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16 Things I Have Learned About Being a Mother

16 Things I Have Learned About Being a Mother

By Chris Jordan

I have mostly learned from other mothers.

I have discovered over the years that mothering isn’t about the big issues: breast vs. bottle, to circumcise, or not, cry-it out or never sleep again… No, the things that matter most are the little things, the small lessons we pick up along the way. They are the legacy we pass on to our children. They are the things our children will remember us for, good or bad.

Here is a small list of lessons I have learned

1.  The color white should be avoided.

At all costs. In everything. Walls, cars, bedding, towels, floors, and let’s not forget clothing.

I had thought since my youngest is approaching six years old that I was past this rule. I put my favorite white summer skirt in the laundry room to handwash it. (Because it is not only white but also linen and really, I must be crazy.) My son came home with all of his sweaty, dirty, disgusting football work-out clothes and threw them on top of my beloved skirt. By the time I noticed the next day, my skirt had MOLD on it. MOLD.

The lesson here, white leads to heartbreak.  Brides wear white because once they get married and have children they will never get to wear it again.  True story.  It has nothing to with purity.

2. Baking cures all ills.

There are no pains that some sugar, flour, and chocolate mixed together in some form can not assuage.

3. One day your child will shout that he hates you.

Although you logically know this isn’t true, it will cut you to your core. Take solace in the fact that this means you are doing your job right. You aren’t your child’s friend. You are their parent.  You probably hate you too, sometimes.

4. When your kids are behaving in a way that makes you least want to give them affection and attention, that is precisely when they need it the most.

5. The healing power of a hug.

Hugs rank right up there with baked goods.

6. You can never have too many vases.

If you are lucky they will always be filled with flowers. Sometimes those flowers will look an awful lot like dandelion heads. You will love them the best.

7. You have an infinite reserve of patience.

Yes, you will be tested. Yes, there will be times when you think you are right at that edge of your sanity. But then your kids will push right over to the other side and you realize, with surprised joy, that you have not strangled them nor has your head popped right off. And at that moment, you should feel proud.

8. The loss of a child is something that you will never get over.

My mother-in-law still mourns her child, who died 50 years ago, with an intensity I cannot even fathom.

9. Don’t worry what other people think of you.

Don’t compare your inside to everyone else’s outside. Live your life in a way that makes you happy. You know the old saying:  If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. It’s true.

10. Make your words sweet, for you never know when you will have to eat them.

Criticizing the way any of the children of your friends behave is a sure way for that behavior to be visited upon you by your own children. Ten fold.

11. You will say completely ridiculous things to your children.

Just like your mother said to you. You will claim to have “eyes in the back of your head.” You will ask them if they “live in a barn.” You will threaten to “pull this car over right now!”

12. Don’t wait for your house to be perfect to entertain.

As long as you have children it never will be.

13. You can never have enough pens or pencils.

Considering affixing one to your counter otherwise you will never have one when you need it.

14. Cheerios.

When your children are small you are required to carry around a container of them. Always. I am not sure if any kids actually eat the Cheerios. BUT THAT IS NOT THE POINT!

15. Smile.

16. Never underestimate the healing power of a good cocktail at the end of the day.

What’s the best lesson you can share that you’ve learned on your own, from your own mom or another mom? Spill it.

About the Author

Chris Jordan

Chris Jordan began blogging at Notes From the Trenches in 2004 where she wrote about her life raising her children in Austin, Texas.

Oh, she has seven of them. Yes, children. Yes, they...

Chris Jordan began blogging at Notes From the Trenches in 2004 where she wrote about her life raising her children in Austin, Texas.

Oh, she has seven of them. Yes, children.
Yes, they are all hers.
No she’s not Catholic or Mormon. Though she wouldn’t mind having a sister-wife because holy hell the laundry never stops.
Yes, she finally figured out what causes it. That’s why her youngest is a teen now.
Yes, she has a television.

She enjoys referring to herself in the third person.


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