Nice Day for a White Wedding
I have a question about appropriate wedding attire. I’ve been invited to about 3 summer weddings. Is it okay to wear a white dress as a female guest? If it helps, this is the dress I’m trying to decide to buy.
As eye-rolly as I get sometimes about weddings and bridezillas and ESPECIALLY bridezillas who go on a power trip when it comes to other people’s attire — I’m going to go old-school on this one and say no, it is not okay to wear white (or any close variation on white) to a wedding.
I know there was once a similar rule about wearing black to weddings (which has since been roundly rejected by pretty much everybody), the no-white rule is still followed most of the time. I’m saying MOST and not ALL, because I seem to remember reading something about white being okay if you are very, VERY careful to choose something that could never be mistaken for a wedding dress and accessorizing with lots of color. But this is fraught with danger, since some brides go really casual these days, plus you’re likely to get the stink-eye from more traditional guests or bridal party members.
And with THREE weddings to attend, I think it’s probably a bad idea to buy a white dress. It just seems three times as likely that you’ll piss somebody off — whether it be a IT’S MY SPECIAL DAAAAAY-style bride or a hovering, emotionally-spent mother-of-the-bride. And I personally know a bride who bought a white dress at Anthropologie because she didn’t want a big traditional gown, and oh my GOD, can you just imagine??
For an all-purpose summer wedding outfit, you’ll be safer in a dress like this one, or this one. Or, if cream is really your best color, consider getting a cream dress with a bold print, like this one or this one.
(Of course, keep in mind that if any of the weddings are in the evening, about 90% of the female guests will wear black. Just seems to be the default choice these days.)