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Registering for a Second Baby

Feb26

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Dear All-Knowing-Amy,

First I must say that I absolutely love your blog and that your children are absolutely adorable! Alright then, I am expecting my second baby the very end of July (one week before my daughter’s 2nd birthday!!!!). My husband and I like to keep the gender a secret until the birth and besides coming up with names I’m stressing over the baby registry. I don’t expect to even have a shower but know that my family and friends will want to throw one. I have kept everything that I got for my daughter; car seat, stroller, bassinet, mini crib, crib, bumbo, boppy, slings/carriers, tons of unused bottles, ALL of her clothes, etc.

I just worry that since I feel I don’t really need anything, besides boy stuff if this little one decides to pop out with a package, that I will freak out once the baby is here and realize OMG I need *this* or *that* like now! So Amy can you please help calm the nerves of a hormonal pregnant woman and possible give advice on what you feel I might need to add to my baby registry for this one? Right now I’m figuring just asking for diapers and gift cards (store and restaurant) when people ask and maybe a new crib mattress since my daughter will be keeping hers for her new toddler bed. I swear I didn’t stress this much with her baby registry, it was just so much easier it seemed.

Thanks,
Frazzled Second Timer

Relax! I think you’re doing just fine. I think your plan (diapers, gift cards, crib mattress) sounds solid.

By the time a friend of mine ever-so-casually suggested that I should reallllllly toss a few things on a baby registry or wish list, COUGH COUGH SURPRISE SHOWER, I was thoroughly convinced that there flat-out nothing we needed. We’d already replaced a few items from Noah’s babyhood that hadn’t held up as well as we’d hoped. We’d already found out that we could go ahead and reuse all those blue clothes.

But you know? I found stuff to register for. Some of it was just…well, stuff to put on the baby registry for the sake of having stuff on the registry, but for the most part I was able to focus on REALLY USEFUL STUFF. And in areas where we were pretty well covered on the useful stuff, I indulged in some plain-old fun stuff.

Second Baby Registry Checklist

A few suggestions of stuff to add to a second-baby registry:

Cloth diaper burp cloths

Remember how many of these you went through at first? Trust me, IT’S EVEN MORE THAN YOU REMEMBER.

Bath supply sets (shampoo, body wash, lotions, rash creams, etc.)

Even if, like us, you still use baby products on your older child, it’s handy to have extras, or to try a different brand in case of skin allergies or sensitivities.

Extra waterproof mattress pads

Since you’re registering for a new mattress, don’t forget the waterproof pads. We reused all our sheets but the pads stayed with the toddler bed. I asked for an extra three-pack for laundry purposes. GOOD CALL.

A good unisex or daddy diaper bag, if you don’t have one

I’ve sung the praises of the Diaper Dude messenger bags before, I know. With TWO babies, there’s a lot more jostling and swapping and negotiating out in public. You’re going to want to pass off the diaper bag to your husband a lot more this time around. He deserves his own cool bag. Baby Skooch and Stork Tools also make nice “dad” bags.

Double stroller

We were so sure we wouldn’t need a double stroller for at least six months to a year, if ever. And sure, Ezra probably spent more time at first in a sling or Ergo than the Phil & Ted’s (that we caved and purchased less than two months in), there were just times when a double stroller was really handy. Could we have done without it? Probably. Would it have been really awesome to have had Other People buy it for us? HELL TO THE YES.

Cute socks

This was my big goofy indulgence for Ezra: We had clothes and onesies and bibs and hats…but baby socks don’t exactly hold up too well. They get lost and pilly and stretched out. Or at least…that was my justification for adding a dozen different gift sets of Trumpette baby socks and BabyLegs legwarmers to my registry. People LOVE buying cutesy stuff like this, and I loved getting it. Ezra wore those Trumpette socks every dang day until they no longer fit over his fat little feet, and still rocks the legwarmers on a regular basis. (They’re my favorite for extending the life of one-piece romper outfits that are too short in the legs. SNEAKY!)

Things that makes you go hmm

Even though your daughter isn’t yet two, I guarantee that a stroll through a baby superstore or specialty boutique will reveal all kinds of NEW and IMPROVED and INGENIOUS gear and gadgets. Some of it might be the stuff you’d never buy for yourself ($9 European pacifiers! reusable bamboo wipes with warmer! fancy crib mobiles! extra diaper changing station pod things! your favorite sling in a new awesome fabric!), but I admit: it’s FUN to get gifts like this, particularly for a second baby who seems doomed to a life of never-ending hand-me-downs.

And really, a lot of stuff that I put in this category turned out to be incredibly useful: Miracle Blankets, the aforementioned wipes/warmer combo (which we use for the convenience of a tub full o’ ready-to-use wipes, not really for the temperature), baby food cookbooks, a variety of different fancy bottles for a baby who rejected the ones Noah loved. Some of it? Not so much. (Cough NEW EXTRA FANCY SWINGS cough.) But live and learn.

BUT ALSO: We bought a lot of that stuff AFTER Ezra arrived. He arrived and didn’t fit into any of Noah’s clothes. He arrived and would only sleep when swaddled. He arrived and just did a whole MESS of different stuff and liked different things and some hand-me-downs worked and some didn’t. So…we used those Amazon gift certificates and Target gift cards and bought the stuff we needed. And somehow WE ALL SURVIVED.

So don’t stress out. You’re likely extremely well-prepared for this baby. Do a test run on reassembling all your existing gear to make sure parts aren’t missing, and (this is important) spend some time on Google to make sure nothing you’ve saved has been recalled by the manufacturer. (Incidentally, a favorite cloth book of BOTH of my boys has lead in it. I AM THRILLED.) Add a few useful things to your registry, a few fun things, hoard the gift cards for later. You’ll be fine.

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Amalah

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Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy's daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it's pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

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Amy also documented her second pregnancy (with Ezra) in our wildly popular Weekly Pregnancy Calendar, Zero to Forty.

Amy is mother to rising first-grader Noah, preschooler Ezra, and toddler Ike.


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13 Responses to “Registering for a Second Baby”

  1. Becky Feb 26 at 11:53 am Reply Reply

    Another idea. If people are dying to throw you a shower for baby number 2 (or 3 or 4), why not suggest a book shower, or a frozen meal shower. People can buy you their favorite children’s books, which we can never get enough of (and the first baby probably destroyed anyway), or bring you a meal you can put in your freezer and cook up when the baby comes.

  2. Emily Feb 26 at 12:26 pm Reply Reply

    Are you having the second in the same season? I have two boys – one born in August, one born in May – and there were gaps in the hand-me-downs when it came to seasonally appropriate clothing (we somehow had no 12-18 month long pants, for example.)

  3. Caitlyn Feb 26 at 3:31 pm Reply Reply

    cloth diaper burp cloths didn’t work for us – she would wiggle and completely miss them. I got a six-pack of men’s t-shirts, which work far better.

  4. sarah Feb 26 at 5:13 pm Reply Reply

    One group of my friends seem to throw a shower for any and all babies. A different group throws a “diaper party”. Everyone brings a package or two of diapers, and it always seems some other little gift.Any and all showers are incredibly nice to have. I love the idea of a “giftcard party” might have to steal that one.:)

  5. Christina Feb 27 at 10:18 am Reply Reply

    My family threw me a baby shower for baby #2 and what I registered, I chose some things that baby #1 would need when baby #2 came. Like #2 would be using the highchair, so I registered for a booster chair for the table, remember you are going to need another car seat when baby #2 turns 1 so registered for another carseat and I do not know what I would do without my double stoller. Just some suggestions. Hope it helps!!

  6. Jessica Mar 01 at 12:25 pm Reply Reply

    I don’t think Id be comfortable registering for a second baby, especially when they are so close in age. In my opinion, a pink bouncy chair works just as well as a blue one, however if family members wanted to throw a baby party, i think diapers and gift cards is a great idea.

  7. Kim Mar 01 at 12:28 pm Reply Reply

    My 2mo laughed for the first time today! My 2nd registry had lots of closet organizers andpractical stuff, but it also had a new spa-type bathtub that I really wanted (and got, and loved.) I’m amazed at the new stuff that is out in the 3 yrs since my first.
    I didn’t register for cute stuff: clothes, blankets, etc. But I wish I had put a few of those on there. The few new outfits I got for her tend to trump the handmedowns, and the big gets territorial about the blankets. And I didn’t save nearly as many newborn sleepers as I needed. They don’t last long, but when they’re superlittle, you do need them…

  8. laura Mar 01 at 1:43 pm Reply Reply

    I agree with the idea of a book shower. Books are great and you can never have enough!! Another idea would be to have people donate baby items that you could send to charity- diapers, bibs, clothes, etc. Babies need a ton of stuff and sometimes people cannot afford to get them.

  9. Susan Mar 01 at 2:20 pm Reply Reply

    Oh, I was about to post this EXACT question as #2 will be along in September and my best friend just offered to throw a shower for me. I’ve been obsessing over double strollers, but I just can’t wrap my brain around the Phil & Ted’s – not the price, the configuration. It seems to me that the second seat is mere inches off the ground, and that the little one would be exposed to stuff flicking off the tires, dust flying up, etc – not to mention a less-than-scintillating view of the upper seat.
    How was it you came to settle on that one? I’m thinking of the double sit ‘n stand stroller, but I’m sure it lacks maneuverability and is a chore to collapse.
    We just hosted a diaper/wipes shower for a friend who’s expecting her second girl (so she already had plenty of clothes, socks, etc) and she was thrilled.

  10. Ab Mar 01 at 3:35 pm Reply Reply

    Jessica, I agree with you… a 2nd shower isn’t necessary, unless family wants to throw something. We’re starting to talk about trying for baby #2 (#1 is almost 5)… and I’m already hearing the politics of second baby registries from our families.
    Another family member recently had a shower for #2 (#1 is only 3 yrs old – both girls) and put things on their registry like a changing table, bumbo chair, all new clothing, expensive carseat, etc. Quite a few family members were miffed that they were asking so much for a second one.
    If a registry is necessary, be cautious not to be too greedy, and jog your memory about all the useless things from baby #1’s registry you barely/never used, but HAD to have! :)

  11. Michelle Mar 01 at 4:01 pm Reply Reply

    You might want to consider putting a car seat on your registry. This is news to so many moms…but car seats do expire!!
    http://babyproducts.about.com/b/2006/07/12/reader-question-do-car-seats-expire.htm

  12. Miche Mar 01 at 4:12 pm Reply Reply

    I’m about to have my second baby in a couple of weeks and several people asked if they could throw me a shower. Since I don’t know what I’m having I suggested we do a “sip and see” shower after the baby is born. That way everyone can meet the baby at one time after he/she is born and we’d know the gender. I too don’t have many needs because my daughter is only 2 and we have all her stuff. Boy clothes would be my only need if I have a son.

  13. Sara M Mar 01 at 4:55 pm Reply Reply

    For our second, we did have a shower and I registered for stuff we really liked with the first and would need again (bottle spin and dry, a second humidifier, diaper bag) or things that we didn’t have with the first that would have helped or saved time (microwave sterilizer). We also registered for the double stroller (Graco Quattro Tour) and LOVE LOVE LOVE it!

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