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Ending the Mommy Wars, once and for all

By Alice Bradley

Over at Finslippy a few months back, I wrote about Melissa Summers’ Today Show interview. Remember that interview? The one about Moms Who Drink One Drink Around Their Children, and Why That Makes Them Drunken Sluts? The one that we all thought might be an intelligent, thoughtful discussion instead of an alarmist, condescending puff piece?
Anyway, I got all fired up after that segment, and I get re-fired every time I think about both the segment and its aftermath. Which is why, when I read this call to arms from MomsRising, it struck a chord.
MomsRising, partnering with Mothers Ought to Have Equal Rights (MOTHERS) is calling for a Mommy Wars ceasefire. They are sending this petition to the heads of CBS, NBC, and ABC, informing them that now is the time to focus on the real issues affecting families. As MomsRising puts it:
“A quarter of American families with children under six years old live in poverty. How about some in-depth feature coverage that explores solutions which benefit us all? Solutions such as quality universal pre-K and paid family leave for all workers who need time to care need more coverage. We spend more per person for health care than any other nation yet rank a low 37th for our mortality rate of children under five years old, and are the only Western nation without a national health program. These are just a few of the issues that impact all families and should be broadcast nationwide.”
This is why I think the Today Show segment resonated so deeply with so many people; not because it was such a big deal unto itself, but that it showed so starkly what’s wrong with how mothers are treated in the media. It was so purposely divisive, so black-and-white in its approach, that any reasoned, moderate perspective was simply run over. This story, I think, had a triumphant ending,because Melissa and other bloggers were eloquent and vocal in their protests; they stirred other viewers and readers into responding directly to NBC, forcing the Today Show to take another, more rational look at the issue. It was a minor uprising, to be sure, but a heartening one. We should keep it up.
After reading about the MomsRising/MOTHERS ceasefire, I thought, hmm, I should start a discussion group. Then I thought, I don’t want to clean my house. And then! It occurred to me: I’ve got one, right here. More smart women (and men! Hi, men!) visit this site than I could possible find to come to my house. Better still, I neither have to clean nor purchase snacks for you people. And since you don’t have to drive anywhere, you can drink as much as you want. Everyone wins.
So I put it to you, dear readers: sign the ceasefire petition. Then come back here and start issuing your own set of demands. What changes do you want to see in the way the media covers family issues? How do businesses need to change to better support families? How can the government pitch in? What do you need right now that you’re not getting? (Besides that glass of wine, that is.) Let’s get demanding and obnoxious. And… and drunk. Okay? I SAID IT.
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About the Author

Alice Bradley

Alice Bradley was a regular contributor to Alpha Mom, writing about current events as they related to parenting. You can read about her daily life at her personal blog, Finslippy.


Alice Bradley was a regular contributor to Alpha Mom, writing about current events as they related to parenting. You can read about her daily life at her personal blog, Finslippy.

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