. I eventually chose the name I had liked for most of my pregnancy, but ignored the fact I had developed doubts about it at around 35 weeks. I went with that name as I feared I would later regret not choosing it, given I had liked it for so long. Turns out… Read more »

Nicole
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Nicole

And to D, it’s not too late at 9 months. Would your husband consider going to a counsellor with you to talk it through? Might help to have someone mediate the conversation a bit. I really feel for you as I understand how awful it is.

D
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D

Thank you, Nicole. We did try counseling but he wouldn’t budge and didn’t change my feelings, either. I’m sorry you are still feeling this pain. 

M
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M

I am so glad I found this site. Reading these stories really had helped me with our decision. Here is our story…The initial name we gave our son in the hospital was changed as soon as we heard the nurse pronounce it. It sounded awful. We decided to just change one letter and thought that would help. Luckily we had only told a few people at that point. Then everyone who heard the name with the new letter could not pronounce it correctly. I would wince every time I heard someone say it wrong (which happened each time someone would… Read more »

Candace
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Candace

Hi, I just had my very 1st daughter July 2015 and I’ve always wanted a lil girl after having 3 boys. My husband and I had a difficult time agreeing on a name, she came 2weeks early and we still hadn’t agreed on a name, I felt so pressured and overwhelmed to her and now I regret her name. I cry everyday over it because I feel like I let her down. I don’t want ppl to think I’m a crazy or postpartum I just really hate her name. I don’t know what to do I want to change it… Read more »

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey

Please don’t worry. Do you have a name you love? It really is a simple legal process. But it depends on the state. Each state has a legal process for changing a name (a baby’s name or any other name). It will just be a step by step thing. You will probably have to file papers at the courthouse. Why don’t you make a few calls today in your own state and try to find out the legal process for changing a name. Sometimes just taking one small step in the right direction will help your fears subside.  But don’t… Read more »

Candace
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Candace

Hi Kelcey, Thanks for your kind words and giving me hope! So, do I have a name I love? That was always the problem on why we couldn’t agree on a name, because I would like a name and my husband wouldn’t so we never got anywhere. Once at the hospital everything felt so rushed I felt forced to come up with a name, but now that I have gotten to know my daughter more I don’t see her as what we named her, however I’m still trying to work it out with my husband as to what we should… Read more »

Jen
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Jen

Phew I thought it was just me going crazy.  With my first boy we took our time and used the whole 3 weeks (Scotland) to name him, although we did get a lot of flack about taking so long.  Originally I had thought of Oliver but when he arrived it didn’t suit him.  We went through a few names and finally arrived at Samuel, it suits him perfectly.  The name just clicked with him. With my 2nd son we wanted him to name him sooner as we wanted to get a passport asap.  We ended up naming him Joseph as… Read more »

D
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D

Have you tried practicing calling him William for a few weeks? Just with your husband and a few trusted friends, maybe? Also, when strangers make small talk by asking what your baby’s name is, you can say “William”. You will probably never see them again, and it may help you find out if you like saying it out loud. Good luck!

Vmom
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Vmom

Please help! I have horrible baby name remorse and it is making me very depressed. Like every one else here I can’t call her by her name and hate it when I hear other people say it. She is 7 months now and my husband is ok with the change if it will make me happy but I am afraid that I will still feel regret for changing what we gave her at birth. I would definitely put the original in the middle to keep it as it is part of her but her name is long so nothing that… Read more »

D
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D

I worry about that, too, but I worry more that I will still hate hearing my baby’s name years from now (like Nicole). It is wonderful that your husband is supportive. Practice saying the new name with your husband and strangers. Hopefully you guys can find with a name that brings up only feelings of love and happiness when you say it to your sweet baby! 

Kelcey Kintner
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Kelcey

Not liking your baby’s name is a very lonely place to be. I think it’s great that you and your husband are working together on this. That’s really important. How about trying out a new name (that you love) as a nickname and see how it feels for a few weeks?  And I think it’s a wonderful idea to preserve the first name as a middle if you decide to go ahead with a name change.