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Second Crib vs. Toddler Bed

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Hi Amy!

I just found out that I’m pregnant with baby number two (yayyyyy!!!). This nugget will be born next spring, three weeks before my son turns two. Things are amazing and baby is so happily expected and we can’t wait to have a family of four.

I’m a little worried though, because since I pounced on my husband at six in the morning with a positive pregnancy test all he’s had on his mind is changing things pretty dramatically for our son. Some of it I can get behind. Moving him to the bigger room down the hall and keeping the smaller room the “nursery”? Fine! Moving his car seat over so we can see the newborn easier? I’m on board.

What I’ve totally put my foot down on, though, is giving the new baby my son’s crib and getting him a new bed. I mean, it’s his bed!! We bought one of those convertible-type cribs and even bought all of the extra parts you need to go to toddler and full size bed so we’d have them years later. This is supposed to be the bed he grows up in! Husband keeps telling me he doesn’t understand why we’d buy another crib when we can just buy a toddler bed. I keep telling him we have a @#$%^& toddler bed already! All we have to do is convert it when baby is ready! Argh! And wouldn’t buying a toddler bed necessitate yet another purchase in a few years once he grows out of it? Oh yeah, we also have a full size bed conversion!! Argh again!

So other than the weird logic my husband is employing, I’m worried about changing his bed for a few reasons. First, I know having a new baby in the house is going to be a big deal for my son. He’s pretty independent but that’s a lot of change for a not-even-two-year-old right? I read (stalked) your archives recently and I saw that Noah had a hard time at first and he was three! I don’t want it to seem like the new baby is taking over everything in the world, even his motherf-ing bed!

Second, I’m just not convinced my son will be ready for a toddler bed by then. He has shown not ONE iota of a sign that he wants to get out of his crib (he’s 16 months right now). He doesn’t try to climb out and he doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to exit the cage when I get him once he wakes up. In fact, I think he really likes it in there. It’s like his sanctuary. He’s comfortable in there and sleeps really well.

Third, and this is like the big one for me. The kid MOVES while he’s asleep and while he’s falling asleep. I mean he must travel over a mile before he goes to sleep because he tosses and turns to calm himself down. Not only do I think he’ll probably fall out of the bed if it only has a wimpy toddler railing on it, but OMG getting him to stay in it long enough to fall asleep is not something I can take on as a heavily pregnant lady or with a newborn. Like, I can’t even.

So! What would you do in this situation? I’d just like to buy another convertible bed and all of the parts again because I thought it was a fabulous plan! Will taking my son’s bed and giving it to the squawking intruder damage him or is this my crazy worrying hormones? Talk me down if needed, girl!

Sincerely,
(Almost) mama of two

Haaaaa, what timing! I love when questions arrive in my inbox that dovetail perfectly with stuff happening in my own life.

We gave away our crib last weekend. A crib that had served all three of our babies with honor, dignity and blissful confinement. It was technically a convertible crib — we never bought the conversion kit, though, and I couldn’t even say for sure if it’s still available, as the crib is over nine years old at this point. Plus the bedroom is very small and we ended up needing a loft style bed for our oldest to accommodate a desk and some storage YADA YADA NOT EVEN THE POINT.

My point is, we gave it away to friends who are expecting their second baby this winter. Their first baby will only be about 20 months old when his baby brother arrives. And yeah, their first baby is staying in his damn crib. They have absolutely no intention to rush him into a toddler or full-sized bed anytime soon, and I think that is a wise, WISE decision.

We did upgrade our boys to beds so the crib would be vacant by the time the next baby arrived, but we were dealing with a different age spread (3 and 2.5) than “just under two.” And obviously, different kids. My oldest two were good, reliable, heavy sleepers who stayed relatively still on their mattresses. But they were also making attempts to climb out of the crib. Okay then! Out you go.

AND THEN. I had my third. Who stayed in that blessed, wonderful crib until after his third birthday, and still took most of his naps there too.

It. Was. Glorious.

Great, reliable bedtimes and sleep patterns. Less fighting of sleep and naps. No pre-dawn wanderings. He didn’t mind being in the crib, he never tried to climb out, and so I left him in there for as long as humanly possible. I finally caved when when it was clear he was fully potty trained, even at night, and he’d wake up crying for someone to take him to the potty. Point of no return, I guess.

So. For what it is worth (hint: probably nothing), you can tell your husband that some weird person from the Internet agrees with you. Keep your son in his crib, for all of the reasons you mentioned. He’s young. He might not be ready, and waiting until too close to New Baby Time will probably be too much change all at once. (Have you read Peter’s Chair by Ezra Jack Keats? It’s about a [much] older brother’s resentment over a new baby getting all his old stuff. Very sweet, but yeah, it’s a real feeling for kids!)

And toddler beds are, in many cases, a completely temporary and skippable expense. If you wait until he’s older and ready, he can go directly from crib to “real” bed (just attach a removable guardrail at first). You might not even need the middle conversion setting, so buying a non-upgradeable toddler bed (plus mattress) and THEN a full-size bed (plus mattress) isn’t really a win over just buying (or borrowing, or Craigslisting) another crib.

FINALLY, dear God, you’re bringing home a newborn who — be definition — is not going to sleep. You’re not going to sleep. You’re going to NEED your son to sleep. Not the best time to be suddenly trying to keep him in a bed without bars, exploring his room, the house, what your eyeballs look like under your sleeping eyelids, etc.

You definitely win this argument from where I sit, but I guess I should  point out that “next spring” means you guys have a LOT of time here. There is definitely no reason to make any furniture purchases anytime soon, so while I’m totally on board with your plan, a lot can happen. Maybe your son WILL seem ready and willing to move into the big boy bed in a few months. Maybe once it’s a toddler bed he won’t even notice or care if you swap it out with something else and let the baby have it. So table this discussion for now, but once it comes up again and you’re still at an impasse, feel free to print this column out and say “AMY AGREES WITH ME.”

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27 Responses to “Second Crib vs. Toddler Bed”

  1. Rosalie Aug 16 at 5:46 pm Reply Reply

    We just had our second (a boy) a month ago and our first (girl) will be 1.5 at the end of this month. We are using a bassinet until end of sept then putting our daughter on a mattress on the floor until she is ready for a “bed” and putting our son in her crib.

  2. Katerina Aug 16 at 6:30 pm Reply Reply

    We were just in the same exact predicament, our son was just born on 8-11 the day after his sister turned 2 on 8-10! Months ago my plan was the same, move toddler into 2nd larger room and change nursery from boy to girl room and definitely buy a 2nd crib! However, the more I thought about it the more daunting it became. It was essentially like doing 2 rooms again! Redoing her nursery and doing a 2nd nursery! So we decided to leave her in her current room in her crib for now. We’ve been home only a couple of nights at this point and so far (knock on major wood) she’s sleeping just fine. I figured the baby will be in our room for at least a few months anyway. Our current plan is when he’s ready for a crib to move her into her “big girl room” and potentially into her big girl bed. I was planning in skipping toddler bed stage and going straight to full size bed with long rails on both sides. And if we feel she’s not ready her crib will move over as is. As mentioned in the response, the last thing you need with a newborn is your toddler to start getting out of bed at night! So after my long winded response you can tell your husband someone else agress with you as well! :)

  3. IrishCream Aug 16 at 7:11 pm Reply Reply

    My girls are 22 months apart. We bought a toddler bed when my oldest was 20 months, thinking if we had it in their room for a few months, it wouldn’t seem as much like little sis was kicking the big kid out of her crib. My big kid had other ideas. From the first night we had it, she wanted to sleep in her big bed. Well okay then.

    We put a toddler lock on the inside doorknob of her room, to prevent wandering, and a bed rail to keep her from rolling out, and…done. No problems. In hindsight, 20 months seems really young, but she was ready, and it worked.

    You’ll have to buy another crib/bed eventually, right? Why not buy one closer to your due date, set it up as a bed, and see if your big kid is interested? If he doesn’t initiate the move, then you can switch it back to crib mode when your little one arrives, and just have two cribs for a while. As long as the move from crib to bed doesn’t happen right around the time the new baby is born, I bet your older son won’t think of it as being pushed out; it’ll probably be a point of pride for him.

  4. Jenny K Aug 16 at 7:15 pm Reply Reply

    So my daughters are 1 and 26 months. I was in the same predicament, except my 2 year old was showing some signs that she could climb out of the crib. And she’s a terrible sleeper. She hates her crib and always wants to sleep with us (which is a problem for another column). We still have the newborn in her bassinet in our room. Unfortunately, on the day she turned 26 months old, my older daughter climbed out of the crib and broke her leg. I knew she could get out of the crib, but I didn’t think she’d actually do it. So now we are left without a choice- we have to get her a bed!  She’s sleeping on a crib mattress on the floor in the meantime.  

    I’m totally an advocate for keeping them in the crib as long as you can, but definitely don’t ignore the signs like I did!

  5. Christine Aug 16 at 10:26 pm Reply Reply

    I don’t have a second kid, just the one, and he never tried to climb out of the crib. Not once. But OH! The fights he would start over getting IN the crib! When he was 18 months or so I gave up the fight and let him sleep on the twin mattress on his floor (we used it for night feedings, etc.) And… that was it. He was even so used to the crib that upon awaking he sat up in the middle of the mattress and cried out for me until I got him. He never even thought to get out on his own until much, much later.

    So… I don’t know if it’s helpful but maybe this lets you know that no crib is not a disaster if that’s the route you go. 

  6. Kate F Aug 16 at 11:51 pm Reply Reply

    I’d consider vying an inexpensive (but awesome) crib like the Gulliver from Ikea. $99, comes w a panel for toddler conversion, plus there’s a little guard rail for an exta $13. We’ve had one for 4 years and one for 2 and they are A+. My son was 23 months when baby 2 arrived, and no way was I going to mess w his sleep (and mine) at that point! He did some climbing at a couple points, but was easily taught that it wasn’t safe, and stayed in the crib till he was almost 3. After successful stay-in-bed training using Amy’s advice from another Smackdown, he was in the toddler bed with his bedroom door gated until he was night trained. We recently got him a twin bed because he was very tall for the toddler bed.

    Anyway, some kids are happy in the crib for ages, and that will only make your life easier. You can get a second crib on the cheap, and then pick out whatever “real” bed you want when. The time comes, instead of being limited by convertible crib options.

    • Tiffany Aug 18 at 11:47 am Reply Reply

      Let me chime in with another endorsement of the IKEA cribs. They’re inexpensive, well-made (no particle board, all solid wood, metal cams, etc.) and are very well rated by Consumer Reports and the Baby Bargains people. They’re very no-frills, but great for the price.

  7. Susan Aug 17 at 12:50 am Reply Reply

    Yeah, my 4 1/2 year old still sleeps in her crib and her 11/2 year old brother has a matching one in the same room. I’m thinking that when he’s three I’ll just get them bunk bed set. She’s small enough that she’ll probably still fit in it then. 

    It definitely helped her transition to losing everything that was once hers and hers alone. And yes, the containment factor is blissful. Still ;)

  8. Karen Aug 17 at 3:13 am Reply Reply

    So do people actually use those conversion cribs as full beds? Because the people that I know who have them never use the conversion feature. They either give them away when they’re done with the crib phase, or end up not having room for a full bed, or they need bunk beds… They seem totally gimmicky to me.

    • Mary Aug 19 at 11:30 pm Reply Reply

      Yep, we do.  In fact, both of our girls (5 1/2 and almost 2 1/2) currently sleep together in it as the full-sized bed — with a rail on one side so the younger one doesn’t fall out.  Then again, the older one climbed out of the crib at 18 months and the younger at 14 months.  So…

  9. Amelia Aug 17 at 10:06 am Reply Reply

    Yup, cribs pretty much rock (I’ve just bumped my toddler up to a bunk bed, and we’ve got the skipped naps and fall injuries to show for it.) Also, most newborns would be happy to sleep anywhere but a crib for the first few months (e.g., swing, bassinet, pack’n’play) so you’ve got lots of time.

  10. JCF Aug 17 at 12:29 pm Reply Reply

    Here’s what I would do, based on my experience of three kids, all under two years apart: don’t fret about it right now.  You have so many months until the new baby arrives, and your now 16mo (still basically a baby!) has a lot of growing up to do in those months.  It is hard to imagine now, and impossible to predict, what your big kid will be like at almost 2.  I had one kid who didn’t potty train until closer to 3 and wasn’t climbing out of the crib, and I had another kid who dove out of the crib at 18 months and potty trained (including nights!) at 22 months.  That kid NEEDED to be out of a crib sooner.  So just wait.  Also, your new baby will probably be able to sleep in a Moses basket, bassinet, co-sleeper, etc. for about 4ish months, right?  That gives you another few months to see where your big kid is bed-wise.  

    You can always buy/borrow another crib if it turns out to be necessary (and it might), or you can buy a big kid bed when the new baby is a few months old if that seems like the best course of action (and it might!).  

  11. Jenn Aug 17 at 2:32 pm Reply Reply

    My children (3 months and 25 months) have basically the same age difference as yours. We’re still in a 2 bedroom apt so the little one is sleeping in our room in a pack and play for now. But it has worked out super well. When he eventually sleeps straight through the night, we’ll put him in my daughter’s room. I think we’ll ugrade her to a twin bed (with rail) and give him the real crib then.

    By then, she’ll have had him around for maybe 9 months and any jealousy issues should have subsided, I hope. Pack and plays aren’t as cute as real cribs or beds, but it is a cheap way to put off any major decisions, especially if you already own one. He has slept like a champ in it, so it must be comfortable enough for him.

  12. Carolyn Aug 17 at 5:13 pm Reply Reply

    My kids are 20 months apart, and I was worried about the same thing! We decided to wait until after the baby was born to do any changes to my son’s bed, because the baby would be in our room for a few months in a Pack and Play. We did, however, take the front off of his convertible crib and add a toddler bed rail (I’d had a C-section and couldn’t lift him in and out of the crib, so this was a necessity for me). Both my kids move ALL over the place at night, and both have been fine with the bed rail (on the occasion where they HAVE fallen out of bed, they’ve stayed asleep. One time we found my daughter almost entirely UNDER the crib since she’d kept rolling around after falling out of bed! But she was fine). I found both kids also did better than expected when the rail came off – still lots of moving and the occasional rolling out of bed but never waking up. Once we were ready to move the baby into the crib, we bought my son a twin sized bed and moved him into that. Now the baby is 20 months old and we just moved her from the toddler bed to the bottom bunk in his room. Anyhow, my point is that a LOT can change between now and when the baby is born (and if you plan to room-share then it’ll be even MORE time before you might need that crib!) So I say let it be a moot point for now and decide later when the time gets closer ;) Around 18 months is one my youngest kept getting her leg stuck in the crib slats, so you never know if something will pop up and force the issue of moving out of the crib or not ;) (And I’d probably keep the crib a crib and buy a twin sized bed – the last child can have the convertible crib turned into a bed. but that’s just me!)

  13. Jenny Aug 17 at 5:56 pm Reply Reply

    I am by no means offering advice because each kid and parent and parenting team is different. But, I just want to offer a bit of comfort in what we were faced with and the outcome. We found out we were having twins when my son was 17 months old. As much as we would have liked to keep him in his crib there was just no way we were going to purchase TWO more cribs and have three total in our house! Good grief! Our son was then 21 months old when the twins were born. Four months before the babies arrived, we did transition him to a regular twin size bed that was a built in bed with walls on three sides and a bed rail on the fourth side allowing just a two foot space for him to get in and out of bed. He transitioned beautifully with no problems at all and no regression when his brothers arrived. He also transitioned to a new childcare and a few other adjustment we had to make when our family took the jump from 3 to 5. I guess I’m saying you just don’t know till you try. And sometimes your blessed with no problems and even better situations after you try. :-) Good luck and congrats on your second little one. Anyone with a newborn and a toddler are super heros!

  14. Myriam Aug 17 at 8:28 pm Reply Reply

    My daughter was out of her crib by 10 months old. My back was killing me putting her down and take her out of the crib. So, we switch to a toddler bed with a gard rail on it and she was fine. Never fell out of it, never tried to get out until she was much older. We upgraded her to a full size bed for her 3rd birthday (present from the grand-parents). She loves it. If you decide against buying another crib, you could always put the mattress on the floor for a while, that way, if your son falls, it won’t be from very high!
     

  15. Kate Aug 17 at 9:14 pm Reply Reply

    I think it can go either direction. We had a huge change in life circumstance when my son was 20 months, and I was 15 weeks pregnant with #2. We moved across the country and the crib was packed away with the moving company. I found a used toddler bed on Craigslist because we were all in a 1 bedroom until we could get into a house (3 months later). My 1st moved and tossed a lot but he learned fast how far the edge was and only fell out a few times onto the carpet. By the time the crib was put up in his brothers room, he had completely forgotten it was even his. Now 3.5 he has been in a full bed for close to a year because we moved again and got a big boy bed for his newest room. But I can see the little one staying in the crib for atleast another year.

  16. Alison Aug 18 at 1:03 am Reply Reply

    Our firstborn was only 1.5 when number two came along, and there was no way we could have moved him out of his crib.

    He’s 2.5 now, still loves his crib, and honestly, it’s the best. He too is a HUGE nighttime mover – he rolls and flips all over the place in his sleep and is nicely contained. He seems to genuinely like and feel safe in his crib – he has never tried to climb out. If out of the crib he can tear his room apart in 3 minutes flat and happily bang against his closed door, so I feel like it remains a good investment in my sanity.

    I suppose all this will have to change when we move toward potty training, but he is nowhere near ready so that is not an issue yet.

    So, TLDR version: I would opt for keeping him in his crib.

  17. Sarah in Georgia Aug 18 at 1:08 am Reply Reply

    My experience, for what it is worth….

    My two are 27 months apart. My son was climbing out of the crib at 20 months, so I took the front off of our convertible crib to make it a toddler bed. He did fall out once or twice, so I slid a twin mattress under the bed, so he had something soft to fall onto.

    When we had a full house of company that Christmas, I took the crib apart to move it into our room, but he decided instead to sleep on the couch in our room. So after Christmas, I moved him into his “new” room on a full-size mattress we had on the floor. I ended up sleeping with him for a week to help make the adjustment, and we had to lock him into his room while he was falling alseep (always unlocking the door before we went to bed) for quite a while. It would have been worth a second crib to keep the wandering down.

    That May/June, when I was getting his sister’s room ready before her birth, he seemed to have no recollection of it formerly being “his” room (he called it by the name of the relative who slept there at Christmas) and no recollection of the crib formerly being his. He now (at almost 3 1/2) sleeps on a mattress and box spring that are directly on the floor. I think he would be fine if the bed were on rails, but I like it low.

  18. Sarah in Georgia Aug 18 at 1:10 am Reply Reply

    Another thought…

    We do have Web cams in both kid’s rooms, and it’s a great way for me to check on them when their sleeping or when the playing gets too quiet. That was something I knew I wanted to double-up on when baby #2 was on the way.

  19. Cassie Aug 18 at 1:55 pm Reply Reply

    DON’T DO IT! Keep your first in the crib! My kids are 29 months apart (so, almost two and a half). My oldest started climbing out of his crib two months after turning two and he was FAST. Like, we’d kiss him goodnight and he’d be next to us when we go to close the door. So, we had to move him to a big boy bed (and we went with the twin we already had plus a removable guardrail). 

    It took a solid MONTH to get him to stay in bed when we said goodnight. Then we went on vacation for a week (where is stayed in bed wonderfully) and it was nearly A YEAR before he started reliably staying in bed. 

    He couldn’t stay in his crib – they don’t make the nets that go over cribs anymore (my husband needed one, too). So, we couldn’t keep him in the crib. But he was NOT ready for a bed. We tried absolutely everything to get him to stay in there – we made a big deal when he did it. The first time he did it, we let him have M&Ms in bed AND he got the big monster truck he wanted. Then, he could get m&m’s every morning if he staying in bed and he could. Not. Do. It. We tried silent return to sleep (for several HOURS). We tried gating him in his room (he fell asleep on the floor every night). It was terrible. If your son is willing to stay in his crib, by all means, LET HIM.

    If the baby was going to take it, you would have to make the switch at least six weeks, if not eight, so that he didn’t feel like the baby took his bed. Being a big brother was exciting and really hard for my son. He loves his brother and there was some jealousy issues. His room was kind of a sacred space. The bedtime routine was really helpful for him (the getting ready and reading books part – the actual sleeping, obviously, not so much). 

  20. Katie Aug 18 at 2:04 pm Reply Reply

    So…I was feeling exactly the same as you while pregnant with my second (two boys, 20 months apart) when at 18 months, my oldest started diving out of the crib. At least we hadn’t bought a second one yet :). A solution that worked great for us was to buy a set of stackable bunk beds. DH then set up the top bunk (on the ground, as a single) but with all the safety rails. Toddler moved to that, baby got the crib. Now I have a five year old in the top bunk, and his little brother on the bottom. The crib is in the garage, awaiting either craigslist, or a new baby—with is a whole other story :)

  21. christine Aug 18 at 3:30 pm Reply Reply

    I have to chime in here, because we did something weird… Initiated by my husband and totally opposed by me, at the start.

    Our second boy essentially never saw a traditional crib his whole babyhood even though we had one in our basement available.  Co-sleeper for a few months, and then we moved him into a smallish pack-and-play that we could easily move from room to room to adapt to whatever else was going on in the house during naptime, which worked great.  I wanted to keep him in the pack and play until he physically would no longer cram into it since it worked well for some light cry-it-out that we did.  But then my husband started putting him to sleep in a twin bed that we had in the boys’ bedroom. …At 16 months!  Just a regular twin bed — no guard rail or special toddler accommodations.   

    From then on, the kid insisted on sleeping in the twin bed every night.  I was furious!  But, it actually worked out well. We stuffed a pillow in the gap between the bed and the wall so that he wouldn’t get stuck in there, and we threw an extra pillow on the floor next to the bed.  He has fallen out a couple times and it’s just not that big of a deal.  He turns 3 in a couple months, and I’m happy that we never bothered with extra furniture.  

  22. Sara Aug 18 at 9:09 pm Reply Reply

    My son stayed happily in his crib until a couple of weeks before his 4th birthday.  He loved his crib, didn’t try to climb out (although he could of if he’d tried).  So, if your husband is thinking that your older child will be moving to a toddler bed very soon after the birth- just some ammunition that that may not be the case.  I did an informal survey of the kids at my son’s preschool, and while most of them transitioned before he did, many were still in cribs until about 3.5.  Cribs are awesome.

  23. Leslie Aug 19 at 1:25 am Reply Reply

    My first two are 20 months apart and I definitely let my older daughter continue to sleep in her crib until she was a little over two. My younger daughter slept in a pack n’ play until she started rolling over at 4-5 months. I just randomly made the switch one night while my husband was at work, and it was somehow just fine. I think beds are one of the few totally personal spaces a little kid has, and it just seemed weird to switch that before the next baby came along. My family, for some whacked-out reason, is always voicing opinions about who should be in a big bed and out of a crib, and I totally don’t get it. It’d be interesting to really know where they’re coming from, but it annoys me way to much to ask. If you dig a little deeper with your husband, maybe you can get at the real kernel of his beef about the bed situation? Of course kids are different – my third is due in December and while #2 is still happy enough in her crib, I think she’d be pretty thrilled with a big girl bed like her sis, freeing up the crib before the new baby this time around. Whatever. Good luck! Gotta go with your gut.

  24. Rachel Aug 19 at 4:21 pm Reply Reply

    My boys are 21 months apart. We went back and forth on the “new crib/new toddler bed” issue. Not so much arguing, just having a hard time deciding. Our older son was sleeping VERY well in his crib and never tried to climb out. Honestly though, with my big belly and the mattress at the lowest rung, I was having a hard time getting him in/out of it. We ended up buying a pirate ship toddler bed (he LOVES Jake and the Neverland Pirates). The mattress basically sits on the ground, with a bumper surround. He LOVED this bed in the store. We transitioned him slowly – BOTH beds set up in his room, naps in the toddler bed, nights in the crib. He did beautifully (the first nap I layed on the floor next to his new bed, after that I just left while he was awake like usual). Once he was waking up from his naps without issue (first few naps, he woke up sort of confused/scared but got over that fast), we moved crib to other bedroom and started toddler bed full time. I think it was perfect bc he never tried to get out of the toddler bed either, like the idea hadn’t occurred to him yet in the crib and he just stuck with the whole “wait for mom & dad to get me up” thing. We did the bed switch quite awhile before baby arrived so he wouldn’t think baby stole his bed, but honestly it was never an issue. I don’t even think he connected that it was his old bed. He was too excited about having chosen his own big boy bed/bedding. Right from the start he just associated his room and baby brothers room – nothing about the crib.

  25. Susan:) Aug 20 at 5:35 pm Reply Reply

    My nieces are 21 months apart. When the younger one was born, she stayed in the bassinet in her parents room for a few months. Meanwhile, we put a mattress on the floor in the older one’s room and she transitioned to it. Once the younger one was ready to move to the crib, we moved the older one’s mattress to a new room, so they didn’t disturb each other’s sleep ( they had very different sleep patterns). The older one had no trouble adjusting to the new bed or room, and the timing was good for potty training too. When the little one was about two and a half, they got bunk beds and started sharing a room, the younger one on the bottom. While she loved her new bed, she wanted to keep the crib. We gave it to a friend with a new baby, but she would still ask about it for months! Neither kid ever fell out of bed. We did used to lock their door at bedtime though to keep them in till they fell asleep. Eventually, we didn’t need to do that anymore.

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