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When You’re Not Going Back

Sep14

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Okay. So I’ve been reading up on this topic for a couple weeks now. It’s an annoying topic to read up on, by the way, because there are no super-handy definitive how-to guides or even just a general consensus. There’s a lot of bad advice and bad behavior and sweeping generalized vitriol being slung at innocent pregnant bystanders BECAUSE of that bad behavior. Mostly, though, it’s a lot of families grappling with a complicated financial AND ethical AND personal issue: When do I tell my boss I’m not coming back to work? When do I make the decision not to go back to work? HOW do I make the decision not to go back to work?
PERFECT WORLD OPTION: You tell them as soon as you know you plan to stay home, with as much advance notice as possible. Because of course you just *know* that staying home is the right decision, probably right as your pregnancy tips into third trimester, leaving your employer with the perfect three-month window to hire and train your replacement.
Pros: Definitely the option that leaves your professional reputation most intact, since you will not be one of “those” pregnant women who take advantage of the company’s leave benefits. And also, OH YEAH, you’re not actually taking advantage of the company’s leave benefits.
Cons: You may lose out on ANY paid maternity leave benefits, as your baby’s birth would likely officially be your last day of employment, unless you arrange some part-time/freelance work afterward to tie up loose ends. You also run the risk of losing your health insurance, if the company decides to let you go ahead of time. (They can’t fire you for being pregnant, but they CAN lay you off once you’ve announced your intention to leave.) That can leave you shelling out a fortune for COBRA or having to change plans and providers in the middle of a very medical-claim intensive time. This could cause some premature financial hardship, or the fear that you’re burning your bridges BEFORE you cross them, especially if your situation changes after the baby is born (i.e. your partner loses their job and/or health insurance or some other financial crisis). And also, OH YEAH, not every woman can honestly make the decision “for sure” before the baby arrives.
Is It For You? If you have already made up your mind 100% to stay home, then legally and ethically, this is your option. Anything else veers into a muddy gray area of insurance scamming — not to mention mega-unprofessional behavior. If you KNOW, your job should should know too. (And if you’re hoping to keep the door open for freelance work or a return to the workforce some day, this is the best way to keep your company’s trust.)
At my office, my boss asked for a meeting about two months before I was due to “discuss my plans.” While I was planning to return to work, this would have been the perfect time to volunteer any plans to stay home (or desire to drop to part-time). Then I could have laid out some major projects and goals from my to-do list that I would like to finish, and offered to interview and train a replacement, positioning myself as a valuable team member for the next few months, greatly reducing the chances that they would have preemptively laid me off right then and there.
NOT-SO-PERFECT-WORLD OPTION: Tell them while you’re still on leave that you won’t be coming back as planned.
Pros: Benefits! Paid time off! No disruption in your health care through the birth and multiple well-baby visits! A chance to actually live the life of a SAHM before committing to it full-time! Plus, if you really hadn’t made up your mind, you’re not REALLY leaving them in the lurch and defrauding the system, right? Right?
Cons: Professional ire, disbelief at your claim that you simply changed your mind. Adding to the crap about pregnant women gaming the system and raising benefit premiums and no respect for their bosses and coworkers grumble grumble. Possibility of having to pay benefits back or even legal action, if your company is litigious or extremely strict about their leave policies.
Is It For You? Have you made up your mind for sure? Then: No. Maternity leave is, really, more of a retention benefit. It’s not something they owe you, like a bank of unused vacation days. It’s designed for women who DO plan to return to the workplace (however crappy of a design it is in this country).
But if you haven’t made up your mind, you’re not a terrible person for keeping the option of returning around. It’s a HUGE decision — life-changing, with life-long repercussions for your career and earnings power and retirement — and I’m not sure the third trimester, before the reality of motherhood really hits you, is a fair time to expect every woman to know for sure. Plenty of women change their minds during maternity leave.
However, this is still different than say…waiting until week 11-and-a-half to tell them you aren’t coming back. You should always, ALWAYS try to give them as much notice as you possibly can. Otherwise you’re veering into a moral, ethical and legal gray area. It’s also short-sighted to assume that you will be a SAHM forever and ever AMEN, and will never regret robbing your bridges at gunpoint before setting them on fire.
Internet message boards are full of people figuring out how to squeeze every last paid option before quitting, while others argue that hey, that’s really not cool. Any discussion of a maternity leave overhaul in this country — having companies provide longer leave, more generous leave times in hopes of upping retention — brings out the folk who have a bitter story to tell about how a woman totally screwed their office over with her sneaky leave-taking when she clearly never had any intention of returning. Hey, I’ve got one of those stories too: A friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend of mine worked for a particularly troubled company that shuddered through round after round of layoffs. Late in her pregnancy, she was offered a severance package in order to save someone else’s job, on the off chance she was planning to quit anyway. She turned it down, kept her job, went on leave…and then quit right before her scheduled return, as was her plan all along.
HOWEVER, of course, real life rarely sticks to schedule. If your baby was a preemie, or has health problems, or you were on bedrest and it all mucked with your leave time and nothing is what you expected it to be like six to 12 weeks later, then you may not have a choice. Similarly if your daycare falls through or your baby still won’t take a bottle or your office announces it’s moving four exits up your area’s most congested highway.
If you do decide to stay home AFTER your baby is born: quit in person, with your HR person and your boss present. Offer to do WHATEVER YOU CAN to help with the transition — working from home, coming in for interviews and meetings, organizing your files and to-do lists and job description. Anything to offset the perception of being all, “Thanks for the money, suckers!” before flouncing out the door.
I probably promised a good 25 different people on a good 25 different occasions that yes, I would be coming back to work after my leave. I don’t think they believed me. So it was tempting to assume that quitting as soon as the short-term disability payments dried up was an okay option, because it’s just “what everybody did.” And despite all my promises, I WAS unsure about the decision. We were waitlisted at half a dozen daycares with no sure-fire spot in sight. I didn’t know whether my salary would be worth the expense of childcare and commuting and even whether I was honestly all that interested in my job anymore, as freelance writing opportunities seemed like something possibly within my grasp. But I also didn’t know if I’d like being home with a newborn day in and day out, whether I’d be breastfeeding or bottlefeeding or suffering from PPD or so madly in love with motherhood that I was willing to do whatever it took to soak up every second of it. I just wasn’t ready to make the decision before the baby was born or even during my leave — so I went back. Because I’d promised, and because I wasn’t sure. A few months in and suddenly I was sure. Luckily, by that point, maternity leave benefits were a thing of the past, and I was able to quit like any other employee: two weeks’ notice, letter of resignation, a contract arrangement to continue a slew of my duties from home until a replacement could be found and/or I was no longer interested in the work.
It remains the best — and BY FAR, the toughest — decision I’ve ever made.
Those of you who genuinely grappled with the decision of whether or not to return: What were the details behind YOUR decision, when and how did you tell your job, and how did it go? Any regrets? Anybody do anything as remotely awesome as this?

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17 Responses to “When You’re Not Going Back”

  1. eva Sep 15 at 5:09 pm Reply Reply

    After 12 months of maternity + parental leave, 6 at 85% of my full pay and 6 on EI, I took the 4 weeks of paid vacation that I had accrued during my leave. I fully intended to return to my job full time. During that 4 weeks, a friend found a perfect job for me just 5 minutes and no bridge-crossings away from home. I interviewed and tested and interviewed again and they checked references and I got the job! Unfortunately on my 1st day back to work, when co-workers who I adored had done a card and a big welcome back breakfast for me, after people had hugged me and said they were happy to see me? I got the written offer from the new employer, signed and returned it. Then I had to call my boss who was on vacation, on my 2nd day back after 13 months off and numerous verbal commitments to Return To My Full Time Job, and give notice.
    I felt like a huge gigantic schmuck. My old boss was great, the coworkers and work were great…and I quit.
    But it was the right decision. Totally unanticipated, unplanned, but to be 5 minutes away from my baby girl instead of 45 minutes of stressful commuting totally balanced out the guilt I felt. I would have felt much more guilt being that far away for that long every day than I did for leaving an employer.
    That’s my story. Somehow I have not burned that bridge too! My old co-workers were very understanding since most have kids, and even my old boss understood once she got over feeling hurt and betrayed.
    My new job is challenging and I have great co-workers. And once I have completed my one year probation (that’s right folks – a full year – yikes!)I will be requesting to go part time/job share/modified or compressed work week/whatever. Otherwise? Hey – maybe I’ll have another kid! Go through that heart-wrenching back to work drama all over again. sigh.

  2. jodifur Sep 15 at 5:59 pm Reply Reply

    I’m an attorney for the government which means low pay, but hey, we are family friendly. I had the same meeting with my boss that you mentioned and told her under no uncertain terms would I not be coming back full time. My salary didn’t cover full time daycare and it didn’t make sense. She said she was sure we could work something out. So I went out for 5 months (yeah, government!) and when I was ready to come back I was told PT wasn’t an option. So, I resigned. Then, magically, they offered me a position contracting about 15 hours a week from home doing exactly what I was doing before. I loved it.
    And then when my son was 18 months old a PT merit position opened and I went back to the office. And well, I honestly wish I stayed a contractor. I miss the flexibility of reporting to myself. But, in this economy, there is something to be said about having a real job. And PT attorney jobs are hard to come by.
    Wow, wrote a novel there. But, I think the best rule is be flexible. What works for you when your baby is 3 months may not be the answer when they are 5. Don’t burn bridges.

  3. Suzanne Sep 15 at 7:53 pm Reply Reply

    I didn’t get a choice. One of the disadvantages of working for a very very small family company where I was technically the only employee is none of the FMLA laws apply to them. When the economy tanked and I announced I was pregnant they said “so long, good luck” with the promise that maybe they would throw some contractor type work my way. That never happened. Instead I was left wondering if I should try to find a different job for the next 6 months or just become a SAHM to a 3 month old fetus. I was lucky enough to be able to choose.
    I know staying home isn’t an option for everyone – and isn’t something everyone wants – but I don’t think 12 weeks is anywhere CLOSE to long enough to make that decision. Maternity leave in this country is a fricking crime.

  4. Diana Sep 16 at 12:40 am Reply Reply

    The bureau of labor statistics has some interesting data on this. In 1970 only 26% of married women with children under 3 years old were participating in the labor force, by 1985 it was 50%. It’s held roughly stable – in 2005 it was around 53%.
    When I was pregnant with my 2nd in two years, I had several conversations with my boss during which it was clear that he just didn’t believe that I would be coming back. I think this is because he is about 15 years older than I am, and his point of reference is a period when women with young children were less likely to come back to work. (In his defense, when I did come back, he was thrilled!)
    Links: http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/1986/02/rpt2full.pdf
    http://www.bls.gov/opub/mlr/2007/02/art2full.pdf

  5. Nancy Sep 16 at 1:51 am Reply Reply

    My situation is a little different because I was a public school teacher. I left after my first trimester, because things were going sour at my school, I knew that I wanted to be a SAHM, and the paper work required to take a paid leave (only 6-8 weeks) and get the 12 weeks of insurance coverage guaranteed by the FMLA was a real PITA. Like Suzanne, I was lucky enough to be able to choose.
    However, I knew that my leaving would put my department in a lurch. I told my assistant principal before I even officially announced my pregnancy, that I would be leaving soon. This was in November or December, before the Christmas break. We had major state exams coming up at the end of January. He asked me to stay until the end of the first semester, after exams had been taken. I agreed.
    I felt better doing it this way even though I couldn’t wait to get the hell out. It allowed me to have closure with my kids, and leave without feeling guilty. The bonus was that because I ended up staying for half the school year, I got pro-rated summer pay.

  6. olivia Sep 16 at 8:44 am Reply Reply

    @Suzanne, maternity leave in the U.S. is a joke for sure.
    Don’t have much to contribute to this subject since I had worked as a contract employee for three years at the same company when I got pregnant. No paid leave what-so-ever for me. I went back to work 3 weeks after a c-section out of necessity.

  7. CherylH Sep 16 at 9:08 am Reply Reply

    Luckily, I have an awesome boss. That, and the fact that I had been with this company for over 9 years when I got pregnant, and had basically made myself “indispensable,” (ha-ha) really worked in my favor.
    I was SURE I wanted to return to work. I was SURE I wanted to return when my baby was 8 weeks old. Of course, I was “sure” of all of this before my baby was born.
    After he came along (he was my first), my life and priorities completely changed. (Duh!) As he approached about 4 weeks old, I began to panic at the thought of leaving him in daycare while he was so little. I couldn’t imagine leaving him with someone else and being away from him.
    I researched all kinds of options: going part time somewhere else, getting some kind of work from home, begging my boss for a modified full time schedule to give me a day or two off per week….everything.
    When my baby was about 6 or 7 weeks old, I asked my boss for a meeting, sat down face to face with her, and just told her what I was struggling with. She’s a mom. She knew exactly what I was talking about, and she respected me for trying to find a decision that was as right for me as it was for my employer.
    My wonderful boss allowed me to go part time for 5 months after my 8 weeks maternity leave were up. She didn’t have to do that. She’d never done it for anyone else. She could’ve required me to return full time, but she wanted me to be able to get a realistic idea of what staying at home would really be like.
    In the end, I knew it wasn’t for me. I’m 34 years old. I’ve worked hard for my career. My baby’s wonderful daycare is only 5 minutes from my job, and he has 3 “adopted grandmas” taking care of him.
    When I discovered how hard it was to take care of a baby, even just in the afternoons; when I thought about giving up my career, my education, my benefits, my retirement package, and my promotion – it just didn’t make sense for me to throw all that away. I’ve been back full time for about 3 weeks now, and I am enjoying my baby so much more when I pick him up in the afternoons.
    The bottom line is: While I love my son with all my heart, and I absolutely adore him, I did NOT enjoy being home with him all the time, staring at the same four walls, going stir crazy every afternoon, and, oh yeah – losing half of my paycheck every week.
    It’s not for everyone. I’m very grateful my boss allowed me the opportunity to figure that out for myself. (She also “paused” my benefits while I was out, so they started from where I left off when I returned to full time. Is she awesome, or what?)

  8. mary Sep 16 at 2:39 pm Reply Reply

    This is hard to do without a long comment! I have two kids now. I always said I would be part time when I came back (my employer is great about this) and that I would return after my FMLA was up. Well, it got to be about 10 weeks after my first dd was born and I freaked out and was just generally not ready. My dd hated (hated) bottles, group daycare was seeming really bad to me, and I was just too attached to her to leave her at that point.
    Another complication in all this was my husband’s dependence on me returning at least part time, more because he thought it would be better for me mentally than for the money (but the money doesn’t hurt either, am I right?). He and I agreed before I called my employer that I would stay home until baby was 6 mo if my employer agreed.
    I called my employer (my work is 60 miles from home, but that’s another story) and laid out the bad news. I was, looking back, a huge mess and near tears during the call. They were OK with it. I did have something to offer to make it a little less painful. We had a large client review meeting coming up that I had started to prepare for already and I promised (and did) travel for meeting and complete me portion of the presentation.
    After that, I found a private sitter (she was super) for my dd. I started her on sippy cups, which worked out great. And I introduced some solids to her before I went back to work so she had something to eat besides milk. And I felt pretty good when I went back, though it was-no joke-super hard to start leaving her regularly.
    I just started back at 20 hours per week at the beginning of September after number two. This time it was relatively smooth and I probably could have come back sooner, but it wouldn’t have felt fair to my second (and I loved my time at home!). This time around, I said that I would probably take an extended leave again, and I worked a day here and there to help out while I was still on leave. I thank God that I have such a great employer with the flexibility to let me stay at home part time. There’s compromises at work and compromises at home this way, but I think for me it’s been the best.

  9. paranoid Sep 16 at 3:39 pm Reply Reply

    Thank you so much for posting this! I can’t even tell you how many debates I’ve gotten into about the ethics of maternity leave, and I was starting to feel a little bit lonely.
    I knew before I got pregnant that I was going to be a SAHM (my job, even “part-time”) was thoroughly incompatible with having a family). I’d intended to let the firm know about 3 months before the baby came, but ended up actually leaving when I was around 12 weeks because DH got a job offer and we moved to a different state. Making the decision before the baby came was a leap of faith, but it turned out to be the right one for us. I’ve enjoyed being home with my kids.

  10. Charity Sep 16 at 8:22 pm Reply Reply

    When I was 8 weeks pregnant, I was offered a promotion. I already knew that after having my son, I would not be returning to the office. So I declined the promotion and told my boss about the pregnancy. I just didn’t feel right accepting a position I knew that I couldn’t commit to long term. Perhaps it might seem stupid for me to do that. But my boss was very appreciative of the open conversation. I took 3 months off (it’s a small company, so no paid leave), and then have been working part-time at home (averaging 12 hours per week) for the same company. I think being upfront with my boss about my future plans was key to maintaining this working relationship. It was definitely a trust-building moment and paved the way for working from home. Sometimes things get busy juggling baby and work, but overall I really love my setup and know how lucky I am!

  11. Two Wishes Sep 16 at 11:20 pm Reply Reply

    While I can definitely see the ethical problems with waiting till after the baby is born, I can think of another benefit to that option: After a few months of parenting, you may decide you’d rather be back at work. Some women surprise themselves with a decision they never would have imagined. Usually you hear about new mothers who suddenly decide they want to stay home, but in fact the decision goes both ways.
    Personally, I have been on disability for a few years and was fairly sure I’d never return to boring legal work. But after 6 months with a baby, I *crave* the world of work and the opportunity to use my skills and education in the way they were intended. I’m depressed from being trapped in full-time childcare, and once you’re there, there’s no easy way to escape into the adult world for any real length of time. Some women NEED that adult world, and it turns out I’m one of them. So you just never know!

  12. Jennifer Sep 17 at 10:27 am Reply Reply

    I just . . . wow. I had no idea an employer can fire you for being honest about your intentions not to return to your job after maternity leave. And they wonder why women don’t speak up ahead of time? We all want to do right by the company and give them as much notice as possible, but if telling = loosing my insurance covereage – No Way! Especially for a long time employee that has spend years paying their premiums without a major claim, and using only a day or two here and there for sick leave, that is a kick in the pants.
    I get that there are women who will try to scam the system, and the company wants to protect itself from extra costs, but loyalty should go both ways. If your employee has earned her materinty leave and health care, she should get it, reguardless of the after situation.
    I’ve been fired for letting my boss know that I was looking for a new job for personal reasons (had nothing to do with maternity leave) and was fired within a week. I was shocked and felt that the company acted poorly and immaturely in basically taking away my paycheck and leaving me high and dry as punishment for being honest and giving them a heads up. It completely ruined my trust in that company, and made me more protective of myself and my job in general. I’m much less likely to be honest now because of that experience.

  13. Bitts Sep 19 at 7:17 pm Reply Reply

    I learned my lesson from experience: don’t tell. A LOT CAN CHANGE in the year after your baby is born. Who knows how you’ll feel once your leave is up and you have to make the call to come back or not?!? Why shoot yourself in the foot by saying you’re not coming back for sure? Burn that bridge and your employer will be IN NO WAY obligated to rehire you if you end up needing/wanting to go back to work. By the time your leave is over and it’s time to really make the decision, things may look VERY DIFFERENT. Protect yourself, your income and your options. Don’t tell. You don’t owe them a thing. Business is business.
    Also, look at it in these terms: if you were a MAN and thinking of leaving in the next year and a half for reasons NOT related to pregnancy (obv.), would you feel guilty? No? This is no different.
    FWIW, I never intended to go back, but didn’t tell. I was a public school teacher, so I used up my maternity leave (which lasted until the end of the school year) and resigned for good over the summer.

  14. Amelia Sep 21 at 12:10 pm Reply Reply

    I just told my employer that I am 14 weeks pregnant with my second, and everyone wants to know if I am coming back. Yes, I am (no way we can afford for me not to as I am main breadwinner and love my job)…BUT, I feel like there’s no way I can do 5 days a week anymore…this post and the comments are great and I’ll be using some of the tips to discuss a shortened work week once the new baby comes (after my unpaid-other than using my vacation time-maternity leave despite working for a major hospital–don’t get me started).
    good luck to everyone grappling with these decisions…

  15. charlotte Sep 28 at 2:57 pm Reply Reply

    I came back after 8 weeks of Short Term Disability and two weeks of vacation time, since taking state-funded paid leave would have meant giving up my corporate tuition refund, and I was still in the process of completing my engineering degree.
    Leaving my 10-week-old in daycare full-time was heartbreaking; trying to pump at work even more so; and let’s not talk about PPD and meetings and figuring out how to find the energy to get up in the morning and put on a suit and makeup.
    Then the sh*t hit the fan, daycare-wise, co-worker-wise, and work-assignment-wise, and lo and behold! I was stuck being the unhappiest of the unhappy, for the sake of a corporation whose only benefit was to give me health care (which I already had through my husband’s work) and, fine, the 401k and the paycheck.
    So … on Thursday, I’m finally starting the 6 paid weeks of California Paid Family Leave I never got to take the first time around, and seriously, I’m not sure I’ll be back afterwards.

  16. Quinn Sep 29 at 1:10 am Reply Reply

    Oof. What a topic. (How did I just see this if it’s dated September 14th? I’m very confused.)
    Well, I was laid off during my pregnancy. My company had just been bought by a larger company, and I was the only editor, so they said that they just wanted to abolish my department. It could be true, or it could have been they decided to abolish my department simply because I was pregnant. The end date I was given was the very first one and it was right at the beginning of my third trimester. I was lucky enough to be eligible for unemployment and my husband had health insurance, so it ended up working out for us.
    It’s certainly unprofessional to suck the benefits dry when you know you’re not going back (and I think that person you mentioned was totally unethical). But companies are often incredibly unprofessional and unethical themselves. Sure, you can’t legally be fired for being pregnant, but it’s incredibly hard to prove and the onus is on you. You can’t be denied a job for being pregnant either, but I had a bunch of interviews in my third trimester. In each and every case I was told I wasn’t the “right fit” once I explained my pregnancy.
    Maternity leave/pregnancy rights are so pitiful in this country, and pregnancy puts you in such a vulnerable position that I have a hard time faulting someone for trying to protect her livelihood and health insurance for herself and her child.

  17. Destiny Sep 29 at 1:57 am Reply Reply

    When I was pregnant with my first, I though that I wanted to be a SAHM. Before I even went on leave, I was able to quit my position and take a part-time one where I worked from home.
    After having the baby, let me tell you. I HATED being home all day with my daughter. I felt so unproductive. So un-used. I was depressed and very unhappy. i had committed to nursing/staying home for 6 months and you better believe I was out there getting a new full time job right at 6 months. A close friend of mine began keeping my daughter and everything was great!
    When I got pregnant with my 2nd, I figured I would feel the same way about not wanting to be home. I kept saying I was coming back. THEN the horrible happened and at 22 weeks I went into labor. They stopped my labor but I was placed on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy.
    Being on bed rest got me to slow down and begin to ENJOY a little slower paced life of not working and being on the go-go-go all the time.
    I started having an inclination that I may want to stay home, but I wasn’t for sure. Then after my son was born (full term I might add) I knew for sure I wanted to be home full time and so I told my employers 4 weeks into my 8 week maternity leave.
    In hindsight, I wish I would have waited longer because as they had expected me to stay home, my medical benefits ended IMMEDIATELY after my leave, which I would have prob gotten another month if I would have waited longer to tell them. Oh well! I offered to coming in 2 days a week or work from home for 6 months, but they said no. They also promised to throw contract work my way, but of course I haven’t seen anything.
    Overall, I’m happy with waiting till my leave to tell them.

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