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Parenting Trends Are So…Trendy

By Wendi Aarons

Although my kids are still relatively young, just 10 and 12-years-old, sometimes I feel like I became a mother in the Dark Ages. But 2003 really was kind of like living in a cave, I guess, because we didn’t yet have amazing things like iPhones, Twitter and Facebook. OMG, how did we even survive? How did we make it through early motherhood without being able to show the world 100 pictures of our kid’s first poop in the potty?! I have no idea.

But because I had my kids when I did, I missed many of the trends that have now become permanent fixtures in the life of parents. Some of these trends I like, some of them I don’t, and some of them just make me shake my head and say, “Why? Why? WHY? I don’t want to know that even exists, weird cousin on Facebook! Stop it with the hourly pictures of Elf on the Shelf!”

My (admittedly strong) opinions aside, Alpha Mom wants to know what you think of some of these now commonplace Parenting Trends. Should they Stay? Or should they Go Away? Let us know what you think!

Smash Cakes

smash cake trend
It’s now popular to bake or order a special mini or “smash” cake for your baby’s first birthday party. Basically, this is an individual cake given to the little one to destroy while the parents take as many pictures as humanly possible. Whee! Cake material supplier Wilton and Betty Crocker even have recipes and designs for very elaborate smash cakes on their websites, but I think it seems like a lot of work for something that’ll be wrecked almost immediately. (But please note that I wouldn’t mind getting one of these for my next birthday. I’m in my 40’s. Lemme smash something.)

Elf on the Shelf Shenanigans

inappropriate elf
Years ago, there was no such thing as an elf figurine that parents put in different places every night to “spy” on their kid and report back to Santa. No, we had to make our kids behave the old-fashioned way: With threats and intimidation. But while Elf on the Shelf seems like a lot of fun for some kids, we have to wonder: does it only work if the parents post 1,000 pictures of their elf on social media? Also what about the pictures of the naughty elves snorting fake cocaine? (okay, those Inappropriate Elf pictures are totally for the parents and they’re pretty hilarious.) But why so many elves, people?

Gender Reveal Cakes and Parties

gender reveal cupcakes by sweetpeaskitchen
I didn’t find out the sex of my babies in advance, however, I’m in the minority in that now it’s even become popular to have a big party where the gender of the baby-to-be is announced to friends and family with a grand flourish (in fairness, Alpha Mom did a party craft idea post around it as well, and it was controversial). Sometimes the mother even goes as far as giving the bakery the secret ultrasound results in an envelope, then the bakery makes a cupcake with either a pink or a blue filling that the pregnant woman only sees when she bites into at the party. “I taste boy!” Might be fun, but let’s hope a bakery never screws up and uses green frosting.

Elaborate Pregnancy Announcements

pregnancy annoucements
If you’re pregnant and don’t make your own rap video to announce it like this couple in Utah did, are you really pregnant? Much like wedding proposals, pregnancy news has now become more of a production than simple, happy words you tell your friends and family at a backyard BBQ. There are art-designed cards from places like TinyPrints, original songs, poems and many other creative ways to spread the word. Not to mention the plethora of peed-on pregnancy test sticks we’ve seen posted on Facebook. Yeah. Don’t do that.

Valentine’s Day Cards for Every Kid in Class

class valentines trend

When we were kids, you gave a card to whoever you wanted to have one. Now teachers and schools insist that everyone gives a valentine card to everyone else in class so nobody gets their feelings hurt. (But that doesn’t bother us as much as the handmade fancy cards some moms make and pretend their 3-year-old did it.) We don’t see anything wrong with this, but what do you think?

Decorated School Lockers

decorated school lockers trend
Believe it or not, the boring, metal school lockers that we grew up with are now worthy of their own show on HGTV as they’re sporting shag carpet, decorated mirrors and even working chandeliers. In our opinion, all a school locker needs to be awesome is an 8 x 10 of Shaun Cassidy and a few packs of Bubble Yum, but it seems that times have changed and now parents want to give their students something unique. What do you think? Do lockers need carpet?

You’re Going to Disneyland! And We’re Telling You On Camera!

surprise disney trip videos
Why give your kid the exciting news that they’re going on a big trip in private when you can videotape it and post it on YouTube for the world to enjoy instead (especially the epic failures)? We’ve seen a lot of these videos go viral and we’re sure that Disney loves every single one of them. But we have to wonder where all of the “You’re going to the pediatrician for booster shots!?!?” videos are. Those seem like a fun idea, too.

Public Shaming

shaming children in public trend
Posting a picture of your dog on social media wearing a sign around his neck that says, “I Chew Shoes” is bad enough, but at least the dog doesn’t have access to Wi-Fi. Unlike the kids who will someday find the “hilarious” pictures their parents posted of them wearing signs that said things like “I pooped in the bathtub.” We’re guessing they won’t be laughing much. On their therapist’s couch.

Push Presents

Not too long ago, the present a woman got after going through childbirth was….a child. But now we have “push presents” where significant others are made to think they have to give the new mom a piece of jewelry to, I don’t know, reward them for their hard work? I’m not saying I wouldn’t have been happy to get a pair of earrings while recovering from my C-section, but it certainly isn’t something I expected to get. Push Presents apparently started being a thing in the early 90s, but I didn’t get the memo and was happy with the can of Diet Coke my husband brought me from the cafeteria.

Whew, finally got all of that out of my system! Now, tell us what you think about each new parenting trend. And if I forgot any, please let me know that, too. I’m still trying to escape the Dark Ages.

Photo sources: Inappropriate Elf, Gender Reveal Cupcakes, Elaborate Pregnancy Announcement, Class Valentines, Decorated School Lockers.

About the Author

Wendi Aarons

Wendi Aarons is an award-winning humor writer and blogger who lives in Austin, Texas with her husband and two sons. You can usually find her at

Wendi Aarons is an award-winning humor writer and blogger who lives in Austin, Texas with her husband and two sons. You can usually find her at Wendi Aarons, The Mouthy Housewives or starting fistfights near the 70% off rack at Target.

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  • Claire

    December 19, 2013 at 9:21 am

    There should be an all of them option. They’re all tripe.

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 11:03 am

      That’s a great idea. I’ll adjust the poll.

      • Isabel Kallman

        Isabel Kallman

        December 19, 2013 at 12:09 pm

        unfortunately, i can’t add it. Too many parents (yay!?!) have already participated in the poll and it will screw up the data. Thanks for you smart suggestion though.

  • meg...

    December 19, 2013 at 9:31 am

    I can’t pick just three!!!

  • Hi, I'm Natalie.

    December 19, 2013 at 10:15 am

    I’m a big fan of… whatever floats your boat.

    You’re over-the-moon excited about a pregnancy and want to sing it from the rooftops? I’m happy to share in your joy. You love the wonder and triumph of a toddler making a mess? I’d be happy to take his picture. Mom & Dad are connecting every night over ridiculous Elf poses? I’ll “like” your SM photos and rejoice in the fact that you make time for fun at a stressful time of year.

    What I don’t like? Anyone feeling pressure to follow a trend. Or anyone ruining the fun because someone chooses to follow one. These “trends” can be fun. Or ridiculous & overwhelming. I’m not going to rain on anyone’s parade, no matter what they want/don’t want to do for fun with their families.

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 11:18 am

      Natalie, we’re very aligned on views. And, I feel the same way as you do. But if a mom stumbles across this and feels “bad” about her decision then she needs to rethink why she is doing it. I do over-the-top stuff all the time that others find ridiculous but I don’t care about their opinions because my choices are based on my priorities and what I care about.

      But I’m happy that you piped in (as you often do) with your smart thoughts.

      • Hi, I'm Natalie.

        December 19, 2013 at 12:56 pm

        Agreed. Everyone should feel confident with their choices, and who cares what anyone thinks!

      • other natalie

        December 20, 2013 at 3:49 pm

        LIKE! Also a big fan of do what you want

  • flwolff

    December 19, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Um…I had a smash cake at my first birthday and I was born in the 1980s. Most people I knew growing up had one as well…maybe it’s a regional thing that just ‘went viral’? 

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 11:05 am

      That’s really interesting! Maybe it was a viral thing.

    • casey

      December 19, 2013 at 2:04 pm

      I was about the say the same. The smash cake, valentines cards and lockers I had growing up in the middle of now where in the 80’s and 90’s!

      • Isabel Kallman

        Isabel Kallman

        December 19, 2013 at 2:37 pm

        posters in lockers is nothing new. Tiger beat was created for that. 🙂 We’re talking about specific wallpaper and chandeliers for your locker. That was available when you were growing up?

        I had never heard of mini cakes specifically made for 1 year olds to smash until the past few years. Where did you grow up?

        And for valentines day, i grew up in the 70s and 80s and they were not required class-wide. perhaps it was on a school by school basis? Now it’s standard policy.

    • Arnebya

      December 19, 2013 at 2:48 pm

      When I was growing up we didn’t call it a smash cake. We just let the babies take a fistful of (or smash, or stick a finger in, or whatever the temparent of the kid) the regular cake and then we ate the rest of it.

      I like people to do whatever they like. Fun is fun. But I agree with Isabel that when it becomes unfun for someone who is made to feel like something is a “should”, there’s an issue (although, I kind of have an issue too with someone feeling like she “has to” follow a trend.) While I may roll my eyes at a few of these (and indeed chose three to go away), the only one that I absolutely detest is the giving of cards to every child. Your valentine is supposed to be special, and hand selected and can surely be multiple people, but not Eric who is an ass to you every day, because he doesn’t deserve one. Eh. Be kind to everyone and all that, but it damn sure doesn’t include a card.

  • Jaida

    December 19, 2013 at 10:31 am

    You know what parenting trend I’m really over? Crapping all over someone else’s fun. Don’t like what someone posts on Facebook? Unfollow. Hide. Whatever you need to do. Don’t want to be involved in someone’s excitement over finding out the gender of their baby? Politely decline the invitation. Do you really desire to be served a piece of cake that’s had a drooly baby fist in it?

    This type of article really bums me out. There are so many moms that read here that will have hurt feelings because they choose to do some or all of these things. For the record? I have done none of them. Oh, well except the Valentine’s Day cards for every child because I don’t appreciate exclusivity at age 5. But I don’t give a monkey’s if other moms want to spend seven hours creating elaborate elf tableaus or tinting frosting. Knock yourselves out. 

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 11:12 am

      I was hoping other parents like you and Natalie would pipe in. Thanks for speaking up. Originally, in the drafts, we had a little poll below each “trend” asking whether you think it should “stay” or “go away.” But it looked too cumbersome for the reader. Now I wish we had included it.

      You’re right, we should have included as our final “trend” online judginess of fun. That would have been a good one to end the post on.

      I’ve actually participated in two of these “trends” and find this just interesting from an anthropological standpoint and was curious to see how parents would react and feel about it.

      I agree, the class valentines should stay, not go away.

  • Jillian Descaro

    December 19, 2013 at 11:36 am

    I posted something on facebook about how I thought elf on the shelf was a bit ridiculous.  The idea of having to lie to your children for A MONTH, the santa surveillance, and also I’d want my children to be good for “goodness sake”.  Being good should be its own reward.  Well let me tell you, parents got SO defensive over my post.  It got down right ugly.  I also was told I shouldn’t have an opinion, because I dont have kids yet.  I wasn’t trying to attack anyone’s parenting styles, just a gimic.   For one reason or another,  elf on the shelf is something that people take VERY personally.  From now on, I am keeping my big mouth shut on facebook lol!  Love that I can freely comment on here 🙂  

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 12:42 pm

      Jillian, when/if you do have children just wait for the comments you get about issues that actually matter in their lives.

  • Marinka

    December 19, 2013 at 12:39 pm

    I read about “sleepunders” today. Where everyone comes over, hangs out and then goes the hell home to sleep in their own bed. I think it’s less of a trend and more of a sanity thing.

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 12:41 pm

      oh, that reminds me of Chicken Pox parties. What’s up with that?

      • Wendi

        December 19, 2013 at 12:51 pm

        Yes! I think they all share the same lollypop so they all get the chicken pox.

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 12:41 pm

      also, anything that gets its own name is means it has become a trend.

  • hokgardner

    December 19, 2013 at 12:41 pm

    I’m spending less and less time on facebook and twitter because I just can’t keep up with the competitive trends – elf on the shelf, fancy announcements, gender reveals. I’m just done seeing it. Other parents want to spend their time with those shenanigans, more power to them. They just aren’t my thing. 

  • Stefanie Wilder-Taylor

    December 19, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    You had me at Shaun Cassidy poster and Bubble Yum. Great article.

  • Lulu

    December 19, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    You are hilarious as usual. You know what parenting trend I can’t stand? Moms who lose their sense of humor. I do the elf nonsense and even post pics but my feelings aren’t hurt by reading this. I laughed. Can’t we laugh at ourselves people? Thankfully I neverI succumbed to the smash cake… Cut the kid the first damn piece of cake and be done with it.

    • Wendi

      December 19, 2013 at 1:32 pm

      Thanks, Lulu! Love your perspective.

  • Hip-Baby Mama

    December 19, 2013 at 1:18 pm

    I’m sticking with fear and intimidation instead of a creepy doll. 

    • Wendi

      December 19, 2013 at 1:33 pm

      Fear and Intimidation are timeless parenting tools.

  • Em

    December 19, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    I have a 2 yo and expecting a second this spring and have not participated in any of the baby/ pregnancy/ young child items listed above. So there are still plenty of “old school” folks out there not jumping on these bandwagons. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of your own pregnancy and forget that most folks will not be so interested in the gender, each development, etc as you and your spouse may be.  I personally find the push present particularly offensive but I’m cool with whatever works for people. 

  • Amy

    December 19, 2013 at 1:37 pm

    I gave birth in 2011 and still missed all of these…what’s my excuse? Maybe that they’re all really annoying. Except maybe push presents. I would have been okay with that.

  • Practical Mama

    December 19, 2013 at 1:58 pm

    Parents’ using children’s photos or videos to go viral really irritates me. I am not talking about, “oh i got lucky and caught this funny thing on camera” type of stuff but deliberate attempts to make the child do something. Similar to “We are going to Disney” videos.
    it’s the first time I’ve heard about push presents. Too much “push” on consumption.

  • Stephanie

    December 19, 2013 at 2:59 pm

    A child of the 80s, I definitely remember having to bring Valentine’s Day cards to all of the kids in my class.

  • Rachel

    December 19, 2013 at 4:33 pm

    Born and raised in Texas, and there is a picture of me and my younger cousin (he’s around 20 now, I’m 27) with his smash cake from his first birthday. I don’t know if I had one or not. Also, at my elementary school everyone in the class received Valentine’s Day cards, but I went to a small Christian school so that was probably policy. The class sizes were very small for most of the years I went there (there were about 9 kids in my 5th grade class). I’m pregnant with my first and don’t really have a problem with most of these trends, I did do a cute pregnancy reveal photo for Facebook, well after I had told most friends and family that I see and keep in touch with regularly.

    • Rachel

      December 19, 2013 at 4:36 pm

      I wil say that I have trouble understanding the parents who actually find out the gender of their baby at a gender reveal party with the rest of their friends and family. I don’t really have a problem with the party itself (provided the parents throw it and don’t expect anyone else to chip in unless it’s offered) but finding out the sex of your baby seems intensely personal to me, and I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else judging my reaction to having a little boy (which was along the lines of…uh, really? Are you sure? Holy crap…).

  • Stace

    December 19, 2013 at 7:03 pm

    Well, I thought a “push present” was something else entirely.  😉

    After five kids, I don’t have the energy to move that elf off the shelf it landed on two years ago. And gender-reveal parties? For me, it was more of a “sobbing in my OB/GYN office because the stick turned positive” party. I thought number five was a kidney infection. Seriously. 

  • traci

    December 19, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    Another 80’s kid here. Grew up in WA. I had a smash cake at my 1st birthday. I’ve never seen a 1st birthday without one. Most of the grocery stores in WA give you a free one when you buy the big cake for the party. Also, valentines for everyone in my public school. Lockers were decorated as well. I was surprised to see them listed as new trends. I’ve also heard/seen presents for new moms (usually a birthstone item) but they were never referred to as push presents.

    I agree that some of these are rediculous. I still don’t get the elf on the shelf, but I do have to say that kids love it. I’m a substitute teacher and I always hear kids excited about their elves.

    Public shaming is completely wrong. No discipline should ever shame a child. That creates anger and resentment rather than growth. And the silly ones don’t consider their children’s futures. Remember that nothing can ever be erased from the internet. We try so hard to teach kids that and then we see parents do this.

    The disney thing is all about showing off. Great you can afford a stupid trip to disney. It’s not the end all be all. I’d like my kids to appreciate more than consumerism.

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 7:46 pm

      This is so interesting about the smash cakes being sold along with a regular cake! And “decorated” lockers, we really do mean with wallpaper and camera-ready, not Tiger Beat posters. I am so surprised about that. 🙂 Perhaps they only seem new and widespread because the internet amplifies so many things now.

  • Deborah

    December 19, 2013 at 8:40 pm

    I grew up in the mid 70s to mid 90s. None of the stuff on here bothers me if others want to do them (except maybe the public shaming). We did have to do valentine’s for everyone in the class. However, some of my children are now having to do small Christmas presents for everyone in the class! That is annoying! Not because I can’t think of some glow stick or such for my child to give, but because it means that he is coming home with 25 or so small, cheap gifts to have to clean up and do something with…bleh!

    • Isabel Kallman

      Isabel Kallman

      December 19, 2013 at 9:24 pm

      I’m with you. None of these “bother” me, except the public shaming one. But, let’s all agree some of this has gone over the top and does annoy the heck out of some. It’s not the individual act, but the collective amplification that has pushed some too far. I do eyeroll-worthy things too, but I own it. And, then try to laugh at myself when others poke fun at me. 😉

  • Lydia

    December 19, 2013 at 9:17 pm

    Ah, I totally agree with everything you said! I mostly hate-read my What to Expect birth month forum because I thought everyone was so ridiculous with their gender reveals and elaborate baby showers. Thank goodness I don’t do Facebook. Here’s another trend for you- public ultrasounds (hiring one to come to your house for your gender reveal!)

  • kelcey


    December 19, 2013 at 9:48 pm

    I think I’m jealous that people have time to set up an Elf on the Shelf hot tub with Barbies b/c it seems hilarious. I don’t think we should take any of this too seriously. It’s all fun and funny and now I’m off to decorate my 1988 locker. Great job Wendi.

  • Sabrina

    December 19, 2013 at 9:57 pm

    I am 34. We always had to give valentines to everyone in the class. My kids are too little still for elf on a shelf but seems like a cute idea- I thought the point was the fun or the elf getting into things and being naughty being fun, not because they reported to santa?

  • Rachel

    December 21, 2013 at 5:08 pm

    I was a child of the 80s/90s, and we always brought valentines for every kid in the class. I don’t remember it being a policy, but they’d often hand out class lists before Valentine’s Day so you could remember everyone. Most parents made kids bring one for everyone, because it was the kind thing to do. Of course, you could make more elaborate ones for your closest friends and such, but it was about not making the less popular kids feel left out.

    And we had locker decorations as well. I remember whole sections of Target filled with locker shelves, locker mirrors, locker wallpaper, etc.

  • Sam

    December 22, 2013 at 11:34 am

    I was a kid in the 80s and we all had to bring valentines for everyone. We just gave out bigger or “extra” ones for closer friends. We totally also had locker decorations with special things you could hang up, etc. I also had a smash cake of sorts-my mother made them for my sister and myself although they didn’t have a cute name.  (and I’m from the middle of nowhere midwest and I was not middle class so this isn’t a wealth thing)
    I agree with some of the other commentators who said that what really upsets them is when people just can’t let others have their fun. I don’t really care what other people do with their kids, what trends they think are “new” – which just seem to be something very old that has come back into style, or where they post it. That’s their business. Places like STFU parents are sometimes funny, but sometimes the bashing is so hateful. The internet is a place that just makes everything a little more visible- including crazy parents and these “trends”- but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything has changed that much except now you can make fun of large groups of people in real time! Happy Holidays!

  • Kerry

    December 23, 2013 at 3:38 pm

    I can really relate to this post- there seems to be so much pressure to have a pinterest-worthy pregnancy and parenting experience!

    In my personal experience (as a current teacher)- it is the parents who keep track of how many Valentines their child receives compared to the other kids and then whine to the teachers about it.  (And they also claim this type of Valentine exclusion is “bullying.”)  So I’m guessing a lot of teachers enforce this rule to keep parents off their back. Plus, it is a convenient way to make everyone feel liked/included.

  • Carey

    December 24, 2013 at 12:18 am

    I have a 14 month old and haven’t done any of these trends, although I wouldn’t have minded a “push present.” I’m facebook friends with other parents and they don’t seem to practice them either. I hope my son doesn’t ever ask me for an elf on the shelf, I’ll have to say no. It’s just too creepy!

  • Katie

    December 24, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Most of the things on this list (except the public shaming), I would think are mostly harmless and even cute. (My niece tried to share her smash cake and refused to eat it until the rest of us had our pieces of the big cake.)
    But I seriously dislike the enforced Valentine’s Day cards. When I was in elementary school, we had to give Valentine’s Day cards to everyone. I gave out the standard, generic boxed cards, and I made three special cards for my best friends, which I also gave out.
    Right after the exchange, my teacher pulled me into the hallway, where I got a lecture. She said it was wrong not to give everyone the same cards. I was showing favoritism, and I had hurt my other classmates’ feelings. I cried. I couldn’t understand it. Now I understand the intent behind enforced card-giving, and I want to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. But the way it was handled hurt MY feelings and made me not want to give out any cards the next year. (And I had to anyway.)
    I hope THIS trend wears itself out by the time my baking bean is in elementary school. I would hate to have to try to explain this to her.

  • Susan:)

    December 26, 2013 at 4:39 pm

    Smash cakes have been around for a long time. Where I used to live in Florida, the grocery store would give you one for a baby’s first birthday, when you bought a regular cake.

    I’ve never heard of push presents.

    Gender reveal parties seem over the top, but I do like a simple and sweet gender reveal video. I’ve seen some cute ones.

    I personally don’t like Elf on the shelf, but I know lots of people who do and they have fun with it. Whatever floats your boat, right?

    Valentines for everyone makes sense to me, so no one feels left out, but I think it is also fine to give special ones to particular friends.

    Public shaming is just wrong.

  • Vme

    December 27, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    Smash cakes – not a new thing, but a slice of the big cake or a cupcake works just as well. No need for a personalized cake, but as others have stated: Whatever flips your switch.
    V-Day cards for everyone – Um, I never made my own as a child, always those box ones with your favorite characters from cartoons on them and of course everyone got one, even gave them to girls too. Why exclude people? My stance, if you don’t want to give to everyone, then don’t do it. Again: Whatever tickles your fancy.

    Push presents – Missed the boat on that one, damn! LOL

    Disney Videos – I think it’s cute, but I’m a lover of all things Disney. I am biased. If you don’t care for it, don’t watch the video. Pretty simple. Once again: Whatever floats your boat.
    Decorated School Lockers – I think this is just a revolution on the pictures, posters of yesteryear. It’s a trend that has been going on since lockers were placed in schools, but has evolved. A chandelier is a bit much for my taste, but maybe some zebra wallpaper wouldn’t have been so bad 🙂 Oh have I mentioned: Go ON with your bad selves!

    Pregnancy Announcements – Maybe the more elaborate the announcement, the longer it took people to achieve a successful pregnancy? Could be somethng to that… or they could be attention hogs too, but I’m going to lean on the first part. So that means: Do what makes you happy.

    The Elf on the Shelf – For me, I think it’s stupid. Period. But I do enjoy the Inappropriate pictures, they make me laugh. It’s not for me, but I won’t poo-poo on someone else’s parade.
    Gender Reveal Parties – I actually went to a BABY SHOWER where the guests and the Mother-to-be found out the sex of the baby. It was nice, and it was a memorable moment for the couple and those who were there to share in it. Not my cup of tea as I wanted to be surprised with my daughter. I got flack from others at my OWN shower on how “hard” it was for them to find clothes, blankets, etc. Um, did you SEE my REGISTRY LIST??? We did what we wanted to do. And I didn’t apologize for it. I floated my own boat 😉

    Public Shaming – I know I’m not going to be well liked for what I’m about to say but I think that this isn’t as bad as people preceive it to be. Think about it: Information about people are right at our fingertips in regards to Megan’s Law, Court Records, Public Offenses. How is this any different? I can look up all the charges and convictions on the Internet or City Public Records on anyone I knew was arrested. I, unfortunately have an Ex-boyfriend who is currently on the Megan’s Law website. I can see his pictures, and what he was charged with. I think when people do it about their pets, it’s funny. I think when people do it about their OWN children, it’s a teaching tool. There are CONSEQUENCES to your ACTIONS. Not everyone’s parenting is the same. There are parents who spank, there are parents who use time out, there are parents who ignore their child and do nothing. I say GOOD FOR THEM for standing by their choice. Ok… I’m done.