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Because I Have Been Just WAITING For the Chance to Whip Out Some Wedding Pictures

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Hi Amy,
I wrote you AGES ago asking about how to get a Coach bag on discount, and then school kicked in and I promptly forgot to check back on your site for the advice. So imagine my surprise when I went back the other day, searched in your archives, and discovered that you answered my question way back on May 16!
Well, thank you belatedly for the help. I did go to eBay right away (great idea!) and HOLY CRAP I totally bought my first Coach bag. I am so excited for it to come. And I had to tell you, b/c I think it is close to one you have yourself – “Coach Houndstooth Slim Demi.” AND I got a great deal! So, thank you again. I look forward to enjoying my first (hopefully of many) snazzy designer bags.
Take care,
supine

Proof positive that we are CHANGING LIVES here, people. Handbags to the People!
Oh, Amalah, I hope you can help!
My partner and I were all set to get married this June, until my parents got into a serious car accident two weeks before the big day. They are recovering, and looking forward to the rescheduled nuptials. It looks like we’ll be planning for a day in mid-February (no, not Valentine’s Day!) and I’m wondering…..given that the original wedding date now has lots of bad juju for me, and the new date is in a *completely* different season, am I allowed to get a new wedding dress if I want to pay for it?
You might think, oh sure, go for it! Does it change your answer if I tell you that I was having serious dress dilemmas a month before the June date, and went out and bought myself a second dress? Now, these are not ridonkulously expensive dresses. Around $300 each. Put them together, and I think it still costs less than the average dress. But I’m thinking that now I have six months to get it *really* right and find the ultimate dress….still without breaking the proverbial piggy bank. Am I ridiculous for doing this?
If I am, but you still say it’s okay, does anyone have any idea how to find dresses that might be more appealing to wear in February in DC? That is, not strapless, but still sexy and fun without being too formal? And, for girls who are not skinny, like a size 12 or 14?
I have attached a link to one of the June date dresses (strapless, more tea length than it looks in the photo) as well as a new dress I just found that is v.v. intriguing. help!
I fear that I might just be compulsively building a wedding dress collection, but really want to make sure I am wearing something that I love.
Martha

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Amalah

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Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy's daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it's pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

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9 Responses to “Because I Have Been Just WAITING For the Chance to Whip Out Some Wedding Pictures”

  1. robin m Aug 30 at 9:39 am Reply Reply

    Re: Skin care – I have fair/bad/sensitive skin and at the risk of being a broken record around here let me give acne.org another shoutout – it’s changed my skin totally. It’s cheap, too.

  2. Amy Aug 30 at 11:44 am Reply Reply

    Martha,
    I got married in February and my best friend got married in December, so I’ve got some wintertime wedding experience.
    Plenty of dresses that are bare on the top can be “winter appropriate” — the key is in the fabric. You wouldn’t want to wear a silk organza or cotton voile dress in the dead of winter, but a velvet, silk satin or brocade fabric are all totally appropriate. My best friend’s dress was a lovely brocade from Nicole Miller and was quite reasonably priced. The beauty of the heavier fabric (besides being seasonal) is that its a bit warmer, so even if your arms or shoulders are bare, your dress is still pretty warm. (My dress was silk satin and even though it was barely 20 degrees the day we got married, I was sweating profusely by the end of the night after all the dancing and socializing!).
    An easy and chic wrap if you need to cover up while outside is a fur stole. You can find TONS of lovely old ones on eBay for $50 or less. My friend and I both wore them and they were warm and quite functional, as well as cute. If you’re worried about being cold in the church/reception area, look for a dress with a matching stole or wrap — again, I recommend Nicole Miller on that front!
    Anyway, good luck — and I agree with Amalah, you should have a dress you love. After all, you’re only doing this once, right?

  3. Zoot Aug 30 at 12:06 pm Reply Reply

    Wait. Are you saying my precious Target is violating some Beauty Code with their wall of Salon stuff? SERIOUSLY? I dont even use the stuff, but I always thought it was cool that Target sold it. *sob*

  4. Amalah
    Amy Corbett Storch Aug 30 at 1:30 pm Reply Reply

    I know, Zoot! Apparently you can like, REPORT stores for selling salon stuff. And then…I don’t know what happens. Paul Mitchell comes and breaks some kneecaps. Or maybe just sends Target a sternly worded letter.

  5. Jess Aug 30 at 3:18 pm Reply Reply

    Are you saying my Biolage from Target is counterfeit? I suddenly feel so dirty & unmoisturized!!
    On the wedding inquiry, I have to agree that the fabric can really change the seasonal feel of the dress. But a friend of mine got married last March in Michigan and wore a simple strapless gown but added the below cover-up and it looked beautiful. It worked for the cold church and she was able to remove it for the actual reception where it was warmer.
    Ignore the dress, she wore just the cover-up: http://www.demetriosbride.com/us/collections/ilissa_06/highres/892jckbk.jpg

  6. Heather Barmore Aug 30 at 4:05 pm Reply Reply

    Remember: blackheads are excess pigment, not dirt, so no squeezing or scrubbing. It makes them worse. Ever so much worse.
    Wow, you learn something new everyday. Thus the reason my face looks a hot mess. Thank you as always.

  7. Peyton Snyders Aug 31 at 11:38 am Reply Reply

    I got married on Valentine’s Day (it was a Saturday, and I’m a hopeless romantic). I wore a silk satin gown, strapless, with a chapel-length train and a veil that was yards long (cathedral-length, I think, the wedding was at night). I took the veil off after the ceremony and used a red pashmina as a cover-up. Red works well with any winter wedding, especially if you’re carrying red roses (which of course, I was, lots of them). :-)
    I’m a face-toucher, too. It’s horrible, I know I shouldn’t do it, but I catch myself all the time resting my hand on my chin in front of my computer monitor. Odd thing is, my forehead is actually my skin’s trouble spot!

  8. Jodi Sep 01 at 12:51 pm Reply Reply

    This is a great cleansing idea for ultra-sensivite skin:
    http://www.norwex.com/norwex/controller?action=catalog&prod=98&cat=1&subcat=0

  9. heels Sep 05 at 4:45 pm Reply Reply

    I think we may have had the same wedding dress…

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