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When Your Birth Control Drives You Crazy

Dec23

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dear amalah,
so… birth control, eh? know anything about it? i’ve been breastfeeding or pregnant continuously for the past THREE YEARS and after baby number 2 was born back in january i grabbed my midwife by the shirt and all but screamed, “NO MOAR BABBY!” now, i don’t want to cut off all hope of ever having kids again as the husband and i BOTH are open to more children in the future… like, 4 or more years from now. so the logical answer was to get an IUD or IUC seeing as i am HORRIBLE at taking pills and i wanted the most effective birth control option out there.

herein lies the issue, i’ve had the mirena for 8 months now and seriously? it is teh AWESOME. i can’t feel it, i don’t have to remember anything, and you know what? i’m totally not pregnant! success! however, i might as well be pregnant. my acne (which, btw, i’ve always had the acne that pops up like cysts under the skin, YAY! SCARRING!) which wasn’t really that bad even when i was pregnant is horrific, i had lost 40 pounds postpartum only to gain it ALL BACK over the course of 8 months, insomnia and exhaustion stemming from said insomnia, and i have no drive for anything. no sex. no life. no motivation. unless i absolutely have to, i don’t get out of my pajamas to leave the house. i’ve had a history of GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and depression all of my adult life and spent both pregnancies on some sort of anti-depressant, and now i seriously feel as if i’m not on anything and i’m having panic attacks every other day.

so there’s the background, here’s the serious issue playing tug of war in my brain: for 8 months i’ve hoped and prayed that this is all just coincidence, just going through a rut, whatever to keep from thinking that perhaps it is the mirena after all. my primary care physician suggested i make a daily log of all medications for 2 months before he toys around with my crazy pills just to make sure i actually take them like i’m supposed to and when i reached out to my friends to see what other reactions they’re having and it’s pretty much the same story from 75% of them (the other 25% have NO side effects whatsoever… bitches…) my midwife responded to my pleas of “should it stay or should it go?” with the message that yes, it can cause depression/anxiety to worsen and asked if i wanted it removed.

so do i keep it in or take it out? i know this sounds stupid, because seriously? a normal person would have had it removed, like, 6 months ago. it’s just that i’ve researched all my birth control options and the mirena WAS my best option. the copper IUD would have been even better, but you know what doesn’t mix well with copper in the cooch? a metal allergy. some of my friends are suffering in silence and some are taking 3 pills on TOP of having the mirena just to battle the side effects (mainly an anti-depressent, sleep aid and then adderal to combat the lack of motivation and scatterbrained behavior.) neither of those responses to the side effects sound like any way to live and yet the thought of constantly biting my nails while watching days pass if my period is 3 days late. before the 3 year pregnancy/breastfeeding stretch i could set my clocks off my periods, i could tell you the exact minute they would start every month. until we decided to have kids, we relied on that ancient natural family planning method (using the calender based off my periods) to have sex. have i mentioned i haven’t had a period in over 3 years? HAVEN’T HAD A PERIOD.

ok, so feel really awful at how poorly this was written and how AWESOME my thought processes are. YAY, MIRENA! YAY, TWO KIDS IN DIAPERS!
please halp before i remove the mirena myself and practice abstinence for the next 4 years.

supahmama aka tiffany

Oh, dear. And here is where I completely send you over the edge with my incredibly less-than-helpful personal experience with birth control:
You wanna know the big reason I’ve gone and managed to have not one, but TWO pregnancy scares in under a year? Why I’ve not just sacked up and gone on the Pill or an IUD or like, anything vaguely reliable at all? Because hormonal birth control and I do not mix. DO NOT MIX.
Back in college, I opted for Depo Provera (the shot) and spent the next year regretting it, as it made me 1) gain weight, 2) break out, and 3) not ever want to have sex EVER. Like, yeah, I sure didn’t want to get pregnant, but I got the shot because I wanted to have sex occasionally. You know. With my new husband and all. The shot (ONE SHOT!) pretty much ruined things in that department for quite some time and I could not run away screaming from it fast enough.

So I switched to back to the Pill (which I’d been on since high school to regulate my ridiculously irregular and painful periods) and spent the next few years bouncing from brand to brand, trying to find one with the most tolerable side effects. Which, for me, included crippling anxiety coupled with crushing seasonal bouts of depression. FUN!

For awhile I tried balancing out the side effects with more medication. And then more medication to balance out THOSE side effects. Things improved when I went off the Pill to try to get pregnant, then cratered when I tried progesterone and Clomid for a few months. Once again my doctor started medicating the side effects of side effects and I seriously ended up practically suicidal. (Well, without the “practically” bit.) It was bad, and I swore that I would never again underestimate the effect that hormonal medications had on my mind and body. After a fortune in therapy, I got off of everything — from the Pill to my antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds — and seriously felt better than I had in over a decade.

Now, this is MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. My personal brain chemistry. I am not a doctor or a psychiatrist or even someone who has done extensive research on the subject. But since you did ask little ol’ me for advice, I have to say…please don’t underestimate the side effects you’re describing. Depression tends to move in one general direction: downward, worse, etc. I already do not like what I’m reading here, and so I’m having trouble grasping the whole “Mirena is awesome!” thing, because DUDE. You don’t have to live like that. You shouldn’t have to live like that. If your IUD is even SLIGHTLY POSSIBLY to blame for near-daily panic attacks and no sex drive and can’t-get-out-of-my-pajamas funks…TAKE IT THE HELL OUT.

If things don’t improve, well, get on the correct medications and then get an IUD put back in. I do get the whole “paralyzed into inaction by indecision” thing, because I’ve had it — it’s yet another classic symptom of anxiety and depression. You’re asking for help, which is yah! Very good! Very important first step! But now it’s time to DO SOMETHING and help yourself.

As for other birth control options: Personally, I’d shift responsibility to your husband for a little while, say…six months or so while you work out the hormones, re-establish a cycle and work with your physician to get your mental health back where it should be. I know condoms are like, frustratingly old-school but again — when your birth control is killing your sex drive, what’s the damn point? I can’t speak for men in general, but I’m pretty sure my husband would probably choose “sex with a condom” over “no sex at all.”

Once you get yourself back on track — either by determining that the Mirena was not the primary cause or by determining that it was, and waiting out the after-effects — perhaps look into some other options. The patch? Nuva-ring? While not as long-term as an IUD, they are at least a non-daily option that will last for a few months. OR if remembering to take a Pill really is the only obstacle, once again, INVOLVE YOUR HUSBAND. This affects BOTH OF YOU. Have HIM remind you to take the pill. Have HIM put it on your nightstand every night with a glass of water. Keep the bottle next to the coffeepot, have him scribble a Post-It note and stick it to the carafe before he leaves for work. Buy a dedicated “take your Pill” alarm clock. (And yes, if you have an iPhone, there are currently THREE pill-reminder apps available.)

Birth control is a team effort — not just the sole responsibility of the one with the womb. You made the joint decision to keep everyone’s bits intact for potential babies down the road (which is where we are too), but keeping everybody’s brains intact is pretty important too.

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37 Responses to “When Your Birth Control Drives You Crazy”

  1. Lisa M Dec 23 at 3:24 pm Reply Reply

    TEAM EFFORT! I love it!
    I have totally given up any form of hormonal birth control. For good! We are done having kids, but husband still hasn’t made the call to the snippy doctor, so it’s condoms until then. Your choice, buddy.
    I’ve done the pill route (too many types to remember), rejected the IUD route, and I’m done. Between hair loss, depression, anxiety, weight gain, energy crashes, no sex drive, I cannot and will not subject myself to any more.
    I recently started using progesterone cream to replenish (PCOS = anovulatory cycles = all of the above symptoms, too). And feel much better. AND it’s over the counter, so when I feel I need to play with the dosage…I do.
    So, no suggestions, just support. You’re not insane, but fucking around with your hormones is insanity. Just say no. :-) And then tell your hubby to put a party hat on it, for the love of god.

  2. kakaty Dec 23 at 3:50 pm Reply Reply

    I have never, ever heard anything good about Mirena – everyone I know who tried it couldn’t get it taken out fast enough. One friend with no history of depression sank really, really (almost suicidal) deep in the 3 months she had it in. 2 weeks after it was removed she was out of her funk…a month after she was a new woman.
    I’m 100% with Amy with her suggestion of putting the weight on your husbands shoulders…there is NO REASON for you to feel like you do when there is a practical, side-effect-free solution. Bust out the rubbers for several months until you can find a long-term solution you can both live with.

  3. Marieke Dec 23 at 4:10 pm Reply Reply

    I highly recommend learning the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) as outlined in “Taking Charge of your Fertility”. In reality, we are only fertile a few days out of every cycle – and when you learn to read your fertility sings (Basal Body Temp, Cervical Fluid, Cervical Position) you can plan around those times (whether you are trying to get pregnant or avoid getting pregnant). You may be thinking “I can’t even remember to take the pill! How can I do FAM?!”, but in reality, it is much easier than you think and simple to include into your daily routine. And the big payoff is NOT dealing with the side effects of bombarding your body with synthetic hormones and dealing with all of the health problems that can result from that. Seriously, anyone who is interested in a non hormone method of birth control should give FAM some thought.

  4. Michelle Dec 23 at 5:23 pm Reply Reply

    There are also some other non-hormonal options out there for birth control. The Creighton model is what we use. It’s really a fertility awareness program that allows you to know when you are fertile. You both can choose to not have sex during fertile days or many people combine this method with a barrier method during those days. There are several non-hormonal, non barrier methods – the Creighton Couple-to-Couple league are the ones I am familiar with. They are advertised as Natural Family Planning (NFP). Maybe one of these will help.

  5. Nicole Dec 23 at 5:36 pm Reply Reply

    Hi. So, seeing how we’re trying to get pregnant and can’t, I haven’t thought about bc in YEARS. BUT…I have a handful of friends who for reasons similar to yours cannot take the BC. And they are all using the old fashioned diaphragm. Your gyno will look at you like you’re certifiable, but she/he will give it to you with enough begging. And that there is BC you only have to think about when you are knocking the boots, and w/ 2 babies, that may be just rarely enough to be tolerable. ;)

  6. eva Dec 23 at 6:09 pm Reply Reply

    Hormonal birth control was horrid for me too. So was the copper IUD – you and your allergy aren’t missing anything there. Who wants heavy periods for 8+ days every month? NOT ME.
    We are old school condom/fertility awareness people. My daughter is two and we haven’t had a pregnancy scare yet. Condoms are sucky, but they work. So does withdrawal…sometimes, but you didn’t hear that from me!

  7. Val Dec 23 at 7:19 pm Reply Reply

    I had similar issues with the patch, and every pill out there, only it was a raging case of OCD. I was lucky to not get pregnant after refusing to take anything (I was married at the time, and still have no children). I switched to Implanon (new-ish arm implant, NOT the old evil one) last June after meeting my boyfriend and have had very few side effects. It uses a tiny tiny dose compared to everything else, and aside from one funky weekend about 3 weeks after getting it, and 5 pounds (unpleasant, but it’s not 15 or 50), I’ve really had a normal time on it. Not all OBGYNs are using yet, so you might have to ask specifically. Mine said it was an excellent choice for those with hormone-related mental health concerns.

  8. Kate Dec 23 at 8:50 pm Reply Reply

    I second Nicole’s diaphragm suggestion (I was actually about to post to suggest it when I read her comment).
    I also wanted to comment for the sake of others who may be reading this thread. Although I do understand that a lot of women have issues with the Mirena (as they do with any form of hormonal BC) I loved mine so much the first time that I got another one after my son was born. For those considering it don’t discount it; talk to your health care provider because it can indeed be “the awesome”.

  9. Beth Dec 23 at 9:58 pm Reply Reply

    Yeah hi! I can’t take hormonal bc either. I tried the IUD and uh…….seasonale or some shit and NEVER AGAIN. NOT EVEN ONCE.
    My bf and I use condoms, but I’ve also used the femcap http://ladytobaby.com/show.php?item=1 Does not require a gyno exam.

  10. Jo Dec 23 at 11:07 pm Reply Reply

    I second the diaphragm suggestion. It is a bit of a pain, but there’s something nice about only dealing with b.c. on the occasions when you need it. And it’s a lot less intrusive than a condom.

  11. snoozebar Dec 24 at 1:12 am Reply Reply

    I had a wonderful experience with the Mirena. Birth control pills make me TEH CRAAAZY but I loved my Mirena. Love love love love love. Not even the slightest hint of crazy and my periods went from 3-4 days to 36 hours. LOVE. I only took it out when we started TTC.
    But you? Yank it. Condoms suck but they’re better than feeling crazy. And if it turns out you’re still feeling crazy after removing it, you can have it put back in.

  12. tiff...er...supahmama Dec 24 at 1:41 am Reply Reply

    thank you amalah and all the comments that followed. seriously, thank you. your support in numbers is the best christmas gift EVER.
    to those of you who brought up condoms, that’s an ixnay on the ondomscay. husband has scarring from a surgery to fix a defect back in his early childhood and i didn’t really believe him at first that condoms cause him to bleed until i met my first post-sex murder scene. not fun. not fun at all.
    as for diaphragms and caps, i WILL be talking to my midwife or OB about being fitted for whichever they feel more comfortable with the minute the mirena is removed (which will be after all the holiday nonsense.) happy new year to me!
    aaaaand on the topic of natural family planning (fertility methods and whatnots) that is EXACTLY the route we were taking post marriage, pre-baby without all the temperature taking. i was anti-hormones until baby number two came along and i was at the point where i’d have done something crazy had i not been told about the mirena. guess i DID do something crazy after all.
    again, i really do appreciate all the suggestions and comments. it really is giving me a push in the RIGHT direction. and that direction? it doesn’t involve the mirena.

  13. Olivia Dec 24 at 9:13 am Reply Reply

    @Nicole, thanks for bringing up the diaphram. I’ve been wondering if those are even available anymore. I don’t have problems with hormonal bc. I took the pill for years with no problem.
    Now, though, I’m breastfeeding. I took the mini-Pill for about a month, and I’m pretty sure it affected my milk supply. On top of that, it was just too nerve wracking to have to take it at the EXACT same time everyday (the regular pill you are good as long as it’s within an hour or two). So, we are using condoms right now. I never thought I would use condoms after getting married, but it’s not so bad. Realistically, we don’t have sex as often as we used to (like most parents of babies) and taking a hormone for infrequent trists just doesn’t make sense.
    For those suggesting fertility awareness, is that possible/reliable when you haven’t had a period due to breastfeeding? I’ve seen some of the signs of ovulation I think, but so far no period in the 9 months since giving birth.

  14. Jessica Dec 24 at 9:14 am Reply Reply

    Just wanted to add a comment re: Implanon. My doctor suggested it to me after an unsuccessful IUD insertion attempt (about 2% of women will not tolerate IUD insertion). She told me that Implanon was essentially the same as Mirena – same low dose of hormones, same absorption of the hormones, same potential side effects, and – most importantly – same benefits. So far, I love mine – particularly the super easy, painless insertion compared to the excruciating pain of IUD insertion. But, since her main selling point to me was that the two methods are basically the same save for where they’re inserted, you might end up having just as tough a time with Implanon as you have with Mirena. For women considering hormonal methods, I can’t speak highly enough of Implanon…but definitely have a long talk with your doctor about whether it’ll impact you in the same way as Mirena has. Either way, though, get that IUD removed – you shouldn’t have to live your life like this! Best of luck to you with what you decide!

  15. Christy Dec 24 at 10:22 am Reply Reply

    “Withdrawal” has worked for us for 10 years….Both times when we decided to get pregnant, we were pregnant w/n 2 months. That’s the only form of birth control we have ever used.

  16. Olivia Dec 24 at 11:45 am Reply Reply

    @Christy, it’s amazing that withdrawal has worked so long for you. I have a friend who got pregnant using that method for only a couple of months.

  17. Catherine S Dec 24 at 2:36 pm Reply Reply

    How about the sponge??? It is back on the market AGAIN, yay! It went off in the early 90’s then came back briefly in the early/mid 2000’s and is now back on the market a third time. They are actually great and can be left in for 24 hours allowing more bang for your buck. Yes, pun intended. More comfortable than condoms and I think they are more reliable than condoms when used accurately. The ones I saw were 3 for $13.99, so fairly cost effective too, especially when compared to putting a surprise baby through college. Doesn’t anyone use these? I used to take the pill, but was nursing with DS and didn’t want to decrease my supply. That is when I found these gems.

  18. Joanne Dec 24 at 3:03 pm Reply Reply

    One of the reasons I don’t trust doctors hormonal birth control. I have yet to meet a doc that does anything but sing its praises. NONE of them ever talk about the side effects and if I went in to talk to them about the depression/lack of sleep/DON’T TOUCH ME sex drive they all treated me like a was crazy. Some of them were downright rude and condescending about it.
    So yeah, hormonal BC of ANY KIND puts HORMONES into your body. And those hormones can do BAD THINGS no matter what stupid doctors do or do not say.

  19. gizella Dec 24 at 3:21 pm Reply Reply

    VCF, Vaginal Contraceptive Films. We have used them for at least 7 years, and have never had a scare. Never. Ever. When we wanted to get pregnant, I stopped, and did. No waiting for the hormones to wear off etc. I can’t take hormonal stuff due to a medical problem, so this is what I use, fwiw

  20. anonymous today Dec 24 at 3:22 pm Reply Reply

    Just wanted to give you a heads up that Mirena might not be the source of your issues. A pharmacist friend of mine explained to me that the mirena just releases the equivalent of 1/2 a pill of hormones a month– it is so effective because it stays localized and stops fertility in other ways.
    So, if you don’t see improvement within a month of having it removed, get a good doctor to help you figure out what is going on.

  21. Camille Dec 24 at 4:28 pm Reply Reply

    @Olivia
    Taking Charge of Your Fertility (Toni Weschler, http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Reproductive/dp/0060937645) has guidance on family planning while nursing/no cycle. We used it before my cycle returned after our daughter was born (she’s 9 months, cycle returned at 6.5). It worked in that there’s no baby on the way, but falling into bed exhausted with an infant between us might have also had something to do with that.

  22. maria Dec 25 at 1:25 am Reply Reply

    Yes to the Sponge, but TRIPLE yes to VCF!!! It melts and you don’t feel a thing, there’s no mess, nothing to remove… just pop it in and fly at’r!

  23. Lynn Dec 26 at 11:40 am Reply Reply

    The best advice I ever got from my gyno when I was having major bc issues was that if it makes you not want to have sex, then what’s the point?

  24. TwinMamaTeb Dec 27 at 10:05 am Reply Reply

    I had all the same issues with Mirena after my twins…horrible fatigue, acne, no sex drive, constant bleeding, weight gain, etc. Dr said I was crazy, but took it out. Suprise! Felt better w/in a month. We are using condoms too…b/c really, infant twins are enough birth control on their own!

  25. Kirsten Dec 28 at 3:09 am Reply Reply

    I use the Nuva-Ring, and I love it! You put it in, and it stays in for three weeks. You take it out for a week, have your period, and put a new one in. I am bad at remembering things as well, so I put reminders in my google calendar.

  26. Vicky Dec 28 at 6:35 am Reply Reply

    Great post and advice. Thank you!

  27. epilimnion Dec 28 at 11:53 am Reply Reply

    I can’t take hormonal birth control either. I’ve been using the femcap + withdrawal for 5 years and it has worked extremely well. I love the cervical cap. Smaller and less intrusive than a diaphragm, you can wear it for 48 hours, so you can put it in way ahead of time, and you can’t feel it (and neither can he). The only caveat is that you do need to be very aware of your inside anatomy, where the cervix is, etc.

  28. JamieT Dec 28 at 2:28 pm Reply Reply

    I have had issues with the Pill for years. Different pills, mood issues, no sex drive, etc. After I went off it to have my children I decided I wasn’t going back on it. I have a family history of cancer and my Dr. was suggesting I go back on it, and I told her my concerns. She recommended the Nuva-ring. My primary care Dr. also highly recommended the Nuva-ring. I have been on it for a few months now and love it. Highly recommended.

  29. Becky Dec 29 at 10:04 am Reply Reply

    I’ll chime in with the commenter before with a plug for Nuvaring.
    Yes, it is a hormonal birth control method – but it might be worth a try. I had been on a variety of birth control pills for close to 10 years. The side effects were never bad enough for me to give up on the method entirely – but they were annoying. When my doctor suggested Nuvaring, I figured I’d appreciate the convenience (not having to worry about remembering pills) but didn’t figure anything would be different.
    I have been amazed! My mood swings immediately improved, my period went from very heavy and long to a light couple of days, no weight gain or acne — overall just a completely different experience! This may not be true for everyone, but it might be a worth a try. (My dr. explained that since the hormones are absorbed directly — rather than metabolized through the liver like a pill, the effects can be different.)

  30. Stephanie Dec 29 at 12:56 pm Reply Reply

    If you are having bad side effects wtih the Mirena, you are probably not going to do well with any form of hormonal birth control — Mirena is about the lowest concentration you can get. I’m sorry it doesn’t work for you, but to put it in a word for a positive experience, I LOVE LOVE LOVE my Mirena. it is indeed the awesome! I tried the Dep shot for a while, and it was the worst experience of my life. The IUD is low-hoemone (necessary for me to reduce blood clot risks) and I don’t have to think about it. I don’t have kids, so it was midly uncomfortable to have it inserted, but I haven’t had any problems with it, and my periods are practically nothing these days.

  31. Michelle Dec 29 at 3:50 pm Reply Reply

    NuvaRing might not be the answer if Mirena makes you crazy, I think the hormone thing is similar with the two – very low levels of hormones absorbed through the uterus/vagina that don’t have to be metabolized by the liver.
    I was on the NuvaRing and it was OK, but I still had side effects with it, although definitely LESS than with the pill.
    I have tried every pill out there I think and they all made me batshit crazy. We are doing Fertility Awareness Method a la Tony Weschler. I hate the condoms, they give me yeast infections!

  32. Jamie Dec 30 at 10:41 am Reply Reply

    I’ve had my Mirena for about a month now. And I don’t know, I don’t FEEL more crazy but now I’m paranoid! Am I going crazy?! Am I getting fatter?!
    But so far it seems ok. A little spotting here and there. And it hurt like a B@*#&$ to have inserted, even after my medication-free childbirth. How the hell do you explain that?
    So anyway, I’m worried now. I have social anxiety disorder and I had a panic attack the week after I had the stupid thing put in. Maybe it was just a fluke?

  33. Kate Dec 30 at 7:07 pm Reply Reply

    I simply cannot do hormonal birth control. My fiance and I have been together for four years, and three of those years have been condoms-only. He’s fine with it – in his words, he’d rather wear a condom (we are both SO used to it by now, our sex life hasn’t suffered) than have me getting my ass kicked by depression.
    For me, I was struggling enough with my mental health – I needed to be off of the pill/NuvaRing so I could get my brain back to a good spot. I’m reluctant to reintroduce hormones back into my system, so condoms it is.

  34. Kirstie Dec 30 at 11:28 pm Reply Reply

    I read things like this and thank every lucky star I see that I don’t have negative side effects from hormonal birth control! I swear, I was crazier and depressed when I WASN’T on it, and except for the times in my life when I’m trying to conceive/actually carrying a child, I will never ever ever give up my Seasonique.
    I have Von Willibrand’s disease, which is a disease in the family of hemophilia disorders. Hormonal BC allows me to be a functioning human being instead of laying in bed in tears, bleeding heavily for 2 1/2-3 weeks out of every month. I actually get nervous thinking about when I start trying to conceive, since I’ll have to stop taking BC!

  35. Heather B. Armstrong
    no hormones for me, plzkthx Jan 03 at 10:27 pm Reply Reply

    I, too, have tried nearly every variation of hormonal birth control and each one failed miserably. My last fuckthisneveragain failure was THE PATCH. It may look like a good thing, but it’s a really high dose of hormone- like 70’s style bcp’s. I gained 6 pounds in the first two weeks, began sweating nonstop, and had really bad BO (not hot summer day/ just came from the gym BO but bad ‘not like me’ BO) and I could actually feel it making me crazy. We’ve been using withdrawal (shhhh) and NFP for 9 years with no unintended babies.

  36. sls Mar 01 at 7:35 am Reply Reply

    Frankly this worries me.
    I have been very, very depressed.
    I got the Mirena put in 6 months post-partum (I requested copper because I have NEVER done well with hormones, but the doctor said they don’t do them anymore) and she assured me the hormone level was SO low I wouldn’t even notice it.) and up until then, I actually thought I was doing ok. Sleep-deprived and not really interested in sex, but otherwise I think ok.
    I have pretty much been in a downward spiral since then. I put on a brave face to my family and friends, but the reality is that I cry a lot. And I resent my husband a lot. And we fight a lot.
    We had to pay for the Mirena out of pocket, 6 months ago, and my husband will KILL me if I take it out and I am still depressed.
    fark….what do I do?
    ____________________
    Editor: please take a look here as well: http://www.alphamom.com/smackdown/2010/02/birth_control_postpartum_depre.php
    But please take care of the PPD. PPD is TREATABLE.

  37. Sasha May 14 at 4:31 pm Reply Reply

    I just had to add to this.  I had a Mirena put in 4 months post-partum.  After two amazing nights of care free fun with my hubbie, I had morning sickness and a general funk.  This lead to no energy, depression and an overall panicky feeling.  I am so glad that I could tie it to the Mirena because if I would have had it put in 6 weeks post-partum like my OBGYN recommended, I would have thought I had pp depression.  I had it taken out two weeks later just to try to see if the symptoms would go away and they did not!  My doctor still didn’t think it could be the Mirena but I insisted he take it out.  He is an amazing and well read doctor so who knows.  We are now back to withdrawl which worked for us for a year and a half before we wanted to start trying.  

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