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Bikini Waxing 101

By Amalah

From last week’s comments:

I would enjoy some bikini wax advice. I mean really detailed info. How long does the hair need to be before it can be waxed? How long are you hair-free before it starts growing back? How flexible do you need to be to get waxed? Anything you can do to make it less painful? Will I have red, irritated skin after? And how long will it stay red? Any bumpies?

I am obviously a wax virgin but I am going to Hawaii with my boyfriend for a week in May and I’d like to be able to skip bikini line shaving while there.  ~ R

We aim to please here at the Advice Smackdown, so not only will I tell you everything I know about waxing, I recruited (which means = she sent email offering help, I accepted) Isabel of Hola, Isabel, one of my favorite people and AlphaFoxyMamas. We’ll get to her portion of the class in a minute. (She’s also got stuff to say about laser hair removal, so please don’t let your eyeballs roll back in your head during my blathering and miss out.)

First: I haven’t gotten a bikini wax in a couple years, but for awhile there (before Noah, back when I lived ONE BLOCK AWAY from a lovely spa and salon and had a pool to go to every weekend) I got waxed pretty regularly. And yes, I did the whole enchilada.
Now I’m lazy. And kind of too cheap to keep it up, even though I imagine it’s an expense Jason would gladly pony up for. Last summer I started using Parissa Quick & Easy Wax Strips and I think they do a smashingly good job for a home waxing kit. (I also used that Nad’s stuff ages and ages ago, and while it works GREAT when you first buy it, the product loses effectiveness very quickly and you end up with a big tub of useless goop.) The Parissa strips are just for your outtermost bikini line, though. If you want serious hair removal, you should — nay, you MUST — get a professional wax.

A couple lessons I learned, in easy listy form:

1) For a regular vanilla bikini wax, some spas will let you keep your underwear on (particularly if they’re teeny). Some spas will offer disposable panties. Some spas ask you to strip completely. The key is to LEAVE YOUR UNDERWEAR ON UNTIL THEY TELL YOU TO TAKE THEM OFF. They will tell you what to do, don’t worry.

2) Some spas consider a Brazilian to be completely bald, but some call this an “American” wax (also known as the Celebutard Limo-Exiting Special). The spa I went to would leave a small “landing strip” of hair with a Brazilian, so just tell your waxer what you expect before they start.

3) Yeah. It hurts the first time. And it will hurt everytime if you let your hair grow too long in between appointments. If you want to get waxed for a special occasion or vacation, I strongly advise that you DO NOT get waxed for the very first time the day before. You’ll be red. Some people even bruise. Go once a few weeks before, and then do a second maintenance appointment closer to your trip. After about my third wax, I barely felt anything.

4) How long a wax last is really different for everybody, since hair grows at different rates. I had to go about once a month to avoid irritation and ingrown hairs. There are a lot of products out there for post-waxing care — No Bumps and Tend Skin or Azulene Oil or even just a gentle diaper rash cream. Your waxer will most likely recommend her personal favorite.

5) Speaking of that: your waxer is a professional. She doesn’t care. She’s seen it all, and will try to put you at ease. She’ll talk to you like you’re just getting a haircut, but if she senses you’d rather just close your eyes and zone out, she’ll let you. It’s okay.

One last caveat before we get to Isabel’s advice — I know the idea of bikini waxing (particularly full-on Brazilians) skeeves some women out. I know some women are disturbed by the idea that their husband/boyfriend/whatever likes the bald thing, since doesn’t that make us look like a child? Well, not really — a sexually mature woman’s pubic area looks VERY different than a child’s, with or without hair. Really!

So there’s no need to scour his computers hard drive or call the FBI because he’s expressed a preference. Waxing leaves your skin soft and smooth and the whole area is just…clean. It’s comfortable. It smells nice. Even though I don’t have the patience for waxing anymore, I remember the appeal very clearly, and it goes waaay beyond anything sexual.
And now read on as Isabel attempts to fully convert you to the hairless side. Heh.


The mantra for the world should be “hair free is the way to be.”

nair.jpgAfter years of failed attempts at drug store brand hair removal products (depilatories, I’m talking to you) I was excited to finally find a product that worked (Nair at home wax, I’m talking to you). I admit the first time I used it I thought I was going to die. I screamed. It hurt. I ended up bruised. I also ended up with less hair down there. And I liked it. The end result was worth the pain. Completely. Each time after that hurt less and less. I swear.

Years later, after moving to a major metropolitan area, I decided to venture outside of my in-home waxing treatments and have it done professionally. (It must also be noted that my husband told me that for every wax I had done I could get a new pair of shoes. He was not above bribing me and I was not above taking the bribe.) I was very nervous about my first time going into the spa. I looked on line for waxing etiquette and couldn’t find any. I wasn’t sure what I should wear or if I should take anything before I went in. And of course the burning question “do I wear underwear”?

When I got to the spa, the (very professional) waxer put me in a small room with a massage bed and asked me to get undress from the waist down and gave me a pair of disposable paper panties to put on. Then the waxer left the room and let me undress in private. I climbed on the bed and put the towel she had given me over my sex-ay panties. The waxer came back in the room and proceeded to get started. The first thing she did was cut the panties off. I asked her why she gave them to me in the first place and she said it was to make me feel a little more at ease. I guess it worked. (For the record, they’ve never given them to me before. I’m pretty sure she would have let me keep them on, if I had asked.)

My first few times I just had the typical bikini wax done. (In case you don’t know, that means just the hair that would show if you are wearing a bikini.) It was so nice to have less hair, that every time I went back I was getting more and more hair removed. I was going back every 5-6 weeks and paying $55 a session (the first time is more expensive, while the following visits are called “maintenance”.)

About this time I decided to try laser hair removal. I heard a commercial on the radio talking up the joys and rewards of laser hair removal. It was $80 a session and they told me it would take about 6-8 sessions to have “permanent hair removal” of my bikini area. The first laser removal session was awesome. It didn’t hurt at all. They were complete professionals. The hair just naturally fell out after a few weeks. I went back in 7 weeks for my second session which hurt far worse. Far, far worse. Again, the hair fell out. I continued to go back every 7 weeks for the next year. My hair was growing back with less hair each time. It was working. I was happy.

That lasted maybe a year. Then the hair started to just fill in more and more. “Permanent” my ass. It was back in all of it’s glory and I wasn’t happy. I started to just get it waxed again. But this time instead of wasting my time with just a regular bikini wax .

The first few times I had been waxed I would leave a little hair just right there. But then I figured, why bother and had it all ripped out. I totally decided to go for a full on Brazilian wax. In case you don’t know what that means, it’s the removal of all of your pubic hair from your belly button to the small of your back. Yes, all of the hair. Okay, so having your back side waxed does involve getting into some odd positions, like holding your legs up like a dead beetle or getting on all fours. But again, this is a professional working on you. They’ve seen it all. Seriously, don’t be shy. The end result is glorious. No hair to bother with. No shaving and red bumps. No at home waxing. (Note to the skeptics, having the back side waxed doesn’t hurt. Odd, I know. But it’s the truth.)

After my first Brazilian wax I happily paid my waxer (and left a nice tip) and left with a smile on my face. I don’t have a big problem with ingrown hairs, but they do happen. I try to exfoliate everyday (you know, when I remember) and I also use No Bumps, which I buy online cheaper then they sell it at the spa.

I kept up my waxing during my pregnancy, even though it seemed to hurt a little more. My OB/GYN seemed very appreciate for being so clean down there and would even comment on it (in a totally non-creepy way). It also made my delivery so much nicer. They didn’t have to shave me at all for my emergency c-section. Hooray. Of course I did have to wait a little while after my c-section to go back for another wax. The c-section scar hasn’t made for any issues in my waxing career.

One thing I’ve forgotten to add is that I’ve even been waxed by a man. I admit I was a little taken aback when I showed up for my appointment and a male waxer was waiting for me. But don’t worry, he was very professional (and also gay, if that makes a difference. Which it probably does.).

So what have I learned from all of this? Go for the professional wax. Pay the money (include a nice tip) and enjoy the benefits of being hair free. If you can’t afford going back to a spa for regular maintenance visits, I would recommend doing it at home. Just make sure to keep it up. It’s easier that way. The most important thing I’ve learned is to go for the Brazilian. If you’re gonna do it, you might as well do it right.

Say it with me now; hair free is the way to be.

You may also enjoy this Waxing Article:
The Lowdown on Do-It-Yourself Waxing Options

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About the Author

Amy Corbett Storch


Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Ama...

Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy’s daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it’s pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

If there is a question you would like answered on the Advice Smackdown, please submit it to

Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.

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  • CadyKansas

    April 25, 2007 at 11:32 am

    Amalah – So, the tipping? Is how much? I could probably use a primer on tipping for all beauty-ish things, actually. Is it like in restaurants, 15-20%? Or is it more about the length of time it takes? Ehh?

  • mdvelazquez

    April 25, 2007 at 11:34 am

    I am too lazy and cheap to do the spa thing, but I will gladly try the at home wax. Thank you for the recommendations.

  • Tone

    April 25, 2007 at 11:49 am

    Okay, this may sound odd and I know they are professional and all, but what about us bigger girls? Do you really think it would be like any other wax? Thanks for also including the tidbit about the male preference for this. I’ll admit to being grossed out by my husband’s preference, but now am curious about trying it…if I can get past the major body issues I have.

  • Notsogirly

    April 25, 2007 at 11:57 am

    I’m just…sorta…I don’t know… bothered.
    I hate to be the crank, but this whole completely bare thing creeps me out. Why would you do that? I don’t think men who like it are pedophiles, but I do think that they have been, um, slightly warped by the porn industry and celebs and all the other people who are always trying to make us forget what honest-to-god grown-up women look like. We sag a little, we have wrinkles, and we have hair. Why must we spend hundreds of hours and dollars lifting and scrubbing and having surgeries and ripping our hair out by the roots (and I will not believe it doesn’t hurt) in order to look completely unnatural? And y’all…go along with it?
    And if I had a gyno or ob tell me that he/she preferred it, I think I would kick them in the teeth. Because they shouldn’t be working with women at all.
    For those who haven’t tried it, I did shave it all once. And it was incredibly uncomfortable and itchy and skeeved me out every time I saw it. I felt very naked and vulnerable, and not in a good way.
    Just trying to show the other side here, kids.

  • Beth Ramsey

    April 25, 2007 at 12:00 pm

    I have done the at home waxing, the salon waxing, and the laser hair removal. My Ob/Gyn actually did the laser (I know weird). I did it last year and the result was good. I do still have hair, but I don’t think any more from when I started. From what my doctor told me you have to go close to 10 times for it to be effective and it also depends on your hair color.
    As for waxing I second what Isabel said about the backside not hurting – strangest thing ever! And also like she said they have seen it all.
    Tone I am a bigger girl too – no probelms… I was self concious too!

  • Alana

    April 25, 2007 at 12:12 pm

    The hair grew back after laser hair removal? Really??? That’s so disappointing! I was totally ready to shell out the bucks to zap it once and for all, but now I’m not so sure.
    (I used to wax, but I think I am the one person on the face of the planet who really should not be doing that under any circumstances whatsoever. My waxer actually refused to wax me because of the gradually worsening reactions I would get. Boo!)
    Does anyone have any laser success stories they’d like to share? Because I would most definitely like to hear them.

  • kalisah

    April 25, 2007 at 12:45 pm

    Notsogirly, comparing shaving with waxing is like comparing a ride in a dump truck with a mercedes benz. Shaving is horrific. It begins growing back immediatly and it itches like mad. Waxing is wonderful…and NO ITCH.
    THANK YOU Amy for saying all the things about waxing that I feel – especially the part about the partner’s desires. You are spot on about it being soft and smooth and clean. I first did it as a b-day gift for my husband, but I really came to love it.
    The main point is, as you said, to keep it done. It really only hurts if the hair is long. I might suggest trimming w/ scissors before your first visit.
    A glass or two of wine before you go helps, too. Or a couple tylenol.

  • Audrey

    April 25, 2007 at 12:47 pm

    Thanks for the great recommendations! I’ve been waxed a few times (basic bikini only — i haven’t worked up the courage to do a full brazilian yet), and I definitely liked the results but was too lazy and cheap to keep up with it. And my husband was a little wierded out by the thought of someone besides him and my doctor getting so “up close and personal.” I tried an at-home kit and it left me bruised. Getting a regular professional wax is definitely on the list of things I want to do once we have the budget for it.

  • Luba

    April 25, 2007 at 1:01 pm

    This is a timely post for me since I have an appt for my very first bikini wax this weekend, and I have been pretty nervous about it. I’m 7 monhs pregnant and can no longer see “down there” to do my usual shaving. I decided to try waxing so things don’t get too out of control. However, I am worried about the pain. How bad is it? Is this a bad time to start?

  • amieable

    April 25, 2007 at 1:37 pm

    Ha ha I love Isabel’s comment about a “dead beetle” because that is SO SPOT ON.
    Isabel – did you go to Salon Dewi? I heard that guy is the best in town.
    I used to scoff at it but then did it as a Valentine’s Day gift to the BF and was pleasantly surprised. At first I was alarmed by how my “va-jay-jay” looked like a sideways Kermit the Frog without hair, but after a while I liked it. I probably won’t keep it up since it’s expensive, but if I got a free pair of shoes out of the deal I would gladly.
    It’s like what Amalah said a few posts back about some cosmetic procedure or product not defining your person. This is just a bikini wax – it doesn’t define your person or your significant other or your relationship if you don’t let it.

  • missbritt

    April 25, 2007 at 1:38 pm

    I keep hoping I’m going to stumble upon a secret that says “Oh wow and this way you can wax and not have it hurt”.
    I hate hurt. Hate. hate. Hate. Pain is BAAAAAD and I am a big baby.
    so, sigh, shaving it is I suppose
    Unless, do you think asking for local anesthesia would be going too far??

  • Notsogirly

    April 25, 2007 at 1:43 pm

    Kalisah, I know that shaving is different. My point is that after I did it, I thought it was tremendously uncomfortable (the rubbing, the my underwear felt like sandpaper on my skin). I just thought there should be an anti-voice out there. Tried it, hated it.
    And, amieable, if your husband is bribing you for what amounts to a sexual favor with shoes, I think that makes it even ickier. A few weeks back, Amalah had a great discussion about “If it works for both of you, then great” which I thought was a good point. But for a husband to use bribery–and for a wife to allow herself to be bought for shoes–well. That’s really not the kind of marriage I try to cultivate.

    • littlebear

      February 26, 2013 at 3:41 pm

      Well, that’s a bit judgemental…. What works for some people’s marriage might not work for yours. Also it sounded more like a reward than an actual bribe, since she obviously didn’t have an aversion to waxing.
      If it’s not for you, that’s great. Just because a woman gets a wax doesn’t mean she hates the way her body looks naturally. For example – I’m going on vacation and I plan to wear a bikini. Razor blades do a lot of damage to the sensitive skin around the bikini line (at least for me) so waxing is a much better option.

  • quinn

    April 25, 2007 at 1:56 pm

    I treated myself to my first brazilian a couple of weeks ago and loved the result. I’d never had a professional wax, ever, and decided to just jump right in to the full experience. Just went to my happy place while the waxer was down there. Not the most comfortable experience in the world, but I have to say I’m a total convert now. The huzz is a big fan too (and he’s never made me feel like I need to conform to some unreal porn star image, I think the main thing is he likes how much I like it).
    But! The hair is already growing in pretty quickly, and I was hoping to get about 4 weeks of hair-free time in before I had to go back. Pout. This could get expensive.

    • puppy

      August 15, 2013 at 4:27 pm

      Eventually you should get 4 weeks of hair free time. What happens when you first start waxing is that you have new hair coming in earlier because different hair is on a different hair growth cycle. It takes several waxing visits for it to get to the full 4 weeks. But since you need a little hair for the waxer to grab onto anyway, waiting the 4 weeks is probably best. And too-frequent waxing can damage your skin. So just exfoliate, go every 4 weeks. In time, you’ll find you can stretch it out to 6 weeks because the hair will grow in more and more sparse. And then 8 weeks. And some lucky few, after years of consistent waxing, stop growing hair in those places at all. It just depends on how your follicles react. Some women’s follicles just FREAK OUT and stop growing hair

  • TasterSpoon

    April 25, 2007 at 2:41 pm

    Yah, I find to stay tidy I need to wax every three weeks or so. That can add up, and because I am cheap, I have always done the at-home microwave wax. Recommend: Nair. Do Not Recommend: Sally Hansen (yes, it smells like chocolate or lavender, but it doesn’t rinse off with water so it’s hard to repeat areas or whatever – annoying).
    I’ve been self-waxing for nigh on seven years, and it still hurts – more so if I let it go for a few extra weeks. (You can’t let the hairs get too comfortable, must keep them on their toes.) And I get red bumps and ingrowns that I’ve never been able to solve. I’ll try that No Bumps somebody recommended…Tend Skin didn’t seem to do anything. But waxing still beats the shaving bumps and prickles and itchies.
    I tried going the professional route once, wondering if it would hurt less or they’d do a better job with fewer ingrowns, but it seemed exactly the same to me.
    I like tidy so I used to go 100% (thinking, it’s going to hurt like hell anyway, I might as well go for broke – though I must say the pain increases as you move towards the center line) and frankly prefer it. Certain things feel better, if you know what I’m saying – it’s not necessarily a selfless choice.
    But word to the wise if you’re doing it for your man
    (politics aside) – some men prefer something down there – I know one who thinks it is sexier to have that signifier of the Private Parts. So, you know, unless it’s a surprise, it might be worth discussing.
    Oh, and for anybody feeling peer pressured, like everybody else is bare down there and you have to keep up, from completely nonscientific eyeballing of the population of the shower room at the pool, almost nobody is. I’d estimate 1 out of 8 tidies to the bikini line, and maybe 1 out of 20 does anything more than that.

  • elle

    April 25, 2007 at 2:43 pm

    There’s a third alternative if you don’t want to go All The Way with the hair removal: an epilator. These look like electric razors, but they have pairs of tiny rotating wheels that clamp down on the hair and rip it out at the root. Like automated tweezing/waxing I guess.
    I’m quite the furry girl on my inner thighs, so I *love* my epilator. It takes about 5 minutes every week (though I could go longer between sessions and I doubt Partner would notice). It’s so much less messy than shaving, and lasts so much longer. As for waxing, shorter hairs are much less painful to removed — about 5mm is ideal. The first time hurts like hell, but you get used to it pretty quickly. And good brands of epilators come with an attachment like a mini coolpack that you keep in the freezer in between times. It numbs the skin immediately before hair removal. I used mine a few times I guess, and it really works, but haven’t need it for ages.
    In the UK I have a very nice Philips (a few years old, still going strong — and unlike electric razors the heads don’t need replacing). But the last time I was in the States I bought a cheapo one at a CVS for about $20. It wasn’t nearly as efficient — the epilating heads are not so close together, so you have to go over everywhere twice — but the end result was just as good.
    So, if you’re sick of shaving and too chicken to wax — epilate, epilate, epilate! (And such a lovely word, too.)

  • amieable

    April 25, 2007 at 3:26 pm

    Yeah I agree with you that if you really don’t want to do it, don’t do it because you feel pressured by your husband/boyfriend, your girlfriends or the media. No amount of shoes will make up for something you don’t really want to do. Especially this cuz like has been noted: it hurts, it’s personal and it’s pricey.
    My point was that if someone wants to give it a whirl, try not to feel too guilty or get caught up in the “what does this mean?” I know I used to worry about “what it meant” but then I was like, “eh, it’s all for fun I wonder how it is?”
    I know that I like it better when my BF shaves because it’s not so scratchy on my face and I don’t end up getting beard-burn, but I don’t make him shave when he doesn’t want to when he is really wanting to rock the “Mountain Man” look. Nor do I want him to shave to live up to some pre-conceived feeling of a man. It just hurts, darnit!
    I’m all for people making the choices they feel comfortable with. I stopped caring about my moustache because it’s a losing battle and if someone doesn’t think I’m pretty based on that well, then they are wrong!
    For Notsogirly and others who opt out I heard a slogan for you:
    Full bush revolution! Wear it high wear it wide!

  • Amy Corbett Storch

    Amy Corbett Storch

    April 25, 2007 at 4:02 pm

    Wow, comments! That’ll teach me to post and then wander away for most of the day.
    CadyKansas – You tip 15-20% for spa and salon treatments, just like restaurants. The spa I go to asks if you would like to automatically add 15, 18 or 20% onto the price of your service, which is nice and convenient. HOWEVER, some places won’t put gratuity on credit cards and you must bring cash. So you might want to ask when you make the appointment so you’ll be prepared.
    Quinn – I definitely noticed that after a few waxes the hair started growing back slower and thinner. Not sure if this happens for everybody, but it might for you too.
    As for everything else? Like I said, waxing is so not for everybody. If you don’t like it or it makes you uncomfortable, then 100% for sure don’t do it and don’t let anyone pressure you into it.
    I loved getting waxed, but I don’t anymore. Eh. My husband would never push me into waxing again and never comments if I forget to even tidy up with a razor. Likewise, I don’t bug him about his semi-hairy back and shoulders, even though he knows I like when he gets them waxed. It’s just so not a big deal for either of us.
    It’s totally okay to have hair and lots of it down there! It’s also okay to get rid of it all and like it, for reasons that have nothing to do with porn or sex. And hell, it’s also okay to like it for those very reasons, if that’s what works for you.

  • janellepea

    April 25, 2007 at 4:36 pm

    Hello – long time reader, first time with the commenting.
    As a brazilian waxee, I recommend going with a salon who uses hot wax as opposed to strip wax. It really does make a difference – not sure exactly why – maybe because they’re not pulling so hard with the strips, it’s just the wax (which is all nice and melty and gooey) which means less stress on your dainty downstairs?
    Also, some waxers I’ve been to (only in Australia, actually) are kind enough to de-forest you with some clippers before they start the wax if you go in there looking like you’ve been trying out for some weird Guinness Book Of World Records For Pubic Hair Length thing. The clippers make the wax less painful as it decreases the length of the hair and makes the time-honoured art of pulling hot wax off your bits a virtually painless experience.
    OK maybe I’m exaggerating but it helps, and I’ll take what ever I can get. It’s been three months since my last wax and I fear for the future.

  • Kimmy

    April 25, 2007 at 4:50 pm

    I wax because I like it better that way. I’m one of those people who generally hates excess hair. Boyfriend or not, I always get it done. (Full Brazilian. Only way to go.)
    Yes, it hurts… but only for a second. And not in the places you’d expect. (IE: the backside is painless, which is so counterintuitive to me.)
    It’s a side benefit that my boyfriend likes it. But then again, he doesn’t really notice when I’ve gone extra long without doing it, either. Everybody wins.
    Point here, for me, is: porn-ish or not, I don’t care. I just like to be well groomed because I find that to be more attractive on a person. Everyone has their own definition of “well groomed”.
    I DO tip my waxing girl extra because… well, really… I doubt that pulling hair from my hoo-ha is the best part of her day. I feel like I need to make up for making her do that. Heh.

  • Valette

    April 25, 2007 at 4:51 pm

    I just wanted to chime in with Just How Perfect those Parissa waxing strips are for tidying up the bikini line BUT ALSO for eyebrows. Completely rock. It takes me a swipe above each brow (yes, I know, never above only below, but you should see my brows) and two swipes in the center. Then I pluck the one or two strays beneath my brow and I’m done. I don’t do any shaping with the strips, just some cleaning up. And I love them.
    Now I’m trying to work up the nerve to ask some coworkers if they know of any good brazillian waxer in my new town.

  • JennyM

    April 25, 2007 at 5:37 pm

    Brazilian waxer here, though I’ve actually not waxed for a couple of years. I am actually going to get back to it this spring, though. I like the tidiness aspect of not having to worry about anything peeking out of the bathing suit. And other than that — I just like it. It physically feels good to me, and I mean that in a general and a sexual sense.
    My husband has told me he thinks its pretty sweet, but he seems to find me plenty … you know, doable… no matter what the hair status down there, so his opinion, while respected, is not really a factor. It really is a “for me” thing (for me) and I’ve never felt otherwise. Shaving gets so tedious and is itchy and ingrowny a lot of the time and like I said — I just like the way it feels.
    The drawbacks are that it’s pricey and that you do actually have to let the hair grow back in a little bit in order to rip it out — but it does seem to get easier and easier. In fact, when I was still waxing regularly, it had gotten so easy the salon asked me if I’d be willing to contribute my hoo-hah to a training session they were providing for a couple of their newer aestheticians that were getting into waxing services. Lying there naked from the waste down and trying to look nonchalant about it while one woman lectures and four or five other women stare with varying expressions of intense concentration at your ladybits is a surreal experience, I can tell you.
    Anyway, I think the key is finding someone reputable who puts you at your ease and is willing to answer any and all of your questions. Honestly, the reason I quit waxing was because my trusted aesthetician moved out of state and I haven’t put the effort into researching someone else.
    By the way, in addition to the fabulous advice above, there was a link to an excellent “tutorial” in the comments section of the “beauty secrets” post.

  • JennyM

    April 25, 2007 at 5:38 pm

    And by “waste” I mean “waist” — ugh. For a former copy editor, sometimes I suck.

  • Lori MacBlogger

    April 25, 2007 at 6:10 pm

    Wow, I feel like I am experiencing de ja vu – I read through a similar post on the Media Bistro bulletin board earlier today.
    I have been an avid bikini waxer for a few years now, but only this past year did I bite the bullet and get the full Brazilian. I decided to forego my local waxing place and instead went to Bliss, where I had heard good things about their waxing procedures and figured I’d be more relaxed in a spa setting. I was right. The technician was friendly but professional, and the waxing actually hurt less than any place I had been to before. I didn’t even realize when she was waxing the most “sensitive” areas. What I was most appreciative of, though, was that when they did the backside, I wasn’t asked to get on all fours or any weird contortions – I simply turned on one side, then the other, and then it was over. And, as one other commenter mentioned, that was one of the least-painful areas.
    It is more expensive than the corner shop (around $75 I think) and I realize not everyone has a Bliss in their neighborhood. But if you do, I highly recommend it.

  • cledbo

    April 26, 2007 at 3:24 am

    I’m totally with janellepea about the hot wax vs strip wax thing. When I moved I went to a new salon for my first brazilian in a while, and they used strip wax – it took my SKIN off! owieowieowieowie! Strip wax is great for your legs, were the skin’s a teensy bit stronger, but down there….ouch! If you’re not a fan of pain, definitely ask before you book.
    For anyone who doesn’t know, too, strip wax is where they scrape wax over your hairs in the same direction, like spreading butter on toast, then pull them out in the opposite direction. Hot wax is where they kinda slather it all on so all the hairs sorta cake together, then pull them out in, well, any direction really. Because pubic hairs grow in ALL directions, unlike legs hairs, hot wax is the obvious choice anyway, because who the hell knows which way to scrape? Ugh, it hurt soooo much.
    Recommendations for painy-painingsons:
    Don’t wax just before your period, best time is just after. It’s a hormone thing I think.
    Take a headache tablet a little before your appointment.
    If you get ingrowns like me sometimes, I use an ingrown hair remover every night for two weeks BEFORE I get waxed, as this primes the skin and releases any ingrowns you might already have (I get them all the freaking time, I swear it’s soooo annoying), so you’re then less likely to get ingrowns and red bumps right after waxing. For any Aussies out there, my favourite is Skin Doctors IngrowGo (no idea what you Atlantic ladies have access to).
    I also use a hair minimising cream afterwards to prolong the smooth silkiness – it doesn’t stop hair growth, but it helps my reasonably coarse hair come back finer and a little slower, plus its ALWAYS a good idea to moisturise after any kind of waxing. The Skin Doctors stuff smells really good too 🙂
    Geez! Sorry for being so verbose. I’m a big pain scaredy-cat too, but for me nothing beats lying in a chilled salon with a nice waxist talking to me about the cricket scores, and before I know it the pain is over and I can head home to reap my rewards, whether my man is home or not! *heeheehee*

  • danagirl

    April 26, 2007 at 9:05 am

    from a waxing virgin…..when they do a brazillian and when you’re talking about the ‘bum area’ not hurting, are you talking about the ‘crack’ (have no idea how to say that nicely!)? do they wax the ‘inside’ (i.e. the crack from front to back) too??

  • mdvelazquez

    April 26, 2007 at 1:45 pm

    With regards to tips, I always tip in cash because the service provider (e.g., waitress, waxer, hairdresser) will get the tip in her/his hand faster.

  • Liz

    April 27, 2007 at 5:13 pm

    One of the best things I did was go to a spa that uses hard wax instead of soft wax and fabric strips. The hard wax dries to a hard finish and they can take it right off. The wax hardens around the hair, but doesn’t attach to the skin, you end up waaay less red/irritated. Like almost no bumps or redness at all, even immediately afterwards. Bliss spas use it, and if you search around in your city’s CitySearch, you’ll find a local spa to that uses it. Also, if you get waxed the week before your period, your skin will be way more sensitive than at other times, so will end up more red after waxing.

  • jannab

    April 29, 2007 at 1:55 am

    I’ve also never been waxed, and getting married in 3 weeks. I want to be clean and bald for the wedding night and the honeymoon, should I get waxed now (since it’s my first time) and them go in for “maintenance” a few days before the wedding, or should I wait and go for the first time a few days before the wedding?
    I’ve been growing it out and it’s rather annoying. I’m used to shaving the whole thing.
    Any advice?

  • kalisah

    April 30, 2007 at 8:34 pm

    danagirl – yeah, w/ the Brazilian they wax your ass crack, too. ALL pubic hear is gone.

  • Melissa

    May 1, 2007 at 10:18 am

    Dateline: yesterday
    I had the waxing experience that no one wants. I just posted the whole horrific story.

  • amyducat

    October 3, 2007 at 10:44 am

    i was wondering how long i have to wait to get a good wax job after my c-section. it has already been 3 weeks and i was wondering how much longer i have to wait.
    thanks amy m. ducat :o)

  • Isabel

    November 19, 2007 at 3:33 pm

    amyducat: I just saw your comment. I figure by now you probably got an answer to your question. But…
    I had a C-section and so I wasn’t comfortable having someone pull hot wax off my body anywhere near my scar for a few months after my bebe was born. The salon I go to also wouldn’t let me come in for a wax for over 8 weeks after my son was born. So yeah, give it some time to heal.
    (And even after it had been a while, the whole tugging at my skin thing freaked me out.)

  • KristenO

    February 21, 2008 at 12:20 am

    As I have been playing volleyball since I was 12 and am still playing it in college, keeping that area clean is a requirement as we basically wear underwear as our uniform. Also, I play beach volleyball a lot and being on TV in your bathing suit tends to add some pressure to make sure you’re clean. I used to shave everything all the time and I was driven crazy by the itching and the bumps. I have super sensitive skin, so that made it even worse.
    By the way…the best thing I have ever done for BUMPS is to use rubbing alcohol. I read about it in a magazine years ago and decided to give it a try. I put it on every night after I shaved, and yes it burned a little, but it was great. I have had zero bumps and no ingrowns. The best thing, it costs like 3 bucks a bottle and will last for a year. So, if you refuse to wax and hate the bumps from shaving, this is a great route to go.
    All of the following information is from my waxer, as I am always curious…
    As for WAXING, I got my first wax 4 years ago. It really hurt–a lot. Keep in mind that I am an athlete and have sprained/dislocated more joints and gotten more concussions than I can remember. That paled in comparison to my first wax. However, I do believe the fact it was my first wax, I have super sensitive skin, I decided to get a Brazilian on my first go, and my waxer was this crazy Russian (who was “highly recommended” by the way) who seemed to be taking some sato-masochistic pleasure in my horrified screams, also didn’t help the scenario. Sorry, the point of this is not to turn you away from waxing as I love it; just to give some real expectations. That being said, as I am stubborn I decided to try again. This time I changed waxers. It still hurt, but I liked this lady much better. By the third attempt, there was very little pain. 4 years later I am still getting waxes. I used to be of the hairier sort and after getting waxes (and NEVER shaving in between as this defeats the purpose and causes it to hurt like hell when you wax again because shaving causes the hair follicle to adhere more to the hair and therefore, it hurts more to remove) I have less hair growing there, it is much more fine, soft and it grows much more slowly. When you first start waxing, you need to get it done every 3 weeks. Don’t chicken out. Every time you do it the pain will decrease, but if you wait much longer than 3 weeks, it will hurt as much as your first time. Trust me, there is nothing more embarrassing than your waxer having to go get a trimmer to trim you down before you start. After 6-8 months of getting waxed, you can wait up to 6 weeks between waxes. Your hair grows in waves, so it takes that long for all the waves to grow out to the proper length. However, I still get waxes every 2 weeks as I am paranoid and love being smooth and hate waiting for all of the waves to grow out. I usually wait for a wave or two to grow out, then go get a wax. If you wax long enough, you will start to notice how long your waves take to grow, but it takes awhile for you to figure out. By the way, rubbing alcohol works great here too. I do it right after I get a wax, and it helps remove the wax as well. I rarely get ingrowns and never get bumps. (The ingrown info isn’t from my waxer, but something I have found through experience) If you get an ingrown, you can always tweeze it, or if it is totally under the skin, you can “pop” it out…think popping a zit, except you will be popping hair that has been wrapped up in oil/dirt/germs/etc. You need to pop it out at the base (i.e. where the hair follicle is) which is essentially where the pore-like opening is. I don’t know how “healthy” this is, but I have never gotten any scars or anything, and it works beautifully. Additionally, I have found waxing the inner thigh and outer bikini area at home is great to do in-between waxes as it tends to grow much faster than the rest of my hair (In my case) and then I can still go to the beach in between waxes. This also could help save on some cost for those who worry about it. I get full Brazilians for $35.00, which is a lot less than most of you seem to be quoting. I have found if you shy away from the spas, it’s much cheaper. The spa ladies I have tried have charged as much as $100.00 and were much more painful. I have found that places run by people from India or Asia have been much cheaper and they are much better, i.e. less painful and “European” Spas that charge much more tend to hurt more as well. I don’t have any scientific proof to back this, it’s just an interesting trend I have noticed. When you are picking a waxer, it is best to meet with them and ask questions ahead of time. If you are embarrassed, get over it, as they will be seeing you naked anyway. Picking a waxer is like hiring a new employee, you want to be as thorough as possible. Even though two waxers may be from the same salon, they can have entirely different waxing styles. You want to hear about a variety of styles/methods and figure out which one sounds most appealing to you. I would ask the potential waxer to describe how a typical wax goes, how long it takes, etc to get a feel for it. I have 2 waxers I mainly work with. Keep in mind I get full on Brazilians. One is super fast, I am in and out in 2 minutes. While I love that it takes no time and therefore it doesn’t seem to hurt as bad…because you’re on to the next section before that one can hurt. The downside to this is that area tends to be very sore for the next 2 days…probably to compensate for the pain I missed out on during the wax. My other waxer is the complete opposite, she is very slow. It usually takes about 1/2 hour. However, this hurts more during the actual waxing, but there is no soreness afterwards. She also pats every area after she waxes it, which for some reason soothes the skin. Make sure to ask around and find what appeals to you as I know there are tons of waxing styles.
    About the C-Section thing…although I have never been pregnant, I did have intestinal surgery and the cuts/scars were in the same area as a c-sections would be. I had a wax 3 weeks after and no problems. A good rule of thumb is to always wait until your doctor says its alright to remove the bandages holding your sutures together, usually 3-4 weeks. If this makes you nervous, I’d wait until 6 or always, ask your waxer. They don’t want to be sued by you if they rip up your sutures.
    A final note:
    About the “the significant other likes it” comments. Personally, I definitely don’t do it for a man. In fact, I tend to be more lazy when I have a boyfriend than when I don’t. I just feel it is a cleanliness issue. If nether regions are involved, I find that cleanliness tends to make all parties involved happy, on both ends. I simply feel much more clean when I have a wax.
    In regards to gyno’s appreciating less hair. If you had their job and had to do that day in and day out, I can imagine anyone would prefer something “cleaner” rather than natural. Natural is great, but like all things with hair, it tends to be harder to upkeep and keep clean. I think a gyno commenting on a patient needing to tidy-up would be wrong, but giving someone an appreciative thank you for making their job a little more tolerable is completely acceptable.
    A few pointers to keep in mind:
    -The most painful area is the center area above the pubic bone. This hurts and always will. If you are a wuss when it comes to pain and want to skip it, ask for a landing strip to be left.
    -Don’t take pain meds before a wax (vikadin, percocet). I have done this with some left over meds from a surgery. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but it hurt like hell.
    -DON’T SHAVE in between waxes. This basically kills the point of a wax because it starts the cycle all over and it will feel like your first wax.
    -Get a wax when your hair is between 1/4-1/2 inch. If it’s longer, trim it down. This will make it less painful. I used to think growing it out made it less painful. I was wrong.
    Sorry I know this is probably really long by now, but I was hoping to address 40 comments worth of questions and I hope this is useful to someone. As I know when I began I had a ton of questions and had to learn by trial and error-not the way to go. Good luck ladies!


    March 3, 2008 at 9:12 pm

    I have had two Brazilian waxes, and have been very happy with the results. However, I’m wondering if anyone else has found the increased sensitivity in that area takes getting used to. This is embarrassing, but I’ve become so much more aware of moisture and spotting or dischage, which I think was masked by the hair before. Is that strange? Sometimes I have the sensation of almost wetting myself. Sorry if this all sounds weird,but I’ve never had this problem before!

  • Melissa

    March 11, 2008 at 5:41 pm

    Years when I did my first wax session ever, I didn’t have the courage to let her do my bikini area. I thought this doesn’t look so tough and picked up a home wax kit and took home with me to finish the job. I really wish I had let my first bikini wax be by a professional! I didn’t know anything about anything. I looked at the large strip that came in the box and applied the wax to fit. covering the entire area, then jerked. It did come off, but only in large dotted patches and I collapsed to the floor and curled up in the fetal position and cried for a good 30 minutes. I didn’t have the courage to finish even though I looked like I had the mange. worse yet I had a gyn appointment a few days later and even that couldn’t give me the courage to finish it. I just had to stammer my way through an embarrassing explaination. lol
    Since then I have learned less is more. using tiny strips doing just a small patch at a time is easily tolerated, even the first time. I would tell anyone that it’s well worth it, but for every “first time” a new area to be waxed has, it really should be with a professional!

  • Isabel

    March 14, 2008 at 2:40 pm

    KristenO: Thanks for your info on waxing. While reading what you had to say I just nodded my head in agreement.
    Also dude, sign me up for your cheap waxer. I’m paying almost $60 for my “maintenance” appointment. I’m thinking I need to do it at home every other time in an attempt to save some money!

  • Beth

    October 17, 2008 at 1:36 pm

    This post is from awhile back, but I wanted to post for those of you who are scared of the pain. They have “no scream cream” or “no trauma mama” cream by Relax & Wax, that will numb the area before the wax (just apply 45min to 1hr beforehand). It also helps to pop some advil 30 min prior to your appointment. I also recommend that you go to a place that uses the hard wax, it is a lot less painfull. As crazy as it sounds, the place I go to is practically painless! I go to a place in the LA area called Treats for the Face and the owner imports a special chocolate wax that really doesn’t hurt much. JUST SAY NO TO STRIP WAXING if you’re a sissy la la for pain.

  • Jasmine

    November 29, 2008 at 9:51 am

    Just a few things to say. I joked shyly with my b/f about getting a wax for about a year. There was never a questiuon about how much to have off; I figured if someone was going to have to look at my privates and put wax on them and I was gonna hhave to lie there and accept pain.. I may as well go all the way with it and get it ALL off.
    Well after about a year I went and did it. Picked the most professional sounding salon, and it was worth it. The lady, who was just like a hairdresser, was chatting away. She wasn’t embarrassed at all, she just told me to put on this paper thong and lie down and cover my middle with the towel while she went out of the room. When she came back she just said “Okay, now hold this, and bring your right foot up to your left knee, and let the leg down.” So I was holding on to the paper knickers with my entire one side of privates showing. Then she proceeded to very quickly apply the hard wax and whip it off in little strips. She chatted the whole time and never let on when she was about to pull. It didn’t hurt much either, just an “ouch” every so often. Each side took about 15 minutes, then she asked me to lift my knee up to my belly to to the back hairs, which I coulnd’t even feel. After that she put on some soothing lotion and gave me a mini disposable hot towel to wipe the area, then showed me the bin and went out of the room so I could change back into my clothes.
    No drama. A few tiny spots of blood higher up on my front (not around the centre line at all) which were on the paper knickers, but it didn’t bleed or anything, it must have been tiny spots from a few hairs coming out. One bit of wax left stuck on me where the thong had gone down the middle, and I thought, hell, I just had the rest off, and gave it a yank to take those two or three stray hairs out, which didn’t hurt really.
    Then it was skirt back on with undies (I had worn fairly loose cotton ones) and I calmy walked out the door to pay.
    I can comfortably say that it was not embarrassing at all, it didn’t hurt much, and my underarms (which I also had waxed at the same session) hurt more than my privates!
    For about 2-3 days I felt a bit sensitive, then after that it took me another 2-3 days to get used to it (during which I wasn’t sure about being touched there due to it feeling different) – then I had some fun with b/f one day and decided that brazilian waxing was well worth it!!
    When I went back for the 4 weekly maintenance wax recently, I hardly felt it – and I was back to normal within 2 days or so. The biggest thing I’d mention is that for a few days it will feel a bit no-touchy; it’s not that you’ve lost your womanliness or anything, it just takes a bit to get used ot the feeling. But if you decide that it feels sexy, then it will feel that way (likewise if you want to convince yourself that it’s gross, you’ll feel that way about yourself)…
    Go for it girl! You never know until you try. If you hate it, then don’t worry cos the hair will grow back in 4 weeks and you will know then! But give it a go just so you can say that you did. 😉 It’s way easier than shaving, hell you can just zone out and it’s all smooth in a flash!

  • trista b

    January 4, 2009 at 4:34 am

    hey does anyone know of any decent priced waxing spas? I had a terrible FIRST TIME experience at a spa in long beach where the esthetician put on the hot wax and burned my skin and in some areas that she ripped the hair out, some how, some way i started bleeding and i ended up putting neosporin on my “who-ha” for a week from the minor cuts she left me. i swear it was the worst experience ever. its been 2 yrs now and i kinda wanna get it done again and im looking for a affordable place in los angeles
    lemme know…

  • Sarah

    January 10, 2009 at 6:24 am

    Gee, wish I would’ve read this earlier in the week! I had my first bikini wax a year ago, before heading to the Carribean to get married… it wasn’t a bad experience, but I didn’t know what I really wanted, and no one explained the definitions to me (I guess I wanted a Brazilian… they left all the stuff underneath that I like gone) and to add to my frustration my little “landing strip” was crooked! So after all that expense I ended up shaving the whole time anyway. SO… a year later…we’re heading to Mexico this winter and I knew this time I would get it right. I made an appointment at a different salon where I had gone for some fabulous facials. I explained to the gal my first experience and how I thought a Brazilian was a “bare” thing and I ended up shaving…she seemed to understand. So everything is going fine until I glance down and see half of what would’ve been my “landing strip” missing!!!!!!!! Oh NO! Not that I have anything against the whole bare thing, I just don’t think it looks the greatest on me. So I guess me and my bald na-na are headed to Mexico. The moral of the story is, explain exaclty what you want to the salon professional… or risk not liking what you see for quite some time!! Good luck out there!

  • Mel

    January 25, 2009 at 5:13 pm

    I am having my first bikini wax before a trip to Palm Springs. How quickly will I see stubble? How many days before I go should I do it in order to have any redness or rash gone?
    Thanks so much for all your posts. They’ve been educational!

  • Jenny

    January 25, 2009 at 5:59 pm

    Mel: It really depends on your skin and hair type. For me, the redness went away within a few hours and the soreness went away after one day. I’d say maybe do it a week before you leave to be on the safe side. Make sure your hair isn’t too long or too short (Just under 1/2 inch or less, but more than 1/4 inch)
    It really didn’t hurt as bad as I thought, just take 2 tylenol an hour before your appointment 😉 good luck.

  • Mel

    January 26, 2009 at 3:05 pm

    Thanks so much. That was one bit of information I haven’t found anywhere else.

  • Debbie

    January 27, 2009 at 5:31 pm

    I’m thinking about trying this for the first time
    so does anyone know of a good place to go in the Cleveland,Ohio area? Or even how to look for a
    place close to me? Please give me all the information you have I need it. Thanks!

    • L.aden

      January 29, 2014 at 7:30 pm

      Silk body boutique in Mayfield Heights is where I go…Nicole is awesome.

  • Kelli

    January 29, 2009 at 4:05 am

    Ok… I have gained some really great info here. I have one question that no one seems to have answered. I am a big gal. I want to get waxed. Everything gone. I think i would feel cleaner. Do waxers care what size you are? Please help!!

  • samantha

    February 20, 2009 at 1:07 am

    This was very very helpful. Most of the info I’d heard before but still much I hadn’t heard, and a good timeline given, too. I’m getting married in just less than a month and I told him I was thinking about it a few months ago, so I’d be all clean and whatnot for the honeymoon and then I sort of forgot about it, but he asked me about it again tonight so I figured I could do some last minute research. He’s not about to bribe me for it (But I actually don’t have the issue with the bribe, either… I do not think that says anything about what sort of relationship/marriage they have, and it’s wrong of anyone to assume or say that it does.), but since I suggested it first he knew it wouldn’t be out of the question to encourage me at least for the occasion. And it’s not necessarily a preference… well… it sort of is, but it’s like a nice little gift for the both of you. I’ll probably go have it done this weekend and have it “maintenenced” just before the actual wedding. Should be interesting at the very least, though probably quite painful since it will be my first time.

  • Irish

    April 22, 2009 at 5:39 am

    Is it expensive yes, do you feel awkward the first time yes, does the therapist make you feel awkward no, is the result brilliant…totally….get it done ladies
    also weight is not an issue…..they have men in for back sack and crack waxes….if anything is gonna put them off itll be the men not the women!

  • Janelle

    May 14, 2009 at 11:52 am

    Three years ago, I accidentally got a Brazilian in NYC.
    I lived in Pennsylvania, but commuted daily to NYC for half a year. I had noticed that the Asian nail salon around the corner from my office building offered cheap waxing services ($15 for bikini) so I decided to try them out.
    The waxing room was tiny, about the size of a closet, with two narrow cots only about two feet apart, with a curtain dividing the space. There was a client on the other side, and I could have easily reached over and tapped her through the curtain.
    My waxer came in and looked puzzled that I still had my underwear on. She indicated with an impatient wave of her hand “Take all off!” This was in sharp contrast to my experiences with Pennsylvania salons, which not only waxes with underwear on, but often rather fussily tucks tissues around the panty line “to protect them.”
    But I figured that sophisticated NYC was bound to be different from backwoods PA, so off came the panties. The waxer grabbed my leg, positioned it, and then my eyes went wide as hot wax was instantly slathered where no wax had gone before.
    OMG! At that point, it’s like being on a rollercoaster. Once you’re strapped in, there’s nothing you can do about it. I was getting a Brazilian whether I wanted one or not.
    This woman swiftly waxed the entire enchilada in under four minutes. While it wasn’t pleasant, at least it was fast. This was so far removed from my previous bikini line experiences, that I believe I was in a state of shock. I staggered to the register, and was further stunned when they still only charged me $15 dollars for the experience.
    I felt like I had unwittingly stumbled upon some illicit prostitution chop shop — where streetwalkers popped down on their lunch break, got a jiffy-lube tune up, and then was back in business 10 minutes later.
    I only worked in NYC for a short while, and then it was back to the backwoods of PA. When I looked into getting another Brazilian, most of the salons either didn’t offer it, or charged you an arm and a leg for the service. I miss my $15 chop shop!

  • Jenny

    June 5, 2009 at 12:52 am

    I live in Cleveland and Brazilian waxing is ridiculously expensive and expensive for me is like 65+. I thought all B. waxing was this much until I read an article in allure and most B. waxing was around 35 and 45 dollars. In addition, I have friends in atlanta and D.C. who get waxed for about $35 dollars. I cannot afford this $65 and $75 waxing! and my skin is too prone to itching and ingrows to shave all the time. Does anyone know of any salon or spa in Cleveland Ohio that has reasonable waxing prices. PLEASE help! thanks

  • Jes

    June 9, 2009 at 4:57 pm

    I just got my first bikini wax this morning, i was too chicken to do it all but i already love it and will probably do it all next time.
    Question – in between waxes you have to let the hair grow out again? that doesnt sound fun in the summer when im in a bikini on a regular basis!

  • TelemarkTumalo

    June 13, 2009 at 10:36 pm

    Just a comment from one of the guys. I’m a cyclist and triathlete and have always shaved during the summer and competition months. My girlfriend got a Brazilian prior to our vacation to Hawaii. She had a very good experience and talked me into giving it a go for my legs. As several people have already posted, the aesthetician was very professional and treated me great. I’m hooked! I’m a moderately hairy guy but still get 4-6 weeks from waxing. Beats the heck out of shaving. Initial cost $65 and I left a $20 tip. Followups have been 50 and I still leave a twenty.

  • erica

    June 19, 2009 at 9:09 pm

    never been waxed and considering it…
    when i trim up with sissors my hair feels coarse and prickly and i hate it so i always regret it. when its au natural it is soft but i want a summer solution to the bikini issue. SO, if i dont want length im guessing id have to go for a bare wax and let the center grow in soft and then just wax the bikini line from then on? cause if i wax just the sides and trim the center id still have that prickly feeling right?

  • lia12447

    June 20, 2009 at 7:35 pm

    ok so i know this might sound a like a bit of a newb question but how thick is the landing strip supposed to be?
    because i hear different things from different people
    and im kinda lost…

  • Stina

    July 10, 2009 at 10:25 pm

    OK I know the last comment was two years ago, but I would like to say THANK YOU for this article! I’m typing this from my bathroom since I sent hubby out for some baby oil so I can remove the lovely bit of wax left between some rather *ahem* uncomfortable places. Seriously, I’m glad I went. I want to go back and have it done again, too. This was insanely painful this time, but I can tell that it will get better. The lady that did the waxing was super nice, talked to me like an old friend the entire time. It wasn’t awkward, or creepy, or anything bad. In fact, I would go so far as to say that I feel like a woman!

  • wendy

    July 15, 2009 at 10:34 pm

    thanks for all the comments…most of the comments have occured over 2 years ago..
    NOW..for the main having a hard time researching/locating a reputable waxing salon/waxer in my area! i dont want to go to a mini mall nail salon with open doors, etc…
    i remember i tried waxing once about 20 years ago..and after one strip screamed in horror (and that was only ‘bikini’..and had her remove it via water and left!
    now …im willing to pay for a good wax and the professionalism..and i think after all these years of shaving and rashes i will deal with the pain
    i live in northern va..ive tried every site avail to ‘research’ a spa…nothing comes up but DC..and help would be great
    on a footnote, i did try laser, with a reputable dr. who removed a tattoo for me…. for about 2 years, i went every 2-3 months and paid about $100…the hair did get finer…but was no less of it…i think it was a total waste of time and pain! (yeah, the laser hurts)
    now after years of going back to shaving…or just not (hence the not dating much) im ready to go all the way

  • Ellise

    July 16, 2009 at 7:50 pm

    Alright girls I need some advice. I have shaved down there a couple of times but it is uncomfortable and I always cut myself. So I want to wax. for the most part completly. I dont have a problem with my bikini line I just want it all gone. I do not however want to spend a ton of money to have some stranger look at me and wax me. So I need advice on tricks that actually work and especially on what waxing product to use that will produce te best results. Its kind of a present for my boyfreind so as soon as possible would be appriciated. Thank you. Please email me with suggestions

  • kate

    August 2, 2009 at 12:35 am

    i really want to know more about this epilator that someone mentioned before in a comment awhile back. its basically like tweezing but faster and you can do it at home without the embarrassment of going to a salon. with the same result as waxing? can anyone tell me more about it with experiences?

  • Jaymee

    August 4, 2009 at 12:49 am

    Ellise – I have had many professional waxes and loved them. However, it can get expensive so I usually just shave. Like with anything else there is a small adjustment period, but after a couple weeks of shaving(about every 3-5 days)you will stop itching. It will be just as comfortable as shaving your legs. I have also tried home waxing, but it really just isn’t the same result as a professional wax. I don’t recommend doing it yourself, especially your first time. If you just really want to wax yourself though I would go to a beauty supply store. They will have a much better selection of waxes. Just ask whoever works there for help and they will be able to give you information on which wax will give you the best result. Sometimes they even have tips on the most effective way to get the reult you want.

  • Kaitie

    August 5, 2009 at 10:56 pm

    I was planning my first bikini wax, and came across this great thread, not to mention site. I literally left the spa just 20 minutes ago and wanted to share my story and ask for some advice! I have really sensitive skin and there is definite redness and some bleeding (to be expected, right?), but because of this the waxer was unwilling to remove everything that I desired. I agree to a certain extent, but feel like I left not completely satisfied. She also turns out not to do Brazilians, and although I wanted a French anyways, she left a lot more than I was expecting. New waxer, I guess?
    Altogether it wasn’t a horrible experience! A bit painful, but not that bad, and only slight stinging now. So go for it!

  • Jacqueline

    September 4, 2009 at 12:56 am

    @Kate – I have an epilator, and I like it, although I just use it on my legs and use wax strips for the bikini line. You certainly could use it on the bikini line too, it does a good job of grabbing even little hairs, but I find that it stretches the pain out too long for me to stick with it (my hairs there seem to be REALLY well anchored). The upside to me (over wax) is that you only have to buy it once and there’s way less mess. The downside is that it takes longer and mine is pretty noisy.

  • Shannon

    December 2, 2014 at 6:11 am

    The first time I got waxed I had the soft wax (strip wax) I kept my knickers on as asked and the woman butchered me, I now that now because I now go to a lovely woman who is Lithuanian and uses the Hot wax ( hard wax) it’s so quick and no where near as painful as strip, it is a pink wax that is put on the skin thickly and left to dry it can then be pulled off in ANY direction! Then she uses a blue wax that is designed to pick up even the shortest hairs I’ve just came home from my 5 th wax and it isn’t the slightest but sore or red after that and for me being a very dark coarse haired person this is great! Now when it grows back it grows back fine and soft and it really doesn’t bother me this is great considering I’m a freak about hair down there (yuck!!) do not shave in between it will put you right back in square 1! I pay £38 which is roughly $59 ??

  • DaniDaaé

    January 25, 2015 at 2:29 am

    Hi ladies, I know it’s been months since this thread was last active but I’m really needing advice and I hope some of you are still out there!

    So I got my first Brazilian wax (which was my first wax in 6years – I had been shaving instead)

    The waxer was really nice but she onlyused one applicator stick for the entire wax! (I’ve read that double dipping is a no-no but I was too embarrassed to say anything)

    I followed all the aftercare advice but I’ve since come out in about 100 tiny infected pimples that are very painful and unsightly.

    Has this happened to anyone else? What should I do? Feeling rather hopeless..

  • olivia

    March 3, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    I’m going on a trip in 3 1/2 weeks, and I was planning on getting a basic bikini wax a week before I leave so that my skin will have time to “calm down” before the trip. I read that you should get 2 waxes before you have an event because the first time usually isn’t very good, but I don’t think I have enough time to get 2 waxes. if I still get my wax done a week before I leave, will I still be okay? I don’t want the hair growing back too early and I don’t want it to be irritated, but I hate shaving.

  • Lara

    May 23, 2015 at 6:10 am

    Good article, however a Brazilian is NOT a full wax, it leaves a landing strip. If you want a full wax like what you were describing that is called a Hollywood.