Because Nobody Else Wants to Discuss Your Hair As Much As I Do
I’ve gotten quite a few requests for clarification about the Not Curly But Sort-Of Bendy hairstyle I described two weeks ago. For some reason, the brilliant bit of prose: "don’t open the “flappy”thing" confused a couple people. I mean, really.
Anyway, funny story! I’d actually taken pictures of the technique with the idea of using them to illustrate the column. And then I completely forgot about them, as I chose to upload the column after approximately 70 glasses of wine.
(Okay, maybe that story is not so much "funny" as it is a "testament to alcoholism.")
Here they are. Note: I am not wearing any makeup in these photos, and also, while I may have been in California, my eyebrow tweezers were in Washington, DC. Yikes.
The Wednesday Advice Smackdown! Now with 27% More Helpful!
In a few months my brother is getting married, and
I have a shoe dilemma. My mother visited the vineyard where the ceremony is
taking place and when she reported back to me she used terrifying words like
"grass," "soggy," and "squishy." This is disturbing for me because I already
have a dress and shoes, and these shoes are of the 4-inch stiletto heel variety.
Not so good on squishy grass.
I’ve already worn the shoes a few times, so I don’t
feel too bad about casting them aside for something a bit more practical, but
what? I can’t wear flats (as the 5’11" bride is planning on
doing) because I am only 5’3" and my legs are of the un-shapely
variety. Flats might be cute on Micha Barton but on me they amount to cankles.
Dreaded, dreaded cankles. Should I be looking for a pretty, formal wedge? Does
such a thing exist? Because I’ve looked around and all the "formal" wedges I’ve
seen either involve a clear, plastic heel (ew!) or the more traditional, but
not-at-all-fancy-enough wooden heel.
Part of me is thinking I should just get a little
ballet flat to wear to the ceremony (where I’ll be mostly sitting and
therefore people won’t be able to see how stumpy I look,) and then I could
change into the heels for the reception, where the ground will be solid and the
champagne will be flowing. But that is such an awful amount of work, and a spare
pair of shoes won’t exactly fit into my black, satin clutch.
Any advice? A miracle solution, perhaps?
Stupid weddings. I can’t tell you how many times I get asked about what shoes to wear to weddings on beaches, in parks, bogs, quicksand, everything.
I suppose you could wear flats to the ceremony and just keep your heels stashed in whatever vehicle you will be taking, but far be it from me to ever tell anyone to be practical and miss out on the opportunity to buy NEW SHOES. Also: cankles. No!
Black dressy wedges with a solid black heel DO exist (like these! or these!), and I think they’d look awesome with that dress (thanks for the picture! pretty!) and make you look remarkably unstumplike.
However, whenever you wear black shoes outside, in evil nature, they’re going to get all cruddy. Particularly if you’re dealing with squishy grass. So I would pack a few wet wipes in that little black satin clutch so you can discreetly clean them up without having to make a big paper-towel-and-hand-soap production in the ladies’ room.
I have gotten myself in a pickle……I’m in
over my head with Highlights that I cannot afford to maintain. My
natural hair is baby fine & a dark dishwater blonde — mousy and
plain so I get a few face framing highlights to brighten my complexion
and add body. I went to an Aveda beauty school to save some money ( we
just adopted our toddler from Russia) and this chick put two different
colors in my hair and now it’s way so blonde and over-higlighted. Its
nowhere near my natural color– except in the back. This look probably
looks good on a 20something- but I’m in my late 30’s and Im so
distraught. I went to a new place (high end/ well known salon) to get
some lowlights to try to blend — but its still too blonde for my fair
& freckled complexion. I waited a few months and when it got really
rooty I went back and this time they tried to make it look cool blonde
instead of warm blonde and it’s still all wrong for me.
what do I
do? Should I ask the salon to color me all over? How do I get back to
natural? I hate roots and every 6-8 weeks I start getting really bad
regrowth …I’m stuck in a catch-22 of highlighting hell. I can’t
to keep this up.
Oh bleh. Getting your natural color back. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it?
For the record, I don’t think your hair looks nearly as bad as your
email makes it sound (thanks for the pictures! infinitely helpful!).
Yes, it’s a little too pale for you. But the real clincher in the cost to keep it up, and honestly, paying to maintain a color that you DON’T EVEN LIKE is the saddest thing ever. So I get why you’re upset.
Yes, I think the best option would be getting an all-over, single-process dye job at the salon. A home dye might work, but picking the right shade is fraught with potential disaster. You might be able to do it if you get some guidance from a veteran homecolorer (colorister? dyejober? what?) since you’re looking to go darker (blond home dyes over darker dye? aaahh! no!!), but to be absolutely safe I’d probably just go to a salon.
You’ll want to go to the salon with some significant roots, however, so the colorist can get a good look at your natural color and determine exactly what dye numbers were used on you before. I’d say about two inches of regrowth would be best. Make sure you tell them about the Aveda-highlights-before-your-current-highlights so they’ll know what they’re dealing with. Get a trim of those sure-to-be-ridiculously-overprocessed ends at the same time.
And then be very nice to your hair afterwards. You’ve colored it a lot and you’ll probably see some breakage for awhile. Do a weekly hot oil treatment if you can, and maybe take some of the highlight money you’ll be saving in the long run and invest in a good shampoo and conditioner.
(Oh, and before anyone else asks: Yes, I have tried those at-home highlighting kits. And no, we will not discuss them ever again.)
Amalah ala bo bala,
I have a two part question.
(1) I have fair skin and a red nose that
Santa would envy. Is a good color correcting foundation primer worth
the money? I’ve tried the cheap ones, and they don’t seem very
effective. Any suggestions on how to even my skin tone and hide the
(2) I’ve been an at-home mom for a few years now, and I’ve let
myself go. I keep hoping that bag-lady couture will come into style,
but so far, no luck. I know you’re an at-home mom as well, and know the
realities of having 10 minutes during the Boobahs to complete your
entire beauty regime, so what is your daily routine? What do you wear,
typically? How much do you do to your hair? Do you floss and whiten
your teeth, or just brush? What do you put on your face? I figure if I
model myself after you, no one can accuse me of being frumpy.
Okay, as for the first part of your question: yes, in my opinion, the Smashbox color-correcting primer is worth the money. I get redness through the nose and cheek area and noticed a marked improvment when using the primer. It’s also available in a travel size if you’d rather not fork over the full price right away. However, if you find that the primer still isn’t cutting it, try a concealer or other color-correcting cream before applying your foundation. (And remember that green makeup = enemy of red.)
As for the second part…oh. Dear. My daily routine is not so much "routine" as a "desperate, hurried scramble." Typically, I try to at least 1) shower, 2) shave my armpits, 3) brush my teeth and 4) put clothes on. If I accomplish all four, I declare the day a raging success. Yesterday those four items were not completed until 3 pm, but still. Success. Raging.
I let my hair air-dry, obviously. I use a detangler, comb it through, and then I use a thickening spray or curl booster. Other than a few scrunches as it dries and some lifting at the roots, that’s pretty much all I do. Probably four days out of five it ends up piled up into a clip with my bangs snapped back in a barrette. It’s a rockin’ look.
I wash my face in the shower, then I moisturize. I smear on some eye cream, oil control lotion, powder and usually leave it at that. If I have to run an errand, I’ll apply foundation and mascara but rarely anything else. Oh, but I always comb my eyebrows. You know how I feel about neat eyebrows.
I wear jeans and a couple layered tank tops most days. If I’m feeling especially put-together, I’ll add a belt and a pair of stud earrings. Other days, it’s all yoga pants. Because really, I just want to be comfortable. I love my Levis and my cotton tanks. I guess it’s a pretty boring Slobbish Mom Look, but I don’t know. I think it’s kind of cute. And comfortable. Did I mention the comfortable?
HowEVER, the rule at our house is that on the weekends, I get to pamper myself all I want. If I want to take an hour to blowdry my hair and use a face masque and apply everything from Vitamin C powder to eyeshadow primer, I’m going to. Jason spends time with Noah in the morning while I take a long shower, shave my legs, deep condition my hair, and then spend forever futzing around with my cuticles.