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What to Expect: ADHD Testing and Evaluation

Preparing Without Scaring: Before ADHD Testing

By Mir Kamin

Today’s question is a topic near and dear to my heart.

J writes:

So we just finished what was a really tough school year for our 10-year-old daughter (and only child). The most difficult part was severe school refusal, complete with weeping and clinging to door frames rather than getting in the car to leave. We began seeing a family counselor, and the situation did get better, though it seems the improvement came more because our daughter made a choice to accept that school is inevitable rather than because of any particular change that we made. The other challenges relate to disorganization—not keeping up with homework, telling me at 10 p.m. the night before the class snack is needed, etc., and academic performance.

My daughter is a very bright girl—funny and clever with legit comedic timing. She loves to draw and adores dogs, and she can focus intently on activities that interest her (Pokemon, YouTube videos, swimming). But her grades do not reflect her intelligence, at all. She has gotten Cs in reading, for heaven’s sake, and she’s a great reader. She struggles in math and has not memorized her multiplication tables, which is something we’re tackling this summer. But I know she’s capable of making better grades in reading and English.

All of this said, we have an appointment with a child psychiatrist to have her evaluated for ADHD. I’ve done some reading about it, including poring over your blog posts about your daughter’s diagnosis, and it seems possible that Julie could have the inattentive type of ADHD. My question is: How do we explain to her that she’s being evaluated for ADHD? I don’t want her to think that we think there’s something wrong with her, or that she’s crazy or weird. I was thinking of saying something like, “There might be something going on in the way your brain works that makes certain aspects of school hard for you, and we’re trying to find out if that’s the case. If it is, then the doctor can help us find ways to make school work better for you.” I’m also not sure myself exactly what the ADHD evaluation will entail, so it’s hard for me to prepare her. Will there be a written test, or just a conversation with the psychiatrist?

As you can see, I’m really anxious about this appointment! My husband and I both have a hard time differentiating between what is “normal kid stuff” and what is “clinically diagnosable and unnecessarily impairing our child’s quality of life,” and we sometimes think that, if we had more than one kid, at least we would have more data from which to draw conclusions!

Well, if it makes you feel any better, having more than one kid doesn’t necessarily make “normal” any easier to spot. My kids are now 17 and 19 and I am still learning about stuff that’s totally normal (apparently) and not just another special-snowflake-feature. So let that part go, for sure. Your daughter is struggling and you want more information so you can support her, which is the right response!

The first thing I’m going to urge you to do is call the office where the testing is scheduled and just ask them. You want to know how long the appointment will be, whether there will be more than one appointment, and what sorts of activities said appointment(s) will entail. The last thing you want to do is tell your daughter, “Oh, it’s just half an hour of talking!” before you drop her off for three hours of tests. (More on length of tests and possibly what-to-expect below.)

Full vs. Targeted Evaluation

The second thing I’ll tell you is that there are two schools of thought when it comes to testing for ADHD. One school says, “In order to diagnose any neurological difference, we need a complete picture.” That “complete picture” would then include a full-scale IQ test plus one or more targeted tasks designed to suss out specific deficits, as well as third-party observer questionnaires and either self-inventory questionnaires or—as will be your case, with your daughter still being a child—parent inventory questionnaires. This option is very thorough, but full-scale neurological assessment like this can also be quite costly. This leads to the second school of thought, which says, “If you suspect ADHD, test only for ADHD.” While this will also provide some information, I think you know which side I come down on—more information is always better. There are a number of reasons why limited testing can either miss or confuse relevant clues to what’s going on. (There is, for example, significant overlap between ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorders and some learning disabilities.) I hope that your daughter is scheduled for a full evaluation, or at least a preliminary meeting intended to be the prelude to one. If you are seeing a professional who believes in a targeted approach, most likely they will be utilizing the Conners Rating Scale (rating scales for you and her teachers to fill out) and some version of a Conners Continuous Performance Test (a test on the computer which requires her to push the spacebar according to directions). (I have a lot more opinions on the divergence of these approaches, but will try to stick to answering your question for now!)

Explaining Testing To Your Child

Either way, you’re definitely on the right track with the explanation you’ve crafted thus far. I would suggest adding something about how “Everyone’s brains work differently, and that’s awesome! But sometimes the way your brain works isn’t the way school expects it to work, and while that’s still totally okay, if we have a better understanding of how your brain works, we can help make school less stressful for you.” If you think it’s the kind of thing she’d be receptive to, tell her that back in the “olden days,” kids weren’t allowed to be left-handed. Lefties would literally be punished and corrected until they learned to write with their right hands. Crazy, right? Nowadays we just accept that some people are left-handed and sometimes we have special desks or notebooks for them and sometimes we just accept that their homework might be kind of smudged from where their left hand went across it while writing. No biggie at all. Similarly, if you can do the testing and learn more about your daughter’s brain, you may learn that… she learns better while walking around. Or that she learns better by hearing things over seeing them, or vice versa. And whatever you learn, all of you can use those findings to make her life work better for her. School is supposed to be fun. It’s not sounding like it’s much fun for her, right now, and she’s at an age where she’s likely starting to internalize those struggles as “I’m dumb.” Reiterate that you know she’s smart and capable; testing is about figuring how to make it easier for everyone to see that. You can even add that any difference testing may uncover would be something so common, it has a name and lots of other people have it, too.

What To Expect During Testing

If she’s having a complete neuropsychological assessment, she will likely have two separate sessions (beyond an initial consultation, which would be a short meeting) of 2-3 hours apiece, and she will probably love it, because it’s made up almost entirely of games (well, they’ll feel like games). Some of it will be on paper, some on a computer or tablet (ask the provider, if you want to know for sure), and some may even be with actual manipulatives (blocks, tangram squares, etc.). I’ve never known a bright kid who didn’t find the testing fun. Bill it as brainteasers rather than tests. Also—if she’s the type to worry about such things—tell her that the doctor has to put everything together and come up with a report, after, and that can take as much as a month, depending.

If she’s just having a targeted (and thus shorter) ADHD assessment, she’ll spend about 15 minutes doing the aforementioned “hit the spacebar when you see the X” test on a computer, and possibly a single talk session of observation. Easy-peasy. (Conclusions will likely be available a lot sooner, too.)

J, your daughter sounds delightful. Think of this as the first step in helping her to be more comfortable in her own skin. If you’re excited/hopeful about the impending testing, chances are she will be, too. Good luck!

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About the Author

Mir Kamin

Mir Kamin began writing about her life online over a decade ago, back when she was a divorced mom trying to raise two regular little kids and figure out what she wanted to be when she grew up. Now ...

Mir Kamin began writing about her life online over a decade ago, back when she was a divorced mom trying to raise two regular little kids and figure out what she wanted to be when she grew up. Now her life looks very different than it did back then: Those little kids turned into anything-but-regular teenagers, she is remarried, and somehow she’s become one of those people who talks to her dogs in a high-pitched baby voice. Along the way she’s continued chronicling the everyday at Woulda Coulda Shoulda, plus she’s bringing you daily bargain therapy at Want Not. The good news is that Mir grew up and became a writer and she still really likes hanging out with her kids; the bad news is that her hair is a lot grayer than it used to be.

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  • Ally

    July 25, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    My son is also ten and was diagnosed with ADHD this past year. The beginning of third grade was awful for him. He is incredibly bright and talented, but his grades tanked. He felt stupid all of the time and was miserable. We got the official diagnosis last November and started medication right away. He’s seen a counselor for years, so none of this was too strange for him. He honestly doesn’t care about testing and appointments too much. He LOVES how his body responds to the medication. He is so much more confident and doesn’t struggle nearly as much as he used to. His grades were up almost immediately because he could finally focus. My husband and I were very reluctant to start medication and testing, but I’m so glad we did. It’s made a huge difference for him and it was really what he needed.

  • Vickie

    July 26, 2017 at 12:36 am

    I used to ask, every day right after school, what was needed for the next day. And right after school on Friday, I asked what was needed for the next week. And whatever was needed, we did it right away. Like stopped on the way home for items.

    We had a blotter size academic (July – June) calendar on the refrigerator and everything went on the calendar for the whole family.

    The kids also had planners for school. These were provided by the school 1st – 12th grade. And the kids were taught to use them.

    We did all paperwork and returned it immediately.

    We bought school supplies and the like at first notice. Nothing was put off to the last minute.

    I stayed stocked up on the commonly needed items, so we had as few emergencies as possible.

    I kept household clutter down to a minimum. I stayed ahead with laundry, errands, food/meals, etc.

    The kids had large lockers by the backdoor with hooks and shelves for belongings like shoes, coats, backpacks, etc.

    We tried to be everywhere 15 minutes early. Never late or hurried.

    I am suggesting that looking at the household habits helps everyone. Kids who have issues really struggle in a household that is unorganized or always running behind. All this was not done in a stressful way. Instead it decreased everyone’s anxiety. And we had a lot more free time as a family.

    • Caroline Bowman

      July 26, 2017 at 4:02 am

      these are all excellent and useful suggestions and I think many of us do some or all of them. The trouble with an ADD person is that you will ask ”what do you need for tomorrow” for example and they literally have no idea, and say ”nothing”. Or they’ve lost the notice that was sent home, or the study timetable is still at school… or the books they need are at school / at home *even though they were given a planner and taught to use it… they just… didn’t*. Time management and personal organisation is a really valuable life skill and each of us can be taught and can improve, but with a serious ADDer, the battle is long and uphill.

      • Vickie

        July 26, 2017 at 9:18 am

        It helps the rest of the kids stay on top of things, and not get lost in the shuffle. It keeps overall chaos lower. It sets a good example. And over time it does help a lot.

        Teachers were willing to check and add items to daily planner so all the information was always there. And a sibling or student buddy in class double checked contents of backpack to be sure it got home during bad years.

        And I forgot to say schools were willing to provide an extra set of books which stayed at home. So one set of books stayed at school and another set stayed at home. That helped everything.

      • Mir

        July 26, 2017 at 12:44 pm

        Gold star to Caroline. Lord, we had YEEEEEARS of stay-on-top-of-everything supports in place and they are helpful but not the whole story, for sure.

  • Jenny

    July 26, 2017 at 10:00 am

    This is J., the mom from the letter…Thanks so much, Mir, for your thoughtful response! It honestly hadn’t occurred to me to just call and ask what the appointment will entail. And I loved what you said about how to explain the appointment to our daughter. I’m still anxious about all of this, but it’s really nice to know that others have been through it and come out on the other side.

    • Mir

      July 26, 2017 at 12:45 pm

      Please update me when you’re through to the other side. 🙂 And in the meantime, repeat after me: She is perfect just the way she is, and whatever we learn will help us make her life easier.

      • Jenny

        July 27, 2017 at 9:50 am

        I will, thanks…In the meantime, I’ll take some deep breaths and repeat the mantra. 🙂

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  • Brigitte Boyce

    July 26, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    This sounds like our daughter, too. Despite all the organizational supports we have for her, and the daily questions, going through the backpack and planner, and homework assistance, she has always been an “airhead” about her assignments. She’s been able to get by in the past, because she’s pretty bright, even though she works quite slowly, but 7th grade overwhelmed her and her grades totally tanked. If the first month or so of 8th grade continues the same trend, we’ll have to have her tested as well. – Brigitte