The way to get your kids to behave is to give them the gift of self discipline. But exactly how do you do that? That is what author Barbara Coloroso outlines in her book, Kids Are Worth It!
Your child is approaching or in preadolescence. This new phase of development may seem fairly natural and normal to you, but it’s probably the exact opposite to your child. Puberty can be embarrassing, awkward and scary. For that reason, any puberty advice or information you give your child now is only going to help their comfort level during this transitional time.
I began to tell my children about all the good things that happen. All the people who are good that far out number the bad. Often we don’t recognize or acknowledge these things. We do good quietly. But, doing good is contagious. I learned that from Ann Curry’s #26Acts of Kindness movement.
This is the time of year when we all start to thinks about being thankful. It is the time when we reflect on the past year and consider where we want to go in our lives in the upcoming one. How have you helped your children be thankful for all they are blessed with?
When I read The Five Love Languages of Children years ago it truly revolutionized the way I parented my children. I remember there were several moments while reading when a light bulb would go off and I wanted to smack myself on the forehead for missing what seemed, in retrospect, so obvious. Rereading the book this time I was struck by how much I had forgotten
Once I graduated from college I thought my homework days were over. Little did I know that once I had children I would have homework once again. These days just the word homework causes my shoulders to slump and release an exasperated sigh. The second question out of my mouth every single day is “What kind of homework do you have?”
Once kids are school-aged like mine, it’s reasonable to expect them to shoulder some pet care responsibility. However, keep in mind that, although they may want to handle something like the litter box or dog walking, they might not be ready just yet.
Increasingly I look around at the world and wonder when making fun of people became acceptable. My kids sometimes laugh at things that make me cringe. And on more occasions than I would care to remember I have had to remind one of my children that saying something mean followed by, “Just kidding!” doesn’t in fact make it a joke.
All that said, the decision to leave your kids alone is obviously a very personal one and depends on factors such as their maturity, their environment and your basic comfort level. As well as other issues like whether you should put the oldest kid in charge and your kids’ ability to follow safety rules to the letter.
I always loved back to school season when I was a kid. The new clothes, new shoes, crisp notebooks that were not yet written in, sharpened pencils and pens at your disposal. It marked the beginning, a fresh start. No matter what had happened the previous school year, the slate was wiped clean. It seems then a more fitting time of the year to make some resolutions.
My kids start school in a few days. After our long, hot, busy summer, I know I should be really excited that we’re getting back to our regular routine. I mean, who isn’t happy when school resumes? Last year my friends and I actually popped open a bottle champagne at the bus stop. But this time, I’m feeling a little sad that they can’t stay home just a little while longer. I know, what the hell is wrong with me?
The lasts are hard for me to deal with. Mostly because when they are happening we don’t know that they are the last. We have no reason to mark the occassion as special or set it aside as being different than any other day. We are just going on like it is a regular day. It is only in retrospect, in looking back, that the event has any importance.