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How Soon is Too Soon For Maternity Shopping?

Apr05

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smackdown_maternityclothes.jpgDear Amy:

How soon is too soon to maternity shop?

I read with interest and great identification last week’s post about feeling blubbery rather than earth mothery (actually, and this week’s one! About the essential oils! I had no idea!). I am still early in my third month of pregnancy and my figure hasn’t really changed much (though I am sure I will ride the emotional pendulum when it does), but I feel awful enough from constant nausea. Ginger tea aside, I tried taking some advice from last week that I hoped would make me more excited about being pregnant than miserable: shop for cute pregnancy clothes so I have something fun to anticipate! (Because a first baby isn’t enough to look forward to, apparently.)

I should say that I give myself permission to shop but rarely, so setting out for this was kind of an Event for me. My local Old Navy doesn’t have a maternity section, but there were plenty of trapezey dresses and swingy summer tops that seemed like they could accommodate some extra girth. Hooray! But fun turned to confusion in the changing room when I stuffed a sweater into the waistband of my jeans (for verisimilitude, natch) and realized that I have no idea what else is going to expand besides my belly. My non-pregnant self is generally a skinny minnie with eggplant tendencies. So I wondered: If a top has a roomy middle, can I stay in a small size indefinitely, or will other things, like my BACK, grow too? Can I really anticipate Major Bewbage going forward when they have so far been a big pregnancy disappointment? If the sleeves on a Small fit me now, will they make my arms look sausagey later? I tried on some large sizes, but they wouldn’t stay on my shoulders – is there any reason to think that will change? I have no issues with wearing larger sizes when they suit me better, but if any parts of me might actually stay small, I’d rather not just pull a tarp over the whole thing.

There are lots of events to attend this summer, when I’m 25-30 weeks along, but I don’t know whether I’ll even be ROUND by then. (I don’t plan to “dress pregnant” until I’m truly showing so this is shopping for the future to encourage myself along.) Is there any way to plan ahead for my growing proportions? Am I jumping the gun? Do I need to drive the 20 miles to the next Old Navy that has actual maternity wear? (I’m not an Old Navy fanatic, just trying not to spend much on clothes with a short life span.) Do I just need to back off and see how my expanding butt shakes out? If you tell me there’s no way to predict and that I’ll just have to go shopping repeatedly over the next several, interminable months, I’m sure I’ll be able to bear it. But I am really curious whether I can try on clothes NOW, when the hormones are otherwise making me weepy and sad.

Since I’m not very far along and we haven’t even told our parents yet, I’ll sign off,
Woe Is Me

(Unrelated side question: my husband has commented that I’ve been *sighing* a lot the last several weeks. I don’t even realize I’m doing it until he calls me on it. I tell him I’m taking in extra oxygen for the baby, but I wonder if it’s just my secret self-pity coming out. In your vast mastery of the Internet and all things maternity, have you ever heard of pregnant women sighing more than usual?)

Shopping for maternity clothes is tough. Writing about shopping for maternity clothes is even TOUGHER, because it’s so not one-size-fits all. (HA. A pun! Not even on purpose!) Everybody “shows” differently and at different times, and we all gain weight in different places and at different rates.

But honestly, my number-one-rule about maternity clothes shopping is to NOT let yourself fixate on the “short life cycle” of maternity clothes, at least to the point that it’s stopping you from buying CUTE CLOTHES THAT FIT PROPERLY. Yeah, something you buy in the first trimester might not fit for the duration of the third. NO BIG DEAL. You still didn’t “waste” money on it, provided you got any wear out of it at all. You need clothes. You need to look presentable. You need to feel good about yourself.

And here’s the big secret: You will very likely continue to wear maternity clothes after giving birth. But probably NOT the overly-huge stuff you bought to accommodate the end of your pregnancy. You’ll be grateful for a nice stack of clothing from early on when you were just up a few pounds and a little rounder that usual, rather than going out and buying MORE new clothes to get you through those first couple months.

That’s what I did with my first pregnancy — I’d only done mostly super-cheap maternity clothing and hand-me-downs, and ended up wasting more money after Noah was born on bigger clothing that I probably only wore for three months. With Ezra, I bought fewer clothes, but NICER ones (mostly at consignment boutiques), and focused on modifying my own wardrobe whenever possible. (Regular clothing at the time was super pregnancy-friendly, as everything was long and flowy and waistless. A lot of it still is, right? I feel like I haven’t been paying attention what with OH GOD EZRA STOP THAT WHAT ARE YOU EATING NOW?) I had to put a lot of that aside right at the end in favor of a lot of tanks and shapeless dresses from Old Navy, but then I went right back to it after giving birth and can count a good four or five items that I still wear because they just aren’t very maternity-like at all. They’re just cute tops. I also have no regrets about having a nice bin of maternity clothing in our basement to possibly use again or share with friends or sell at the consignment shop.

So. How does this apply to you? You’re at that point when you don’t really *need* maternity clothing, but want to partake of the excitement, but are afraid of buying the wrong size and wasting money. If you really want to be cost-effective, then yes. You wait until you actually outgrow existing clothes and buy things as you need them. But really, if treating yourself to a cute trapeze dress or roomy top makes you happy? Just buy it, and don’t stress out about possible sausage-arms in six months. If it fits now and looks cute and has room around the middle, you’ll probably get plenty of wear out of it down the road.

But everybody is different. Every pregnancy is different, even on the same woman. I generally I found that I could continue to buy my pre-pregnancy size in maternity clothing, at least nine times out of 10, for the duration. A maternity size small is a little more generous *everywhere* than a regular size small. More of a ballpark size small. A little bigger in the arms and boobs and butt and thighs and everywhere that pregnant women tend to put on a little weight.

(My sister, on the other hand, who is tinier than I am and is firmly in XS territory, sent me a box of maternity hand-me-downs that were all sized large. Though whenever I saw her I would have sworn she carried pregnancy the same way I did — all belly with just a hint of plumping elsewhere. But she also never looked like she was wearing stuff overly big and baggy. So…I DO NOT KNOW.)

But. You say the larger sizes are sliding off your shoulders. That means it’s not the right size for you, nor will it likely ever be. Go for things that fit (but aren’t tight anywhere) but leave room in the belly — or anything that adjusts (pants, tanks, sundresses). Use your pre-pregnancy size as your guide. I think it’s best to stay in your own jeans and pants for as long as possible, either with help from a Belly Band or rubber band, and invest in good (premium, non-saggy-butt) maternity denim only when you do have a sense of how you’re carrying the pregnancy and can get the proper size.

Definitely resist the urge to buy NOW for special events three or four months from now
— you might not be pleased with how your choice fits or looks by then. (And when you DO splurge on a special-occasion maternity dress, offset your anxiety over the one-time-useness of it by wearing it whenever possible, like on lots of extra date nights with your husband.)

And resist the urge to buy everything all at once. This is hard, I know, because you think that’s the way to ensure that you get the most out of the clothing and your money. I found the opposite to be true. If you see something you just LOVE right now, even though you don’t technically need it yet, buy it, but stop there. Try stuff on, marvel at that crazy pillow thing the maternity stores have, then go to the baby section and buy a onesie or some cute socks instead.

PS. As for the sighing? I am no longer surprised by ANYTHING that pregnancy causes. It does so many weird things, it can change your EYEBROWS. Or your EAR WAX. The sighing could be from your body needing extra oxygen (true), diminishing lung capacity as things move around in there (also true), or just hormones generally mucking with your emotions and causing you to sigh in response to worry or weepiness or a passing thought of brownies (girl, you know it’s true).

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Amalah

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Amalah is a pseudonym of Amy Corbett Storch. She is the author of the Advice Smackdown and Bounce Back. You can follow Amy's daily mothering adventures at Amalah. Also, it's pronounced AIM-ah-lah.

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26 Responses to “How Soon is Too Soon For Maternity Shopping?”

  1. Jess Apr 05 at 12:06 pm Reply Reply

    I would caution against buying non-maternity clothes and expecting to wear them once your bump is really prominent – you won’t realize how much it’s riding up on you. Maternity clothes have extra length in front so as you grow the bottom of your belly isn’t exposed. But as you get bigger you can’t SEE the bottom of your belly, so sometimes it’s hard to tell when it’s time to retire the non-pregnancy shirts.

  2. kari Weber Apr 05 at 12:47 pm Reply Reply

    I HATED how expensive it seemed everything was. Our Old Navy had exactly 4 things: 1 style of jeans (never in my size), 1 sloppy looking pair of yoga pants, tank tops that always seemed TOO SHORT despite being Maternity, and some UGLY frocky type shirt. I am 5 feet 10 inches tall, and although I know Old Navy sells tall sizes, you have to buy them online (where you can’t try them on!) Who wants to waste half their pregnancy ordering-waiting-returning-etc.? I found that I was about the same size in maternity as in pre-pregnancy clothes. I also LURVED the Bella Band! Wore it not only to hold up pants (was able to fit non-maternity pants my whole pregnancy due to the low rise style) but used it to cover up that visible belly that was a result of what @Jess was talking about in the previous comment. Used them after for feeling a bit more “put together”. They really just do give the layered tank look. Despite being only for a short wearing duration, you can get your money’s worth out of your maternity wear. Donate, swap with like-sized friends, save for future pregnancies, sell at consignment… Enjoy!

  3. Leslie Apr 05 at 1:03 pm Reply Reply

    I am 36 weeks and one of the surprising things about clothing my pregnant body has been that it isn’t so much the WIDTH of the top that matters, but the LENGTH. I have plenty of tops that still fit me–as in, they go around my growing girth–but are now too short. So whereever possible, whether maternity or not, look for tops that are LONG on you…you will get much more wear out of them! And throughout my pregnancy I have been a big fan of dresses; you can get much longer wear time out of them than pants!

  4. Stacy Apr 05 at 1:19 pm Reply Reply

    I found that extra long tank tops really helped cover the space between non-materity tops and pants once the belly started to be visible. Plus you get to re-purpose them during brestfeeding (buy stretchy ones and wear under a regular shirt–stretch the tank down to expose your boob and pull your top shirt up and voilà, nursing top). But yeah — buy a couple flowy shirts or stretchy dresses just for fun and then reassess as you go forward. Congrats!

  5. Katie Apr 05 at 1:54 pm Reply Reply

    I went through a similar thought process three months ago…and now that I am almost six months pregnant I am *just* showing in an obvious way around the belly (also my first pregnancy and I’m on the tall side). But I treated myself to one or two sale items at a local maternity boutique that were good earlier on and will probably work later – like an empire-waist dress that is a little longer in the front.
    This may not apply, but when I grew out of my normal bras, I thought I could just go up a size in normal bras (I don’t *want* to buy maternity lingerie!). No. This did not work for me – maybe because my ribcage was expanding as well, but if you need new bras, I highly recommend Thyme Maternity, if you have it in the US.

  6. Katie Apr 05 at 2:28 pm Reply Reply

    Let me say this. From someone who was a total cheapass during my first pregnancy and probably looked horrible (I prefer not to remember), I have managed to spend about the same amount this pregnancy and (if I may) dress far, far better. Rather than relying on stupid in-store Old Navy Maternity, I ended up signing up for notifications from Gap.com and Old Navy.com. The sales. OH MY GAWD, THE SALES. You get 30% discount coupons almost every other week, and if you stick to things like dresses in a decent cut, you can buy out of season for later in your pregnancy and be okay. I end up getting most clothing from Gap.com for less than what a non-sale Old Navy cost would be, and I haven’t bought a single thing that didn’t fit me when I needed it (I’m now 34 weeks). While we’re going into spring, I know in the colder months I lived in Old Navy’s black maternity leggings (loooooove them) and dresses/long tops of all kinds. I also got a couple of wrap sweaters from OldNavy.com and wore them over short-sleeve dresses, and now on warmer days I wear those dresses with no leggings and no sweaters.
    But yes, also get the Bella Band! It helps so much. I also did exactly what Amalah did in terms of pants and stuck in my own for as long as possible. I’m also in the maternity equivalent of my pre-pregnancy size 9 times out of 10. (This is another area where Gap and Old Navy’s online store help — the reviewers include notes as to whether something fits larger or smaller than expected, and that has really helped me find things that work well!)
    Good luck and have fun!

  7. Stefanie Apr 05 at 2:35 pm Reply Reply

    When you do decide to go shopping-take a friend! I was also of the skinny-minnie variety and it can be hard to find stuff that will flatter your changing body when you’re used to trying to create a figure. The first time I went shopping for non-maternity-but-a-little-roomier clothing, I tried a few things on and ended up in tears over how fat I had gotten (I really hadn’t, but was picking styles that weren’t flattering for me). I was lucky enough to be pregnant at the same time as my sister, so we went together for the next trip. Instead of getting upset and feeling bad about ourselves, we ended up laughing at how ridiculous some of the stuff looked and how weird the changes our bodies were undergoing.
    Amy’s right that every pregnant body is different. Four months post-partum, I’m only 10 pounds up, but I still can’t fit into tops or pants that I purchased in early pregnancy, since I’m still a cup size up from where I was while pregnant. I can’t believe I ever wanted big boobs! I miss my cute little B’s, although sometimes it’s fun to show some cleavage. My sister has only a couple pounds less to lose than me and is in her pre-pregnancy pants, while I cannot get mine over my thighs. So, Amy’s right, you won’t know if you’ll wear that stuff again, but, as my husband constantly told me, you have to have stuff to wear!

  8. HereWeGoAJen Apr 05 at 2:50 pm Reply Reply

    I bought nearly all my maternity clothes in one swoop when I outgrew my regular clothes. My main word of warning: make sure they are LONG enough. I ended up holding down the front of my shirt with one hand for the last two months of my pregnancy because nothing covered my stomach but I certainly wasn’t buying more clothes then!

  9. Holly Apr 05 at 3:17 pm Reply Reply

    I’m 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby now, and I vote for early purchasing of maternity dresses — they look equally fine at, like, 12 weeks as they do in, well, the dregs of the third trimester. They seem to have magical enlarging qualities, and since I have a serious dress fetish, these have been the go-to garments that have kept me feeling pretty and put-together for my whole pregnancy. The Motherhood Maternity and Gap Maternity dresses (and Pea in a Pod, when you can find them on sale) are all surprisingly affordable (like $30 to $40 each), and although they generally aren’t lined and I’ve taken extra care not to wash them every single wearing since the fabrics aren’t stellar, they’re all pretty nicely cut.
    As for jeans, I agree with Amy to kind of wait it out, or use a belly band to get you through the ouchie, these-don’t-button-anymore phase. I bought some demi-panel pairs at the Gap REALLY early (like seven weeks), and while I loved how comfortable they seemed, they never fit me right — for a while, they kept falling down because, I don’t know, I wasn’t big enough for them, and then when I finally WAS, they ALSO didn’t stay up. Even the full-panel ones that I finally invested in around 24 weeks or so don’t stay up. Basically, I am glad the spring is now here and I don’t have to wear pants anymore! Maternity yoga pants, though, are GREAT — get a pair now, and they should last you most of the pregnancy. (Mine just started looking a little sausagey in the past couple weeks, and I’ve gone up to a large from a medium.)
    The tops with side-ruching can be pulled off from fairly early on, and then as you grow you start seeing how they’re really MEANT to look. The tops that cinch or tie in the back, though, are best reserved for when you’re definitely, clearly showing, and even then, depending on your tastes, they might be a little too mumu-ish for what you want.
    Good luck!!!

  10. Stacey Apr 05 at 3:48 pm Reply Reply

    I’m a size 0/1, XS/S in shirts so I had a huge problem finding maternity clothes — the smallest pants I could find were a size 4. Nothing like wearing a belt with an elastic waistband. When I was nearing the end of my first trimester I went out and bought some looser, non-maternity clothes. I bought them on clearance, so I didn’t spend more than $5-10 per piece, so when some of them didn’t quite fit right later on I didn’t feel bad.
    And? I still wear them, even though my belly’s completely gone.
    Another thing that I did was go on Craigslist and buy some bins of maternity clothes from other women. Sure, I didn’t like everything that I got, and not all of it fit, but I just passed on the stuff that I didn’t want.

  11. Erica Apr 05 at 3:59 pm Reply Reply

    Ok – I know this was just your side note, but I’ve been sighing a LOT! So much so that my husband is always, “What’s WRONG with you?” and my office mate at work always asks if I’m ok. What is with the SIGHING???? *sigh*

  12. kellyannecat Apr 05 at 3:59 pm Reply Reply

    Excellent advice, Amalah. I bought a bunch of late-maternity wear when I was still in my 1st trimester. Predictably, I grew in unexpected ways and directions, and none of it fit by the time I needed it. So I ended up with a very limited wardrobe of cheap maternity clothes that got horribly rundown by constant laundering. Not the end of the world, but it would have been nice to not have felt like a total frumpasaurus for those months. If I had to do it again, I would buy clothes as I need them, and as they fit.

  13. Crabby Apple Seed Apr 05 at 4:37 pm Reply Reply

    My biggest regret on maternity clothes: not buying enough nice clothes. I felt like I shouldn’t be spending tons of money on clothes I wouldn’t wear forever, so I bought a few work outfits (which I wore over and over), one nice dress, and one pair of jeans. I spent my days off in my running pants (which fit the whole time and were admittedly the most comfortable thing I owned- I had a pair of maternity running-type pants and they always slid off, I hated them) and my husband’s t-shirts. And I felt…comfy, but also dumpy. I wish I had spent more money, even on just a few outfits, to look put-together more often. You absolutely deserve it, your whole body is changing and will likely never be the same. Enjoy the bump and looking cute!

  14. EW Apr 05 at 4:58 pm Reply Reply

    The other thing you may want to get for your bra is an extender clip, which you can get at Target. I went up a cup size quickly, but then just had my ribcage expand. With the extender, I could keep the same bras until the end of my pregnancy (when I switched to a nice set of nursing bras from Bravado that I am still wearing).

  15. AVD Apr 05 at 5:43 pm Reply Reply

    Here’s a vote for shopping early – like all women’s clothing, maternity stores have clothes for the upcoming season, not the current one. Like you, I had the majority of my maternity-clothing time in the summer, and if I hadn’t shopped before I needed to, many things would have been gone. This was especially true for really basic things like tanks and shorts, I had about two to choose from by the time June rolled around.
    I strongly agree that it’s not a waste of money to have a few things that you love and feel great in. A couple of wonderful dresses that can double as work/out to dinner will go a long way towards making getting dressed with a radically changed body a tolerable experience.
    I also recommend saving a little clothing budget for the last few months, because you may get very very bored with the same few outfits.
    Enjoy shopping for maternity – once you sort through all the puffed sleeves, there are some really cute things out there.

  16. Karen Apr 05 at 6:28 pm Reply Reply

    I used the bella band for the first few months as well and it was really useful to bridge that gap between “a little fuller than usual” and “BUMP”. My other suggestion is to hit up local thrift stores in your area. It takes a bit more hunting, but I found some great shirts, pants and skirt all for $2-6 each. Because they had only been lightly used before they’re in really great condition, and name brands to boot.

  17. Mia Apr 05 at 6:37 pm Reply Reply

    I second the ideas of buying #1 long enough and #2 long stretchy tank tops (on sale $8.99 @ Target whoo!) A few of my maternity shirts I bought early on don’t cover the tum any more although they fit everywhere else, so layering them over a cheap tank is a nice fix. Plus layering over a tank is good because you may get unexpectedly hot, and I don’t know about your office, but striping down to your bra is really frowned upon in mine. Also I think the wise Amalah said it somewhere else, count on doing more laundry and stain removal, a lot ends up on your tummy.

  18. lindswing Apr 05 at 8:59 pm Reply Reply

    Oh, I did the sighing thing! I just chalked it up to needing more oxygen. I did it incessantly.
    Bella Band, yes. I hear the one at Target is a much cheaper version, though, and to steer clear. I STILL use my Bella Band on occasion, and my baby is 6 months old.
    I’ll also echo the facts that you’re going to need non-pre-pregnancy clothes to wear for a few months after the baby is born, and length is going to be your biggest challenge as you approach the end of pregnancy. I had really good luck going up a size in Target long and lean tanks, as well as buying a pack of men’s Hanes tanks (thanks for the tip, Amy!). Cute stuff usually won’t fit at the end, no matter WHAT you do.

  19. Calee Apr 06 at 12:38 am Reply Reply

    Just because you won’t be wearing these clothes for years in a row, doesn’t mean you won’t be wearing them for just as long as your regular clothes if you plan on a subsequent pregnancy. I bought cheap things the 1st time around then loaned what survived my 1st pregnancy to my best friend a few months later. She wore the best of both of our shopping trips for 2 pregnancies and now I’m wearing the collective stash again. We wear different pants sizes so I made sure to buy 2 pairs of slacks I loved this time (Yay GAP) and 2 more pairs of jeans. I’ve bought a few cheap shirts but the clothes that get worn the most are the nicest pieces from each of the pregnancies–they’re the only things that hold up and make me feel decent about the way I look.

  20. Sharon Apr 06 at 9:52 am Reply Reply

    I have to second the sales from gap.com etc. PLUS, at least a year ago, they did free return shipping on maternity items (or you can return to a store), so I’d just order boatloads of stuff, try on in my house, and ship back things that didn’t work.
    And really, everyone carries pregnancy differently, and it even differs between pregnancies on the same woman, so give yourself lots of leeway and room to wait and see. Experiment with what looks good and is comfortable at different points of the pregnancy, and have fun!
    (I feel like I just typed “pregnancy” about 80 bajillion times… it starts to look weird after a while, you know?)

  21. Wallydraigle Apr 06 at 11:08 am Reply Reply

    Going into my first pregnancy, I had a few loose-fitting tops already that I thought would look cute in the first parts of pregnancy. If they looked cute on me while I was skinny, you’d think they’d look cute until I got pretty big, right? WRONG. I just looked fat. Not every woman looks this way in a loose-fitting top, but I did. I think it may have been my really short torso and the way I carried all out front and really high that did it, but still. Don’t go overboard on that style of clothing (or any style, really).
    Even as I got more obviously pregnant, I still couldn’t wear your regular maternity tops; it had to be something with a very distinct seam or gather under my bust, or I still looked fat. I was a huge fan of the shirts with rouching down the sides. I’ve slimmed down quite a bit since my second pregnancy, and I still wear those. They disguise the weird flap o’ skin that hangs around long after you’ve lost the baby weight. My other favorites are the ones that have a seam under the bust with a little gather just under that seam. They look good early in pregnancy, and they still look good toward the end. My favorite top last time around was one of these, and it fit until the very end.
    During my first pregnancy, I got ENORMOUS. Not fat, but every ounce of baby weight went into the belly. I had a huge kid, so that was part of it, but wow. If I’d bought a lot of clothing in the beginning, thinking it would fit later on, I would have been in for a nasty surprise. At 7 months, people would stop me on the street and ask when the twins were due. I’m very small of stature; there’s no way I could have forseen that. My second pregnancy was different. I was way less cute, the weight was spread around a bit more, and I didn’t get anywhere near as large. So even if you’ve had a kid before, it’s hard to predict how you’ll carry.

  22. Ms. K Apr 06 at 12:17 pm Reply Reply

    I’m going to weigh in on the side of waiting (a little) to buy maternity clothes, and also on spending money to get good ones. It’s just like shopping for your regular wardrobe: don’t skimp on tailored, good-quality basics. Spending $$ on flowy-yet-tailored pants and a tailored skirt with maternity waists, both in a neutral color (black, gray, navy, brown or cream, depending on your wardrobe needs) will be totally worth it. You will probably also want to splurge on a good maternity dress, as Amalah said, esp. if you know you will have events to attend where you want to look put together and lovely.
    Tops, on the other hand, are easier to come by and you can be cheap – try Target or consignment shops, etc. if Old Navy isn’t inspiring you.

  23. Courtney Apr 06 at 8:53 pm Reply Reply

    I didn’t sigh more, but I *laughed* more. Especially in my first trimester. I would have these crazy laughing jags – like sleepover giggles, where you can’t stop even though nothing is that funny. I guess it’s better than crying for no reason.

  24. jessasmamma Apr 07 at 11:47 am Reply Reply

    i am fairly petite, and i only bought two or three maternity items during my entire pregnancy, even though i gained 32 pounds! i bought one pair of maternity jeans, one maternity shirt (that i wore to christmas dinner and only bought because i thought it was really pretty lol) and a bella band. let me tell you, the bella band is gods way of saying “go ahead, eat that third slice of cake. you’re pregnant!” and still letting you “fit” into your pre preggo jeans! i bought mine at target for $20 or less. basically it lets you wear your pre preggo jeans UNBUTTONED and slides over the top of your jeans so you can’t tell they’re unbuttoned. it just looks like you layered your top with a tank-top underneath. i LOVED it. and it came in handy after my 30 hours of active labor led to an emergency c-section. god forbid you have a c-section. you’ll appreciate the extra support the bella band gives you during those first few weeks! seriously, invest in the bella band, it’s AMAZING!

  25. eva Apr 07 at 12:13 pm Reply Reply

    I am all about leggings with long cardigans and flowy sleeveless tops for work these days at 15ish weeks along with pregnancy #2. With #1, I definitely crammed into regular clothes for far too long, and totally ruined some of them. The bella band last time? awesome! this time? sucks ass, totally uncomfortable, and I was about 10lbs lighter pre-pregnancy this time than last time. Go figure. So yeah, my co-workers are subjected to me in leggings until we hit summer at which time I’m planning to live in sleeveless stretchy maxi dresses and light cardigans from Old Navy that I bought about a month ago.
    The other thing I’ve worn a lot of this time is a new hoody I bought from Lululemon – pricy, but super stretchy and long, and will be great for nursing in after #2 makes his/her arrival. I lived in hoodies for nursing discreetly with my daughter – I’d put on a tank, put Megan in the bjorn or ergo, and then put on an unzipped hoody and could go for long walks with her latched on half the time!

  26. Tammigirl Apr 10 at 10:58 am Reply Reply

    I didn’t read the response to this because I rushed here to tell you what I’ve learned recently. Since it does me no good (my child who had this issue is now in college) I would love to see someone benefit from it. I mean same thing – only she would never take a bottle. She would literally gag on it.
    ‘They’ say babies with this issue are longing for the comfort of the womb. They loved that snuggy little place and are having difficulty outside of that environment.
    My very own “Don’t stop touching me” baby daughter learned this in one of her psychology courses at University.
    I didn’t get the solution from her. Have you tried swaddling the baby fairly tight? It beats putting a cradle next to the bed and sleeping with your hand through the slat all night, which is what I did for months.

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